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I dumped the "good on paper" guy. There just wasn't enough attraction. I'm really glad I took it slow and I'll be doing that from now on. As of right now- 0 men on my horizon.

You get asked to sit in the middle all the time in the backseat because you're the smallest.

At your age not having children or ex husbands could be a negative if that means you're only pursuing guys in the same situation. Sorry.... The reason is that guys at your age that are still single without children are usually kinda problematic. My advice? Date a single divorced dad. It's a lot safer!! I'm sure you are a catch. The thing with online dating is you never know someone's situation. He could have been seeing other women before his date with you. Usually people who are dating online date multiple people at once. His denial of a second date could have nothing to do with you. To keep yourself from feeling low when one date doesn't work out, go out with lots of guys! Get coffee with a few, go on some second dates... Spread your options out more. Try not to have big expectations in the beginning. Just see it as fun and good practice. I know you're a beautiful and worthwhile person and a man out there is going to be your perfect mate. Remember it only takes one! But you have to be willing to weed through some rotten apples if your going to find him.

I personally really like tinder. OKC was okay too. I wouldn't pay for match. Stay away from POF.

When men begin to refer to you as "fun sized". ????

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@@LipstickLady you have way too much time on your hands. I'm not going to block anyone because I want to be able to defend those that may need defending against rudeness and hurtful attitudes. Anyway I really don't care that much. It's the Internet. I have a real life!

Dumping = ????

Important to remember this is the Internet and what is on here doesn't necessarily represent us as people. It's also import o remember that people can actually get hurt on here and cruelty is cruelty no matter whether it's online or in real life This thread really stressed me out ????

Geeesh what a mess. I'm so glad you're getting it sorted out and sorry you had to go through this

3-4 weeks is when the first stall typical hits. Try not too worry about it!!

I'm 14 months out. I overshot my goal of 125 Now it seems I fluctuate quite a bit, from as low as 114 to 119. I've been hovering around 117-118 most of the time for about 3 months.

It's true, the rate doesn't matter. Just consistent loss. Keep going, keep going. When you hit goal it really will seem like it took no time at all.

I've lost 125, took me about 10 months. Keeping it off at 14 months post op.

One thing I guess I'm sort of glad for- I dump like CRAZY from sweets. Today at work I ate 3/4 of a chocolate chip muffin- man I just couldn't stop once I started!! I almost NEVER eat sweets and of course I dumped so bad. Had to sit in the bathroom for 30 minutes ugh. I really can't tolerate high sugar/fat foods. It was sooooo not worth it. Sigh when will I learn?? I was freaking out about my fat intake but I did some research and actually it looks like it's spot on at an average of 35% of my diet. I don't eat many bad fats, all good fats so I don't think I need to worry about it. That was a relief. I'm still going to try and get my Protein up however but I think I'm doing pretty good!

All i can say is thank god I have a very small closet. I'm totally addicted to shopping now. It just is so much fun!! I have started to get very selective about what I do buy now... Like I said. Small closet. Maybe I should take my kids closet.... Hahaha.

As I said, my weight has stabilized now. I don't feel like I'm too skinny, I feel just right, as I said in my post. I'd like to hold on to where I'm at. Plus. What people don't realize about eating disorders like anorexia is that it's very common for people with anorexia and bulimia to have major weight fluctuations and become both emaciated and obese at one time or another. The pendulum has swung to obesity for me before and I'm frightened of that no matter how thin I am because I know it's possible. People often think anorexics have steel control but that's not true. 99% of them binge eat. Many become overweight!!! So for me it's a feeling of never feeling "right"- worried about gaining, worried about losing... Anxiety and never feeling safe. Having an eating disorder is a fucking riot.

Sometimes it just takes a little while! Your body has been through a lot. You'll conceive I'm sure! Track and maybe a trip to the docs for some blood work just to be sure hang in there it will happen!

Gahhhh. I hope this works out okay!!!

I get asked this a lot because I'm online dating... It's a great topic!! Haha yeah my first response is "count calories and post on BP!" Hahaa just kidding. I used to love photography. Now it's what I do for a living so I wouldn't call it a hobby. I enjoy reading novels Researching cold case crimes and serial killers (uh huh I'm sick!) Hiking Sunbathing Clothes Shopping!! Playing guitar and singing Travel Great thread!

I liked looking at your boobs. ???? hahaha

Hahaha so funny. I'm so glad Surgery ruined me for chocolate. My downfall is caramel!!! Sigh. Caramel....

Thanks everyone. Inner surfer girl I did talk with my NUT from my surgeons office and she explained to me that my diet was very high in fat and sugar. At the time my weight was still falling and I felt by lowering those at all I could risk losing too much more. But I did listen to what she had to say and now that my weight has been stable I am feeling more comfortable putting her suggestions into place-basically going back to a low fat moderate carb regime. I can call her any time so I'll be utilizing her for sure. None of the eating disorder therapists here take my insurance. So ill have to go to a general one and hope they can work with me. I'm not sure I want to. I was in therapy all last year and I only backslid. I'm not sure I respond that well to therapy but we will see. Kindle that sounds awesome. That's what I want- empowering therapy!! Tools and strategies, not being told you're a victim!! I'm going to look into your suggestions. Cowgirl- anxiety just rules my life sometimes. It's so AWEFUL. It's been much worse I think since surgery because I was burying it with food too. It's such a terrible feeling. I don't have it every day but I do have it a lot!! It often prevents me from being productive. The only thing I have found that really, really helps is moderate to intense cardio exercise. It pretty much cures me within minutes and generally lasts a day or two. I've always been resistant to using medications although I've definitely considered it. Especially when it's at its worst!!! I'm glad you found relief , it's a terrible thing to deal with. All my eating issues are rooted in it. I really have to get to the gym every day. That's the key for me and there should be no excuses. As long as I do that I'm okay.

I'm not in therapy right now, I lost my medical insurance that covered it. I do wish I had a therapist it would help. But the little bit I did manage to get has helped a lot and like I said my weight has been stable. I've been doing well on the whole, but this week has been tough. I have such a hard time with anxiety. If I don't get enough exercise it gets really bad.

Oh my god!!! Hahaha