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I second @OutsideMatchInside. It's not only unprofessional but probably illegal for a supervisor to do this!
I also work with a bunch of gossipy women. I haven't told anyone about my surgery. I say I am eating healthy, watching my calories, focussing on Protein, cutting carbs, and exercising. All of which happen to be true!

I second @OutsideMatchInside. It's not only unprofessional but probably illegal for a supervisor to do this!
I also work with a bunch of gossipy women. I haven't told anyone about my surgery. I say I am eating healthy, watching my calories, focussing on Protein, cutting carbs, and exercising. All of which happen to be true!

I second @OutsideMatchInside. It's not only unprofessional but probably illegal for a supervisor to do this!
I also work with a bunch of gossipy women. I haven't told anyone about my surgery. I say I am eating healthy, watching my calories, focussing on Protein, cutting carbs, and exercising. All of which happen to be true!

If that was my boss, I would turn her ass in to HR and get an attorney.

@@Babbs I think that's the solution for me, too. One piece, on rare occasions, to be savored and enjoyed. I know myself too well. If I thought I could never, ever have candy again, I think I would obsess over it all the time and crave it until I pigged out. But knowing I can control it, have one small piece of candy or one or two bites of some other treat now and again makes it so much easier to ignore it most of the time. I know that for some people, it's a trigger and if they have a bite, they just can't stop. So we each have to make our own way. But this is working for me.

@@Babbs I think that's the solution for me, too. One piece, on rare occasions, to be savored and enjoyed. I know myself too well. If I thought I could never, ever have candy again, I think I would obsess over it all the time and crave it until I pigged out. But knowing I can control it, have one small piece of candy or one or two bites of some other treat now and again makes it so much easier to ignore it most of the time. I know that for some people, it's a trigger and if they have a bite, they just can't stop. So we each have to make our own way. But this is working for me.

I have done this my whole adult life, before and after the sleeve! Whenever I eat too much, I sneeze. Always have. My grandmother had this too. I've always thought it had a genetic component to it. I hoped it might go away after the sleeve, but it hasn't. I don't overeat or eat too fast very often, so it's only happened a few times since the sleeve.
@@Bufflehead, your explanation is the best I've heard.

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have done this my whole adult life, before and after the sleeve! Whenever I eat too much, I sneeze. Always have. My grandmother had this too. I've always thought it had a genetic component to it. I hoped it might go away after the sleeve, but it hasn't. I don't overeat or eat too fast very often, so it's only happened a few times since the sleeve.
@@Bufflehead, your explanation is the best I've heard.

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I would never, ever expose my kids to this. He has only met them once months ago before he started acting this way. And to be honest, I was less than thrilled how he acted towards them. Disinterested, just like he acts towards me on a mental level. So after that I decided not to bring him around again.
In fact, I'm not planning on introducing anyone to my kids anytime soon. I'm a protective mother cub when it comes to them, they are a separate part of my life until the truly right man comes along. I have the 50% of the time and it's during my other 50% I date, not when they are with me.
I know there is 0 future with the guy. 0 future for me and definitely 0 future with my kids!!
I need to drop him. I am realizing I dislike being alone more than I thought.

So, I have been around heavy drinkers but being so messed up you FALL on your girlfriend is way way outside the normal....even for a heavy drinker. Maybe since you are in the middle of it you don't see how off the hook abnormal that is.
Drinking aside the whole"butter you up" with lovey dove words but not really giving a rip about you and your life. .... CLASSIC BAD BOYFRIEND - DUMP HIS DRUNK ASS AND DON'T LOOK BACK.
You know I would really like to be in a committed relationship, but I'd rather be single than be with someone who cares so little about me, my feelings and honestly even my safety. You deserve better....

@@Madeleine Renee I've had the same experience with plain Water. Water used to be my favorite beverage, and I rarely ever drank sodas. Now, I can't tolerate plain water. It actually makes me nauseas. Weird. I've never been a Crystal Light or Vitamin water type person, but now I am!
Every day I take 1/4 to 1/2 of a New whey fruit Punch Protein bullet, pour it into my 20 oz water container, and add half a Crystal Light -- one of those tiny foil packs. That way I get Protein and water. I like the raspberry green tea and the strawberry flavors. They make the syrupy protein stuff palatable.

