SlimJill

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

Look, I get it. I drank A LOT in college, got married, settled down, got fatter and miserable in said marriage, got divorced, had WLS and got healthy and in my late 40's re-established my social life, (lots of dates=lots of bars\concerts\restaurants). I am having my second "young adulthood" now for sure! So... I waited maybe 8 months before I really started drinking regularly again. I did this to maximize my weight loss and because I was literally, "a light weight" now.
In maintenance now for about a year, I can tell you that alcohol is the thing that puts weight on me faster than ANYTHING. Not just the calories in the alcohol, but the munchies and reduction in impulse control for the next 24 hours is a KILLER for me. I would be the last person to tell you you must go alcohol free to be successful. I opt for partying no more than 2 days per week now to control my weight, (but I may be drunk one of those 2 days, ;-o). I've also been known to go out and drink Water (yeah, that stuff in the toilet as the BF calls it), if I've gained a bit. I LIKE my size 4 Rock Revival skinny jeans more than booze. You have to decide what it is you want more, is it to be healthy and fit? Or drunk and fat? Life's all about choices!

Also, I think you should look for something that is mostly liquor and not sugary mixers. Like a cosmopolitan

For those of you TELLING her to go back and rethink the surgery she already had it done so go back and read that part. I don't think ANYONE is in ANY shape to be advising someone to NOT have the surgery all because they have a LIFE. And while their LIFE may not be OURS or what WE DEPICT to be a life we should still be courteous of her feelings and stick to the topic. She's asking for opinions based in drinking if you don't drink don't answer simple as that! Not being rude but merely giving MY OPINION like most of you are. ☺️ everyone enjoy their day

Sorry, just now read your last post.
I think after a few months like 6 or more you could have a drink or two... I plan to have 1 drink on my 21st birthday but not crazy as you said.

Also, I think you should look for something that is mostly liquor and not sugary mixers. Like a cosmopolitan

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

Tonight was so difficult. I am 5 weeks post-op and my parents ate pizza hut pizza tonight. I wanted to say "please don't buy it, please don't bring it around me" but I know it isn't fair to expect others to change their lives as I have... when it took surgery for me to change.
I was literally almost in tears, shaking, irritable, fidgeting. Pizza hut used to be my crack, I used to eat a whole pizza in 1 sitting by myself. Was very hard to sit there eating my lean Protein and smelling their pizza...
But I did it. We need to Celebrate our little victories too. I'm fighting an addiction. And I've got to say I'm doing damn good so far!

I am 5 weeks post-op and still mourning food. Although it is much better now that I can eat a variety of foods.
I talked to my therapist and she recommended I make a journal where I say goodbye to food, to mourn the death of that toxic relationship.
I try to avoid food occasions, like eating out, dinner parties, etc where I will be tempted by food I can't eat.

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

This applied to me pre-surgery! DIED of laughter the first time I saw it!

Opps, forgot to say I changed my username, before it was Jillian Boose. I was already in the challenge

I so relate to this... I always inhaled my food, and NEVER left food behind. I'm almost a month post-op and that's been the hardest part! I tried to eat a whole egg mashed with mustard and got painfully sick. It's frustrating because it's like you want to say to your stomach, "Are you kidding?" I used to feed you 3 big macs and fries and now you won't let me eat a single egg in one sitting? And you start to get down, and think, "If I could just eat like regular skinny people - I would be happy to do THAT now!" But we are here bc (or I am) bc I had no self-control. The surgery is a drastic measure, but I shouldn't fool myself, it took that to stop me from eating myself to death. It's hard to accept... but it's getting easier every day. I have to learn to say, "That tasted amazing... and I can have some more at my next meal maybe or tomorrow." (one day at a time)

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I was sad about feed in the few weeks after post op. Now at 3 months I am attempting new foods. The only thing is that foods I used to love now turns me off. It might change. I'm trying not to eat bread because it fills you up. For me, once a food addict. Always a food addict. One Day at a Time...

PLEASE tell me I am not the only one who literally gets sad to the point of tears over not having food. I was sleeved 6/3 so am 8 days post op and the past couple days were hard, as to see why my body is healing nicely and I'm not worried about that, I'm worried about not having food. I am in full liquids but so ready for some density or flavor to eat. When I see people eat or food around it makes me sad almost to the point of tears! Your mind is such as strong influence I never realized how much head hunger I have. Oh & food commercials on tv used to be nothing.. Now I'm practically drooling over anything that pops up on tv edible. Yall am I alone?

I am 4 weeks post op and noticed I can drink more each and every day.
I can drink 12oz of Water but it takes me 30-60min. And I only drink ice cold Water with no problem or difference between room temperature water. At first it was very annoying when your thirsty and can't drink a lot.
My surgeon said I can drink water almost up until I begin eating but once I start then I have to stick to the 1 hour wait. Sometimes depending on what I ate I only wait 30 minutes if I'm super thirsty.

Well it beats being asked when your baby is due. .when you are not pregnant

Sometimes you have to just suck it up and understand it was most likely meant as a compliment.
Here's what happened to me. I was out of the office for nearly 8 weeks after my hip surgery. When I came back, I had some new clothes and had dropped additional weight. One of the cab drivers at the train station who had been driving me regularly to the office said to me, 'wow...you're not fat anymore.' Rude? Insensitive? Yes. Meant that way? No. The man was not born in the US and English was not a first language for him.
It was a compliment regardless of how it came out and I just had to laugh and take it as one. Believe me...I am so happy that most folks don't say anything anymore about my weight loss. But there will be times that someone will say something because they simply haven't had the opportunity to see you during the process.

After reading the story I could see that Dr. Clueless hit a nerve with you but I did'nt see it as intentionally rude. I think he was trying to be nice and complimentary about your weight loss and didn't think twice about saying it in front of others. Some people are more uncomfortable and /or sensitive about "congratulations on your weight loss " comments than others, I'm personally not offended by the comments at all. That doesnt mean you're wrong because you're not, I just don't think he meant it to make you uncomfortable. Since you still have to see the Clueless family for awhile, you might want to casually mention that you prefer to keep you weight loss journey private, etc, especially now that you have your power of speech back................. (Lipstick lady speechless ?? No way !!!! Did pigs fly ?)

Hypnosis!
My mom and I tried hypnosis a few years back...
"Imagine the waves rolling onto the beach like a lace tablecloth..." every time we say it we burst out laughing!