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Hammer_Down

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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ShelterDog64 in CAN you eat vs SHOULD you eat   
    I was self pay in Mexico.
    I read on here and dozens of publicly accessible medical journals through NIH, NHS and Health Canada before even making contact with the surgeon in Mexico. I started receiving preop emails around the time I was to begin and have received weekly post op care emails each week since surgery.
    I also fortunately had a long history (of success) with low carb and ketogenic diets, and unfortunately also with drug and alcohol addiction and other self destructive behaviours. The latter contributed to my weight gain, and I made a decision to get totally clean and chart a new path for my health and sanity.
    Perhaps that's why I don't mind straight advice. I can't get down with Jesus or higher power BS and thus 12 step programs were never on my radar. I indulged myself in information and tried to educate myself as well as possible about any and all possible outcomes.
    This has always been my approach, and I totally accept that it's not for everyone. Some people want information presented to them personally on a silver platter and some of us need to be muckrakers and find it ourselves to believe it.
    What I can't accept is anti-informational people. People who don't want the truth and are happy subsisting in an echo chamber of what they want to be true instead of what is true. People who want sympathy instead of empathy.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from Babbs in Shrimp gate   
    Enabling is really the most troublesome behaviour I see.
    Rather than simply comforting someone who has made a mistake, it lends the impressions that those mistakes are just fine. I read on this site for 6 months before my surgery and only joined after, once I figured I had something to contribute.
    I am a discerning reader (cynical, really) so I never took it seriously when people fudged their plans and came looking for sympathy.
    My mother in law is considering the surgery next fall, and I'm reluctant to recommend this forum to her because I don't want to be putting out fires all the time.
    "So-and-so said she heard from her aunt whose neighbour's cousin's friend knew a lady whose daughter's boyfriend's mother had such-and-such a problem"
    Or
    "Can I eat ______ at 1 week? So and so did!"
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from LipstickLady in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    I'm ready to watch!
    http://www.bing.com/images/search?q=eating+popcorn+gif&view=detailv2&&id=ABA84A436B12CF7F2696D0EFA27C7B6D9469E8FB&selectedIndex=60&ccid=ZOMYIDdi&simid=608003418261753331&thid=OIP.M64e318203762d9c03a00a0c16ed00e2do0
    I don't know how to post a picture or gif in the body of the message, so i'm just gonna leave that there.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from Sai in Relatively low BMI results   
    I was BMI 36 staring preop and 33 the day of surgery.
    My wife was 32 preop and 30 the day of surgery.
    I am down nearly 60 pounds, and 6.5 points on the BMI scale in 9 weeks.
    She is down 31 lbs and I have no idea what her BMI is now. She has about 20 lbs to goal left, I am closer to 50 to go.
    I expected to lose much slower and have long stalls due to our relatively smaller size. We eat a strict ketogenic diet, which I believe is responsibility for the accelerated weight loss.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ShelterDog64 in Shrimp gate   
    Dang. That sounds good, although it would 1 of each shrimp and i'd be too full for Pasta, rice or any beverage.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from Babbs in Shrimp gate   
    Enabling is really the most troublesome behaviour I see.
    Rather than simply comforting someone who has made a mistake, it lends the impressions that those mistakes are just fine. I read on this site for 6 months before my surgery and only joined after, once I figured I had something to contribute.
    I am a discerning reader (cynical, really) so I never took it seriously when people fudged their plans and came looking for sympathy.
    My mother in law is considering the surgery next fall, and I'm reluctant to recommend this forum to her because I don't want to be putting out fires all the time.
    "So-and-so said she heard from her aunt whose neighbour's cousin's friend knew a lady whose daughter's boyfriend's mother had such-and-such a problem"
    Or
    "Can I eat ______ at 1 week? So and so did!"
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ShelterDog64 in Crushed by today's weigh-in   
    Most doctors aim for 2 lbs of weight loss per week on their reduced calorie diets.
    Following low carb, you can expect a loss of Water and inflammation during the first 2 week since equalling about 10% of total weight to lose, then slowing to about 2 lbs a week after that.
    There are hundreds, nay, thousands of posts about the 3 week stall on here. Many people will experience a stall on weight loss during that time frame, and periodically thereafter.
    A monthly cycle will affect scale weight, as will things like sodium intake and the time of day you weigh, wether you've had a bowel movement and stress levels.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from elisa5150 in Shrimp gate   
    I've been called much worse. I'll wear "snarky" as a badge of honour.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from Babbs in Shrimp gate   
    Enabling is really the most troublesome behaviour I see.
    Rather than simply comforting someone who has made a mistake, it lends the impressions that those mistakes are just fine. I read on this site for 6 months before my surgery and only joined after, once I figured I had something to contribute.
    I am a discerning reader (cynical, really) so I never took it seriously when people fudged their plans and came looking for sympathy.
    My mother in law is considering the surgery next fall, and I'm reluctant to recommend this forum to her because I don't want to be putting out fires all the time.
    "So-and-so said she heard from her aunt whose neighbour's cousin's friend knew a lady whose daughter's boyfriend's mother had such-and-such a problem"
    Or
    "Can I eat ______ at 1 week? So and so did!"
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from jintycb in Blocking   
    I guess this all boils down to why we are using this site.
    I choose not to treat random strangers as a support group. I have my spouse, my family, my friends and my pets to listen to me vent, rant, whine and complain,
    I choose to use this as an informative tool, and as such, I look for (and try to provide) the best information possible. Even if it's unpopular. Even if it's blunt.
    I draw the line at ad hominem attacks, since I'm just not emotionally wrapped up in the site to lose my temper and name call.
    I don't bother reading posts anymore for people looking for vindication or justification or moral support or medical advice from total strangers. I'm mining for information and experiences, not fuzzy wuzzy feel good moments.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from elisa5150 in Shrimp gate   
    I've been called much worse. I'll wear "snarky" as a badge of honour.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from Babbs in Shrimp gate   
    Enabling is really the most troublesome behaviour I see.
    Rather than simply comforting someone who has made a mistake, it lends the impressions that those mistakes are just fine. I read on this site for 6 months before my surgery and only joined after, once I figured I had something to contribute.
    I am a discerning reader (cynical, really) so I never took it seriously when people fudged their plans and came looking for sympathy.
    My mother in law is considering the surgery next fall, and I'm reluctant to recommend this forum to her because I don't want to be putting out fires all the time.
    "So-and-so said she heard from her aunt whose neighbour's cousin's friend knew a lady whose daughter's boyfriend's mother had such-and-such a problem"
    Or
    "Can I eat ______ at 1 week? So and so did!"
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
  17. Like
    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
  18. Like
    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from elisa5150 in Shrimp gate   
    I've been called much worse. I'll wear "snarky" as a badge of honour.
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from ladyslim2015 in Shrimp gate   
    @@LipstickLady
    Alas, I'm afraid so. But don't distress - you're on my short list if it all goes south!
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from Babbs in Shrimp gate   
    Enabling is really the most troublesome behaviour I see.
    Rather than simply comforting someone who has made a mistake, it lends the impressions that those mistakes are just fine. I read on this site for 6 months before my surgery and only joined after, once I figured I had something to contribute.
    I am a discerning reader (cynical, really) so I never took it seriously when people fudged their plans and came looking for sympathy.
    My mother in law is considering the surgery next fall, and I'm reluctant to recommend this forum to her because I don't want to be putting out fires all the time.
    "So-and-so said she heard from her aunt whose neighbour's cousin's friend knew a lady whose daughter's boyfriend's mother had such-and-such a problem"
    Or
    "Can I eat ______ at 1 week? So and so did!"
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    Hammer_Down got a reaction from elisa5150 in Shrimp gate   
    I've been called much worse. I'll wear "snarky" as a badge of honour.
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    Hammer_Down reacted to Sai in CAN you eat vs SHOULD you eat   
    Addicts tend to use self-pity to make excuses for their behavior, to justify it, to rationalize it... So that's why I refuse to give anybody more reasons to play the victim role. They'll use that victim role to justify their actions. Making excuses for them, not calling out their coping mechanisms = being an enabler. They will flourish in self-pity, and we already know self-pity is extremely toxic. I wouldn't add to it. Addicts need straight answers to know the consequences of their actions. For example, if you eat solid food on post-op day 3, you can hurt yourself. Should you eat that? No, you shouldn't. Can you? Of course you can, but you shouldn't. Not being argumentative here, just stating my opinion.
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    Hammer_Down reacted to ShelterDog64 in CAN you eat vs SHOULD you eat   
    @@suzzzzz Hello friend! Happy New Year to you as well

