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I don't believe I'd wait until THE moment to mention it, though. That could definitely dampen the mood because it would force him to focus on something other than sex. It would probably have nothing to do with seeing the scars, just throwing off the mental thing.

As for me, I kind of believe that telling a man fairly early in the relationship would serve two purposes. It would stop heartbreak later. If you found out he had a problem with it, it seems to me that knowing that information up front could avoid falling in love THEN finding out he couldn't handle a few scars.

The other purpose, for me, would be to weed out men I don't want. I, personally, wouldn't want a man who would have never considered dating me as a heavy person. That would be a deal-breaker, and I'd send him packing. I'm not interested in a man who has a prejudice about heavy people. To me, that is a character flaw.

Any man I would consider would be the sort of guy who would view my journey to health as a battle won and, thusly, a reminder that I am one strong, capable, and motivated woman.

Koala

Why is it a characted flaw if a man is not attracted to a heavy woman?

I don't really understand your point of view because I don't think there is anything wrong with a man who doesn't find himself aroused by a woman who is either really heavy or really thin.

We all have things that we dislike. Some like curvy girls, so like to see the ribcake poking out. Some like BMW's, other wouldn't be caught dead driving a Euro car. Some like the country, some like the city. Some love rap, others like rock.

Why is it a flaw to have a preference? That's an unfair judgement in my opinion. It's what you are naturally attracted to, what your eyes see and brain desires.

I happen to have a huge weakness for tall men, and short men, especially shorter than me, just don't do it for me at all. I just don't find them desireable, is that a flaw too? I can't help it if I don't find someone attractive.

I have nothing against men who don't find me attractive, as long as they respect me, that is ok. When I lose weight and I find a man, I wont care if he wouldnt date me when I was heavy. It's his personal preference. I would however break up with him if he was anti fat all together and was disrespectful to heavy people.

I wouldn't expect anyone to like me fat because I don't like myself fat. If i thought fat was hot, I'm not sure if I'd want to lose all my weight.

Sounds like you might be building muscle. Does it feel like your clothes are fitting loosly?

Maybe you have some Water weight. Try limiting salt and drink lots of Water, it might help.

Definately measure your body with a tape measure, do your hips, waist, arms, legs, and neck. Oh yea and boobies too.

Always wear the same outfit while measuring although I'd prefer to do it naked hehe.

Also, don't let the scale get to you. I have a very accurate scale that has not failed me for years and somehow between Monday and Tuesday last week it said I lost three pounds. Obviously it wasn't fat loss, just water.

Sometimes water can be as much as like 10lbs!

Good luck and don't give up. And throw the scale away!

Three years ago when I lost about 80lbs I remember one wow moment that I'll never forget. Actually it was a wow day. Before I went on my diet I weighed 250lbs and wore a size 20. Several months after dieting and after losing 80lbs I tried a pair of pants of my mom's a size 10!!! and I put it on, pulled it up over my hips and zipped it up. No, I couldn't breathe or walk, but they were ON! So to Celebrate I went to Lane Bryant in search of my new favorite pair of jeans and got a size 14, the smallest they carried in the store. It fit perfect. Perfect! I opened the fitting room door and told the salesgirl that this is a 14 and soon I wont be shopping there anymore, she smiled and said 'you go girl!'

Unfortunately I didn't lose much more because of a personal tragedy in my life, but I'm back on track now. Pretty soon I'll be in a 14 again, and looking for my new favorite pair of jeans in a size 12!~

Mags

I like SparkPeople a lot more. It seems easier to use, easier to find all kinds of foods, and helps you track your goal. It's fun.

Also, before giving you a recommended calorie intake, it asks if you're ready to excercise or weight train, and it applies your answer to the recommendation.

The amount SparkPeople recommended is about the same my dietetician recommended.

Good luck!

BTW, I tried fitday.com too and it was allright, but it seemed a little confusing. I'm sure once you get the hang of it, it works fine too.

Its ok Mandy, I was just wondering. No need to give him my info again.

Mandy! Whatever happened to that guy you know? :eek:

Pantheretti, the program at Mercy hospital is a 16 week program that requires you to attend every wednesday for about two hours.

First there is a support group kind of thing where we discuss weight issue topics with a psychologist aka Dr Greg. We also go around and talk out the issues. It's not super exciting but not boring either.

Second there is a weigh in time at the Dr's office and every other week the Dr talks to you, and every week you get weighed in and blood pressure taken.

Before you start the whole 16 week program you first have an initial appointment with the Dr, then the psychologist, and later the dietetician. You also talk to an excercise person but that's pretty boring hehe.

I lost about 4 pounds on this program and I've been doing the diet they subscribed for a week and 2 days.

Well your tummy is probably more sensitive right now and booze might make you throw up the next day. I would not do it if I was you, it's too risky.

If you get sick to your stomach after a night of drinking your band might slip.

A girl friend of mine asked me once what I weigh.

I told her I don't really like to share that info and she gave me a real hard time about it, insisting that I am lying to MYSELF. What a selfish person eh? Well I never told her, but we argued about it and to a degree made me question the friendship.

