RNYDawn

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

Never mind, I just got the call from my coordinator that I was approved!! It was approved in five days! WOOOHOOO!

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

Some things I can't wait for post-op:
Wearing clothes that I love and not just what fits (and let's be real, paying a premium for plus size clothes sucks!) Shopping anywhere I want! Fitting into airplane seats/amusement park rides without fear Not being the 'fat mom' or 'fat friend' Relieving pressure from my ankles and knees so I can run another half marathon Being a healthy example for my two little girls Keeping up with my husband NO MORE GERD! My list is pretty endless but those are the top for now

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

Never mind, I just got the call from my coordinator that I was approved!! It was approved in five days! WOOOHOOO!

I started my pre-op diet today - surgery is on the 17th. My surgeon's office uses Bariatric Advantage. I can have 3 shakes, 2 bars, up to 24 oz of broth, up to 3 sugar free jellos or popsicles, and one banana a day. Plus a ton of Water of course.
I tried adding coffee extract to my chocolate shake. Mistake. The extract just made it taste like dirt. I choked it down.
I tried adding sweet drops root beer (stevia) to my vanilla shake. Mistake. I added too much and I'm gagging because it's just too sweet.
The good news is that the chocolate Peanut Butter Bariatric Advantage bars are not bad.
I believe I will be blending the strawberry shake as-is to avoid above mistakes.
My delicious find in all of this is Crystal Light Cherry Lime drops - soooo good in Water and crushed ice...almost like a sonic slushie
All of this comes out to just over 1000 calories per day. Lord give me strength!

I agree with nurse_Lenore. You need to see a Mental Health Professional. Sometimes meds alone don't cut it, or maybe you're on the wrong one for you. Some meds don't work after RNY because they are not able to be absorbed through your stomach anymore. Please seek help before you consider a reversal. At this point, nothing says that will help you either. Talk to your surgeon about the pain and nausea. Join a support group to learn more how to deal with your surgery. I don't know if you believe in prayer, but I will be praying for you.
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I got so depressed after my sleeve procedure in 2012 and even thought I made the biggest mistake of my life. For the first 4 months I hated life, hated myself and hated the decision I made. I didn't want to tell anyone because I was so sure that I was making the right decision for myself and I would not listen to the naysayers prior to my surgery. I probably should have gotten professional help, but didn't. The best thing I did to help my mental state was getting on these forums and reading people's stories and believing in total strangers (on the Internet) that it would get better.
I'm 4 years out today and still down 90 of the 100lbs I lost. Life for me got back to normal around the 5 or 6 month mark and I kept my eye on my goal. My advice to you would be to let your body and mind heal. Give yourself a good 6 months post op before making any decisions. You owe it to yourself to wait it out. Stay on these forums and read success stories. Friend people who feel the same way and commiserate together. Help each other through it.
I'm not going to tell you it gets better. I think you must know that it does since your family members have gone through it. You are just in a crappy time period where your mental state hasn't caught up to your physical state and your relationship with food is still there. Your mind wants to eat, but your body says no.
I myself didn't mentally "break up" with food until the 5 month mark. Once I did, things improved greatly for me. I did activities and/or exercise every time I thought of food. Even at work, I would walk laps around my office or close my door and do sit-ups. At first, I used it as my punishment for craving food and I hated exercise so I found myself thinking less and less about food. Then, soon enough I got hooked on exercise and I stopped thinking of food and started thinking about my next spin, Zumba or dance class instead. I even took up running, trained for a 1/2 marathon and ran the entire thing without stopping (and I hated running)! I think I should mention that I also loved going out to eat and this had pretty much stopped the first 6 months and I believe this contributed to my negative state of mind. Nothing sounded good, yet I missed the social aspect of going out to eat. Luckily for me, my husband and a few friends jumped on board my exercise train and this became our new "social thing".
My point is that every journey is different and yours will be too. You will figure out what works for you, but you WILL find your way. Then, maybe one day you will find yourself on these forums sharing your story to try and help someone else. Good luck to you! I hope my story helped you a little. You will get through this!!!
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I understand where you're coming from. We are surgery date buddies, but I had the sleeve. However, I only recently have begun to see the light at the end of the tunnel. I had a lot of physical pain as well for a long time. It was miserable. My mental health suffered greatly because of it, not to mention my best friend and coping mechanism, food, was gone. I have started seeing a therapist and am feeling better.
I won't tell you "it gets better" but I will tell you that we are both still "newbies" and we have a long road to understanding how our new bodies work. Also, I suggest doing all of the research that you can on any of your pain/medical issues. Have you looked in to medicinal marijuana for the nausea? There are forms of it that have the THC removed so it's legal and it doesn't get you high, if you are opposed to that. It works wonders for people going through chemo which causes intense nausea/vomiting.
I HIGHLY encourage speaking to a therapist. Without fail, the day before my therapy appointments I tell my friend, "I don't think I'm going to continue seeing my therapist after this. I don't think i need it!" And without fail, I leave the appointment having gained some insight and understanding in to how my mind works and how to cope. It's been invaluable to me. There were days that I couldn't get out of my bed. I didn't shower for nearly a week once. I had no desire to eat, sobbed uncontrollably and multiple times I thought, "I wish I were dead." I got the help I needed and it's been a huge change for me.
Go to your surgeon and have a long, serious, intense talk with them about your medical problems and how you feel about the surgery. They probably have resources and options for you that none of us can suggest. Utilize WLS groups, there's nothing more powerful than a group of people who have been through the same situation coming together to lift each other up.
Please, I really hope you read through these messages and understand that we're not saying these things to force you to think "my RNY was the best decision ever!!" If you never feel that way, then okay. No one should fault you for it. You're right, this is not the easy way out, but it's your way now and you can either utilize all of the options that are available to you, listen to the advice of the people who have been in your shoes or can understand your struggle, and maybe help yourself to see that light too.
Good luck, I hope you keep us updated.

