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I know what you mean...I feel the same way

Can my FB friends see if I belong to that group? If so I don't want to join. I just don't want my surgery broadcasted.

not surprised people were heatedly opposed to being told they were liars and dishonest when they simply didn't feel like discussing their personal business in the workplace.

YAY I have a surgery buddy!!!!!!

Hello all ..I am from Texas and I am scheduled for November 19th!

I don't see why others need to be so judgmental..

@@Packerfan61964 this is all about supporting each other not judging each other. Instead of calling my morales, values, and character into question words of encouragement not discouragement would have been appreciated. I wish you well on your wls journey!

So in no way shape for form am I ashamed of my decision but I am a very private person. And if I am totally honest with myself I don't want people judging me for my decision. I have only told my dad (my mother passed away last year) and my husband about my decision to have weight loss surgery. I don't want anyone trying to talk me out of it and say "you can do it on your own" and "don't you think this is a bit extreme." I am making this decision for me and my immediate family. I will be taking a little time off from work but have not told co workers yet anything. I honestly don't know If I want to. I may have to have "emergency surgery" and come back after Thanksgiving break. I failed to mention I am a teacher. What would help my story seem a little more plausible for work?Gaulbladder issues? Kidney stones? Hernia issues? Thank you all in here for the advice and support!

So in no way shape for form am I ashamed of my decision but I am a very private person. And if I am totally honest with myself I don't want people judging me for my decision. I have only told my dad (my mother passed away last year) and my husband about my decision to have weight loss surgery. I don't want anyone trying to talk me out of it and say "you can do it on your own" and "don't you think this is a bit extreme." I am making this decision for me and my immediate family. I will be taking a little time off from work but have not told co workers yet anything. I honestly don't know If I want to. I may have to have "emergency surgery" and come back after Thanksgiving break. I failed to mention I am a teacher. What would help my story seem a little more plausible for work?Gaulbladder issues? Kidney stones? Hernia issues? Thank you all in here for the advice and support!

I don't see why others need to be so judgmental..

@@Packerfan61964 this is all about supporting each other not judging each other. Instead of calling my morales, values, and character into question words of encouragement not discouragement would have been appreciated. I wish you well on your wls journey!

I don't see why others need to be so judgmental..

@@Packerfan61964 this is all about supporting each other not judging each other. Instead of calling my morales, values, and character into question words of encouragement not discouragement would have been appreciated. I wish you well on your wls journey!

Lots of different ways to handle this and everyone has to deal with it their own way. Nice to see peoples different stories of how they dealt with it. No right or wrong.....

No one in this world is perfect. You may not lie about WLS but you've got flaws. Check with the man in the mirror before you check another.

Thank you everyone who took the time to post their opinions. I see I am not the only one who feels that way I do about this subject. My surgery is scheduled exactly 1 month from today (Yeah!) and I will begin my pre op in about 3 weeks. I appreciate all of your words. I realize that even though I am not entitled to let anyone know anything its good to let those who are close to me know whats going on. I never thought about it as a dirtily little secret but I guess I am treating it that way. I never thought about this as an opportunity to educate people on taking the initiative to get my health on track . People can be so judgmental and may view my decision as "taking the easy way out" but I don't care. I have a 5 year old and a 10 month old and would like to be able to be active with them and not get tired or feel like I am going to pass out. I will probably end up telling only a handful of people just so I can have a slightly bigger support system. I agree with bobbyswife that no matter what we all choose this site is intended to be a support network with people who have been through what we all have been through. We know the struggles and stigma that comes with being over weight. We know how people can easily judge others for their appearance and its so nice to have a site like this so others can no they are not alone. Lets be positive and support all those who need it!

@@Packerfan61964 this is all about supporting each other not judging each other. Instead of calling my morales, values, and character into question words of encouragement not discouragement would have been appreciated. I wish you well on your wls journey!

I don't see why others need to be so judgmental..

So in no way shape for form am I ashamed of my decision but I am a very private person. And if I am totally honest with myself I don't want people judging me for my decision. I have only told my dad (my mother passed away last year) and my husband about my decision to have weight loss surgery. I don't want anyone trying to talk me out of it and say "you can do it on your own" and "don't you think this is a bit extreme." I am making this decision for me and my immediate family. I will be taking a little time off from work but have not told co workers yet anything. I honestly don't know If I want to. I may have to have "emergency surgery" and come back after Thanksgiving break. I failed to mention I am a teacher. What would help my story seem a little more plausible for work?Gaulbladder issues? Kidney stones? Hernia issues? Thank you all in here for the advice and support!

@@Packerfan61964 this is all about supporting each other not judging each other. Instead of calling my morales, values, and character into question words of encouragement not discouragement would have been appreciated. I wish you well on your wls journey!

So now it's a character issue.
S.M.H.

Thank you everyone who took the time to post their opinions. I see I am not the only one who feels that way I do about this subject. My surgery is scheduled exactly 1 month from today (Yeah!) and I will begin my pre op in about 3 weeks. I appreciate all of your words. I realize that even though I am not entitled to let anyone know anything its good to let those who are close to me know whats going on. I never thought about it as a dirtily little secret but I guess I am treating it that way. I never thought about this as an opportunity to educate people on taking the initiative to get my health on track . People can be so judgmental and may view my decision as "taking the easy way out" but I don't care. I have a 5 year old and a 10 month old and would like to be able to be active with them and not get tired or feel like I am going to pass out. I will probably end up telling only a handful of people just so I can have a slightly bigger support system. I agree with bobbyswife that no matter what we all choose this site is intended to be a support network with people who have been through what we all have been through. We know the struggles and stigma that comes with being over weight. We know how people can easily judge others for their appearance and its so nice to have a site like this so others can no they are not alone. Lets be positive and support all those who need it!

So in no way shape for form am I ashamed of my decision but I am a very private person. And if I am totally honest with myself I don't want people judging me for my decision. I have only told my dad (my mother passed away last year) and my husband about my decision to have weight loss surgery. I don't want anyone trying to talk me out of it and say "you can do it on your own" and "don't you think this is a bit extreme." I am making this decision for me and my immediate family. I will be taking a little time off from work but have not told co workers yet anything. I honestly don't know If I want to. I may have to have "emergency surgery" and come back after Thanksgiving break. I failed to mention I am a teacher. What would help my story seem a little more plausible for work?Gaulbladder issues? Kidney stones? Hernia issues? Thank you all in here for the advice and support!

Thank you everyone who took the time to post their opinions. I see I am not the only one who feels that way I do about this subject. My surgery is scheduled exactly 1 month from today (Yeah!) and I will begin my pre op in about 3 weeks. I appreciate all of your words. I realize that even though I am not entitled to let anyone know anything its good to let those who are close to me know whats going on. I never thought about it as a dirtily little secret but I guess I am treating it that way. I never thought about this as an opportunity to educate people on taking the initiative to get my health on track . People can be so judgmental and may view my decision as "taking the easy way out" but I don't care. I have a 5 year old and a 10 month old and would like to be able to be active with them and not get tired or feel like I am going to pass out. I will probably end up telling only a handful of people just so I can have a slightly bigger support system. I agree with bobbyswife that no matter what we all choose this site is intended to be a support network with people who have been through what we all have been through. We know the struggles and stigma that comes with being over weight. We know how people can easily judge others for their appearance and its so nice to have a site like this so others can no they are not alone. Lets be positive and support all those who need it!

Nov 14th, I'm in Raleigh. Thanksgiving will take on a whole new meaning!