Herbalife isnt so bad, I enjoyed it. It's very expensive though, and you take lots of pills.< /p>

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Anyone else?

JoyceGA, wonderful!!!! I'm goign to Borders later, will be sure to pick up one from your list!

I also love the garbage bin statement.

I have to tell this to everyone I know.

This is a very inspiring thread.

Tellymelly, you go girl! Excercise is such a good way to lose weight, you're strenghtening your whole body and spirit, very good!!

A book recommended to me by my Psychologist: Mindful Eating

It's a Buddhist book that talks about having a good relationship with food, eat to be healthy etc. Very fun and quick read.

Another Buddhist book: The Zen of Eating

I have a cookbook for weight loss surgery patients: Eating Well After Weight Loss Surgery. The Author is a bandster. recipes look very easy and the book is very simple and organized. I haven't tried any recipes yet but enjoyed flipping through it to see what it's all about.

I also have a great older book called: Foods That Harm, Foods That Heal.

It has a paragraph or two on almost any food or spice you can think of. It's a good guide for people who like using health foods or home remedies.

The Complete Guide to Natural Healing: Lots of cool info on herbs and teas, home remedies, natural healing, beauty etc. I LOVE this one.

Conversations With The Fat Girl: A cute novel. Fun and easy read.

The Everything Yoga Book: I particularly enjoy the beginners stretching excercises. It pretty much helped me heal my sore back.

Also, this has nothing to do with being fat but found it to be a wonderful guide in love relationships: Light His Fire. Nuff Said lol.

Come on Ladies, I am sure I'm not the only book junkie around!

Have any of you read any great books about losing weight, diet, excercise, eating, weight loss surgery, lap band specific, cookbooks, etc that were helpful and informative?

If anyone has any recommendations, please post them here.

Please provide name of book as well as a small description of it.

THANKS!

In my opinion, I think your expectations could be a little bit too high at this point. You're 58 years old and your metabolism is definately slower at this age. My suggestion is not to worry so much about weight watchers points and do the band suggested diet of LOTS of Protein, more veggies, and little carbs.

With limited calorie intake, we have to make sure the choices we make are the best ones. I'm on a 1200 calorie diet right now and I could be just eating two big macs per day but instead I do a mix of healthy foods like salads, lean meats, healthy choice etc.

I know that weight watchers is a good diet for non bandsters, and could be great for someone who is banded for a while and is at their max fill, but to someone who is still on their first fill, I would just do the band recommended diet.

I'm sure this isn't advice that you were looking for so feel free to ignore me completely :scared:

Holy manolos! I love reading all the responses.

The letter is amazing advice, I must print it and read it again and again until I memorize it and use it next time I'm doing it.

Hm edit is broken, I meant to say we DONT need threads discussing this. Oopsie.

Why is everyone so damn concerned with this? Who gives a damn what she does? We need threads discussing someones career choices, especially someone we don't even know.

I think it is extremely childish of people to judge the woman based on what the media says. NOBODY knows her personally, and NOBODY knows what happens behind closed doors.

If I was constantly drilled about losing weight, I'd have a damn chip on my shoulder too. Her private life is just that, private. She doesn't owe it to anyone to explain how she lost weight, just like I never will go public with my choice.

Being a celebrity is hard work and all the money in the world can't buy you respect. The media can ruin you with one photo or rumor, can ruin your family, career, whole life. Why do you think it is that so many celebrities hide away in fancy high security hotels or start using drugs and alcohol. Because people are so f-ing fascinated with the stars that papparazzi and magazines will do anything to get a sale.

Leave her alone, you DO NOT know her, so why badmouth her?

Walk a mile in her shoes before you make a judgement.

Maybe they just want a fat girl on the show.

I did it a long time ago and it was very hard to do. I don't think it's healthy.

From my research I learned that all doctors have different opinions and plans for their patients. Some follow inamed guidelines, some make their own stricter rules, and some probably are in the band business for so long they just go based on experience which is probably that people can eat thicker liquids after a few days without problems.

I've heard so many people are able to have mushies after just a week and I'm gonna be on liquids for two weeks after surgery, I'm kind of annoyed and jealous lol. Best thing is follow your doctors rules because if you dont you'll have to tell him you're cheating and he may not like that too much.

Good Luck and please don't worry, if it went through then it's probably fine. Wait til you PB, I hear thats really bad.

Also, please note that I am not speaking from experience, all this is what I learned from reading LapBand message boards and websites.

Well we know the sun wont run out anytime soon lol

Those are cool pics. Thanks for sharing.

Sometimes people react negatively when they are worried. Maybe he doesnt want you to die and tries to convince himself he doesnt need you in case... I'm no therapist, but I've noticed people acting this way before.

When things were going badly with my ex and he knew I wanted to break it off, he would be super mean to me because he was trying to comfort himself.

New Age, Country, Dance, Soft Rock, Oldies

I haven't been banded yet but I think generally it's always a good idea to address any kind of pain to your doctor. Especially if it is near the area of your band/port.

Good luck