njgal

Family will trip you up every time! Surf it out and get back to basics. Remember; you come first. You have to.

Thanks! and good luck to you, If at first you have problems don't despair, it does get easier so hang in there and feel free to come and rant if needed

I’d also like to add that sometimes the physical takes a while to catch up to the mental. I had a “relaxing” mentally some months prior to surgery but that didn’t change my physical approach to food at all. I continued to eat as before and didn’t lose a single pound prior to surgery. Call it a long goodbye or just a balancing act between the two (mental/physical) but up to the day prior to surgery I can’t really consider my habits to have changed. My understanding of the process as well as how I’m eating certainly did and I think that’s helping me now. (I’m 5 weeks out). Oh, therapy is great, I’m all for it if you have the right therapist.

A friend recommended it to me.

No, but I’m looking for one closer to home. I’ll look into Hackensack, thanks!

In case you need different info: net intake, ask for ellen. They do skype sessions for both psych and nutrition eval. Ellen is the nutritionist and she’s great. https://www.netintake.com

Thanks! I got it done in October and am doing wonderful. Hope you’re doing well too. Do you go to a local support group?

I have an IUD so at most I get a day or two of spotting during my cycle but since my surgery I’ve been spotting every day. Some heavier than others. More annoying than anything else really but there you have it

Stay strong but probably best to come clean to your team. If it has to be postponed best to do it now rather than day before. So many things are connected with a surgery like this it would be unfair to you and them. But first things first... focus on Nov 11 for the time being. Whatever it may be you’ll still need some healing time.. physical, emotional, both... so don’t just ignore this and focus on the bylass alone. Give each procedure its due. And good luck of course!

The more the merrier

Two kids at home and I’ve been cooking for them and hubby since I was 1 week out. They fended for themselves that one week but I’ve been cooking for about 2 weeks now and it works perfectly fine. Granted, it’s only 2 weeks so neither appetite nor hunger are making me want stuff... maybe ask me again a few months out? But so far it’s been no big deal.

That’s going to be one of my questions at my next meeting. Once I’m back to a modified regular diet I am told to have 3 square meals and nothing in between. That sounds a little harsh... say you have breakfast at 7:30, then lunch at 12; that’d be 4.5 hrs which is OK but then if dinner isn’t until 7 pm that’s a 7 hrs gap and seems too long to me to be a long-term plan. I’ll find out more about it.

I went to pureed foods with chunk at 2.5 weeks instead of 4. I eat super slow and chew the heck out of my bites and it works for me. Not that I would go out and recommend it to anybody, I mean, it is called cheating!

I started taking everything including calcium 3rd day post-op as per my surgeon’s instructions. I’m told it’s a lifelong thing.

There are whole lists on this forum; check them out. I would definitely go with: Slippers (easier than sneakers) Comfy pants for your privacy (pjs did the trick) Sleeping mask (to cover your eyes) Some people swear by gas-x strips, I didn’t use them and my team said they wouldn’t help the gas pain I would have but people swear by them nonetheless. Morristown Memorial provides toothbrush etc but take your own if you prefer (toiletries) I was in no position to do so but book/ipad/phone etc and charger, you might be up to it. Killian mentioned noise cancelling phones; think about that. People also mentioned a pillow for your ride home. I was totally fine without it though.