bellabloom

It's almost 1 week post op and I feel like my belly is so full it's going to burst. I have been eating Protein shakes and tomato Soup, Water and crystal light and some Vitamin waters. I feel so bloated and weak with tons of pain in my upper belly. I haven't had a bm since before surgery. Anyone had experience with this? It really hurts under my ribs. Even drinking water is hard.

My doc said ok, decaf only

How does feeling full feel to you ladies? It's so weird for me. It's not like I expected!

I'm so sorry ladies. I know what your going through!!! It's gas pain and sadly narcotics don't work on it. Here is the only advice I have but its good advice. First off, walk. You must walk. Right after you take your pain pills, gets up and walk for 2-3 minutes around the house. Repeat. Lay on your left side and tuck your legs in, kind of fetal position. Try to belch or pass gas. This is key, you've got to get that gas out of you. A little bit of broth actually seems to help with this, just a few spoonfuls. You've got to get that air out. Call your doctor and demand stronger painkillers. They won't work on the gas pain but they will help your head deal with the pain. You can also request a sleeping pill to help you get some rest. Best wishes, hang in there. It will pass in a day or so.

I feel that things are going down okay. Today I ate a deviled egg (fat free mayo) and I was able to eat a few bites of lentil soup. What's weird is that I do feel hungry. Not in my stomach, kind of more in my body. And Water seams to work as well as food to quell it. I get a sharp kind of cramp when I swallow things and the feeling of a need to belch. I don't seem to feel full but the food starts to taste bad. It's soooooo weird. I'm afraid that soon I will be able to eat anything and I won't feel full at all! I so scared this won't work for me, it isn't what I expected. I don't know what I thought it would feel like but I am not getting the throwing up or real pain and I guess that has me a little worried.

Last night my five year old son had a huge meltdown. He lost his first tooth yesterday and I think this got him thinking about change in general, and he suddenly burst into tears, ran to me sobbing on my shoulder, and exclaimed, "mommy I want you to stay the same. I don't want you to look different!" And I asked him what he was worried about and he told me, "I don't want you to get skinny. I like you the way you are. I want you to stay my same mommy. Your not fat your perfect the way you are. If you get skinny you won't give soft hugs anymore!!!!!" And he is sobbing against my chest by now, his little body shuddering. My son is such a gentle and caring guy. He had to listen to his dad ( now my ex) insult me horribly about my weight for years poor thing, and he feels very defensive about it. He is always telling me how he doesn't think I'm fat and he never calls me fat- he is very careful and it's priceless watching him backtrack when he slips up. Yesterday he compared me to a pumpkin but then caught himself stating how some pumpkins are skinny. I love him so much. Nothing I could say about health or energy would stop him from crying. So I explained it to him the best way I knew how. "You know how there are red blood cells and white blood cells and germ cells?" "Uh huh." Sniffle and sob. "Well, mommys belly is full of fat cells. That fat cells look like this!" "They DOOOO???" His eyes are saucers. "Yup. And I want those mean stinky cells out of my body. So I'm trying to get rid of them. I need more skinny cells!" Tears are gone at this point. "Mommy wait I can draw a skinny cell!! And they'll have an epic battle in your belly!!" Now all he wants to talk about is he can't wait until my skinny cells lop the heads off all those fat cells. A bloody battle, no survivors. Boys.

Have a great day everyone!! May you skinny cells defeat your fat cells!!!

I'm not sure either! Have you called your nut and doctor? I don't think the fluids would stay in effect so long. I would put a call in you should be losing at least something by now. hang in there!

It's still pretty low but getting better!! It's tough not going to lie.

I'm sorry you took it to be harsh. I admit I was a bit shocked that you would use the word "hate" to describe reading about other people's positive experiences. I am sorry you have had such a hard time. I know it's a lot to go through and I wish you the best. When you put your private life up on a board like this, one assumes you are looking for some advice or input from others. By all means follow your surgical teams words on the matter! I was just trying to help but I'm not a doctor. Many of us suffer from food attachments. Those attachments and the loss of food made me quite sad in the first few days. I really missed my friend, food. You may not have the same issue, I was just trying to give you advice from someone who is going through this too. I don't think I'm "ignorant" or a "bully" and name calling just makes me shake my head. I was abused by my ex and name calling is just... I don't even know what to say. I never expected that here. It's sad. I think this is a wonderful board full of wonderful genuine experiences and I have had a lot of pleasure reading it and i treasure all of the support and words of comfort I receive here.

You are so lucky to have an amazing husband like that!! What a gem I'm happy for you!!

How does it feel when things make you sick? Does it set in right away or does it take awhile? Does it make you nauseated or is it painful? I'm nervous about eating and not sure what to expect. I'm hoping you ladies could help me figure out what's happening. I ate some purée food for the first time today and think I might have over done it but I couldn't tell while eating it!!

Oh man! No zinc . I'm feeling better. Kind of came and went thank goodness. Thanks everyone for your thoughts Athena is feeling better too!!

I had no idea! Thanks for asking this I was wondering too!

Hmmm

I advanced my diet to include eggs and refried Beans today, after 2 weeks on liquids. I just couldn't stand it anymore!! I'm a little scared about it!!! Both because I am nervous I'll be in pain later and because eating kind of scares me- I hate to halt the amazing weight loss I'm having but I'm afraid I've been eating too little at 200 calls per day, and I haven't come close to my Protein requirements on liquids. Today I had 360 calories- I know it's nothing but I'm just so scared my rny won't work and I'll fall back into old habits. Anyone else felt or feeling that way?

