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allyray

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    allyray got a reaction from Mike4132 in Terrified   
    I'm going through those fears right now as well. My surgery is in 3 weeks and have been asking my husband as well if I'm making the right decision. His answer is yes, all my health care professionals keeps assuring me this will help my recently diagnosed type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure so I'm going for it and just keeping myself busy from now on so I don't overthink things. I, as you will be as well, am so informed as I have asked question after question for the past 6 months. Good luck with your decision!!!!!.
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    allyray got a reaction from Butterfly512 in Feeling like I am taking the easy way out :-/   
    Well this has certainly been an interesting read
    Just my 2 cents worth....
    When I had my fairly large babies, I had the option of having and epidural or not during delivery. Heck that made my deliveries so much easier and pleasant. When I asked my mother who was an undiagnosed type 2 diabetic, if she would have gotten epidurals during her deliveries ( she had 9 children and they got larger with each baby, one being 13 lbs, 9 oz delivered "naturally"), she said "of course!" Why go through that without help if it's there?
    Same with wls. Why not?
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    allyray got a reaction from Mike4132 in Terrified   
    I'm going through those fears right now as well. My surgery is in 3 weeks and have been asking my husband as well if I'm making the right decision. His answer is yes, all my health care professionals keeps assuring me this will help my recently diagnosed type 2 diabetes and high blood pressure so I'm going for it and just keeping myself busy from now on so I don't overthink things. I, as you will be as well, am so informed as I have asked question after question for the past 6 months. Good luck with your decision!!!!!.
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    allyray reacted to mugs in Sleeve June 8th, son'a graduation June 27   
    I am wondering the same thing. My surgery is June 8 and my son is graduating university on June 15th. My problem is that the ceremony is 2 hours away and my son needs to be there 2 hours before it starts. The ceremony is for several programs and could last 3-4 hours. That could mean it will be a 10 hour day away from home one week after surgery. My surgery was booked for several months before we knew the graduation date and cannot be changed now as it took a lot of planning to get time off work.
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    allyray reacted to slpjen in New to this site! Set to be sleeve 6-11-15.   
    June 8th! Getting so close!
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    allyray got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Keep this post going:) Things I am looking forward to (not food related)   
    Looking forward to buying clothes that I actually like and fit well instead of what just fits me.
    Not sweating
    Actually wanting to get a family picture done with my boys and husband before they grow up.
    Crossing my legs.
    Enjoying sex like we used to before we had our sons!
    Lots more but could go on for pages!!
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    allyray got a reaction from SkinnyDown in Afraid of the new me and losing who I am now...   
    Thank you for all your responses. I am carefully reading through each and one of them. I'll let you know how I am making out as I move ahead with this surgery in a couple if weeks!
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    allyray reacted to gowalking in Afraid of the new me and losing who I am now...   
    Great post Carol. Really great post. I started therapy when after losing about 75 lbs. I couldn't recognize the person staring back at me in the mirror. I've gone through even more changes since then. I had my crumbling hips replaced and in time, was feeling like a normal person with normal mobility. This was an experience new to me after having mobility issues for years. Then it became all about the outside...suddenly wearing nicer clothing, makeup, changing my hairstyle...and yes...the other big change. I realized after some time that men were looking at me. Yes..I've been married and yes, I'd had other relationships. But nothing in a very long time and these days, I'm back in the dating world..with all those bad triggers out there that could derail my success.
    So...to the therapist I go every Tuesday to work on the core behaviors that helped to make me obese in the first place and to learn how to not become obese again. One more thing to the OP...you will be a different person and people will treat you differently. Make sure you get help with this if you feel you need it. Nothing should stop you from your goal even if that is your own self.
    Lastly...check out my before/after pic. Wouldn't you treat me or see me differently when you compare what I used to look like and what I look like now...and how my life has changed because of it?

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    allyray reacted to Babbs in Afraid of the new me and losing who I am now...   