I'm new too. Hi! <3 My first real consult with a surgeon is in two days. These boards are so full of amazing information - good and bad - which is so important! Looking forward to talking to you on here!

Hi guys, thanks for checking on me! I had surgery in 2/17! I was in the hospital for 2 nights and have been home now for 2.5 days.
Biggest hurdle in hospital was the transition from IV pain meds to oral pain meds. Way less potent and tasted gross but definitely still needed.
I haven't had too much trouble at home...gas moved out after a night of cramps, I'm moving around better each day, and even took a little walk outside today. I'm able to get my Water & Protein in with no problems so I'm very thankful for that.

Yes, I had bypass pain is manageable! Left side hurts the most & especially after standing or sitting up for more than 10 minutes or so. I take a small walk every day and have to use the bathroom frequently so I'm up & down stairs a lot too. Bending over is the worst so I try very hard to limit it! ️ @@NewLife1985 thank you so much!

I started off in the Sleeve forum but after days of research, I believe RNY is better for me since I have GERD.

Hi all, I'm Dawn and just turned 40. I have been over 230 pounds since 2002. That's the year I got married and moved to Texas (San Antonio) where Tex Mex food became my best friend. I have been every size and have tried every diet. I got down to my smallest adult size when I was 21 and went from a 12 to a 4 in 2 months because I was a nanny at the beach. I walked, rode my bike, swam, walked on the beach, played with the kids and ate light because I was so busy...and the weight melted off of me without even trying. Why can't it do that again!?



I was diagnosed with PCOS in 2005 and have not been able to get it under control. I did lose about 35 lbs after I had my first child. I ran a half marathon, started yoga, and got down to my lowest weight (in a long time!) of 206. Then I got pregnant with my second and just let myself pile the weight back on. I've been at about 250 since 2013. Despite my weight woes, I stay active and go to boxing 3x a week, walk, and go to yoga when I can fit it in. I also do Beachbody Body Pump and other at-home workout dvds. It's the eating that is just not under control!



I went for a free seminar with a local surgeon in May but didn't continue after that visit. I meet with a different surgeon on Thursday for an actual consult and I am so freaking excited.



I have two little girls who are 4 1/2 and almost 2. My 4 year old has made innocent comments such as "is there a baby in your belly?" and "why is your tummy so big?" and I have had to fight to stay composed and not break down in front of her. I don't want her to think I am ashamed. I don't say the word fat around her and never want her to know that word...but the reality is that I am miserable and unhealthy and not a good example for my own daughters. The other night at bedtime, she called me a heifer/heffer. She has no idea what it means and I have no idea where she learned that word - but I started thinking "did one of her friends at daycare call me that?" I am doing this for ME but I do not want my children to suffer teasing or be embarrassed because they have a fat mom.



I work full time from home as a government contracts program manager. I work for a wonderful company that is flexible so now is the right time to get this started. I discussed with my husband and he fully supports me. He has loved me at every weight and I couldn't do it without his support!



Thank you all for sharing your stories and experiences so freely here. I hope to add to the knowledge and conversation as my journey moves forward. <3

Hi guys, thanks for checking on me! I had surgery in 2/17! I was in the hospital for 2 nights and have been home now for 2.5 days.
Biggest hurdle in hospital was the transition from IV pain meds to oral pain meds. Way less potent and tasted gross but definitely still needed.
I haven't had too much trouble at home...gas moved out after a night of cramps, I'm moving around better each day, and even took a little walk outside today. I'm able to get my Water & Protein in with no problems so I'm very thankful for that.

Hi guys, thanks for checking on me! I had surgery in 2/17! I was in the hospital for 2 nights and have been home now for 2.5 days.
Biggest hurdle in hospital was the transition from IV pain meds to oral pain meds. Way less potent and tasted gross but definitely still needed.
I haven't had too much trouble at home...gas moved out after a night of cramps, I'm moving around better each day, and even took a little walk outside today. I'm able to get my Water & Protein in with no problems so I'm very thankful for that.

This was a good article. But what stuck out to me was that she said, "I thought I was cured,...I thought I could eat like regular people."
Just based off of what I have been researching for a few months, I know that I will never be able to eat how I do now (before surgery). I don't understand the mindset that going back to old ways and eating like someone with a regular stomach is okay after RNY? I may be naive since I have not even had my surgery yet but I know this is a lifelong commitment.

Two days to go. I can't believe it! So happy so many of you are on the loser's bench and doing well!

Yessssssss girl!!!! All that stress and worry and finally it's relieved!!! My surgery is on Wednesday! Thank you!

Yes definitely try again! My insurance company told me they work over the weekend on these approvals so maybe yours does too! <3

Yes definitely try again! My insurance company told me they work over the weekend on these approvals so maybe yours does too! <3