vegbeth

Thanks everybody for your kind words of support. I was in one of my lowest points that day. I've had a cortisone shot in my heal and am hopeful that it will help. I'm going to look into other in person support groups as suggested. I'm definitely needing more resources as my support network here is very small. Having moved across the country, I've left my whole social network behind.
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So I started this WLS journey in earnest about 6 months ago. Saw a surgeon in the Boston area and a nutritionist. Payed out of pocket for these appointments because I was living in a different state at the time. Got lots of information and felt great about the whole thing and confident with the surgeon and hospital. Was sent off with recommendations on weight loss, blood work, diet, etc. So I decided to move back to the Boston area, not only to do WLS but for family reasons. Lost a bunch of weight on my own, made an appointment with the nutritionist and contacted the surgeons office to find out what else I needed to do as well as to get insurance advice to pick the best plan for this. So I've finally completed all the tests and am just waiting for the results of my sleep study (on October 7). Hoping to get a surgery date shortly after that.
So one of the test I had to complete was a stress test. The big problem with this is that they made me run on a treadmill. I've been struggling with plantar fasciitis for the past year. Being back in the Boston area I finally had access to physical therapy and other means to treat it. I was starting to feel some relief until that stress test. Now not only do I have plantar fasciitis but also a very very painful bursa on my heal. So frustrated and in pain. All I want to do is is to turn to food. After loosing weight I thought that getting around would be easier but instead I'm more limited than before.
So I also thought the place I picked had lots of resources for support but so far there was one monthly meeting that I missed. I'm feeling totally alone on this journey. The only person that knows is my best friend and she hasn't been able to be that supportive because of an unexpected death in her family. I'm only planning on telling one other person, my mom, but not until I have a surgery date as I don't want her to worry much.
Anyway I'm just feeling really depressed and overwhelmed and alone in all this. Any advice welcome
HW 326 (20 years ago)
LW 145 (17years ago)
recent HW 259
CW 205
GW 135
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As silly as it may sound, I have done the following to keep the drama to a minimum. Accepted food on my plate to make people happy and then slid it to the trash or napkins when they weren't looking, pretended being the day after a stomach virus, started a new diet (told them that), fed the dog under the table ... all kinds of things. Eventually they'll get used to me eating like a thin person - for now it's only difficult because I'm in the puréed stage. I only told my family I live with. No one else knows. My mother is coming to town in a couple months and I'll decide then if I'm going to tell her. She will take if fine, it's more the money I spent to get it done with her. She's 5'10" and 145 pounds. So fat is something she's never really had to deal with (she's 75). Do what works for you for what stage your in and what you feel comfortable with. Everyone has their own way, and understands the personalities of the people they're dealing with best. Take it a day at a time, a person at a time, and one day you'll just be their thin relative/friend that eats like all the rest if he thin people! You got this!
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I didn't tell anyone I had the surgery. Almost 10 weeks out. I've said this in a dozen of these threads but I eat socially all the time and NO ONE has commented on how little I'm eating. Not my family, not my coworkers, not my friends, not guys I'm dating. People pay way less attention than you think. I'm losing weight fast so some of them (like my family) think I am finally succeeding on a diet and they are too overjoyed to see me lose to chastise me for eating so little. That's my theory!