Dshell

Sometimes it makes me very uncomfortable. This morning I got "nice jeans". What is that suppose to mean????

I did sleeve, same problems. I had options of all three but was not comfortable with having my guts rearranged. Doc gave me the choice. Have lost 150 # in 18 months and all weight issues are now gone. You are correct when thinking doc knows best but what are you comfortable with? Your body your choice. Can recommend you research all options. I did and chose accordingly. Good luck!

I'd lost weight before (70 lbs at a go) before, so I knew this was coming and lined up a mental health counselor because I knew I was going to hit a point where I hate all mankind. Unfortunately, it does happen - suddenly people are much nicer to you, men are much more attentive, people treat you in a way you haven't experienced, and some of these people are close friends or family! Coworkers start inviting you to drinks, people want you to come to parties, you're asked to do presentations or join work teams, etc etc.
It's unbelievably depressing because you know that the only thing that changed about you is your weight, so it makes you think very dark thoughts about the rest of humanity, who are apparently so superficial that they gauge the way they treat people on their size. Horrendous.
...THAT SAID, I actually do behave differently now I'm slimmer. My family has noticed it and remarked on it. I've personally noticed I have more energy and am probably giving off an "invite me!" vibe when earlier I had a "leave me alone I'm going home" vibe. I've always described myself as an extroverted introvert (I come off as social, but if I don't have serious chunks of alone time planned I kind of lose it) but the balance has changed a little - I'm now less territorial about quiet/alone time. I'm making more time to just be around and chat, when previously I'd seclude myself and recharge. I think I just have more energy overall and that also means the mental energy to deal with other people.
I recently talked about this with my cousin, who just had her 10 year reunion from high school. A kid who was quite large apparently lost a LOT of weight, and people at the reunion were chatting him up and complimenting him. My cousin heard afterwards that he'd been really, really angry and scornful about a lot of those people, and I'm guessing it's for exactly this reason: why wasn't he good enough when he was the exact same person, just heavier? And why the hell do people think he's magically forgotten how dismissive and remote they were in high school, now that they apparently find him more attractive and are willing to talk to him?
I'm good with the attention now, but I think it's because I know it's coming, I have mental health backup, and also because I have a career that most people find pretty interesting so my appearance is hardly the most attractive thing about me. Ten years ago when I lost the same amount of weight and had none of those safeguards was a very, very different and depressing experience that likely contributed to regain as I basically tried to "hide" from all of these horrible, superficial people.

No, was a guy. A girl saying it would not have bothered me.

I'm afraid when they add my BMI and weight,up, I'll be the same age and density,as Plymouth Rock. Oh, I hate to be taken for "granite"!😳

I hope,mine don't say something nasty like 85% or 90%. Then I will be Blubber Broad!!!

I can go to the movies and be comfortable!!!!

I can go to the movies and be comfortable!!!!

I can go to the movies and be comfortable!!!!

I can go to the movies and be comfortable!!!!

I had surgery on 11/29 and I’m trying to not focus too much on the numbers on the scale or on my clothes.
My non scale victories since 11/29
Had to have a spacer put on my wedding ring
I’m wearing a coat I haven’t worn in 2 yrs
I got rid of my pre-surgery work uniforms
I’ve cleaned my closet twice already
What are your non scale victories?!

One of my friends has "conversations" with food. She looks at something and says, "I like you, but do you like me?" If it's not good for her, she treats it that way--as an enemy to be avoided. It doesn't matter if you like cupcakes, say, do they like you? No . . . no, they don't.
I'll admit that I'm still in the process of retraining my habits. I have eaten all kinds of things that I shouldn't--but I do know I feel better when I eat correctly. That's something to remember all the time.

The good thing about this procedure is that you will lose weight whether you want to or not. You will not be physically able to overeat or you will throw it up and feel horrible. Mentally I still want to overeat but my body says no. It's a total mindf*ck for lack of a better term getting past your psychological reasons for eating. You are forced to find another outlet. It was so hard in the beginning but at 4.5 months post OP it is getting easier. Dont give up! This surgery is soooooo worth it.

