Sharon1964

Jeez, with support groups like that, who needs enemies????
You didn't ruin your sleeve. You temporarily lost your way, and now you're back on the right path.
I find it courageous that you came here and admitted what happened. Keep that courage and you will do great!

Jeez, with support groups like that, who needs enemies????
You didn't ruin your sleeve. You temporarily lost your way, and now you're back on the right path.
I find it courageous that you came here and admitted what happened. Keep that courage and you will do great!

This. So much this.

Done

This. So much this.

I wouldn't chalk his behavior up to your weight honey. He was a young guy actively seeking a relationship with a married woman - if he was looking for something serious and long term to be devoted to he wouldn't have proceeded with a MARRIED woman.
Plus, he was clearly attracted to you as you were.
There are definitely guys out there who chubby chase in secret, they go after the big girls but have the skinny wife at home. That behavior is messed up - but that doesn't sound like it was the case in your situation at all.
It sounds like you had a fun, frisky, thrilling affair until it wasn't fun anymore. Just try to remember the good stuff when you need a turn on and leave it at that.

I too, have not yet had surgery but a number of years back lost a great deal of weight. This is how a typical conversation would go:
Person: Wow, you look great, have you lost weight?
Me: thank you
Person: (looking confused) how much have you lost?
Me: thank you
Person: I asked you a question
Me: sorry, I didn't hear anything you said after "you look great", because really, is there anything to say after that??

This. So much this.

This. So much this.

This. So much this.

This. So much this.

This. So much this.

This. So much this.

I agree there is never a reason to be hurtful, but this post goes way beyond that.
So now it is clarified that veterans are allowed to request input from other vets on the veterans forum, that is good. Does it mean that non veterans can or cannot "discriminate" and request input from people of a specific category such as the classic " I want to hear from people who are 5 or more years post op"?
The underlying premise to this post, and the one that was made a couple of months ago is that the veteran community are the meanies and therefore need specific additional rules. I just don't see this in practice. I do realize that people new to the process are often emotionally more vulnerable (frightened, insecure etc) and I try to always remember that, but I completely reject the concept that the successful experienced WLS are the problem on this forum.
When I first joined, I looked around for a handful of people who were similar age, similar amount of starting overweight , also female who had met their goals and were maintaining....and I listened to them! I wanted success not to be patted on the head. It worked, I am still half my former size years later and those ladies I "followed" helped me believe in myself. I realize veterans don't tend to buy stuff at the store, but, perhaps there is some value to our participation here. Many of the experienced and successful longer term WLS peeps have left, and this sort of general statement implying we are anti-support is one of the many reasons for that. It gets old.

If I got engaged to someone and he hadn't told me he had had such a life-changing surgery, I would re-evaluate whether I really knew him at all.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

In my experience running other boards, blanket "play nice" threads, while well-meaning, don't reach the intended audience and usually serve to upset those who it is not aimed towards.
I find it much more effective to warn the offenders privately.
I do the same thing at work. Blanket warnings or directives to change behavior don't work. You have to speak to the offender directly.
Just my two pence.

They shouldn't take a post-dated check, as it's not recoverable if it bounces. They most likely will, however, accept a payment plan since you are paying the majority in advance.

I know you said you don't want injections, however, I would give serious consideration to Hyalgan (Synvisc). It's not a medication, per se; it's a lubricant. It is usually given in a series of three injections, about 10 days or two weeks apart.

You cannot get enough nutrition at this early in the game to grow another human being. Please do not try to get pregnant before getting the okay from your physician.