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

We are finally getting the cold fall weather here in Missouri. I've waited years to wear boots that would zip around my larger calves and now that I can I've been sporting them proudly. I've been shopping for all fall clothes and it's just amazing how different the experience has been from last fall. Last fall I was wearing a size 18 (snug) and this year I'm shopping for size 8 which opens up a lot of new options I never had before. My goal is to do as may fun fall inspired activities outside with the kids that I can. Thing I never did with them like apple picking, hay rides, corn mazes, visiting the pumpkin patch, fall festivals ect... I feel alive now. I'm excited to get out and live this fall as apposed to sitting in the house being unhealthy and sluggish. I love fall! Unlike summer I can dress to cover up the parts of my body I'm not thrilled with yet and not look like a crazy loon wearing long sleeves in the middle of summer This is going to be the best fall in all of EVER! Ha! So what are you looking forward to?

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have had a few really bad disasters, especially early on in my dive into online stuff.
A particular favorite story was a guy who looked great, sounded great, email exchange - he just seemed like a good fit. Can't explain why, but i just had a good feeling that this was someone I was going to want to keep seeing....
I was smart enough to just committ to meeting for a drink in spite of my optimism... but here is what happened...
He asks me to pick a place and so I suggested a "Tap house" in my town that serves lots of cool local beers and food. Well, right off the bat, it becomes apparent that the photo he posted was at least 10 years old, his job wasn't quite what he said and he was just plain odd. Second, he was clueless about beer - apparently preferred Coorslight to the microbrews. Then - he had weird tics. So, we get to talking and I am being polite and trying to think how to get out of this. I was starving, hadn't eaten and was visualizing exiting as soon as possible and getting myself some food. So, while I am planning my excape he says "are you hungry" - mouth engages before brain and I say "I am starving".... so then, I can't really decline his dinner request. Well, I should have declined, but I was too polite....
so, he picks the restaurant and I order a small appetizer that was a trio of seafood items. Turns out, he is deathly allergic to shellfish so he was completely freaked out about my shrimp etc. I offered to send it back, but he was like "no, it's okay as long as you keep it over there" - so I eat away and then asks about what all is on my plate. One of the items was Ahi served quite rare (as it should be) - and he says to me in a horrifed tone "You EAT RAW FISH?"
It was like a lightswitch flipped. He got over being nervous and tongue tied because he had clearly put me in the "no way pile" over my barbarian culinary tastes. Thank goodness.
The conversation got alot better as he told me all about OCD, how his dad had it, his brother is so afflicted he is basically non functional etc. We actually had a decent time and I learned alot about OCD and exterminators! So, I offered to split the bill but he wanted to pay it saying he had really enjoyed the dinner and liked that he could relax with me (not to mention my food was pretty small/cheap!).
So, about 8 months later, I decided to try "speed dating" and guess who shows up in the rotation! I recognized him immediately and asked him how his daughter and grandkid were doing etc etc. We kinda get caught up and then right before the next rotation he says to me "You are so much better looking then I remember, it must be because the lighting in here is so dim."
I supposed I should have been insulted, but I thought it was funnier then anything - given that he had not aged well, had severe ocd and worked as an Exterminator that was a showstopper for lots of people (which he hadn't originally been honest about). My reply to him was "so glad to see you haven't changed!" I was of course referring to his social skills.
I don't know if it is good or bad but the weirdo/broken people I have met since then were much much much better at disguising their "issues" in the beginning so i haven't had that kind of genuinely odd date since those early days.