    You're talking about taking responsibility for your actions and that's not behavior that's seen very often around here. It drives me NUTS the way folks want their poor choices validated.
    I just ate a piece of cheese toast. It was a crappy choice. If I'm lucky, I won't eat even more because I was dumb enough to have white bread which I know is a 'gateway food' for me. I own it
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    Hammer_Down reacted to ShelterDog64 in CAN you eat vs SHOULD you eat   
    Over and over and over, people in the early post-op period ask "CAN I eat _______?". That blank is filled with all kinds of things, like pizza, chips, ice cream, fried chicken, funnel cakes, crab cakes, steak...whatever they're craving.

    The answer to every. single. one. of those questions is YES. Once you're surgically cleared to resume a full diet, you CAN eat ANYTHING. You didn't have your jaw wired shut or have your teeth pulled, so yes, you CAN eat all foods.
    The real question you need to ask yourself is "SHOULD I eat ________?". The only person who can answer the "SHOULD" question for you is YOU. I, or anyone else here, can give your my opinion on eating funnel cakes, chips and pizza after having most of your stomach removed to help you lose weight, but only you can decide to eat it or not eat it.
    So coming here and asking "CAN I?" questions is kind of disingenuous, as all of the answers you get are going to be answering the REAL question, which is "SHOULD I?". Think about that before you get defensive and angry about the answers you get from successful vets who are 2-5+ years out and maintaining successfully.

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