Katrinakit

well I had the last of my preop appointments yesterday. They did an ekg, some bloodwork, pregnancy test etc. I met with surgeon and anesthesiologist and multiple nurses and the nutritionist. So now I am just counting down the hours! On Monday morning I go in at 750am and will have surgery at 950! My bff comes to visit tomorrow and we are going hiking and then I am Clear Liquids on Sunday. I can't believe it is almost here!

I have a grandma great who came from County Cork.

Hi everyone! I have been on the site for nearly a year and single for about four months so I have decided to check out the singles forum. I have tried the online dating sites. I have met some nice people and a few nuts. I am from Texas and 52. I have lost 100 pounds and my body looks like is melting...lol. That's something that doesn't come up in many date conversations.

Yeah....I think we might be related. I did one of those 23 and me genetic tests and I matched with a family with his last name from county cork. That is where his parents are from. How many families with that last name could county cork have?
I mean I guess it is a big county but still

This thread has been very therapeutic for me since I am trying to get over a similar situation. Sorry to hear he is such an arse

This thread has been very therapeutic for me since I am trying to get over a similar situation. Sorry to hear he is such an arse

@@AnA92212, that dude was having a defensive tantrum, aiming for, well, the tender spot.
This reminds me of a man I met long ago. We spoke a few times, had good conversation, he ws intelligent, witty, we had common interests. The meeting was disappointing. When he asked if I'd like to spend the night at his apartment (!), I very nicely (really) declined, "No, thank you, I think I should go home..." He saw me to a taxi and was cooing and a tad touchy-feely while we waited for one to pull up. A moment after I walked in to my apartment, the phone rang. He apparently got that I was being more than "lady-like." He was calling to say that he didn't want to pursue anything, as he felt pressured, that I already thought we were a couple. How he arrived at that from a kind variation on, "No, fella, I'm outta here."

Online dating has been an adventure. I recently thought I had met someone truly compatible. After 2 months, he tells me (in a text, btw) that he thinks we should both move on. None of the reasons he gave made sense and I could tell he was holding something back. Finally, he typed the words "I have never been with a heavy woman." I was stunned as we had been intimate several times and he commented that it was the best ever in his life, etc. I have lost 15 lbs since we started dating and 82 lbs total. He knows about my surgery and that I am shrinking. While I know I will get over this, I feel defeated and frustrated.

I have the same problem with salty foods. There is a particular type of tortilla chip that I literally haven't eaten in 10 years because it isn't sold in small servings and the last time I bought one of those big bags I ate the entire thing in one day....yeah...I avoid the chip aisle like it is radioactive now.
I'm a store perimeter (with quick visits to the spices, tea aisle, and frozen foods) girl these days.

Heheeee! And I see him in his mumu he wore when he hatched the scheme to get out of work by being overweight. I loved his doctors tips to gain weight... If you rub a food on a piece of paper and the paper is clear from the grease, it's a winner food! Hahaha!!!! Too bad life isn't just one long cartoon. Gosh I miss pita chips.
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he adipose! "That fat just walks away!" [emoji23]

So did anyone see the dr who episode where the fat globules were aliens that were released at night or something? I have not really watched that show but my sis made me watch that episode because it was so silly lol

@@Katrinakit Mmmmm Salty.... (in Homer Simpson's voice! lol)

Great, now they are going to blame WLS for global warming and the government is going to ban it. ;-(

I've read the article about this in the New York Times - the only contestant who has gotten down to below his end-of-show weight was a guy who'd regained it then had gastric sleeve surgery and is now maintaining. WLS is just a tool, but it can be a powerful one.

1000-1200 calories @ 2 months?!?!! At 2 months I was 650-700. Your goal is to lose weight. If you are meeting all your Protein and fluid goals, and don't feel weak/have energy to accomplish your daily tasks, then why Sweet Jesus would you just add calories to get to a NUMBER??? At 9 months I'm @ 800-950. I am satisfied, have energy, am building muscle at the gym, and am still losing weight(albeit more slowly). Trust your body, it will tell you what to do.

Well thank you so much for posting this, I am exactly the same, salty crunchy food addict.
I am going to put your suggestions into play and see if it will work for me.
Send me your bill in the mail........................................

So every once in a while, my therapist says something that really hits home with me and she said something yesterday that has been rumbling around in my head since then and thought I would share.
I have a food addiction. Specifically to crunchy salty treats - Cheezits, Cheetos, Ruffles Potato chips, etc. I still on occasion binge on these items (and yes it is possible because these things crunch up in to tiny pieces). I lie to myself and say I will portion them out and eat them in reasonable portions and I always start that way, but in the end, I always grab the bag/box and finish them off. Sometimes I feel sick from it. Sometimes I don't. I don't want to do this, but yet probably once every 2 or 3 weeks, I do this. (I am 11 months post-op for those curious.) (Please don't post and lecture me about this. I know it is an issue and I am working on it. That is not the purpose of this post.)
Anyway, as my therapist and I were talking about this, she asked me to describe how I felt when I am approaching the snack aisle at the grocery store or the snack aisle at the gas station (when I am on a road trip for example) and after thinking about it, I answered "anxiety". What I mean is, I start feeling how much I want those Snacks and yet how much I don't need them and how I am going to be strong enough to avoid them.
She said "Think of the addiction as an outside force. This is something coming from outside of you and you need a strategy to overcome that voice. Some people come to me who have worked for months and months on just sheer willpower and come in completely exhausted. They just cannot fight with sheer willpower anymore." The exhaustion part of that statement is something I keep thinking about. How many of us did Weight Watchers or Atkins or South Beach or whatever diet and we did SO well but one day, we were just so exhausted with counting our points or our carbs and just gave in to the exhaustion and grabbed what we wanted, and then the next day and the next day and the next thing we knew we couldn't get back on track?
All along in this journey, I have feared maintenance. I mean I have lost weight before only to gain it back and then some. But she said to me I needed a mind shift. Don't live in this sheer willpower stage. It won't work. Understand that I have an addiction which comes from outside of me and figure out how to defeat it. My specific plan we came up with - when I am approaching that aisle and hear (or feel) that desire for the food, OUTLOUD say NO! (Ok, not so loud that others stare at me, but you see what I am saying) And then replace the thoughts with music - something to drown out the voice until the urge passes. She said to turn around and leave if I had to. I said "leave the grocery store if I am not through shopping?" and she said "absolutely - if you just cannot deal with it at that time, then leave. Leave your cart there or just checkout with what you have. You can come back later."
I haven't had to put this in to practice yet, but I have been thinking about music to put on my phone to get me through that (or that I can sing in my head). A theme song if you will to get me past it. Eventually this will all become a little easier - a little farther between the cravings. It already has - otherwise I wouldn't be down 141 pounds. I hope I defeat him completely someday. I am not sure if I will. For now the addict monster is still there and I am learning how to defeat him and wear him down a little at a time....

Is it weird that I don't WANT to enjoy food again? Enjoying food got me in this predicament in the first place. I wish I didn't have taste buds.

Is it weird that I don't WANT to enjoy food again? Enjoying food got me in this predicament in the first place. I wish I didn't have taste buds.

I mean may 16! What am I trying to draw this out?! Lol

I mean may 16! What am I trying to draw this out?! Lol

They have chocolate PB2? !

You can do it!

I just realized that I have been on this diet for 22 days!!! Only 8 more to go!