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jellybean12

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  1. jellybean12

    The Yo-Yo of LIFE & SLEEVE

    Hi. I haven’t posted here in probably over a year or so but I came here looking for a post like this because I can relate completely. Same circumstances with me. I find what helps me is mindfulness and support from others. The more I have others checking in, the more it reminds me to stay mindful. I’d welcome a few others who want to be a support team for each other and I’d be up for doing it they MyFitnessPal. Chunky, I’ll PM you. Thanks
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    "Side effects" of WLS

    I am a middle aged solo mom and I just started dating a new man. (which is a side-effect unto itself. LOL) He asked me to sit on his lap to kiss him. So I did. And I didn't worry that I would break him. That lack of worry that I -will be too heavy -won't fit into something -will hurt someone -have people looking at me thinking "she should lose some weight" -etc is all gone. I don't miss that worry at all.
  3. Surgery Date: 10/23/2016 Pre Surg Weight: 230 Surg Day Weight: 218 Weight today: 170 Height: 5' 3" Total lost: 60 Pounds. I am in a very weird place. I have changed my eating habits in a huge way. Protein first always. Way more balanced meals. Water. Vitamins. Stop when I'm full. I know when I've hit that "last bite". But at about month 4, I went back to eating sweets. I do eat chocolate and ice cream and I guess if I admit it to myself, I do still binge on some level. I certainly eat much less, and am more mindful of making a choice to eat this stuff in moderation. I stop when I am full, which is a big change. I haven't gained weight but am only losing at the rate of about 2 pounds a month over the past 4 months. I feel like I could eat this way for the rest of my life as I don't feel deprived. I also exercise. My issue is that I am having a hard time adjusting to "me". I look in the mirror and don't recognize myself and it's a little disconcerting. I look too much like my mother. I don't like that. The more weight I lose, the more I don't feel like myself. I think this may be why I am not being more stringent about my food. I am a widowed middle-age mom and I am happy to find dating easier and more fun. I feel great and like the way I look in clothes. (I don't like all the extra skin.) I can do anything physically that I want to do. I feel like I "SHOULD" lose more weight. But I'm not sure I really want to lose much more. I always felt best at the 160ish weight so that would be about another 10 pounds. I just don't think I'd feel like myself at less than that. Sooo, I am trying to just trust myself, to tell myself that I'm not a failure at this program if I stay where I am, that there is no "should" in terms of how much weight to have lost and that it's okay to be happy exactly where I am. And then there's so many of you out there with 100 pound losses at this point, and I am in awe and amazed and someone jealous o f that tremendous amount of weight loss. I guess perhaps I'll sign up for another 10 pounds and see how I feel there and go from there. But aside from the over-analyzing of what I "should" be doing, I feel friggin' awesome!!!
  4. I love this comment and the quote. A few weeks after I had surgery I joined a DBT Skills Workshop offered by a local therapist. The skills of mindfulness, distress tolerance, middle path, emotional regulation and others are things we don't often learn growing up. Learning to sit with discomfort and not use a substance to numb it is really hard. Learning better strategies and then actually using them is even harder. The ongoing classes / filling out worksheets daily is really helpful and I think it's these tools that will help me maintain better habits long term. You can search DBT to learn more about it and maybe it can help minimize the "falling off the wagon"
  5. Hello- oh I can relate and I really am touched and appreciate the courage it might have taken to write all this stuff. I do think there have been two things that have helped me along the way. DBT (google it if necessary). It's dialectical behavioral therapy. Excellent set of skills to practice better coping and less self soothing with poor choices. Also the books by the author that wrote Healing the Shame the Binds You. They were a life changer when I read them a few decades ago. Hang in there. Don't give up. You have a path and you are walking it.
  6. jellybean12

    LOVE YOURSELF VALENTINES CHALLENGE

    3/17 - 180.5
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    Losing weight with no exercise

    A wise soul once told me "you lose weight to look good in clothes. You work out to look good naked." I agree! [emoji16][emoji12][emoji108]
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    LOVE YOURSELF VALENTINES CHALLENGE

    Current weight 182. A gain. Yuck. I find that I stay the same for weeks, then lose 2 pounds, then gain 1, then stay the same, then lose 2, then gain 1, repeat. Oh well.
  9. jellybean12

    LOVE YOURSELF VALENTINES CHALLENGE

    Today the scale says 181. But my mirror says that I'm killing it! Thanks for the support! Heading out to try a new dance exercise class called "Country Heat". Woohoo!
  10. jellybean12

    4 months post-op-stopped losing weight

    I've lost just 2 pounds in the past 2 months. My eating isn't perfect but it's pretty damn good. But I also have been exercising and building muscle. I wish I had taken measurements when I started this, instead of just relying on the scale as my "measurement tool". You WILL lose more weight but right now I bet you feel stronger, look stronger, and are finding that your body is changing. You know that muscle weighs more than fat. You may not be losing weight but your body is most likely looking slimmer and stronger and toned and hopefully you feel better too. That counts for a LOT. Forget the scale right now and concentrate on how you are feeling. You are kicking a$$!
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    The weight loss cha-cha

    Here's another good one: Giving up on a goal because of a setback is like slashing your other 3 tires because you got a flat.
  12. Still tracking food. Still at about the 1300-1400 calorie a day mark. Still not following the program 100%. I think the rebel in me can't follow directions 100%. This scares me a bit because it's what has always caused problems for me. So I am eating my Protein first and most meals / food is good for me. However, I am adding in some sweets and can't seem to get back to a place where this doesn't happen. I'm taking a DBT skills class which is really helpful regarding mindfulness and distress tolerance, etc. I'm working out and can really see changes in my 55 year old body. I LIKE it! Have just lost about 2.5 pounds this month. Down to 182. I don't post much but I do love reading how everyone is doing so thanks and here's a quote I found recently that I love; Giving up on a goal because of a setback is like slashing your other 3 tires because you got a flat.
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    LOVE YOURSELF VALENTINES CHALLENGE

    182.8 2/24/17. It's been 4 months since my surgery. Slow loser but down 35 since then and 48 total. So looking forward to hitting 50 pounds lost. Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App
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    LOVE YOURSELF VALENTINES CHALLENGE

    2/17 weighin 184.3. Thanks Sent from my iPhone using the BariatricPal App
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    LOVE YOURSELF VALENTINES CHALLENGE

    Yes, let's use it for that. Thanks!

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