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I can only speak to my experience,,, most alcoholic drinks and beer,,, will be off limits,,, for at least a few months after WLS... I know my doc said wine would be a good thing to start back with if you wanted,,, beer has lots of carbonation,,, sounds painful,,, just thinking about it,,, im 4 yrs post op,,, any way,,, I decided after ,,, to forgo,, so Ive been sober for 4 years,,, BEST decision of my life,,, please take this endeavor seriously,,, this is not a cure all,,, if you dont change your habits you will go back,,, and re gain the weight,,, I decided to take this GIFT and use it to its fullest,,, sounds kind of fruity,,, but im dead serious,,, 4 years of maintained weight goal,,,, lots of gym / great nutrition , exercise and SOBRIETY I doubt I will ever go back,,, you can and will fall into old / BAD habits,,, I wish you luck,,, WLS is just a head start,,, but ya gotta change your eating / drinking / active habits !! best of luck

I can only speak to my experience,,, most alcoholic drinks and beer,,, will be off limits,,, for at least a few months after WLS... I know my doc said wine would be a good thing to start back with if you wanted,,, beer has lots of carbonation,,, sounds painful,,, just thinking about it,,, im 4 yrs post op,,, any way,,, I decided after ,,, to forgo,, so Ive been sober for 4 years,,, BEST decision of my life,,, please take this endeavor seriously,,, this is not a cure all,,, if you dont change your habits you will go back,,, and re gain the weight,,, I decided to take this GIFT and use it to its fullest,,, sounds kind of fruity,,, but im dead serious,,, 4 years of maintained weight goal,,,, lots of gym / great nutrition , exercise and SOBRIETY I doubt I will ever go back,,, you can and will fall into old / BAD habits,,, I wish you luck,,, WLS is just a head start,,, but ya gotta change your eating / drinking / active habits !! best of luck

do you find that you seem to judge overweight people now ?? or is it just me ?? please dont eat that ice cream or cookie,,, I frequently try to bite my tongue,,, Look I was a FAT guy,,, 325 at my heaviest,,, now 160 ish ,,, steadily for 4 + years,,, (sober too) did surgery help me ?? absolutely,,, just one step in the process,,,, but ya gotta change your way of looking at food.. I always say,,,, after I mention WLS,,,, does FF and sweets go in me,,, yup,,, ya gotta make a choice to change ... re think your whole way of eating,,, if you dont you are destined for failure,,, I regularly still see / consult my dietitian,,, work out / stay insanely active,,, and extremely watch what I eat,,, I have recently started IF (intermittent fasting) for health and fat burning,,, results ,,, Im curious if anyone will really admit,,, to shaking your head to a overweight individual,,, I actually on a long follow up appt,,,,, WLS doc appt,,, spoke to some folks about the journey and was very willing almost boisterous to praise its,,,, life CHANGING results

do you find that you seem to judge overweight people now ?? or is it just me ?? please dont eat that ice cream or cookie,,, I frequently try to bite my tongue,,, Look I was a FAT guy,,, 325 at my heaviest,,, now 160 ish ,,, steadily for 4 + years,,, (sober too) did surgery help me ?? absolutely,,, just one step in the process,,,, but ya gotta change your way of looking at food.. I always say,,,, after I mention WLS,,,, does FF and sweets go in me,,, yup,,, ya gotta make a choice to change ... re think your whole way of eating,,, if you dont you are destined for failure,,, I regularly still see / consult my dietitian,,, work out / stay insanely active,,, and extremely watch what I eat,,, I have recently started IF (intermittent fasting) for health and fat burning,,, results ,,, Im curious if anyone will really admit,,, to shaking your head to a overweight individual,,, I actually on a long follow up appt,,,,, WLS doc appt,,, spoke to some folks about the journey and was very willing almost boisterous to praise its,,,, life CHANGING results

I do think about how WLS has changed my life for the better, so many things are easier now than a year ago I feel so grateful and blessed.
The truth is out there for those that wish to find it. There are TV shows about weight loss surgery, you tube videos about it, books about it, countless Instagram posts about it. It is not my job to inform every obese person that they could lose weight, they are most likely aware of this.
If someone I know asks me how I am losing weight, or inquires about my diet I do share with them. If a very obese person asked me, I would even share that I had surgery if I thought they were honestly interested. Most people want a quick and trite answer though. Eyes glaze over once you mention exercise and lowering carbs so it’s not a topic I discuss with people.
Just as other people with unhealthy habits need to want to make changes: smokers, alcoholics, drug users, etc....people have to be ready to change. Making comments to strangers does not inspire change, likely just shame and embarrassment.

