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IncredibleShrinkingMan

Gastric Sleeve Patients
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from zmason in Regret, depression & anxiety   
    @@anna9/15 All of this is normal, but are you able to pinpoint exactly what is leading to any particular emotion? How has your progress been?
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from sargregea in Travel after surgery   
    3 weeks is fine. I am 2 weeks today and I feel like I am ready. I am traveling for work next week just before I turn 3 weeks out, and I am curious to see how the metal detector will react to my staples though. I hope I don't have to have special pat-downs for life!
    I would say that if you didn't have motion sickness before surgery, you are in the clear. If you did, I think you are fine, but I would be on extra alert and have some bags handy. For one, I am not experimenting with any new soft food before I get on the plane. I am boarding with as close to an empty sleeve as possible and I doubt I'll even be hungry when we land. Have a nice time!
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from ProudGrammy in I have been rejected   
    Just to address the issue of rejection...did you consider seeking a second opinion? I'm sure the other posters are all correct in their advice on how to deal with the skin, but perhaps another plastic surgery program would think differently of it. I understand your concern and theirs, but I would fully research this issue before writing it off.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from kittykat84 in Embrace the Stall   
    I was in blissful tailspin for my first seven weeks, and now at eight weeks, I appear to have slammed into a massive brick wall. My restriction feels completely adequate and I cannot eat more than the surgeon's recommended amount of anything. I think we have a tendency to overestimate our physical activity. We can be fastidious about getting the same workouts in (although I will add that eventually the same workout over and over will grow ineffective due to the body's adaptation to it) but it is very possible to be losing steps and other forms of labor elsewhere in the day...such as standing on escalators up which we would formerly climb, not getting up as much at work, and not capering around the house quite as much at night. Fitbit and other things help make these comparisons, but not all steps are created equal and our overall energy output may have stealthily decreased despite similar looking activity. Bottom line...err on the side of restlessness!
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from CLN.BK in You know you lost weight when   
    ...recent pictures of you look heavier and heavier each day
    ...used three different belts in the last two weeks
    ...your car has been getting suspiciously good mileage
    ...you have to look harder to find yourself on a surveillance camera
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from Shrinkinqtpi in OK... so be honest with me...   
    God Bless Bariatric Pal!
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from ProudGrammy in New study about the long-term effectiveness of the sleeve   
    All the sleeve is before weight loss is a tool with which to do it. Once you enter maintenance, all the sleeve is after weight loss is a better opportunity to stay there. Nobody fails, including the sleeve itself. It's just not a guarantee of anything, it's just better odds of a lot of things. If you experience weight gain a year or two out, then just get back in the game. The sleeve should still be helping you do that at that point. For everybody who talks about how stats are unreliable because of re-gainers not reporting or following up, I'd point out those studies also don't point to weight "re-loss." The most important thing to me out there is that it appears that our set points definitely change, which is more important than the loss or gain of any particular pound.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from jessi29 in 3 weeks post VSG and depression is AWFUL   
    @@jessi29 As a guy who has kept in close touch with many women who have undergone the surgery, we have it easier. I tried to deny this at first, but it's supported by the numbers. However, the depression hits us just the same and is very closely associated with rapid weight loss. He may be doing great, but he may be masking the more difficult parts of this (hiding our feelings is also something we do much more readily than women). Don't get ahead of yourself...the paranoia about him leaving is probably contributing a great deal. If you can convince yourself that it isn't true, you will see a marked improvement. And one final thing: the weight loss will come...and will be more slow and steady. Freefall then stall is no way to go about it.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from jessi29 in 3 weeks post VSG and depression is AWFUL   
    @@jessi29 As a guy who has kept in close touch with many women who have undergone the surgery, we have it easier. I tried to deny this at first, but it's supported by the numbers. However, the depression hits us just the same and is very closely associated with rapid weight loss. He may be doing great, but he may be masking the more difficult parts of this (hiding our feelings is also something we do much more readily than women). Don't get ahead of yourself...the paranoia about him leaving is probably contributing a great deal. If you can convince yourself that it isn't true, you will see a marked improvement. And one final thing: the weight loss will come...and will be more slow and steady. Freefall then stall is no way to go about it.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from jessi29 in 3 weeks post VSG and depression is AWFUL   
