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I'm only a week out, and my nose is noticeably smaller and less round! I told my mom I've lost all 13.6 pounds in my nose =)
It probably depends on the person.

If I had to pick just one thing I wish I could have known........it would have to be.........how good I'm gonna look 45 pounds thinner! Lol I'm 5 weeks post op and have lost 45 pounds. I'm feeling WONDERFUL. Your gonna be fine. Just listen to your new pouch. It will tell you what it likes or doesn't like.

If I had to pick just one thing I wish I could have known........it would have to be.........how good I'm gonna look 45 pounds thinner! Lol I'm 5 weeks post op and have lost 45 pounds. I'm feeling WONDERFUL. Your gonna be fine. Just listen to your new pouch. It will tell you what it likes or doesn't like.

If I had to pick just one thing I wish I could have known........it would have to be.........how good I'm gonna look 45 pounds thinner! Lol I'm 5 weeks post op and have lost 45 pounds. I'm feeling WONDERFUL. Your gonna be fine. Just listen to your new pouch. It will tell you what it likes or doesn't like.

Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham Soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.

Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham Soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.

Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham Soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.

Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham Soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.

Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham Soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.

Oh my....we must be sisters! My mother acts the same way. She make EVERYTHING about her. She's always the victim. When I had my sleeve procedure, she didn't talk to me for a week after my surgery. She told my sister that she was so worried about me, that she had to shut off the entire world and be alone. Who the hell does that? I was going through the hardest thing by getting wl surgery and she is once again, making it allllllllll about her. It's been 4 weeks since my surgery and now she wants me to come over so she can make me split pea and ham Soup. That's very nice of her but, hello I just had WLS. Do you have to make our visits all about food? I can for see the future now. I will go over there, eat a tiny bit of Soup, because I can only fit an ounce or two in my stomach at once time, and she get mad at me cause A: I either snapped at her or looked at her the wrong way, or B: she'll be pissed cause she made allllllll this food and I didn't even eat very much. It's a no win situation. But I want you to know, I feel your pain. Sorry, just had to take this opportunity to vent.

My mom passed away too soon, when she was not much older than I am now. She was 5'2" and weighed 320 pounds and suffered an abdominal aortic aneurysm. I know with my knower that if sleeve gastrectomies were available back then in 1992, she would have had one, and be supportive of mine.
However, she was a crazy-maker in so many "mom-ish" ways. I did not mind going to visit as an adult, but was glad to live far enough away that I could still have my privacy, but near enough that I could get there in a couple of hours if there was an important reason for me to be there. My grown daughters live within a hour from me, but I try not to interfere with their day-to-day affairs.
Yours is a good case of "the less she knows, the less she has to worry about". My mom had that policy with my grandma, so I guess what goes around comes around.

My mom is supportive but can send me over an emotional edge with the wrong word. We've danced this dance since I was a teen. I love her. She loves me. But we drive each other CRAZY. I went through two miscarriages early in my marriage and I couldn't tell her until all of the doctor visits were behind me and I had time to process the events. Why? I simply couldn't deal with the added stress of her constant phone calls and worried crying and having to comfort her through it too. All that did happen, but after I had time to cry and heal. About a week after the losses. Moms are moms. They are human and needy and childish and have to be right. Just like me. Another mom. Lol.

I totally get you. My mom is disabled so she does not work, does what she wants with her day and wants to delegate how I should spend mine. She calls me knowing I am at work, text me (sometimes over 20 times) while I am at work and usually those text consist of "when you get off of work I need you to take me to . . . .". I get soooo frustrated sometimes! I remind myself that she is bored, too young to be stuck at home, I'll miss her when she is gone . . . all of that but sometimes she makes me want to SCREAM. Best of luck to you.

@@jessiquoi, now you know why I have not told my mother. I am fortunate I don't live near my mother ( I love her to death, too) or I wouldn't be able to pull this off. I do not need the stressed out, daily phone call asking how I'm doing and what she just read, and what her friend told her, and why I am losing too much weight and blah, blah, blah.
In my opinion as our parents age their lives become ever smaller circles. Any little old thing fills the circle and overwhelms the system.

I told many people about my bariatric surgery. The only negative response was from my mother. I think it is because my mom is dependent on me for care and she did not want anything to happen that might disturb my caregiving.
I told her that the only reason why I am having the surgery is because of her. I could see how her medical conditions (diabetes) which were driven by lack of exercise and food (sugar and carbs), caused such serious problems for her that I did not want to experience the same conditions a few years down the road.

My mom is still alive but has dementia really bad. So if I were to tell her my surgery she wouldn't remember sure wish I had my mom back.

@@shmily, @@Babbs, i'm very sorry for your losses. i lost my dad and i miss him every day. i'm totally not wishing my mom gone, i'm crazy about her and mostly we have a great relationship. however, i did need to rant and rave, and now i have, and now i move on.

I lost my mom in 2011. Take it in stride. Believe it or not, you will miss her when she's gone, and laugh about the drama. I know I do.

My mom has been gone since 2006.....I wish she was here to worry

My mom would have been the same way. I didnt decide to have WLS til after she passed away. But i do wish sometimes that she was here to rant at me and tell me that I made a mistake. Then i would just tell her that it was my decision and to get over it. lol. Take the attitude from her in stride and just be happy with the decision that YOU made. Good luck!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

oh, she is a drama queen, and she already said "i know you're under a lot of stress, but we all are" as if anyone who is worrying about my surgery is as important as the one who is HAVING the surgery. sigh. it's the cross i bear.

I feel your pain. My mom is such a drama queen! I have to pray for patience every day. I'll include you in my prayer list!

love her to death, but really... i'm so tired of having to worry about her feelings when all i can think of is my impending surgery (in 2 or 3 weeks). SOMEHOW i hurt her feelings yesterday while discussing plans for my birthday this Friday. we're having dinner at her house (she is not cooking, i want pizza), and i invited some of my cousins, and she's upset because i don't know who is coming exactly and she didn't like the way i reacted to her being upset. i guess i may have sounded a bit short... but geez, i was at the office dealing with work. awww crap, now i feel like i should apologize, but seriously, i'm so tired of this. i wish i could just hide in a room by myself (well, with my cats) (ok, and my boyfriend) (but NOT my daughter and mother) until after surgery.
ok, i just sent her an email saying i'm sorry her feelings were hurt and that it was unintentional, without apologizing for what i said (i have no IDEA what set her off this time).
i'm still in the mood to rant and rave, but i've run out of topics. maybe i will go fire someone lol.

Girl look at you, looking a skinny and beautiful. Congrats to you. I hope my weight loss journey goes that well. ????

I was going through pictures and I just had to share these before and after pictures. Beginning weight: 318
Current weight: 145