    It can be tough to deal with for sure. Even though I have been the size I am currently SEVERAL times in my life, I have noticed since my almost 70lb weight loss, I do get some "attention fatigue". I know when I'm going to see a client or friend I haven't seen since the loss, I have to deal with the "Wow! You look great! What did you do to lose the weight??"
    Now I know to those of you who are new to the journey, that may sound silly. But you will understand it in time. Don't get me wrong, it's motivating and fun to have your weight loss acknowledged and noticed, but when you're used to hiding in the shadows like you said, the sometimes unwanted attention gets old.
    On the other hand, I can't explain the amount of confidence you start to feel as the weight comes off. It really changes how you interact with others, and in turn I feel that others actually treat you better. It definitely is something that takes either professional help or just plain ol' moxy to deal with. It's part of the process that the doctors really never talk about for sure
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    allyray got a reaction from SkinnyDown in Afraid of the new me and losing who I am now...   
    Hey...as my date approaches, (June 8th), I am starting to think about how people will perceive me when I lose my weight...you know what I mean? I mean, I think I like how people treat me now...and that I'm in the shadows a bit... I've been reading obsessively from these boards, and it really scares me that I may be different after. This really does sound crazy as I'm typing it, but I don't want to be looked at differently.
    Does anyone else feel this way or am I the only odd ball? lol
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    allyray reacted to mcjenkins1 in Surgery date - finally   
    You too! I'm just ready to get through these tough parts and enjoy my life at a higher level! I am anxious about the diets but have to start on the 25th. Don't want to get into surgery and have them back out because my liver is too big. Are you going to go to the support group meetings he offer some?
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    allyray reacted to mcjenkins1 in Surgery date - finally   
    allyray, please stay on this topic and we can compare our journeys.
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    allyray got a reaction from Butterfly512 in Feeling like I am taking the easy way out :-/   
    Well this has certainly been an interesting read
    Just my 2 cents worth....
    When I had my fairly large babies, I had the option of having and epidural or not during delivery. Heck that made my deliveries so much easier and pleasant. When I asked my mother who was an undiagnosed type 2 diabetic, if she would have gotten epidurals during her deliveries ( she had 9 children and they got larger with each baby, one being 13 lbs, 9 oz delivered "naturally"), she said "of course!" Why go through that without help if it's there?
    Same with wls. Why not?
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    allyray got a reaction from leel in Feelings right before surgery   
    My surgery is June 8th and I have soo much to do before then (son graduating, farm stuff, bookwork, etc...that I haven't had time to really sit down and "think" about it, which is likely a good thing because I'm a worrier!!
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    allyray reacted to CJFW in CANT DEAL   
    Hello fellow sleever's
    I am 5 years out. I feel compelled to speak openly to you all. I'm typing on a phone so excuse typos.
    1. This is a life changing event.
    2 the day will come when you can eat other stuff in moderation. However you will need to be focused and stay on the diet
    3. Protein. Protein. Protein. So how do you get it all in???? It's hard I know do your shakes. If your tired of them. Change it up. powders?utm_source=BariatricPal&utm_medium=Affiliate&utm_campaign=CommentLink" target="_ad" data-id="1" >unjury protein has chicken Soup and unflavored. Use them in a blended drink. Veggies and fruits can be liquified and strained to form natural juice. Add Water and some protein. Add some spices (mild one) to Soups and broth.
    4. Walk walk walk. The easiest thing to do. And you can do it in bursts. Walk around your house. Walk the drive way or even down the block if your not in pain
    5 use your support groups and family/friends. Don't rush it. Recovery is the main reason for the liquid. Your stomach was cut off and stapled/ stitched and it will feel soar.
    6 if you feel sick or nauseated that's normal. I was on anti nausea meds for 3 months used them as needed. Ask your dr if a Zantac or similar might help. Gas x is your buddy. I still use it.
    7 lastly. Don't believe anyone who says VS doesn't cause dumping. It does high sugar, heavy foods and sometimes things you lease expect will cause it. Something you eat today will disagree with you tomorrow.
