blizair09

When I first started my journey, they said I was "super morbidly obese." It did hurt, but once I heard it and digested it, it served as a huge motivator to be successful!

Yay! Congratulations.

I have never heard of eggs being a part of a liquid diet. In fact, I couldn't have eggs until 4 weeks post-op. I know how hard the liquid portions of the diet are. You know that you will have a significant period of liquids only post-op. The difference is if you "cheat" it can become a life and death situation. 30 days pre-op is a really long time for liquids. I have never heard of anything so drastic. That has to be physically and emotionally demanding. I would suggest two things: First, tell your surgeon what you have done. If you trust someone to cut into you, he or she should know the entire accurate picture of your current situation. Second, move on and try harder to be compliant moving forward. Your surgeon has you doing this for a reason. This journey is hard -- very hard. If you want to be successful long term, you have to commit to doing what you need to do. And this is extra important when your life (yes, your life) can depend on these good decisions post-op. Good luck!

I do have it occasionally with no problems.

Google three week stall. It happens to everyone.

Thanks :-)

Real results require hard work. Stick to it.

Not to disagree (and I'm not), but you can be fit and skinny at the same time. I'm in the best health of my life and I'm skinny. My PCP and surgeon and associated staffs both back that up! :-) EDIT: I should read closer. You go girl.

28 days? Good God...

The thing that most people on here seem to forget is that you should be making lifelong changes and looking at this transition as a marathon and not a sprint. It takes time. You will see it. You will be successful if you do what you are supposed to do. Stop being in a hurry and devote yourself to changing your relationship with food. That is what will get you where you want to be. Good luck!

And the reach your back ability is one of the best parts of losing all this weight!!! Good line!

Good for you! Congratulations. Isn't life great?!?

I've been on these boards (taking a break from it occasionally) for 2 years now. And I have seen more posts than I could ever count about gaining weight prior to the surgery. So many of these people treat the surgery as if it will "fix" everything. It won't. (And I'm not saying that you think that.) This journey has been a bigger commitment so far than earning my PhD. No joke. Finding a professional to help you is probably a good idea. The mental battle of this journey is way more intense than the physical one.

I did a tour of SE Asia (Singapore; KL, Malaysia; Bangkok, Thailand; Hanoi, Vietnam) at 3 months post-op. I had no issues. I just kept to my keto way of eating and there was meat and green vegetables anywhere that I went. For the plane rides (and the long flight was 15+ hours from ATL-ISN), I took almonds, ParmCrisps, and some turkey jerky. I was in business class, so the food was more or less accommodating (especially considering the limited quantities I could consume at that point). I also took ziploc bags so that I could hang on to some of the meat to eat a little bit later. (I had the flight attendant put some ice in another baggie for me to keep it coolish. They looked at me like I was insane, but they did it....) I also took an entire tub of protein powder in ziploc bags in my checked bag (with a little bit in my carryon). All in all, it was pretty easy. I had to be very mindful of eating. But we always have to be mindful of eating. Have a great time wherever your travels may take you!

I was just the opposite. I had to do a six month pre-op diet program for insurance to pay for the surgery, and once I started, I started. I lost 99 pounds during that six months and it set me on a path of great success with this entire journey. Only you can make the decision to do as you need to do. And trust me, it is NO CAKEWALK post-op. In fact, not only are you dealing with having to follow certain food guidelines (as is it is a matter or life or death), you are also dealing with your body desperately trying to heal. The whole process is easier if you have dealt with what you can deal with before they cut into your body. Food for thought. Do with it what you will. Those six months were the best thing that happened to me. Wishing you the best.

A few thoughts to start: 1. If you know that you haven't been eating and drinking as you should, only you can deal with that. And if you want to be successful long term, you HAVE TO DO THAT. 2. I'm so proud that you decided to hunker down and do what you have to do. That being said, stalls are a huge part of the process. I've lost 225 pounds, and the period of stall over the past 16 months FAR exceeds the period of loss. The loss came in chunks preceded by and followed by a 2 week or so stall. 3. If the stalls (and the process in general) is going to lead to feelings and actions that you described in your post, you need to find a therapist that specializes in work with bariatric patients because what you described is not healthy at all. The only way to be successful in this journey is to change your relationship with food. Part of that is not using food as a reward, a comfort, or a crutch. Please don't give up. Nothing about this journey is easy, but if you do what you need to do, and keep to your plan, the other side is such a WONDERFUL PLACE! Best to you.

How many calories are you taking in per day? Carbs? Protein? How much water are you taking in per day? What do you do for exercise? In terms of the every 2 hours thing, I eat about every 2 hours all day long and have since I had the surgery 16 months ago. I have to eat this way to be able to meet all of my necessary macros each day. You've likely hit a stall, which is going to happen over and over again. It is just part of the process. But knowing more information about your situation will allow people to give you some more useful advice...

I have found that many doctors require many different things, though the 2 week pre-op liquid seems to be the most common. I lost so much weight on my own during my six month pre-op diet program that my surgeon didn't require any pre-op liquid diet for me. He just required nothing after midnight the night before the surgery (which is standard for any surgery). He did require the 2 week pre-op liquid normally, but he said I was a special case.

I started my journey at 397 with my six month pre-op diet program. I lost 99 pounds during that six months, weighing 298 on the day of surgery. I met my goal of 180 at 1 year and 4 days post-op, meaning that I had lost 217 pounds total and 118 pounds since the surgery. I lost another 7 pounds over the following few weeks and have been maintaining at 173 for several months now.

I'm not sure exactly who this refers to, but when I mentioned a "mean girls group," I was referring to a group of people who were, shall we say, forcibly removed from BP long before you came here. I was commenting on something @summerset had written, as she was here at that time.

Puking freaks me out. Especially in the early days, it was a big motivator for weighing food, eating specific amounts, and never getting to the point of full (let alone overly full).

I wasn't thinking about the old mean girls group from back when. Good point.

Probably... While any analysis would need to include samples of users across the board (new people, drop ins, long term users, etc.), I would find the long term users the least interesting, at least academically. (Though that might be, in the case of BP especially, that there aren't as many because people either don't get on after a time, or they drop back in because they haven't been successful.)

Absolutely, yes. I'm gay and became single and skinny (and yes, I'd describe myself as skinny now) at the same time. Re-entering the gay single/dating scene after nearly 9 years was daunting, but I tell you, I am having my 20s in my 40s. It is absolutely amazing, and would NEVER have happened before. (And I'm not talking about not happening at the 400 pound me; this wouldn't have happened at the 250 pound me, or maybe even the 200 pound me.) Work wise (and there is another thread about this), I'm getting way more attention and accolades from across the company as well. That, too, is amazing. It is sad, really, but it is a part of life. I'm happier than I have ever been as an adult. And that is part of my motivation to never gain a pound back and why I am a “protein addict,” a “documentarian,” a “size queen,” and a “stuck veteran” as was pointed out in another tacky thread...

You need to do what you need to do to be healthy. If he persists, I'd begin to question if this relationship is right for you, to be honest.