katcycler

I'm in Ashburn, Va and had my sleeve on November 26 2014. I am with kaiser so dr cantor did my surgery. I'm looking for a good support group as well.

I'm 19 months post op and would love a vets only forum!! We are over run by newbies which I am happy we have, but veterans needs are different and I would appreciate some "quiet time" with Vets only.

At about 1 year I stopped losing but I lost 161 lbs and was 20lbs under my goal. I have maintained within 3 lbs for another year. I pray it continues well into the future.

At about 1 year I stopped losing but I lost 161 lbs and was 20lbs under my goal. I have maintained within 3 lbs for another year. I pray it continues well into the future.

At about 1 year I stopped losing but I lost 161 lbs and was 20lbs under my goal. I have maintained within 3 lbs for another year. I pray it continues well into the future.

At about 1 year I stopped losing but I lost 161 lbs and was 20lbs under my goal. I have maintained within 3 lbs for another year. I pray it continues well into the future.

I'm exactly the same. My husband doesn't cook either. He finds what he likes and microwaves a lot. At first after my surgery, I did fix eggs for me. I would hard boil a dozen and eat them through the week. I would but soft cheese and yogurt. If he wanted to eat that, he would. Now 2 years out, we go out to eat as we used to do and I find something to eat and he does as well. In a perfect world, he would eat healthy like me, but that ain't gonna happen. We both hate to cook and it's ok. Take out works well too. Just not everyday. You will be fine.

I hate working out so to keep me on the right path, I signed up for 3 days per week for one year and because it cost me a small fortune, I went every time. It kept me on track and I lost 160lbs in one year with no stalls. I can't say positively it was the exercise, but I believe it was. Now, at 2 years out, I have a trainer twice a week and have maintained my Weightloss.
HW 311, SW 298, CW 151.

I hate working out so to keep me on the right path, I signed up for 3 days per week for one year and because it cost me a small fortune, I went every time. It kept me on track and I lost 160lbs in one year with no stalls. I can't say positively it was the exercise, but I believe it was. Now, at 2 years out, I have a trainer twice a week and have maintained my Weightloss.
HW 311, SW 298, CW 151.

Look I am very sorry that you are dealing with all that you are. I think everyone who has posted in this thread has said something to that effect....at least in their first posts, before they were attacked for offering words of encouragement.
This is a support forum. Typically, when people post about their complications others are there to encourage them and let them know that it does in fact, get better. That's the very nature of a support forum such as this. Your inability to take those words as encouragement is what's baffling here.
Not only do you accuse those people of "attacking" you, but you've made it abundantly clear that you don't want support or words of encouragement if those words include anything about it POSSIBLY GETTING BETTER. This is clearly evident in your responses and immediate defensiveness to anyone who dares trying to help you.
You said "we don't know you" and you're right. I don't know you. The only way to get an impression of you is through your words posted on this forum. So my analysis based on that has me scratching my head wondering what it is you exactly hope to achieve here? You claim you want to educate. What is it exactly you want to offer by way of education? You've shared your experience. People telling you that it may get better shouldn't be taken as a threat to the message you're trying to send, yet you're clearly taking it that way. Why?
Anyone who does even a day (as opposed to 2 years) of research can clearly see the complication possibilities, both short and long-term, as well as the percentages to which they are possible. It's great that you've shared your experience here, and some of the responsibility certainly seems to reside with the medical team that was involved, but you are not open to suggestions or the possibility that it could (and for most of us, does) get better!?!?!?!
So to me, reading this thread from start to finish, I would see that your "method" of education includes telling people about the negative possibilities of this procedure (which is good, as I said), but then you go further and this is where you lose me (and probably everyone else), you go above and beyond to try it make it perfectly clear that not only is it bad, but in your infinite wisdom (of 10 weeks), you can clearly say that beyond a shadow of a doubt it absolutely will never get better, and damn anyone for even suggesting that it might. This is not a good message to send to those researching the surgery, because it's simply not true and you do not have enough post-op time in to make any long-term claims.
You have to realize how small of a percentage you are in with any complications, and you are CERTAINLY NOT far enough along to make the determination that you have long-term complications, and making that claim now only damages your credibility with anyone here who is, I'm sure. Not only that you could possibly be preventing people from getting a potentially life-saving procedure because they read this and see comments like "it will never get better", which is a comment that you just simply aren't far enough along to make, which makes it unfair to those people.
If you want to offer your experiences (on a support forum), then you should absolutely, unequivocally be open to those wishing to help by offering encouragement and suggestions. Otherwise, you are not trying to educate, you are trying to dictate.
I truly do hope things get better for you, and I also hope that one day you will re-read this thread and see why the overwhelming majority takes issue with the way you are projecting your story onto others. Nobody is challenging the fact that you are having a bad experience, but to make absolute comments like "it will never get better" is just misleading and again, a comment that you are not far enough along to make, yet you're making it over and over. That could be damaging to people who adopt that mindset without first qualifying that the source of it has the experience to make it. 10 weeks is not long-term....not by a long-shot, so making that claim is not only misinformation, it's downright dangerous to others who are still in their research phase.
Best of luck!

I am seriously puzzled on how one may be able to make sure that his/her every word is pleasing to every personality on this board without giving up his/her own personality in its entirety. Even then, words are often misconstrued because the reader is emotional/hangry/wants to hear something else/is from another country where words and phrases have different meaning than the person replying. It's also apparent that some people are ripe and ready to be offended because they don't like the person replying or were told that they should be offended when they weren't beforehand.
Perhaps instead of making a post like this, one that will only create MORE disharmony and dissension (and causing some of our most helpful people to leave), the offensive parties should be addressed directly. Posts like this **IN MY OPINION** are more harmful to the general sense of community because they justify AND INSPIRE unnecessary butt hurt and finger pointing.
Wow. I'm sad. It seems as if there is a trend of posts lately that are telling vets that their time here is done. I hear you loud and clear.
***Of course, this is just MY opinion and just a suggestion, not meant to offend anyone. It's just based on MY experiences as a forum moderator and board owner.***

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !

I'm 19 months post op and would love a vets only forum!! We are over run by newbies which I am happy we have, but veterans needs are different and I would appreciate some "quiet time" with Vets only.

I'm 19 months post op and would love a vets only forum!! We are over run by newbies which I am happy we have, but veterans needs are different and I would appreciate some "quiet time" with Vets only.

I'm 19 months post op and would love a vets only forum!! We are over run by newbies which I am happy we have, but veterans needs are different and I would appreciate some "quiet time" with Vets only.

I'm 19 months post op and would love a vets only forum!! We are over run by newbies which I am happy we have, but veterans needs are different and I would appreciate some "quiet time" with Vets only.

I'm 19 months post op and would love a vets only forum!! We are over run by newbies which I am happy we have, but veterans needs are different and I would appreciate some "quiet time" with Vets only.

I love your posts!! Can we be best friends?

have you tried eating sugar free Popsicles? They honestly satiated my thirst early on when it was painful to sip!

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !

Before 311, After 18 months out 151 !