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They have to do a colonoscopy? Oh man, good luck with that. I just did an endoscopy and he could see that my sleeve was to narrow that way.

I found a pair of jeans i had as a kid and they’re actually to big. (Why on earth can i fit kid sizes??)

My second non scale victory was some butthole parked super close to my car, so the door barely opened, i was still able to squeeze inside.

Ok, here's a comical one.
In the first few weeks after surgery when my gut was completely wonky, I had a lil accident...thinking I was farting...while out shopping with my bestie.
She ran and bought me a new pair of underpants and wet wipes while I hid in the bathroom cringing. OMG...
Yep, pooping your pants in Kohl's is drama:)

So just an fyi- don’t lose hope, your taste buds will all come back in due time.

I hated eggs for a whole year, i’m fine with them now. It’s just temporary.

Of course! By all means if you have any questions, feel free to ask. Did you get a surgery date yet for your revision?

Overall i eat really really well, but i definitely had some caramel m&m’s a few days ago because i was craving chocolate and it was amazeballs.

I’ll say this though so it’s clear. Live your life and don’t apologize or feel guilty about it. But at the same time cheats are for occasions, and they tend to work out better for people in the maintenance phase vs still losing phase. If you want to cheat do it, but own it and be accountable so you dont fall off the wagon. It’s easy to do. It’s your journey, have fun with it.

Because you will drop excess weight the fastest that way. But Protein Shakes will still give you nutrients so you’ll still be healthy. Not every dr requires it, but most do. It’s hard pre-op but much easier post op.

LONG POST ALERT- sorry. Please read it, hope it helps.


Aww you sound like my best friends situation, so i’m going to give suggestions just as if i was talking to her. I hope it helps and isn’t to harsh, also feel free to send me a pm if you need to.

1. Plan. Just like how you plan out your school stuff, plan out your meals and your workout schedule. It will help. You can’t eat what you don’t have so if that means you have to pack healthy low carb Snacks and order groceries online, then do so.

2. Write things down, whether it’s in my fitness pal, notes section of your phone or an actual food log. Visually see how you eat to hold yourself accountable.

3. Don’t do a “diet” because those are all temporary focus on getting in tons of Protein first and you will be to full for junk. Obviously you know to watch your carbs and sugars so no need to repeat that.

4. Meditate- this is mental. Clear your mind and relax

5. Find a workout buddy or coach to help you stay active and even when you aren’t working out, stay busy. Don’t eat in front of the tv, no grazing or snacking, try to stick to 4 smaller meals per day.

6. Therapy- it works wonders and it’s not scary. It will help you overcome the mental aspect of things and help with the self image part of things. Sounds like you’re in the middle of a slight depression, talking to someone can help so much. Many of us (including myself have had to do so)

7. Prioritize- focus strictly on this and school. Worry about men later. Trust me they will always be there, there’s like billions of them on the planet. Date yourself first and do what you love so your confidence improves first. That confidence does NOT come from validation from some guy. You’ll meet the right guy in due time, there’s no rush.

Water- when you think about food always have Water first. Then eat later.

Only do workouts you love- this journey truly is 70% diet, 30% exercise. But it is all about 100% consistency. So do things to be consistent. Create a routine for yourself.

You’re soooo driven in all other aspects of your life so i know that you can handle this too. Also realize how far you’ve come. You have lost a ton of weight already and wear that crown proudly!! Tell your self positive affirmations each and every day and practice self care because that is 100% part of self love.


Somewhere in the archives there is a rant from a long time ago, when i first joined that lists a ton of tips i used to mentor my local support group and trust me everything may not be for you, but it will definitely help. Read over it and find what works for you. This is YOUR journey, you’re a strong bad ass and you’re in control of it. Best of luck to you!

I would say skip online dating and have fun. You’ll meet some of the most amazing people unexpectedly just by doing hobbies you love. I accidentally met the love of my life after wls that way. I’m not against online dating or anything, i guess my suggestion would be- take some time to date your self instead of going into it with a full blown purpose if that makes sense. Who knows, you may even meet your match randomly at whole foods or the gym or something.

Sorry you’re going through that hun, view it as the right door closing and a better one about to open. 💖

What procedure did you have?

So you just had surgery so any bm is a good thing, most don’t have one until they start eating again. Blood in your stool is definitely not normal so call your surgeon and just ask what that could mean.

The reason why i asked what procedure is because usually you hear about the runs with bypass and ds patients, not so much the sleeve. Sleevers tend to either be normal or constipated.

I will say with most people it almost always goes away with time, so good luck.

I hate to say this but online dating is the easiest way to get back in the dating pool.
It will help you regain that dating confidence.

I met my bf on Tinder, we've been together almost 3 years. Some people think it's a hook up site, but I think it's what you make of it and how you use it.

Being in NYC, I'm sure there are a ton of groups where you can meet people face to face. I used an app called "meetup" and it was for various meetup groups, like singles for dinner, or sports clubs, etc. I met a lot of great people that way (of all age groups).

Go have fun! You deserve it!

Yes- i did! I had my revision friday and i feel freaking amazing!!! I’m wishing you all the best of luck.