    @@jessi29 As a guy who has kept in close touch with many women who have undergone the surgery, we have it easier. I tried to deny this at first, but it's supported by the numbers. However, the depression hits us just the same and is very closely associated with rapid weight loss. He may be doing great, but he may be masking the more difficult parts of this (hiding our feelings is also something we do much more readily than women). Don't get ahead of yourself...the paranoia about him leaving is probably contributing a great deal. If you can convince yourself that it isn't true, you will see a marked improvement. And one final thing: the weight loss will come...and will be more slow and steady. Freefall then stall is no way to go about it.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from jessi29 in 3 weeks post VSG and depression is AWFUL   
    @@jessi29 As a guy who has kept in close touch with many women who have undergone the surgery, we have it easier. I tried to deny this at first, but it's supported by the numbers. However, the depression hits us just the same and is very closely associated with rapid weight loss. He may be doing great, but he may be masking the more difficult parts of this (hiding our feelings is also something we do much more readily than women). Don't get ahead of yourself...the paranoia about him leaving is probably contributing a great deal. If you can convince yourself that it isn't true, you will see a marked improvement. And one final thing: the weight loss will come...and will be more slow and steady. Freefall then stall is no way to go about it.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from jessi29 in 3 weeks post VSG and depression is AWFUL   
    @@jessi29 As a guy who has kept in close touch with many women who have undergone the surgery, we have it easier. I tried to deny this at first, but it's supported by the numbers. However, the depression hits us just the same and is very closely associated with rapid weight loss. He may be doing great, but he may be masking the more difficult parts of this (hiding our feelings is also something we do much more readily than women). Don't get ahead of yourself...the paranoia about him leaving is probably contributing a great deal. If you can convince yourself that it isn't true, you will see a marked improvement. And one final thing: the weight loss will come...and will be more slow and steady. Freefall then stall is no way to go about it.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from jaxmom in Alcohol and drugs after surgery   
    Can't advise about the drugs, but I agree that people need to be more supportive, and should only have clicked here if they had a useful answer.
    As to the booze, I had a drink at 4 months out and it went perfectly fine. I had been scared out of making that move, and perhaps if I tried earlier I would've been in some trouble, but I enjoy happy hour regularly nowadays and am very grateful for the sleeve for allowing me to do it the right way.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan reacted to DavidOso in What Is the Craziest Thing You’ve Ordered at a Restaurant?   
    @, but 10-15 fries and I'd be stuffed. Poutine, yum...cold,leftover fries, yuk. Short rib gravy DOES sound delish...
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from VSGAnn2014 in What Is the Craziest Thing You’ve Ordered at a Restaurant?   
    Ugh...poutine with short rib gravy. Don't judge me.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from VSGAnn2014 in What Is the Craziest Thing You’ve Ordered at a Restaurant?   
    Ugh...poutine with short rib gravy. Don't judge me.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from VSGAnn2014 in What Is the Craziest Thing You’ve Ordered at a Restaurant?   
    Ugh...poutine with short rib gravy. Don't judge me.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from VSGAnn2014 in What Is the Craziest Thing You’ve Ordered at a Restaurant?   
    Ugh...poutine with short rib gravy. Don't judge me.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from AmyR in Not ready to embrace another stall!   
    Well, every diet tweak is going to result in a stall eventually, because X number of calories is going to equal maintenance intake for a given weight. You break this one just like you broke the last one...making another cut...however, I don't know where you are or how long you can do that before you reach a point where you have cut too much for it to be sustainable. I speak from prior experience...DO NOT let yourself reach that point!
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from BellaHope in Things we dont have to worry about anymore!   
    -crowding onto a subway train with gazillions of people pushing and shoving and being the only one being looked at ("if only that guy would get off this wouldn't be happening...uh, yea it would)
    -watching the sigh on somebody's face when they arrive at the row on a plane and realize they are my seat partner
    -having every take out place in town have my order memorized and then watching them in shock when I order something else
    -and others...
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from Cervidae in When Is Weight Loss Surgery the Wrong Choice?   
    This brings up two very important issues, @@Alex Brecher.
    Her poor candidacy is unrelated to her age. The turmoil surrounding her life both before and after surgery should've been a clear red flag, and perhaps psychiatric evaluations are not quite what they are today, and more people like her could fall through the cracks and into an ill-advised surgery.