    Also. If you feel like food is stuck, or have a odd discomfort try a teaspoon of hot Water. Yes hot. It helps to relax the muscles in the digestive track and helps the item. Go down. (Next bite chew better count to 50 with each bite)
    Use smaller plates and cups. I litterely bought a 2 oz measuring cup to drink from and cocktail forks to eat with. Good luck all you got this.
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    allyray got a reaction from ProudGrammy in Keep this post going:) Things I am looking forward to (not food related)   
    Looking forward to buying clothes that I actually like and fit well instead of what just fits me.
    Not sweating
    Actually wanting to get a family picture done with my boys and husband before they grow up.
    Crossing my legs.
    Enjoying sex like we used to before we had our sons!
    Lots more but could go on for pages!!
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    allyray reacted to Rhodes in New Guy Here - Why I NEED to do this.   
    I go in for my first appointment tomorrow. Some 2.5 hour Weight Management / Nutrition Class my insurance company says I have to attend.
    I bet there's a lot of you here that are like me: We could teach the class with what we KNOW we're supposed to do... LOL!
    Why do I want to get sleeved:
    Selfless Reasons:
    My two beautiful daughters (1 & 4 years old)
    I want to run and play with them without huffing like an old steam engine, or without paying for it with back, hip, knee, ankle, and foot pain for the next three days.
    For my wife:
    We recently found out that my wife has an autoimmune disease that if we cannot get it into remission has a mortality rate of around 10 years.
    By the time we know if this disease is going to prove fatal to her:
    Her mother also has an autoimmune disease (a different one) and may not be with us anymore by then.
    Her father is a chronic alcoholic and will not help me with his granddaughters.
    My own parents are on the other end of the country, and will be in their 80s by the time we know.
    I cannot be so selfish to not take the best care of myself I can if I’m going to have to raise my girls by myself.
    It brings me to tears to think of these two amazing little girls all alone in this world, just because daddy couldn’t get his weight and health under control. I cannot, and will not fail them.
    Selfish Reasons:
    I want to be buff again.
    I worked as an Air Force Cop, and at the time I was 190 lbs with a 50” chest and a 32” waist. I could run 10 to 15 miles with over 100 lbs of gear on my back like it was a stroll through a park. I’d like to get as close to that as I can.
    Back in the early 90s I went to a nude beach on a dare from a hot Australian girl I met while scuba diving in Cancun. I’d love to have the confidence to do it again. There’s no way in hell I’d subject anyone to seeing me like that with the way I look now!
    If the time with my wife is short, I want us to experience anything and everything she wants.
    This has gone beyond just “I want to be skinny” for me. It will affect my whole family.
    Thanks for reading. I'll be back as soon as I know more about my times and dates.
    R
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    allyray got a reaction from shirleyjohn001 in Has AIC (Diabetic lowered/got normal nos) totally gone after sleeve surgery ?   
    Hi ...
    I was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes as well, back on march 4th at my last appointment with he anesthesiologist. They postponed my surgery until I got my sugars levelled out. My A1C was 9 at the time. It was all so new to me and extremely frightening to me because I am getting the surgery for the same reasons you are. At this time also, my mother is going through lots of issues with her body which was mainly caused by obesity and sedentary lifestyle she had when she was younger. She has kidney issues, heart disease, of course type 2 diabetes, etc...
    For these reasons I am determined to get this surgery done to prevent these type of things from happening to me when I'm older. Of course there are so many other things that could happen to me in the meantime that could affect my health but this I can do something about NOW!
    I have a date now(June 8th) but and also on a cancellation list as well. So hoping and praying I get it sooner than later!
    Good luck with managing your diabetes!!
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    allyray got a reaction from HappyValleyHappy in How did your weight loss affect your marriage/relationship?   
    This is just wonderful to read! You've got a keeper there!
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    allyray got a reaction from alindsey in How bad is the hunger?   