Wow I've had A LOT of bad dates, but my worst of the worst was an online date back in the day(circa 1997 before I met my husband and got married). We were on our first date and this guy picked me up in a rust bucket car full of trash and I got my favorite skirt covered in car trash ooze of some sort. He had on a dirty looking shirt and jeans that look like they'd never been washed, but I thought maybe he planned to change so I decided to just roll with it. I had a old stale hamburger bun from some rotting meal on the floor board stuck in the high heels of my boots. He stopped for gas and bought himself a drink and didn't bother asking if I wanted anything. I just said "oh no thanks I'm not thirsty" when he got in and he tried to get me to share his and spilled it all down my new blouse and my fav already ruined by now skirt! I wanted to leave so bad, but he started telling me this hardship story and I felt bad so I kept trying to go with this even thought the sirens were going off "run! Run!!". He asked where I wanted to go and I guess it was not the right thing to say, because I said, "I could go just about anywhere. I'm pretty easy!" So he tried to take me to the pay by the hour motel on the highway where all the nasty people went to get it on. Right outside this God forsaken hellhole his car broke down. I was yelling at him because A) I didn't mean THAT easy and I'm from a small town and if anyone saw me, my reputation, and my life as I knew it were going to be over. Well, so the car is dead out in front of this place and he goes knocking on doors to hotel rooms trying to get a jump for the battery, but then tells me we need to move the car out of the street, but he couldn't push it because he had open heart surgery and he isn't suppose to even lift heavy things. He had already told me about this heart condition when we were talking online so ugh I knew if I didn't push it we weren't going anywhere. So here I am, high heeled boots covered in crap, a ruined skirt and blouse, way over dressed for how he showed up, pushing his piece of crap car into the motel de skank while he sat in the drivers seat steering. I was scared someone would see me out there as that was the only thing on that stretch of highway so if you were stopped there, they knew(or thought they knew)what you were doing! So eventually this guy got his piece of crap car started and I told him to take me home(not my home but thank god I didn't have him pick me up at my own house!). We got there and he actually had the audacity to ask for another date and I just looked blank at him and said "let's not" and walked away. It was one of the worst dates of my life and actually caused me to quit dating after that until I met my now husband(also online but because I forgot to take my profile down and his response to why I said I am no longer accepting dates online was adorable).

Here's a first for me! I went to the bathroom in the middle of the night and was shocked to feel cold Water on my toosh!! Someone left the seat up, and my booty went in! Lol I should have been pissed, which I was at first, until I realized my butt had been too big for far too long; that hadn't happened since I was a little girl!! Lmbo!????

@@Madeleine Renee I've had the same experience with plain Water. Water used to be my favorite beverage, and I rarely ever drank sodas. Now, I can't tolerate plain water. It actually makes me nauseas. Weird. I've never been a Crystal Light or Vitamin water type person, but now I am!
Every day I take 1/4 to 1/2 of a New whey fruit Punch Protein bullet, pour it into my 20 oz water container, and add half a Crystal Light -- one of those tiny foil packs. That way I get Protein and water. I like the raspberry green tea and the strawberry flavors. They make the syrupy protein stuff palatable.

Refocus and recommit to getting back on track.
The surgery does not make the weight just disappear forever - it is a tool and you need to take advantage of it, especially during the early days (my doc says the best time for weight loss is within 18 months of surgery).
You lost 35 pounds in the first 3 months - that is super and honestly way better than you could have done on your own. You should be thrilled with that! It is a great start, so don't get so discouraged.
The part that seems to be your major issue is that you have had two surgeries now, but didn't really change your lifestyle for good. If you slid back up 70+ pounds due to some life stressors, then that indicates to me that you didn't have a good support structure in place, and had not worked with your nutritionist to change your eating habits overall. And the fact that you stopped an exercise routine for a good long while is also telling.
Your health is technically like a three legged stool: One leg is the surgery, one leg is healthy eating and the last leg is exercise and activity levels. You basically chopped off two of the legs and expected to still be able to sit comfortably on the one little leg - surgery... but just like a one legged stool, you fell right over. Adding back in one more leg - exercise - is still going to be unstable and wobbly - you have to have all three working together to achieve the best results!
Don't let the lack of progress discourage you - use it as a learning experience and get riled up and get back out there learning about how to cook decent meals and what kinds of foods work best for you. Find several different activities that are fun and don't seem like exercise so you want to get out there and do them. Commit to changing your life for the better and it will happen!