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I really don't understand everyone who says consider if the relationship is working for you - um hello - they are MARRIED. for better or worse, in sickness and health? yes. this is WORSE, and yes this is sickness but a promise is a promise.
to the OP, I am so sorry you are dealing with this. my husband has Asperger's Syndrome. I spent years while he sorted things out to learn how to find a place to be productive in society. it took us a LONG time to learn how to be married without stepping all over each other. it was worth all the junk we went through and all the trouble it took. I had to learn how to support him - and how to help him - without ENABLING unhelpful behaviors, but at the end of the day that was all I could be responsible for. I am really glad I stuck with it - it was hard some times.
So, I would encourage you to get support and help. Your life changes have changed the balances in your relationship and you will need help to sort out how you can help and support him without enabling him. I hope you two can find a way to be intimate until he is healthy enough to resume normal activities.

@@Bluesky1 Thank you so much. My weight in the before picture was 242. In the after(yesterday lol) 149. I'm 5.4 in a half ..

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I'm in

In the beginning I just used before and after pictures

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So I'm a little over 5 weeks out and although I'm still learning, I feel great. I still have a issue seeing myself as plus sized but today changed my mind. Here's why

Oh okay. Yea my Nutrition class I had told me what type of Vitamins to get.. No Gummy or women's.. Not enough nutritional value and to much sugar. Centrum 50+ is what I use. I used to use the chewable ones but ugh those were nasty. I take Calcium B12 and B1. I didn't start til after surgery. My pre op diet was a little hard but I managed because if they saw a gain.. You wouldn't qualify for the surgery.

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I was told not to take any women's Vitamins try Centrum .. They have been working for me for the past seven months ..
Do you have a goal weight? When is your surgery date?

In the beginning I just used before and after pictures

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Hello. I'm excited for you!! Do you have a surgery date?

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Hi guys & gals,
My name is Bonnie, I am 26 years old and 380lbs at the moment. Skip the next paragraph if you don't care about my whiney health history.
Health history:
I actually only have sleep apnea as a co-morbidity. Decent bp, pulse, blood sugar.
My choice for bariatric surgery also has nothing to do with self image as I have been for years an extraordinarily confident woman.
Unfortunately for me (& my family who rely son my care taking) I have been dealing with unexplained neuropathy in my limbs and extremely debilitating back pain for about two years. I now walk like my 94 year old nana lol.
Doctors take one look at my large body and immediately dismiss my pain and issues, like my neurologist actually prescribed me a weight loss drug and walked out without even discussing a single issue I was having. Those who push thru with chronic pain are my heroes. I am not a strong enough human to deal with this pain on a daily basis and I also do not chose to use Rx pain killers (family history of substance abuse) so I've chosen drastic weight loss as a last ditch effort to have a life free of crippling pain.
Prepping: total nesting mode!
I've been researching for months.
Collecting tools and other stuff. I really wish I had friends to share & taste test with.
I'm absolutely excited to start living life without pain. I'm hoarding Protein, bought a blender, made lists and notebooks, last on my list is planning a stretchy versatile weight loss wardrobe that will fit my needs for at least the next 80 lbs. I'm thinking leggings, tank tops, and large loose long sleeved blouses.
I'm so thankful to find this app for my phone.
It's been like a prayer answered. Even in the middle of the night I sneak on and search stuff easing my obsessive mind frame.
thank you
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Thank you. Yes it does go by fast. I'm stalled now but once it picks up its rapid .. You will have the same or even better!!!

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I am 2.5 years out and today I had:
1/3 cup granola- Breakfast
1/2 turkey burger with bun- lunch
3 snack bags of goldfish crackers- Snacks
1/2 turkey burger with bun- dinner
Later tonight I will probably have a Fiber One Bar and another snack pack of crackers. I also had a skinny macchiato which adds some Protein. Some days I eat more, some days less, but roughly this is along the lines of what I eat most days, subbing out the turkey burger for grilled chicken nuggets some days or a grilled chicken sandwich.

@@Bluesky1 I was 170 at about 3 months out. So I would say about 6 months I'm only 7 months post op it didn't take long at all

I'm at 7 months and I have stalled to.. It's only been about a week though .. But I've never been at the same weight since this journey started. I believe my Protein is the reason not entirely sure my carbs are under 60 I do have sweets but my sugar stays under 20g .. I have been exercising more so maybe upping my calories might help I'm not sure

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Got a question for anyone who is few months out and eating regular food again? Will a chicken or steak salad be fine to eat later? My favs....
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Got a question for anyone who is few months out and eating regular food again? Will a chicken or steak salad be fine to eat later? My favs....
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267 vs 203
16 weeks out
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Little update on me everyone's looking great xx
I'm nearly 10 months post op, 93 lb (42 kg) lost so far, still have 28 lb (15 kg) to lose but I'm getting there with sweat and hard work
My stats : Height - 5'9" (1.76 m), SW - 287 lb (130 kg) , CW - 194 lb (88kg)
TW - 165 lb (75 kg)
Can't believe I'm posting a picture of me in that state. The before picture was 3 days after my surgery, when I got home