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I have done this my whole adult life, before and after the sleeve! Whenever I eat too much, I sneeze. Always have. My grandmother had this too. I've always thought it had a genetic component to it. I hoped it might go away after the sleeve, but it hasn't. I don't overeat or eat too fast very often, so it's only happened a few times since the sleeve.
@@Bufflehead, your explanation is the best I've heard.

My doctor's office pointed out that it's not "carbs" that matter so much as the kind of carbs. In other words, there's a big difference between the carbs in soybeans or a piece of fruit than those in potato chips or a candy bar. I was told to keep carbs under 120, but…see above. They said the quality of the carbs is what matters most. They also said I wouldn't be ABLE to eat enough carbs to cause any worries at this point, what with my tiny stomach capacity so early on.
Of course, I do follow the mantra to always eat Protein first. I'm not a vegetarian, but have been a pescatarian (eat some fish, plus eggs and dairy) for 40 years. I have always had trouble getting enough Protein (I log it every day on Sparkpeople), so I was worried about this. I'm just 10 days post-op, and just started pureed foods. I'm eating yogurt, vegetarian refried Beans with cheese, blended cottage cheese, ricotta, cream of wheat, applesauce or other fruit blended with unflavored powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury, and tofu. (You can do amazing things with tofu!) I haven't yet tried any fish or eggs. 'm not having any troubles to speak of and am hitting my protein goal every day.
I'm also using protein powders and drinks. For example, every day I put 1/2 of a New whey Protein Shot (fruit punch flavor) in a 20 ounce bottle of Water. That gives me 21 grams of protein, plus helps me hit my liquid goal. The oddest thing so far for me is that plain ole H2O has always been my favorite drink -- I've never been a big soda drinker, and if I ever drank juice, I would cut it to 1/5 juice, 4/5 Water. But since the sleeve, plain water tastes weird to me.
So I hope you won't worry! I am finding it very manageable.
And you know what else? It may be crazy or sacrilegious or something, but I WANT to lose somewhat slowly! I figure a slower loss will help with the skin sagging (I'm in my late 50s, and concerned about this). I also feel that an extra few months of getting to goal is not a big worry; after all, I plan to lose this weight for life. Unlike all the other times I've lost weight, this time I know it is going to come off and stay off! So if it takes a bit longer (and gives my skin time to catch up), I'm not going to stress out about it!
Best of luck to you! Keep us posted!

carolm1965, you're a hoot! Sounds like a fantastic look!
@@Miss Mac, I don't think about the home wrecker in my own past, or the woman he slept with, but if I ever see my ex-husband, I hope I have this same sweet weight loss revenge! Good on you!

Oh yeah, totally understood that! Just dreaming… and of course worrying!

SCARLETWITCH, which Protein powder do you use in coffee? Like OP, I hate the drinks, and I have to really work to get my protein. All the powders I've tried clump up or taste weird in coffee. I'd love to find one I could use daily.

I am going through some old magazines and came across this essay. It really captured what I am going through, especially since I spent so many years not being able to dress relatively-stylishly. The challenge for me mentally is balancing my fantasy life and my reality when it comes to dressing.
http://www.harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a10722/coming-of-age-0515/

I don't know about the rest of you, but I've been obese for a long time. I am in my late fifties, and my question is kind of crazy for my age: What is my "style"? I used to have cute clothes, when I was thinner, but I'm much older now. As a heavy person, I've done my best to dress attractively and with style. But three factors have led me to not love the clothes I've worn for the last many years.
First, feeling so bad about myself has taken away my desire to dress well. I guess I've felt that very little I could do made me look really cute or attractive. Even when I was happy and confident with an outfit, I'd always second-guess myself. Or see a dreaded photo or image in a mirror and be able to focus on nothing but the bumps and rolls.
Second, I've always tried to hide and cover up my fat as much as possible: Spanx, nylons under pants (although I mostly stopped that a couple of years ago), three-quarter or long sleeves, nothing too form-fitting, etc. So, while there were clothes out there I would have loved, I didn't wear them because I didn't think they would look good on my body type or I was too-self-conscious.
And third, of course, is the lack of stylish clothes available for heavier women.
I am so looking forward to being able to buy -- and look good in! -- smaller clothes. And emptying out my closet of all the cheap clothes I bought (and, sadly, a few good pieces that will no longer fit). I plan to shop at thrifts and consignment stores during the weight loss period, but once I reach goal, I want to have a smaller wardrobe -- in both senses of the word! Good-quality pieces that will last and that are versatile. But I find that I'm not sure now what my style is. And I don't want to waste a lot of money buying too many things as I figure it out.
I know this won't be a problem for a lot of people, who seem to have been born with a "look" or style. And actually, "problem" is totally the wrong word. I'm really looking forward to being able to express myself and have fun through clothes. But I don't want to clog up my closet with junk purchased on a whim, and I don't want to waste money buying too many things, especially good pieces that I won't end up wearing long-term.
So, I guess I'd like to know if anyone else experienced this, and how you approached this wonderful, brave new world of getting to buy cute clothes and figuring out your own style? How did you go about building a new wardrobe? Did you cut out or Pinterest looks you liked as you were losing weight? Any other tips?

