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greenbaymichk

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    greenbaymichk reacted to MichiganChic in Madly in love but holding back info   
    I think timing is everything. I do think life partners have a need to know the kind of stuff you are keeping private. He's not in that category yet, and you are not obligated to disclose. I understand the need to put your past behind you and wanting live in the present. I would, too. But I also think that if you do become more serious, these are things you should disclose. By then his opinion of you will be formed, and it's just for informational purposes. I would be pretty upset if I married someone who withheld that type of information.
    In the meantime, try to enjoy this time. Don't stress about it, knowing you will tell him when the time is right.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to GottaBeME* in Madly in love but holding back info   
    Y'know, I think that truth and honesty are very important to a relationship. Now having said that I do NOT bare my soul to every guy I meet, nor every husband (I admit now being married unsuccessfully 3 times) BUT I have great male friends and a wonderful lover. And I am 61 years young. SO I've been around and learned a bit about relationships.Even if you haven't noticed, and if he is as wonderful as you think he is, he HAS noticed, you are a very brave, courageous, strong person for going thru this, and succeeding! Do you think he would leave you for your past when you have come so far from it - thru your OWN efforts!?! Maybe not yet, but when you feel SAFE with him, you can tell him ,. AND I'll bet he;ll say "I know, so what? its YOU I love, not your exterior." Have faith in yourself and in your trust in him. You will succeed with that. AND if he should leave you, he isnt worth your time, so there. Someone else better will be along just for you. ASK.BELIEVE. RECEIVE..Good luck darling - believe in your Self.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to bellabloom in Madly in love but holding back info   
    Maybe part of the problem is I don't have the feelings I think I do or maybe I wish I did have. I keep going back and forth about this, it's very hard for me to open up with this man for some reason. I wonder if yes, maybe it is a problem with him.
    I wasn't looking to get into a serious relationship so fast and now that I am it's really stressing me out. He's a good person and I care about him but maybe love is too strong an emotion for the time being.
    It's been a long long time since I have really loved someone. I'm not even sure what it feels like.
    I feel vulnerable and nervous and excited but also stretched too thin and overwhelmed. I don't know what I want.
    This may be stopping me from opening up. The relationship is new and I'm still figuring out where I stand in it. I don't want to open up and then have it not work out anyway. Is there a part of me that thinks it won't work out? Definitely.
    I went through a terrible 7 year partnership with my kids dad and I'm going to be super picky about who becomes my long term partner. If this is the right man for me then why don't I feel like I can talk to him?
    I just want to keep things light and simple.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to CowgirlJane in Madly in love but holding back info   
    Maybe I am more of a cautious person, but nobody I have only known for a few months needs to know my life history, my entire medical history or any of that. It takes me a long time to open the door on all that to someone. I realize he may be true love, but it has been my experience that it takes a bit longer to know that.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to bellabloom in Madly in love but holding back info   
    Everyone has such good points. I'm conflicted for sure.
    I just need to give it some more time.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to BigViffer in Madly in love but holding back info   
    If this guy eventually becomes "the one", he is going to need to know about your surgery for no other reason that to be safe in a medical emergency. Certain medications & intubations must be handled differently for us. My surgeon gave me a card for the restaurant and for hospitals.
    You can't hide your past forever, and honestly why would you want to? You are the sum of all of your experiences. Good or bad. You wouldn't recognize the bad again if it had never happened the first time. And with the bad, you can recognize what is good.
    If you truly love him, you can be honest with him. And if he truly loves you, he won't care. As a man, if I found a woman had this big secret about weight loss surgery that she was worried about telling me, I would be, "meh". It's not important to me who a woman was, it's who she is now and who she will be that I am interested.
    Now if you were a thieving drug user that did time in the clink sometime in the past, that is something I would be concerned about!
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    greenbaymichk reacted to Miss Mac in Madly in love but holding back info   
    He sounds like a great guy, but if he is secretly shallow,, wouldn't you want to know sooner than later? Has he asked about your scars? I am a believer in this: You don't have to lie, but you don't have to tell everything you know. If he doesn't bring it up, then I wouldn't either.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to gowalking in I wish I knew.....   