I am always super sensitive about this when talking about the surgery with other overweight people (I’m still losing, but would consider myself overweight still). I answer any questions they ask or receive any positive comments from them, but I try to steer clear from proselytizing to them or insinuating I think they should do it.

Like someone else said, some people are totally happy and fine with their size. Some people are fat and not unhealthy. Just because this was the right choice for me, does not mean I can say it’s the right choice for them... that’s not my call, that’s theirs. Just like the decision to have it was mine and based off of my own situation. And I try to be very careful about implying or insinuating I think they should, because it’s a deeply personal choice and not my g*d d*mned place.

think you gotta,,,, keep re-inventing your eating habits,,, think of how many changes youve had in 5 years,,, Im 4 yrs post op,,, very steady and prob below my initial goal weight,,,, now Im more concentrating on getting lean,,, IF,,, intermittent fasting,,, great health benefits and obviously,,, body burns fat for fuel,,,, theres a plethora of content on you tube,,,, this one is very througall,,, its not that hard,,,,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLVf3d0rqqY&t=405s

do you find that you seem to judge overweight people now ?? or is it just me ?? please dont eat that ice cream or cookie,,, I frequently try to bite my tongue,,, Look I was a FAT guy,,, 325 at my heaviest,,, now 160 ish ,,, steadily for 4 + years,,, (sober too) did surgery help me ?? absolutely,,, just one step in the process,,,, but ya gotta change your way of looking at food.. I always say,,,, after I mention WLS,,,, does FF and sweets go in me,,, yup,,, ya gotta make a choice to change ... re think your whole way of eating,,, if you dont you are destined for failure,,, I regularly still see / consult my dietitian,,, work out / stay insanely active,,, and extremely watch what I eat,,, I have recently started IF (intermittent fasting) for health and fat burning,,, results ,,, Im curious if anyone will really admit,,, to shaking your head to a overweight individual,,, I actually on a long follow up appt,,,,, WLS doc appt,,, spoke to some folks about the journey and was very willing almost boisterous to praise its,,,, life CHANGING results

think you gotta,,,, keep re-inventing your eating habits,,, think of how many changes youve had in 5 years,,, Im 4 yrs post op,,, very steady and prob below my initial goal weight,,,, now Im more concentrating on getting lean,,, IF,,, intermittent fasting,,, great health benefits and obviously,,, body burns fat for fuel,,,, theres a plethora of content on you tube,,,, this one is very througall,,, its not that hard,,,,

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLVf3d0rqqY&t=405s

I wouldn't recommend using Blue Valley Surgical Associates for your surgery. This place has been a nightmare... from lies, fraud and being given the run around! I started the process back in May. I was required to go to 6 nutritional appointments. the last one was completed on 11/5/18. I was led to believe that at that time they would submit my file to insurance and get me a surgery date. 3 days later I logged into my insurance portal to see if I could see the pre-auth and if a decision had been made. There was nothing there. I called United Health to see if maybe it was a fluke or a mistake, it wasn't. Nothing had been submitted by BVSA. United called BVSA to see what the hold up was and they lied to him and told him that I hadn't agreed to a surgery date yet. I called BVSA to see what the heck was going on and the was told that there was a hold up with their new hospital in taking my insurance. I asked why I couldn't go to Overland Park where I was originally scheduled to have surgery and was told they weren't "allowed" to take my insurance. Allowed? What a funny word to use... Why cant the hospital I was referred to bill my insurance. I started googling "Blue Valley Hospital". It turns out they had lost their Medicaid/Medicare certification back in May. Evidently they thought they would win their appeal and was still taking patients with that insurance. When that didn't pan out for them and they were putting off surgeries they went out and purchased a new hospital that was certified for Medicaid/Medicare. But by this time they had patients backed up as far back as May that were supposed to have had surgeries already. I met one of them who had been put off since July, she had no idea it was because they had lost their certification for FRAUD. On November 8th, I left a negative review on BVSA's Facebook page about how they had "dropped the ball" and had been giving patients the run around. I also filed a complaint with the Better Business Bureau (BBB). The very next morning I received a phone call from a lady that said she was the compliance officer for the corporate office of Blue Valley Hospital. She promised to make things right and get me a surgery date right away so long as I didn't post anything else about them lying to patients and losing their certification. I told her about my new friend that has been trying to get a surgery date since July. In 15 minutes time she had both of us a surgery date. I was impressed at how quickly it was fixed. All it took was a bad review on their Facebook page. Fast forward to today... I've been on a liquid diet since Thanksgiving to prepare for surgery in 2 more days. BVSA told me when I left my pre-op appointment last week that the hospital would be in touch with me a few days prior to my surgery date. I hadn't heard from them yet and I had questions so I called them. "Anna, who? Are you sure it isn't under a different name?" Ummm. WHAT?!! Turns out I'm not even on the schedule!! After 3 phone calls it still isn't fixed and at this point I am wondering if I have been on this liquid diet for absolutely nothing!! Less than 48 hours from surgery and they dropped the ball AGAIN!!! So, if you have someone ask you, or mention BVSA, tell them to RUN! Run far, far away from BVSA! They will have much better luck with another program!