Good for you!! I think everyone was rooting for you and I'm glad I was wrong!! )

@allisonnoelle I did feel mildly embarrassed in the hospital about my weight, but there is no use in fretting over it. What's done is done and I am proud that I took the necessary steps to correct my weight and health problems. Weight in our culture is presented as something we can and should control, but that simply isn't the case. If it was so easy to chose to lose weight don't you think most overweight people would be successful on diets!? I am extremely successful at most everything I do in life- career education family etc. and I could not win this battle no matter how hard I tried!!! The "put your fork down and shut your mouth" mentality is cruel and clearly coming from people who have not struggled with their weight. If food for us is simply an addiction, a surgery like rny would be dangerous because we would continue to stuff ourselves regardless of the surgery, but we don't. Rny works. Why do think? Because overeating is not just a mental choice. It is a powerful biological urge controlled by our stomach and hormones and blood sugar. Obesity is a disease, it is not a choice. It is also a cultural problem- we are served plates of food that are three times more than we need, and most of our social events revolve around food. It's a huge mind f**k! Look at how many people are overweight in America. Do you think it's because they are all lazy gluttons? No. It is a problem with our culture, the food industry itself, the way food is marketing to us, the horrendous amount of tv we watch, and once we become overweight it is a problem of the way our bodies are wired to preserve our current weight at all costs. Our bodies are evolved to hold onto any excess weight!! Eating was somewhat your choice, I know. But it's more complex than you think and it's not all your fault. Not even close. So before you feel shame or guilt over your weight, know that you had an illness and you should be proud that you were willing to do what you needed to do to recover from it.

My ex husband told me constantly through our 7 years together and two pregnancies and two beautiful children, from 140 lbs to 240 lbs, that I need to lose weight, that I was to fat for him. That he hated the way I walked so loud, was lazy, I need to get active, he just wanted the best for me and to be healthy! He said he was embarrassed of me, said he pretended is was still pregnant to cope with my body, said my clothing disgusted him. I finally, after years trying to lose weight ( which he would constantly sabotage with a plate full of cookies) asked him what he thought about me having wls. He said if I ever did he would downright leave me because it was cheating and taking the easy, lazy way out. So guess what? About half a year ago, I dropped him like the stone of shit he was and NEVER LOOKED BACK. I had wls surgery this month and I am so happy I did. And him? He texts me at least once a week begging for me to come back!! Which I will never never do. Life is long. Love should not be about settling. Pick a person who brings out the best in you and supports your life and has your happiness truly at heart. Love should be about more than a persons body. And there are so many fish in the sea!!!

Well, I'm sorry you "hate" that other people have had a good experience. That's kind of strange isn't it? I'm sorry you have been uncomfortable. Maybe if you feel happy for others, it will make you feel a little happier too. Pain meds are really hard for some people. Morphine had me puking blood all night the first night, it was scary. The next nurse pushed it slower and that helped. Sounds like you have some really intense emotional attachments to food that have shook you up. Have you considered seeing a therapist to help you find other coping mechanisms? My doctor prescribed miralax for constipation as well are milk of magnesia. They really helped. The point of the surgery is to stop you from eating. So the unappealing food is a plus side. I would really put some thought into finding other things to fill your time that bring you pleasure.

I was not instructed to take it at all. Weird. Going to call doctor about this. Are you all taking it crushed? Ugh.

Hey you. Wow you really are not eating. Why? Does it make you feel bad or hurt? I'm worried about how little your getting. I haven't been eating much either but I can get a few sips of Protein shake, strained tomato Soup, yogurt, here and there throughout the day. And as I do eat it's getting easier to eat more. I can tell I'm full because I get the hiccups. Are you scared to try? Don't be. It's not that bad. Start experimenting because you need to work through the phases to get your pouch ready for solids. You don't have to eat much, just a few bites and work up from there. I can give your more ideas if you like.

You know, not to be rude, I'm just saying it like it is- a lot of the "bad" experiences I read about on here aren't really that bad anyway. I mean, gas pain, Nausea, bloat, incision pain, tiredness, constipation, not being able to eat (duh), having to stay in the hospital a little longer than expected, etc... It's all par for the course and should be expected. I mean come on, this is surgery! It's not spray tanning! So unless someone had a major complication such as a twisted bowel or leak or ulcer or something life threatening, I would say their experience was that of any typical surgery and rate it as average. You gotta go for this. My surgery was all of the first paragraph and I still sooooo glad I did it. I am so grateful I haven't had complications and really sorry for those that have. It's tough but worth it. 20 lbs down in less than 2 weeks!

Your small to begin with so it will go slower. How many calories are you taking in? Keep it to 600 or less and it's only a matter of time. You may need to add weight training into your routine to keep your metabolism up. If you have yo yo dieted a lot or if you are a revision, I'm guessing your metabolism is so great. Working out with weights is the key to metabolism. Every pound of muscle burns an additional 100 calories per day.

Shoot shoot shoot. After I read your post I thought oh man I'm glad that is not me!! Karma is a bitch I guess cause now- I'm sick!!!!!! Waaaaaaa so we can tough it out together grin!!!!! I HATE being sick darn it. I had some tomato soup with a little Tabasco that was nice. I'm dying for a bath but I'm not supposed to yet, although I may cave on that tomorrow if this gets really bad!!! Cry cry. I hope your feeling better!!