    I'm glad my PCP told me if I got the lapband, I'd only lose 40 lbs. Made me even more determined to go with the surgery I felt more comfortable with and not the one that would help me lose the most amount of weight.
    And I'm the first to admit that there's something so satisfying when she told me that I weigh less than she does. At this point, I'm probably a good 15 lbs. less than her. Hehehe...
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    greenbaymichk reacted to sharonintx in I wish I knew.....   
    That being thinner wouldn't equate to happiness. Most of my life I thought that if I just lost weight I would turn into a very happy person.
    Haha! Fat was the least of my problems. I had no idea.
    It all worked out ok in the end though.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to blondebomb in Is my life ruined for ever due to my weight loss surgery?   
    My first few months was awful mentally emotionally and my tummy was tiny. Took 4 or so months to get in 3 or 4 bites which i didn't care of the amount i knew going into this the reason so it was doing exactly what it was meant to do. I have had 12 yrs of therapy. And the last 2 yrs of it was the biggest for me ..the biggest break thru. food was my friend, my comfort, it didn't talk back and it didn't hurt me emotionally but in all actuality it did affect me. My brain depended on the brain chemicals the sugar and junk released and i was addicted and it caused all sorts of diseases and health issues. I became bulemic. The first month or 2 alot of hormones are being released from fat loss. I was bitchy, grouchy i cried at the drop of a bucket. My emotions were all over the place. I understand. As mentioned earlier getting to the root of addictions are vital in order to own take responsibility and deal with and change. I am 10 months out ..6 months was my great turning point. Takes 6 months to heal inside properly according to my internist.
    I understand. But your still early on and your having what i would think normal thoughts at least i relate but believe me you'll change your mind. Hang in there and its a good idea to talk to a prefessional. Not good idea to replace one addiction for another. Best wishes..
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    greenbaymichk reacted to MyssJones in Is my life ruined for ever due to my weight loss surgery?   
    So many of us have made food our " friend" and being so restricted from our "friend" can be very difficult. But, this process will require you to find a new crutch. Food is not and never has been a friend, it is a tool that needs to used right in or to live a long healthy life.
    I think seeing a therapist will help you tremendously. Also, finding new hobbies that take your mind off of food, will help you as well.
    It is a slow process. Be patient with yourself and your body.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to sharonintx in Is my life ruined for ever due to my weight loss surgery?   
    I don't know if you'll believe me or not but the answer to what do you substitute for the food addiction - is you don't. This is such a hard phase you are going thru. I have complete sympathy and understanding for the way you feel.
    Right now it seems like it will be forever until you have some sort of normal life and normal way of eating. Its not forever though. Its actually a very short time in the big scheme of things.
    That knowledge doesn't make it easier though. Its hard to adapt to this new way of doing things. But you will. You will look back on this day and smile. That day isn't today - I realize that.
    As hard as it sounds, don't try to find a substitute to feed your habit. food. That was my habit too. Its the reason we are here and the reason it became necessary to have an operation to fight it. You don't need a substitute. You need to take the time to really understand your issues and find a way to overcome them.
    You probably won't be doing any soul-searching today on this matter - I know. But you will and you are going to be just fine. In fact you will be better than ever before and when you look in the mirror at the new person you've become, both inside and out, you'll know that your substitute came from inside yourself. You can do this:)
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    greenbaymichk reacted to Proud2BMe in Swanson's Infused Broths   
    OMG! I just discovered these! I hate regular broth and was dreading having to eat broth for weeks. However, now I'm happy. I tried the Mexican tortilla variety and to me it tastes just like Spanish rice. However, there is a downsize. You will definitely need to freshen your breath after eating it! I love it. Can't wait to try out the other varieties. I could totally be fine with this.
    Oh, and just so you know, all the spices actually gives you the illusion that you have actually eaten a meal and not just broth. It's great.
    http://swanson.campbellskitchen.com/SBOurProducts/Products
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    greenbaymichk reacted to thisismyyear in Frequently Asked Questions   
    wow, thanks SO SO much for this!! It is infor we have had all along,but it is so nice to have it all together, and to handy during this last week before surgery!!!!!
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    greenbaymichk reacted to angiemorda in Frequently Asked Questions   
    I have fibro and also a.s. and yes I am getting sleeved on June 12th. Dr said won't cure the fibro but will definitely help with the pain and make easier to walk and what not. Very good luck to you!
