limichelle34

Hello, I started a relationship with a guy back in 2004. We were young and in love! Well the past three years took a nose dive we had a blissful seven years that I will eternally cherish. The last three years were a hazy mess. We both have Bipolar. His anxiety got so bad and so did his obsessing over the relationship and his different phobias took place. I haven't really seen him in the past three years, I tried to stick it out hoping he would get better. Then tonight it came down like a Hurricane! He told me if I left his life he could get better. As harsh as it was hearing it I realized I needed to walk away for good. So we split amicably! I really feel alone I mean I have no friends, all I had was him. Sure I have my parents and my family. It's just not the same. I'm however embarking on this amazing journey of attending a weight loss seminar tomorrow and I see a bright future for myself! I guess you can say this has been a blessing in disguise. I'm finding myself again! Lisa

I don't Think that fate rules our life I just mean it was fate him and I met not knowing That we shared the same illness. Thank you!

Somebody hold my hand!!! *looks around nervously* Seriously I'm petrified! I just got out of a decade long term relationship tonight. I need time to grieve and get myself put back together. (Sounds like I'm humpty dumpty or something. LOL) So what happens in the dating world when I'm ready? Anything new? Kind of been out of the loop for a decade!! It's weird considering myself officially 'single'. Right now I'm not a good candidate for being in a relationship I have too many bags for somebody else to help carry. LOL Lisa

@@Mountaingal Thank you so much! We both have the same Mental Illness which is odd because we didn't meet in a Behavioral Health setting we met random at a Community College. So I see it as fate. Lisa

Thank you so much for the support! Today marks a new day especially since I'm going to the bariatric free seminar.

Wow all your comments sound so familiar to my reasoning's! I want my life back as well! I haven't had a good quality of life since being obese. Lisa

I'm happy to read your responses! Sounds like it worked out for you all. My Grandfather died at 38 when my dad was ten. I keep picturing him as I reach my mid thirties. I don't want to end up like him granted he was opposite of me. He smoked and drank and I don't smoke or drink however he was obese. When I first started on this journey after putting on seventy pounds in one summer ten years ago; I thought it was all about vanity. My Now Ex his mother was very into aesthetics. She would compare me to Victoria Secret models and make snide remarks about my weight. So for me I wanted to 'impress'. I always thought to myself "I'll show her." Then it branched into me wanting to lose weight just to look good. That is not what it's about I learned over the years. I just googled my liver disorder and obesity and it's sickeningly scary how morbid it is and how people don't live long because of the health risks. I just ended that Ten year relationship with my ex even-though we both really weren't doing well for the past three years and hardly spoke or saw each-other. So during that time I had to re-evaluate my life and what I wanted.Now it's all about health. I'm doing this surgery to save myself! Because for the first time in 33 years I alone love myself and think I'm worthy enough! This is a big step to take but small in hindsight to what a bleak outlook I could face if I don't. Thank you again for all of the responses! Lisa

I just got out of an eleven year relationship with a guy who knew me nothing but big the whole time! Now I'm on my own and feeling scared about this whole transition. I honestly don't know how it will affect me dating later on probably in a more positive light. When I first met my EX I really didn't have my act together I ate way too much and didn't care! I didn't have the internal demons and struggles figured out. Now that I'm on my own I can work on all of it, repair my life and come out healthier which should attract a really good mate. Lisa