    That said, I think two things are unreasonably stringent...first, that there is a very strong presumption against surgery on anyone younger than 18...obesity and its devastating effects start and become very hard to reverse much before then, so why shouldn't the surgical option become available as needed? Must we wait until there are quasi-irreversible effects on health to allow somebody the most sophisticated option available, provided he/she checks out fine in other respects? Second, and in a similar vein, why is the standard 40 BMI or 35 with a co-morbidity? This disease is vicious and destructive long before an individual reaches either of those two standards, and even more uncontrollable once they are reached...therefore, there is a greater risk that in order to become a qualified candidate, you have to reach a point at which there may be less you can do than you could when you were, oh, say an innocuous 10 lbs overweight but clearly struggling with food.
    This is another reason the psychological evaluation is important. It should not just weed out people with too many problems to be prepared for surgery, but should also be an inclusive tool, in other words, identify people who do not qualify strictly by numbers, but who are headed in a direction that makes surgery a very good, and potentially life saving option, even for a mildly overweight teenager, particularly when there are already some failed diet and exercise attempts under the person's belt.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from devillynn in dead inside...   
    Terribly sorry to hear this. You are doing exceptionally well by the numbers and while I am sure nothing can truly heal this tragedy, you are doing your son extremely proud. You would've been around for him, but now you will be around for his daughter, who is in desperate need of you. I hope you continue to do great and that you heal spiritually as far as that is possible, and that the prosecutor handling this case quickly puts the perpetrators of this crime away from the rest of humanity forever into the cell in which they will die a slow painful death from the meaninglessness of their existence.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from Cervidae in When Is Weight Loss Surgery the Wrong Choice?   
    This brings up two very important issues, @@Alex Brecher.
    Her poor candidacy is unrelated to her age. The turmoil surrounding her life both before and after surgery should've been a clear red flag, and perhaps psychiatric evaluations are not quite what they are today, and more people like her could fall through the cracks and into an ill-advised surgery.
    That said, I think two things are unreasonably stringent...first, that there is a very strong presumption against surgery on anyone younger than 18...obesity and its devastating effects start and become very hard to reverse much before then, so why shouldn't the surgical option become available as needed? Must we wait until there are quasi-irreversible effects on health to allow somebody the most sophisticated option available, provided he/she checks out fine in other respects? Second, and in a similar vein, why is the standard 40 BMI or 35 with a co-morbidity? This disease is vicious and destructive long before an individual reaches either of those two standards, and even more uncontrollable once they are reached...therefore, there is a greater risk that in order to become a qualified candidate, you have to reach a point at which there may be less you can do than you could when you were, oh, say an innocuous 10 lbs overweight but clearly struggling with food.
    This is another reason the psychological evaluation is important. It should not just weed out people with too many problems to be prepared for surgery, but should also be an inclusive tool, in other words, identify people who do not qualify strictly by numbers, but who are headed in a direction that makes surgery a very good, and potentially life saving option, even for a mildly overweight teenager, particularly when there are already some failed diet and exercise attempts under the person's belt.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from Cervidae in When Is Weight Loss Surgery the Wrong Choice?   
    This brings up two very important issues, @@Alex Brecher.
    Her poor candidacy is unrelated to her age. The turmoil surrounding her life both before and after surgery should've been a clear red flag, and perhaps psychiatric evaluations are not quite what they are today, and more people like her could fall through the cracks and into an ill-advised surgery.
    That said, I think two things are unreasonably stringent...first, that there is a very strong presumption against surgery on anyone younger than 18...obesity and its devastating effects start and become very hard to reverse much before then, so why shouldn't the surgical option become available as needed? Must we wait until there are quasi-irreversible effects on health to allow somebody the most sophisticated option available, provided he/she checks out fine in other respects? Second, and in a similar vein, why is the standard 40 BMI or 35 with a co-morbidity? This disease is vicious and destructive long before an individual reaches either of those two standards, and even more uncontrollable once they are reached...therefore, there is a greater risk that in order to become a qualified candidate, you have to reach a point at which there may be less you can do than you could when you were, oh, say an innocuous 10 lbs overweight but clearly struggling with food.
    This is another reason the psychological evaluation is important. It should not just weed out people with too many problems to be prepared for surgery, but should also be an inclusive tool, in other words, identify people who do not qualify strictly by numbers, but who are headed in a direction that makes surgery a very good, and potentially life saving option, even for a mildly overweight teenager, particularly when there are already some failed diet and exercise attempts under the person's belt.
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    IncredibleShrinkingMan got a reaction from UalreadyKnow in Giving up the scale...   
    Fantastic idea. It is just a mental prison. So are all numbers. LOL. I think there needs to be a scale that will only respond to you twice a week. I find myself arguing with my scale from time to time. We don't have a good relationship.

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