carolm1965, you're a hoot! Sounds like a fantastic look!
@@Miss Mac, I don't think about the home wrecker in my own past, or the woman he slept with, but if I ever see my ex-husband, I hope I have this same sweet weight loss revenge! Good on you!

I don't know about the rest of you, but I've been obese for a long time. I am in my late fifties, and my question is kind of crazy for my age: What is my "style"? I used to have cute clothes, when I was thinner, but I'm much older now. As a heavy person, I've done my best to dress attractively and with style. But three factors have led me to not love the clothes I've worn for the last many years.
First, feeling so bad about myself has taken away my desire to dress well. I guess I've felt that very little I could do made me look really cute or attractive. Even when I was happy and confident with an outfit, I'd always second-guess myself. Or see a dreaded photo or image in a mirror and be able to focus on nothing but the bumps and rolls.
Second, I've always tried to hide and cover up my fat as much as possible: Spanx, nylons under pants (although I mostly stopped that a couple of years ago), three-quarter or long sleeves, nothing too form-fitting, etc. So, while there were clothes out there I would have loved, I didn't wear them because I didn't think they would look good on my body type or I was too-self-conscious.
And third, of course, is the lack of stylish clothes available for heavier women.
I am so looking forward to being able to buy -- and look good in! -- smaller clothes. And emptying out my closet of all the cheap clothes I bought (and, sadly, a few good pieces that will no longer fit). I plan to shop at thrifts and consignment stores during the weight loss period, but once I reach goal, I want to have a smaller wardrobe -- in both senses of the word! Good-quality pieces that will last and that are versatile. But I find that I'm not sure now what my style is. And I don't want to waste a lot of money buying too many things as I figure it out.
I know this won't be a problem for a lot of people, who seem to have been born with a "look" or style. And actually, "problem" is totally the wrong word. I'm really looking forward to being able to express myself and have fun through clothes. But I don't want to clog up my closet with junk purchased on a whim, and I don't want to waste money buying too many things, especially good pieces that I won't end up wearing long-term.
So, I guess I'd like to know if anyone else experienced this, and how you approached this wonderful, brave new world of getting to buy cute clothes and figuring out your own style? How did you go about building a new wardrobe? Did you cut out or Pinterest looks you liked as you were losing weight? Any other tips?

@@pink dahlia those are great tips! I feel like I dress a little old too, and more conservative/dressy than I would want, because it looks a little better on me. I have few t-shirts or casual clothes. Oddly, I am much more comfortable dressing for work than for casual stuff, like bbq's, Disney, etc. That's when I feel the most self-conscious. Looking forward to cute jeans!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

@@Kfohiotime4change, congrats on those two new pairs of pants! Those milestones are so important and special!
@@Babbs, I know just what you mean about wanting to look great, and sexy, but not like I'm trying to look like I'm dressing in clothes meant for a 20-something. I guess I'll have to hit the clearance racks, too. Luckily there is a GREAT consignment shop right in my neighborhood.
@, I totally get the dark clothes thing too. I shudder to be thought of as the big-floral-print-fat-lady-in-the-muumuu cliche. But I totally plan to rock those colors!
@@Inner Surfer Girl, @@ShrinkingPeach, and Jess, those are great ideas too. I've avoided fashion mags, because they weren't relevant to me. I think I tend toward the more boho look too, with a bit of classic thrown in, but I'm just not sure. I guess I'll have to stop ordering online (I HATE trying on clothes; it is so humiliating and depressing -- but hopeful that will change!)

Your HIPAA rights were violated.
And other privacy rights of yours were also violated by this egregious email mishandling.
In your situation I'd consult an attorney.
What a f**k-up!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!

