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Tonight, a very dear friend of mine and her hubby came to visit us and I don't see her very often, so I chose to tell her about my upcoming surgery. Needless to say she was shocked. She desperately tried to talk me out of it. Asked me if I would try one more time to go to weight watchers, go to the gym , etc... I told her thst I'm 45 years old and yes have had great success with all the programs, etc... But each time the weight came back on and more so the time is now to get something done. I came to a realization tonight that people are not so much angry with me for doing this, they are more just worried about the surgery, etc... I realize some will never understand "why" even though I try to do my best explaining so I really need to just not listen to them.

Here in my province in Canada, it is all covered by Medicare. I pay nothing!

@@angewil60 Holy mother! Lol! You may need to type that up again....After you come off the pain meds!!!!

Just wondering if those of you who have already had your sleeves, do you find you look older? I'm thinking I will, not that it will stop me from getting my sleeve, but with over 100+ to lose, and with my age, I'm thinking I'll look older than I am with the sagging skin on my face! Thoughts?

You tell me! I'm an old lady, too.

I haven't been told I look younger or older, just completely different. Of course I have my dad and grandmother's lovely oily skin so it helps delay wrinkles. They both look 10 years younger than they really are.

My husband met me thin and loved me fat... However in all fairness, I was checked out. I worked and I did the things necessary to keep things in order at home, but I was unhappy and tired all the time. I never wanted to leave the house because I hated to get dressed and it made me down right angry at everyone!!!
Yet, he loved me inspire of all that. He never made me feel bad and as a matter of fact he often told me how beautiful he still thought I was.
Now 122 pounds less I'm happier and I know that impacts him in a positive way, but since he never uttered a negative thing before it's hard to tell.... So I asked him.
He said its hard not to notice the physical and emotional changes and then he said to me I didn't realize how much I missed wrapping you up in my arms... Like all the way around you. ❤️❤️❤️I am sure that I am married to the most wonderful person in the world. We have been married 18 years.

I'm 55 years old and down 103 lbs. Since I no longer fill out my wrinkles, in the mirror I look older, but people tell me I don't. If that's true, I can chalk it up to tons of Protein and fluids helping to keep my skin elastic. You can look at my gallery and judge for yourself. Either way, it's soooo worth it!!!

I just have to comment on this. Honestly, up until the last year or so when my feet have started to bother me, i ignore the fact that I am MO since I hardly ever look in a full length mirror. My brother who would be classified as super MO is the same way. Our health is fine, but obviously could quickly change. Anyhow I have finally realized how I really look to others now. I am in the process of getting my date for surgery, etc... Good luck to you and I know Christians can get depressed as well. I have many friends who are Christians and depressed about different things, one being obesity. You are changing this problem in your life with this miraculous tool Take care and keep your chin up!

I was literally just thinking about this today. I've been lucky to generally look younger than I am and I think that is about to come to an abrupt stop. heh

I have to say I struggle with the same thing... Fear of permanency with the surgery, but... I NEED something that is permanent. The amount of weight that I have lost gained lost gained has likely done sooo much damage to my body, let alone the risks of staying morbidly obese for any longer. I don't want to be like this anymore...I don't want to sweat like crazy anymore, I don't want to strain to wipe myself anymore just to make sure I'm clean after I use the washroom, I don't want to worry about the smell under the flaps of skin I have,I want to sleep in the same bed as my husband again without waking him up al night from my snoring because of my huge neck fat... I COULD GO ON AND ON!!!! For these reasons (and many many more), I am getting the sleeve as soon as I'm through the process! Good luck with your decision and trust me...most of us have or have had the same fears!!!

I have to say I struggle with the same thing... Fear of permanency with the surgery, but... I NEED something that is permanent. The amount of weight that I have lost gained lost gained has likely done sooo much damage to my body, let alone the risks of staying morbidly obese for any longer. I don't want to be like this anymore...I don't want to sweat like crazy anymore, I don't want to strain to wipe myself anymore just to make sure I'm clean after I use the washroom, I don't want to worry about the smell under the flaps of skin I have,I want to sleep in the same bed as my husband again without waking him up al night from my snoring because of my huge neck fat... I COULD GO ON AND ON!!!! For these reasons (and many many more), I am getting the sleeve as soon as I'm through the process! Good luck with your decision and trust me...most of us have or have had the same fears!!!