Hey everyone,
I just thought I would introduce myself and tell ya'll a little about me and my journey. So I have been severely obese my whole life and when i was young my mother and grandmother had gastric bypass surgery. When i was about 16 my mother decided that i needed to have the surgery. I went through the process for several months before they realized i was too young for the insurance to cover the surgery. They approached and asked me to wait a few more months until I was almost 18 and then continue the program where I left off. Upset i left and waited coming back to the program a few months before i turned 18 i again attended the appointments as instructed. I was about a month or two away from the surgery and then my private therapist told me that he had gotten the information back from the clinic and they had included their notes. He told me that they didn't think I was dedicated enough to the surgery . I was heart broken what did that even mean I wasn't dedicated enough I had done so much to prepare for the program driving hours away jumping through hoops trying to do everything they asked of me. The only explanation i could come up with that fir the description was that they expected me to lose weight when doing the things they had asked and I had instead gained about 25 pounds. Devastated I gave up on the thought of losing weight through that method and just continued my life as I was ...
Here I am 24 I have now gained about 50 to 75 more pounds from what I was at that time and hardly able to move. I dont know if I want the surgery but I feel I have no real choice in the matter. I am terrified that I will put in all the work and just be denied again. If it doesn't happen this time I dont know what I will have left. I'm almost 25 years old and i weigh about 415lbs and in 5'4". My BMI is over 70 my body is giving away and everyone wants to tell me what I need to do as if I dont look in the mirror and see it clear as day. I just want things to get better I want to have a life . Be able to have kids and go to theme parks and be some kind of normal.
I called and scheduled an appointment with roller weight loss program in Fayetteville Arkansas today. And in about a week and a half I should have some answers. I am scared! I just want to know if anyone has been in my situation. And what kind of advice anyone has. I will try to post updates on what is going on.
KT

I am almost 4 months postop and have lost 45lbs. I was 265,and now 220, height 5'9. Goal weight is 160. My health is improving all the time. I had to cut my blood pressure meds in half because I was getting dizzy, and my cardiologist thinks that I will be off them altogether in another few months. I love being able to bend down to pick up things from the floor, wrap a regular bath towel around me, going down in clothes sizes and even a shoe size every month. I love that people are definitely noticing.
Funnily enough, my diet was reasonably ok preop. Always loved vegetables, salad and fruit. It was my portion sizes and my carbs that were the problem. So the sleeve works well for me because I am forced to eat WAY less, and the only thing I have trained my self to do, is to avoid sugar and only eat really low carbs. So no bread, no rice and no potato. Eat your Protein first, and by the time you eat your vegetables, you won't want carbs or sugar! I don't care about fat content and I don't count calories. I love fish and chicken. I also don't exercise.. Shock, horror! But I have no signs of loose skin anywhere which is probably more to do with luck and genes. I am a very keen golfer, so I suppose doing 18 holes a couple of times a week, walking, no buggy is exercise. Driving a couple hundred balls off the range can really tire you out and build muscle. I just hate exercising in a gym... Repetitive and boring to me.
What I do miss after my sleeve is eating something and having to stop after 3 mouthfuls because I am completely full. But it tastes so good, I want more of it and can't. I do eat out quite a bit (business and social) and yesterday had the most delicious eye fillet with a red wine jus. 3 bites and my husband got the rest! Not a restaurant where you have children, so no kids menu. But I find those kids menus can be carb heavy anyway.
I miss carbonated drinks. Had a glass of prosecco with lunch yesterday, nearly couldn't eat at all until that bubble of air came back up. Discretely of course!
I do suffer dumping quite often, which is unpleasant and so I do dislike that. We are going away tomorrow to a somewhat exclusive resort for a week and every evening is a 5 course degustation. We have been there before, so we know how delicious the food is. And now I am sad because I know that I will only be able to eat maybe one bite of each course!
But overall, I am very happy because I don't think I could have restricted my portions without feeling hungry. The sleeve takes care of that.. You simply aren't hungry! If you are an emotional eater, love bread or are addicted to chocolate, then that might be a problem. You really just have to work out what your weak points are, and decide whether the sleeve is right for you.

I remember the air plane seat belt extenders. I went on my first trip after surgery ay 100# lost, I almost let out a whoop when I fastened my belt . It will happen for you too. Good luck!

At 14 months post op I average between 600-800 calories a day. I feel great and have plenty of energy. Just make sure you Fluid intake and Protein is adequate .

I remember the air plane seat belt extenders. I went on my first trip after surgery ay 100# lost, I almost let out a whoop when I fastened my belt . It will happen for you too. Good luck!

You are doing great! Do not listen to these people. My problem is hearing "I know someone that had that surgery, they regained all the weight". Makes me want to say STFU! Last thing any of us need is to be compaired with other people. Keep up the good work!

At 16 months post op I still gurgle like crazy! It can get so loud I have scared my dog with it!. I think it is the new normal, don't let it bother you.

My surgeon has yet to place any weight loss expedition upon me and I do not believe it is appropriate. That's just my opinion.

10 months out and stomach rumbles and gurgles like crazy and #2 is almost always loose no matter what I eat. I hope this changes some.

10 months out and stomach rumbles and gurgles like crazy and #2 is almost always loose no matter what I eat. I hope this changes some.

I had it from like 6 to 18 months. I literally could not sit still I had so much energy I was moving all the time, even sitting at my desk in my office. It has calmed down some but not really. I have boundless energy, it is pretty awesome. It is like gaining a super power.

I believe this to be true. I stalled a few months ago and saw no weight loss on the scale but my clothes got very loose. This kept me going and after a few weeks I had a tremendous difference on the scale. Hang in there it will happen.