_Kate_

Like it or not.. someone who admits to overeating and drinking wine etc etc at four weeks out and asking if others cheat too aren’t asking for help. They are asking to be validated.
Hey.. I don’t know much.. I’m only 2 and a half years out and still learning.
But I know bollocks when I read it ( That’s not to the OP by the way).
😜

I didn’t see it as judgement. I saw it as a comment which is true. If you are drinking wine and eating loads four weeks after surgery then it could not only affect your long term goals but your health right now. I appreciate it was only a day. We all screw up. However the fact is people reading this pre op will think it’s all ok.. that’s the problem.
This is my opinion.. I own it.

I’m not a vet & I find it to be foolish. It’s everything we’re all warned against from the first meeting & by dietitians all the way through pre-op. I’m actually shocked at that kind of behavior 2 or even 4 weeks post-op. I’v personally made excuses for a very long time & that’s all they are is excuses. Why attack someone for making perfect sense. I’m committed to this surgery & after I have it I’m not making excuses anymore. I’m accepting that I have a problem & want to change. I’m not saying I will never eat a piece of pizza or a cheeseburger again but straight out of surgery having not even recovered yet & eating poorly & drinking just seems like sabotage. Sorry if I’ve offended anyone but that’s just the way I see it.

I haven’t been on here for months because of the post some newbies post. I came back as I thought it had changed. It’s the same stuff all over again.
night.. best of luck ..

It’s never been easy for me ....I paid twenty four thousand dollars to have this gift... no insurance... no easy days. I have worked hard. Very hard. Then had plastics. It’s been 31 months of hard work so when I hear of someone eating pizza at two weeks I feel sorry for them. I pity them. I’m not angry or pissed off with them. I just feel sorry for the medics who might have to patch them up. Is that wrong, Or should we just validate their choices.
People can stuff themselves with food at week 1,2,3... ohhhhh I made a mistake. Now all say you did too and we can be part of a gang.
The reality is... if you’re not going to listen to your surgeon then so be it.
But I won’t be someone saying awwwwww when you are ill.
Now making a mistake months out. That's different. We have all made mistakes. I know I have. But 2-4 weeks out? After surgery. Not listening to their surgeon?
Fill your boots.
The reality is that people make choices. Don’t whine about it...

My advice:
rough that they are putting you in an awkward position. I would refer the parents to their family Dr. Bow out gracefully and say weight loss advice would be better coming from a medical professional.
Another option to think about. Does your employer offer weight loss/nutrition or fitness classes for teenagers? Can they develop a program or partner with an agency that does?

Bravo for a tough job!! ((hugs)) Thank you for being in the trenches. I agree with @jenn1. Let the docs and professionals give medical and psych advice. You can lead by example and by having an open ear and broad shoulders.

Why is it impossible for you to believe everything I've written to you is said with sincere empathy/sympathy and not judgement? I've never been rude to you, nor judgemental. I am NOT putting you down. I am (as you so kindly reminded everyone) the last person to throw stones at anyone. I only wish you the best results and a painless victorious journey. So now as you invited me, I will GTFO.

I only listed my size because the original poster likes to slam people who started more overweight than she ever was.

My weight is smack dab in the middle of the normal range.

I'm not sure I agree. Jess's point, if I follow, is that the surgery has helped her with her cravings for refined sugary food and so she is better able to avoid them. That sounds like a great benefit to me and something I hope to adopt. Maybe I'm missing something but that doesn't sound like any type of eating disorder to me.

Thanks, you get me!

I appreciate your concern, but it's unwarranted. Like I said some foods I can eat in moderation.... I had fudge and Cookies at Christmas, I drink wine and the occasional cocktail.... but some I just can't open the door to like cheese-it's!

So if I sound obsessive it's more the brevity of my posts and the fact that they may be incomplete in the details. If you look at my history you can see much more.

And I am very aware of transfer addictions/dysfunctions. If I'm in danger of that it's the exercise and when I'm training for a marathon I run a LOT which is why I seek balance and am not always training. I do yoga. I have weeks where I run only 6-10 miles and others where I run 50.

I've spent a lot of time in therapy over the years and seek "touch ups" during stressful times (my mom died this year and I put my dad in a rest home).

So if it's me personally you're worried about, I appreciate it but its unwarranted. If it's people LIKE me, well I'm a big believer in getting your head on straight and recognizing your own vulnerabilities, I think we all have them. Some people find their "balance" in everything in moderation and some moderate by choosing categories/foods to eliminate. I don't think either is the only path. But I do think that different people need different paths. One person's path won't necessary work for another. And this board has all types so all the paths need to be explored and discussed. No one type/path owns any discussion on thread. It's the internet!

Hold a pillow over your tummy when you feel a coughing fit come on.
Coughing, sneezing and hiccups all hurt so early on. I have a great deal of sympathy and respect you for giving up the cigarettes! I have never smoked but I know it's hard to stop.
Hope it stops soon
Kate

So when our surgeons tell us not to do a, b and c as we might split our healing stomach. when they tell us not to forget to drink 68oz of Water per day we may I end up very ill and back in hospital they are just bullies? Glad you cleared that up 😄

shakes head.

Walk, sip, sleep, sip, sip.... walk sip sleep sip sip.... wash and repeat.
Congratulations

Walk, sip, sleep, sip, sip.... walk sip sleep sip sip.... wash and repeat.
Congratulations

Bit personal.. but hey.... 🙂😄😀😏😃😉😇

Have you tried tramadol ?

I was 54 when I had my surgery... no issues whatsoever. It will add years and happiness to your life.
Kate 🙂

I’m sorry to hear you feel so sick... maybe a call to your team would put your mind at rest. Hope you feel better soon x
Kate

This is clearly against the forum rules you agreed to upon signup. I do not want to see something like that posted again.

Like it or not.. someone who admits to overeating and drinking wine etc etc at four weeks out and asking if others cheat too aren’t asking for help. They are asking to be validated.
Hey.. I don’t know much.. I’m only 2 and a half years out and still learning.
But I know bollocks when I read it ( That’s not to the OP by the way).
😜

Like it or not.. someone who admits to overeating and drinking wine etc etc at four weeks out and asking if others cheat too aren’t asking for help. They are asking to be validated.
Hey.. I don’t know much.. I’m only 2 and a half years out and still learning.
But I know bollocks when I read it ( That’s not to the OP by the way).
😜

Small containers, good kitchen scales, myfittnesspal on my phone, a bariatric plate and small cutlery.

Bit personal.. but hey.... 🙂😄😀😏😃😉😇