Hahahha. Nope I'm not one to walk quietly through the world with my head down. Thank god!!
I have as many flaws and insecurities as anyone else. But what I have learned in life is no one else will be your advocate- you have to be your own.
My insecurities in my youth led me into an abusive marriage for 8 years that almost killed me. I had to decide every day whether or not I believed the things he said to me. I was called a fat pig every day for years and I had children with him so I felt very trapped. It's was so hard to leave.
I've come out of that strong and full of love for myself and appreciation of my worth. No one will do that for us. And hating on other people- that's a sign of insecurity if I've ever seen one!!
I have no problem sitting with my flaws and shouting out my good qualities. Life is hard enough and if your not going to be your own best friend, who will?????

You turned around my post about men being obsessed with my weight and looks and made it my fault. It's ME that's obsessed with my weight and so therefore I attract men who are.
That's just nuts. I'm online dating. I go out with a wide variety of men- different types and different backgrounds. It's a fairly random selection.
I was doing the online dating thing at 160 pounds not that long ago. And no one mentioned my weight or looks, what I ate (I ate even less then) and I feel I got a lot more men interested in who I am than what I look like.
I'm not wearing a flag that says "skinny obsessed men here" and I NEVER bring up weight on a date!! I have a rule never to discuss exes, weight, or health problems on a first date.
It's the men. They look at me like I'm some rare type of zoo creature escaped that they've won the lottery to be out with. I just sit there eating my dinner while they go on and on about weight!! If I have to hear one more thin guy tell me about how he needs to lose 20 pounds!! Maybe I need to get better at shutting down the subject when it comes up. I need to come up with some lines that stop them from discussing it.
I am not feeling much sympathy for what I'm going through. I've just lost 125 pounds and I find myself in a body that is totally foreign to me. I never expected to look like this. And men are treating me different because of it. I am not obsessed with my weight- I'm going through a huge adjustment and this forum is where I post on that subject. So yeah! I talk about my feelings regarding weight a lot!!
What am I supposed to talk about? The price of rice in China??
I am very self confident- I love myself and I carry my head high.
I am finding out that men, especially white men, in California, are super attracted to very thin women. And some of them are fixated on it to an unhealthy degree. I literally get the 10nth degree from these guys or they just can't stop commenting on my looks and it's so uncomfortable. They launch into complaining about their weight and then I just feel so awkward.
It's not something that is my fault. It just is. I look like a model (well, an old one!) and I'm getting the attention of men obsessed with looks. It makes sense. It's new for me. It's weird. I don't like it. But it's a reality I'm dealing with. Their comments about other people weight and shortcomings piss me off!!!
I'm also meeting men who care about more than that. Thank goodness.
I'm looking for support on here and telling me I post too much on any one subject hurts my feelings. You don't have to read my posts if you don't want to hear what I have to say. You don't always have to agree with me or sympathize but at least don't make me feel I can't open up about things in a place where we all should be able to talk openly.

@AngelaWilliamsMD
My diet is strictly Protein and veggies. Rarely yogurt now. It's not so bad, but I still treat myself to a mini snack size Snicker every now and then

@@rgodfrey09, thanks. I am eating the Quest mixed berry bar, but not very often. (Usually on the days I work 14 hours, when I find it harder to fit in a meal and eat the bar when driving between jobs.) My favorite yogurt, Oikos Triple Zero Greek, has 15 grams, but also has 15 grams of Protein. Such a dilemma! Should I eat it or shouldn't I? This eating healthy thing is hard work!

I second @OutsideMatchInside. It's not only unprofessional but probably illegal for a supervisor to do this!
I also work with a bunch of gossipy women. I haven't told anyone about my surgery. I say I am eating healthy, watching my calories, focussing on Protein, cutting carbs, and exercising. All of which happen to be true!

I second @OutsideMatchInside. It's not only unprofessional but probably illegal for a supervisor to do this!
I also work with a bunch of gossipy women. I haven't told anyone about my surgery. I say I am eating healthy, watching my calories, focussing on Protein, cutting carbs, and exercising. All of which happen to be true!

I have two. 1. Yesterday, I took my jeans off -- without unzipping or unbuttoning them! I just slipped them right off!
2. Today, I didn't have any clean clothes for work. I saw a dress hanging in a dry cleaning bag that I had cleaned a long time ago so I could sell it at a consignment shop because I figured I'd never fit into it again. Lo and behold, I tried it on and it fit! It's a size 12!!!! The last clothing I bought was 2X!