Oh I'm having the surgery. Even with my doubts of support after, my fear of the permanency, all this is being calmed to a certain extent by reading all your posts on this site.
It's just that for almost 18years, my boys have been my first priority. It's hard to hear them feel this way ,but like someone said in a previous post, they know everything at this age.

Oh I'm having the surgery. Even with my doubts of support after, my fear of the permanency, all this is being calmed to a certain extent by reading all your posts on this site.
It's just that for almost 18years, my boys have been my first priority. It's hard to hear them feel this way ,but like someone said in a previous post, they know everything at this age.

Oh I'm having the surgery. Even with my doubts of support after, my fear of the permanency, all this is being calmed to a certain extent by reading all your posts on this site.
It's just that for almost 18years, my boys have been my first priority. It's hard to hear them feel this way ,but like someone said in a previous post, they know everything at this age.

I meant "NOT" sleeping in the same bed with my hubby because of my snorif

Oh I'm having the surgery. Even with my doubts of support after, my fear of the permanency, all this is being calmed to a certain extent by reading all your posts on this site.
It's just that for almost 18years, my boys have been my first priority. It's hard to hear them feel this way ,but like someone said in a previous post, they know everything at this age.

Oh I'm having the surgery. Even with my doubts of support after, my fear of the permanency, all this is being calmed to a certain extent by reading all your posts on this site.
It's just that for almost 18years, my boys have been my first priority. It's hard to hear them feel this way ,but like someone said in a previous post, they know everything at this age.

I just have to comment on this. Honestly, up until the last year or so when my feet have started to bother me, i ignore the fact that I am MO since I hardly ever look in a full length mirror. My brother who would be classified as super MO is the same way. Our health is fine, but obviously could quickly change. Anyhow I have finally realized how I really look to others now. I am in the process of getting my date for surgery, etc... Good luck to you and I know Christians can get depressed as well. I have many friends who are Christians and depressed about different things, one being obesity. You are changing this problem in your life with this miraculous tool Take care and keep your chin up!

I just have to comment on this. Honestly, up until the last year or so when my feet have started to bother me, i ignore the fact that I am MO since I hardly ever look in a full length mirror. My brother who would be classified as super MO is the same way. Our health is fine, but obviously could quickly change. Anyhow I have finally realized how I really look to others now. I am in the process of getting my date for surgery, etc... Good luck to you and I know Christians can get depressed as well. I have many friends who are Christians and depressed about different things, one being obesity. You are changing this problem in your life with this miraculous tool Take care and keep your chin up!

This is my first time posting here and this thread is by far my favorite!!
Things that I will not miss... As I read through all the previous posts, I could relate to the majority of them. Personal hygiene, intimate moments with my husband, doing more things with my kids, not bring embarrassed at my teenage sons' basketball games when I clearly stand out as a very large woman, not having feet hurt, not being the big little sister in my fsmily of 9, wearing clothes over and over because I swear I won't buy new clothes for this size agsin, sleeping in the same bed with my husband every night because of my snoring due to my large neck and chest fat... Oh I could go on and on!!!!!!
Thanks so much for this forum!!!!'

This is my first time posting here and this thread is by far my favorite!!
Things that I will not miss... As I read through all the previous posts, I could relate to the majority of them. Personal hygiene, intimate moments with my husband, doing more things with my kids, not bring embarrassed at my teenage sons' basketball games when I clearly stand out as a very large woman, not having feet hurt, not being the big little sister in my fsmily of 9, wearing clothes over and over because I swear I won't buy new clothes for this size agsin, sleeping in the same bed with my husband every night because of my snoring due to my large neck and chest fat... Oh I could go on and on!!!!!!
Thanks so much for this forum!!!!'