Same here. My therapist insists it has nothing to do with my weight loss, it's any additional confidence I have because of the weight loss, blah blah blah. I disagree with her vehemently. More people talk to me and, more importantly, they don't condescend to me.

No Joke! I the attention before was very much "Ugh, fat guy" Now it's more "Hey man, you using this equipment" "You want to jump in and work out with me" stuff. It's an amazingly different feeling, sad, seeing people's unspoken bigotry over weight really is interesting as well as very sad, but, it's nice to be on the other side of that issue again.

Sorry, didn't see that ur post was in the guys room, and i responded. I don't know how to delete!

...to go to the gym and get eyeballed in a good way from the ladies there. Definitely keeps me motivated. I remember the days not too long ago where I would be eyeballed everywhere I went just because I was a 6'3" 400+lb guy and looked out of place in any setting. The new way of getting eyeballed is so much better.

I had a reeeeeeally rough first couple days, just like you. From what I’ve read, the initial feeling of regret is common. But I’ll say... I’m just a week ahead of you and it’s true that each day gets a little easier. I’m feeling much better and optimistic now. Hang in there... it will get better before you know it.

Sounds like some toxin build up maybe? Really push the Water intake to see if that helps flush things out.

It so great to hear a guys perspective and experience with surgery. Although I appreciate all the women and their responses on the main forums I think hearing a guys outcome gives a better idea of what's to come.
Congrats and Thanx!!!

I was 325 and ,,,, am now,,, 170 for 4 years,,, your gonna have loose skin,,, get over it,,, my quality of life is AMAZING I have so much energy,,, and do so many things,,, its the best thing I ever done,,, dont 2nd guess your decision,,,,, ya gotta think of food as fuel,,,, I have a whole difft,, perspective of food,,,,

I was 325 and ,,,, am now,,, 170 for 4 years,,, your gonna have loose skin,,, get over it,,, my quality of life is AMAZING I have so much energy,,, and do so many things,,, its the best thing I ever done,,, dont 2nd guess your decision,,,,, ya gotta think of food as fuel,,,, I have a whole difft,, perspective of food,,,,

hungry really,,, man after my WLS,,, almost 5 years,,, I still dont have that,,, actually food is more of a pain,,, I do think of it,,, as fuel,,,, more than a social,, / fun thing to do,,, protiein shakes and salads,,,, are pretty much my go to,,, Im insanely active,,, gym... walking / hiking,,, swimming,,, once you can get the right ammt of protien in your system,,,, I can only speak for me,,,, I am unstoppable,,,, good luck !!!

My ultimate goal is to have my relationship with food change! I hope it happens to me in the same or similar fashion that it has happened to you.

so,,, over 3 years post op,,, 325 to 170 look and feel amazing,,, also my food and weight intake,,, have pretty much been rock solid !! no fluctuation,, food is FUEL.. dont crave it to any sense anymore,,, funny as I watch people gorge themselves,,, then say how come I dont loose weight ?? LOL,, anyways been a pretty steady gym rat too,,, but still have loose stomach skin/FAT,,, is surgery the real only alternative?? what is ever-ones thoughts / experience,,, so curious !!

no definitive size,,, although,,, 4 yrs post op,,, im at my college,,, HS size,,, 32 32 !! youll be amazed,,, good luck,,, remember see and use your nutritionist !! food is FUEL.. my relationship with food has changed dramatically !!

Wow, don't you look lovely. Good job.

sir,,, couldn't help but relate to the 3 mos post,,, I was sleeved mid nov,,,, and have lost 90lbs,,, I too,,, cut out all my vices,,, (never smoked) but drank a lot,,,, I too did listen to the docs like law,,,, ate only the ammt specified by my nutritionist,,, after finally getting the right balanced of Protein,,, I quickly had the energy to go to the gym daily,,,, im now off all my meds,,, blood pressure and anti depressants... Im not sure if I relate to the anger,,, I deal with clients (stupid) ones daily,,, so my level of BS meter,,, hasn't really changed,,, all I know is that Im SO much happier,,, super clearer head,,, much better outlook on life,,, I do however enjoy the high $$ call girls,,, I think now instead of them killing me during sex,,, (I might give em a run for there $$) be good,,,,,,,,,