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    greenbaymichk reacted to O.T.R. sleever in Frequently Asked Questions   
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    greenbaymichk reacted to jaybert87 in Gastric Sleeve Experts... Please Chime In!   
    It depends on each person. According to my surgeon, i was the poster child for a perfect sleeve result. I was 356 now I am 189. I have lost about 91% of my excess weight and it has not even been 1 year yet. I figure the extra 10 lbs or 9% will be mostly the skin i am going to have removed.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to Vdubs in Gastric Sleeve Experts... Please Chime In!   
    The truth is that the 65% you almost just need to follow your hunger, the other 35% is where up the dicipline starts to become the rule and continues to be the rule for life.
    I am at my goal 195 lbs am 6 feet tall and am approaching 70. I still limit my carbs to once ir twice a week at one or two meals. I speed walk (I have knee arthritis) a minimum of 4 miles 4 to 5 times a week and do 50 to 100 ab crunches on those days.
    I still eat 6 to 7 times a day but always make sure to control portion size.
    The Sleeve is the best decision I ever made and I now am more confident about attending my grandkids weddings, many years from now.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to jaxsee in Gastric Sleeve Experts... Please Chime In!   
    I'm 8 months postop and I was 210 and now 108. I have lost 102 pounds. I believe it's what you put into this weight loss. I have cut out carbs and exercise at least 5 days a week. So, I wouldn't listen to just the 65%. Hope that helps. Jackie
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    greenbaymichk reacted to Tiffykins in Gastric Sleeve Experts... Please Chime In!   
    I lost all my weight and then some so the "norm" is not always the case. I followed the rules to get to goal quickly and wanted to worry about maintenance when I got there. I've been easily maintaining my current for over 6 months with the sleeve.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to Lisalu in Gastric Sleeve Experts... Please Chime In!   
    I think the stats say that people on the average lose about 65% of their excess weight. But being an average, there is bound to be a wide range of what people lose. I'm now 3.5 lbs from goal so I've lost about 95% of my excess weight. It only takes 1 person who loses no weight to give the two of us an average of 50% lost. (That was a bit convoluted, but I hope you see what I mean.) Also, if someone gets the sleeve with 200 lbs to lose, it's possible they might not lose the entire 200 lbs, so that messes with the averages as well.
    I'm praying that I can maintain this loss---that seems like the bigger battle to me.
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    greenbaymichk got a reaction from BizzyB in Surgery Success and Frustration   
    Take it easy - consider starting half days and working up to full days.
    You are making fantastic progress - you are still in surgical recovery, so you are spending a lot of energy caring for your basic needs and don't have a lot of emotional or physical reserves.
    Be gentle with yourself!!
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    greenbaymichk got a reaction from BizzyB in Surgery Success and Frustration   
    Sounds normal to me. I am 5 days out and spend 90% of my day drinking and planning my next pureed meal. Haven't yet gotten the expected 60 grams of Protein daily, but have come close to 60 oz of Fluid. I am counting on being healthy for the long-term, so I am taking one day at a time.
    Anger and depression are part of grief - you have lost part of what you were and are making the emotional adjustments necessary for growth and change. We enter this "adventure" with preconceived ideas about how things will go - when our experience does not equal our dreams, we feel disappointment and anger.
    You are in surgical recovery - be gentle with yourself and allow your body and mind to adjust to the massive changes that your are undertaking.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to Susan Quincy in Sleeve Stretched?   
    Thanks for the feedback. I am pretty sure it is a head thing and I know I do not feel hungry when I snack. I have to engage in focused activity and get out when I see this starting. I have tended to spread my eating of meals out longer and so the Protein is first and then veggies come an hour later. So far this and almonds with cranberries have been the go to Snacks. Very careful to limit carbs that is my "crack" and will stat the problems out again.
    Here's to the continued journey. Lifting a glass of Water with Crystal Light flavoring to everyone.
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    greenbaymichk reacted to JamieLogical in Sleeve Stretched?   
    Your sleeve will do nothing to restrict you from snacking all day. In fact, that's one of the primary ways of bypassing the restriction of the sleeve.
    Make sure you aren't drinking and eating at the same time and that you are always putting Protein first.

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