    My date is June 8th as well. I gave up caffeine as well as pop(soda) back in November as well as stopped drinking with meals. My surgery was postponed back in march when they discovered I had type 2 diabetes but have since gotten my sugars under control and have been put on a cancellation list. So hoping I get a call sooner than June 8th. I'm ready now!! Good luck and keep reading these post on here. I find it very comforting as people seem to be very open and honest about the good and the bad experiences they have had so I feel very prepared.
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    allyray reacted to VickiCat in Whst would you do in my situation?   
    I was torn too...my mom has been living with us for 3 years now. She's 78 and her health isn't the best and she has been dealing with lung cancer for the past 3 years. I went for it. I did a LOT of praying. This surgery isn't that bad-it doesn't take long to recuperate from. I will feel fine by the time she has to get her PET scan next month. I had to juggle a few things to get her appointments and mine to work out but in the end it did work out. My husband was a big help.
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    allyray got a reaction from Elode in Whst would you do in my situation?   
    Well her cancer has just been found, although I had this sneaking suspicion she had it for quite sometime, but she is an 86 year old woman and was very hesitant about getting a scope and CT done because of her "old age"!
    I do have siblings, but I have always been her "go to" person. Saying that, I may have to step back and let them step in for a week or so. I really need to have this surgery as 3 weeks ago I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes and I really want to get his under control before something else creeps up.
    She does live alone although she has agreed after the last couple of days that she needs as in home care when she returns home because she has lost so much of the use of her legs.
    You know, one don't the biggest reasons I wanted this surgery is my mother. I don't want my children to have to deal with these problems my mother has, which have all been weight related, except for the cancer. She was a large woman after she had children, and then got type 2 diabetes, then lost a kidney, eyes are bad, etc... I NEED to do something about this. On then other hand, I don't know if I could live with the guilt of not being there if something happened. She just wants me there.
    I guess I will just have to wait and see when my date is. I'm really hoping it's sooner than later. Even though she's elderly, I was just not thinking this would be an issue. Thanks for taking te time to give your opinion to a complete stranger (lol). You are the only people who can tell me this type of information regarding the practical side of the surgery, like recovery times, etc... You have been a great help!!!
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    allyray got a reaction from blondebomb in Can not do my surgery because my sugar is too high :(   
    The explanation they gave me was that when your sugar levels are high, healing is more difficult after surgery... I've waited a long time for this so I guess I can wait a couple more months. I tested my sugars before Breakfast this am and they were 8.2...down from 13.1 less than 2 weeks ago. So I'm very happy with how the meds are helping things!!
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    allyray got a reaction from MoMo12onTheGo in How many people kept Weight Loss Surgery a secret ?   
    I had planned on not telling anyone but have told a few. I am still preop. Last week I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes so I am eating very different and excercising a lot so in sure the weight will start to come off before I have surgery so I plan on using the diabetes route for my excuse for losing weight!
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    allyray reacted to The Candidate in Serious Question. How is WLS the "wrong way"?   
    I think we live in a completely different world than others who have always had and maintained a healthy weight. In my immediate family, I'm the only one, and although I'm grateful that they have never made me feel inferior and fully support my decision, I know there will always be an invisible barrier between us. And that's because while they can "see" my weight, they can never actually experience the same physical adverse health effects, nor suffer the social stigma that I do.
    They can empathize but they never really "know" how truly awful it is day, after day, year after year.
    That being said, if you have an individual who doesn't personally know what it's like AND also doesn't support surgical intervention, the underlying reason could be that they are grouping WLS in with other quote unquote "vanity" plastic surgery procedures, such as Botox or face lifts, and the like. And the medical community doesn't really curtail this type of thinking either, as they themselves are constantly arguing back and forth between labeling it as a necessity or a choice. I have faith that someday WLS will get the accolades it deserves in overcoming diabetes, high blood pressure, and other weight related diseases but that's still years or even decades in the making.
    Plus, I'm sure the whole self help literature and weight loss money makers such as Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig and such will also play a role in prolonging this epiphany as long as possible. That's a whole lot of money that they will no longer be able to con out of the desperate overweight masses once the truth about the long term benefits of WLS comes into favorable light.

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