I was in the same boat as you in the sense that i workout hard core religiously 5 days per week and i’m like the poster child in my local area for how to eat post op, but even i had severe reflux. Shit happens. It got to the point where i honestly didn’t even care if i drank sparkling Water because i ended up with reflux anyway by avoiding that.

So i did not have bypass, i had the one anastomosis bypass which is different. It’s rare and i’m actually literally the first person in my state to even have that done. So we’ll see how it compares, but so far i can say that it is definitely very very different from my sleeve.

You will be so much happier once the reflux goes away. All the best to you.

Overall i eat really really well, but i definitely had some caramel m&m’s a few days ago because i was craving chocolate and it was amazeballs.

I’ll say this though so it’s clear. Live your life and don’t apologize or feel guilty about it. But at the same time cheats are for occasions, and they tend to work out better for people in the maintenance phase vs still losing phase. If you want to cheat do it, but own it and be accountable so you dont fall off the wagon. It’s easy to do. It’s your journey, have fun with it.

Exactly!!!! It’s just easier that way.

Thank you. I’m definitely going to follow the rules, i did the first time and it worked out (minus the reflux) so i’m not taking any chances. I think the juice thing is to add electrolytes. I’ll do it, i’m just terrified of dumping since my procedure is way different. It’s being converted into a hybrid procedure, i forget the technical name but it’s basically a cross between bypass and the duodenal switch.

I hope it works too because reflux isn’t fun but i’m also not trying to lose anymore weight either.

My only concern with waiting several months to eat actual food is the Constipation issue, that’s never been an issue for me but i don’t want to deal with that either. Other than that, i’m totally fine with Protein Shakes for awhile, i hate pureed or mushy foods so shakes would be preferred.

@sosewsue61 the sad part is i’ve never even heard of the baritastic app until now lol, thanks. I’m going to try that too!

Thank you. I’m definitely going to follow the rules, i did the first time and it worked out (minus the reflux) so i’m not taking any chances. I think the juice thing is to add electrolytes. I’ll do it, i’m just terrified of dumping since my procedure is way different. It’s being converted into a hybrid procedure, i forget the technical name but it’s basically a cross between bypass and the duodenal switch.

I hope it works too because reflux isn’t fun but i’m also not trying to lose anymore weight either.

My only concern with waiting several months to eat actual food is the Constipation issue, that’s never been an issue for me but i don’t want to deal with that either. Other than that, i’m totally fine with Protein Shakes for awhile, i hate pureed or mushy foods so shakes would be preferred.

@phinley did you dump or feel nauseous then?

The same day I had surgery, I had met and made a friend that went through a revision for the same reason. She was eating solids before I was, but her dr was a different one in our Bariatric group. It took me a about 6 weeks before I got to solid I think. I had nothing but diarrhea during my liquid stage.

My dr doesn't want me having fruits because of the added calories. He wants the majority of my calories to come from Protein. I've been wanting to add fruits to my meal replaced Protein Drinks. But I can use fruits in infusd Water because I'm not eating them. I'm only 6 months post op though

Wow hon. First off, so sorry about the reflux, but so glad you're getting things taken care of and I hope you will feel better quickly!
I'm sure VSG to Bypass is way more complicated, so I can't speak for how long you will have to be on liquids. You can look in my day-by-day thread in the My Story area, think it was starting week3 that I went to mushies? No purees for here. But please, please, please, follow your doc's orders. In my opinion, when we think we're smarter than them and do our own thing, it rarely ends well. At least for me!
But yeah...if I was gonna follow his "juice" thing, I'd do the sugar free cranberry juice, and flavored waters. I guess he's trying to keep you from bottoming out without sugar, or Protein, etc. I'd ask his office if they would allow the Premier Protein Clear drinks mixed with Water? ?? Or the Isopure clear protein mixed with water. They are palatable if you mix them with a heck of a lot of water!!!

Good luck!!!

Did anyone’s dr tell them to drink juice post op? Sounds crazy to me.

Long story short my revision is tomorrow (not wl related but for reflux) and my new dr said for the first week post op just drink juice mixed with Water. But in my head i’m like why on earth would you want me to drink sugar? Like it sounds so backwards to me but idk. I’m also not allowed to have food until january, has anyone else had to wait that long?

My first time around, i started slowly eating soft foods after about a week or 2 and i was fine, the weight came right off and hasn’t come back.

When you y’all stop counting the post op months? If i see one more post saying i’m 28 months out or 42 months out im going cry...that’s just to much damn math 😂😂😂😂. View it like a baby- start using years now because nobody cares about those extra 3 months lol. ***end rant 😭

Like when people tell you their toddler is 33 months old....I'm sorry, what????

Sleeved 12/20/16

Same!! I hate those....omg i didn’t lose 30 pounds in 3 weeks posts. Like i don’t want to insult anyone but i can’t help but laugh.

I also hate those “oh i eat slider foods all day, why am i not losing weight posts”

Lastly i also hate those posts from people who obsess over every little thing instead of just enjoy the process. Like relax already, take a xanax or something.😂