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I'm not going to pursue the woman at work. Don't need to make things awkward at work. Just surprising the odds we would be matched given the thousands of available people in my area plus the fact there are hundreds of people where I work and I would be matched with someone I know.

I'm from Vegas too. Going in for surgery on 11/27. Hubby had his 7/8 and down 65 +/- pounds. When he was on the puréed phase, I made mashed cauliflower. Better for Protein intake. Added garlic and some salt. Loved reading all your insights. I'm so ready for this!

Meet with Dr. Soong tomorrow for my Surgery consult.

???????????????????????????????????????? Feliz dia de la independencia a todos los centroamericanos y que sigamos pediendo peso día a día oh manteniéndolo!!

Great achievement during all these years. You are doing great! You look amazing. Thank you so much for sharing with all of us. Lovely bikini picture ????????.

Well Good Day my fine people.... lol
Today is November 10, 2015 and today is year #6 Lapband journey end... 7 is just beginning..... Age 47, My highest weight 230, lowest 140. Now 145. 5'2" tall, Largest size 20 now, comfortable size 8, Was a 44H bra now size 34H, was a 7.5 shoe now 6.5. Self esteem and confidence... ZERO, Now... Through the roof.
History.... I was 41 when i decided to take back my health and life. I had a few friends that had the GB, Sleeve (not as popular back then), and LB..... A couple of which i worked with or had worked with in the past. One in particular was my friend Paula (LB). She was my mentor and guiding light through everything... In fact her partner had her LB the same day, so she was at the hospital with the both of us.... I had told only very few people at the time that i was having LB done. The few i did tell were for the most part were supportive. Except for the most important one... MY HUSBAND.... But, i got through the post op diet (on vacation) with only one slip and went into surgery that AM weighing 220lbs. Of course my husband said... then why do you need this... Pahhh. My weight loss was slow by most standards... but now i see it as a blessing. I followed the rules.. (except for no Mt. Dew). I averaged a few lbs per visit... and at first i was disappointed. But then i started exercising (zumba, cardio, and later weights) and it really kicked in.... i lost 60lbs the first year and 20 the second. Which i know is not a lot by some standards... but for me... i could not have been happier. My husband started to come around... he himself started losing weight and working out, sex was great too. But then his (what my gut said was) girlfriend move to Fl. and he let it all go to crap again... oh well. The sex went back in the crapper again. I won't let that get me down... life goes on and we shall see if we hit the 25 years of marriage next month.
I have done what i consider very well with my band. No complications (knock wood). I have the LB System in place, according to My LAP-BAND Journey Patient ID Card i have the 10cc band, but my dr. says its the 14cc.. I lean to believe its the 14 as right now i have 10.5cc in my band. I do stay away from the bread, rice, grits, dry meats, Pasta (as much as poss) and fried potatoes. My go to is still Soup. I love soup.... I normally eat yogurt with granola and coffee for Breakfast. lunch is normal something pretty small like a salad (have to be careful, sometime have trouble), soup, grilled something... dinner something pretty small in size... last night i ate 2 nacho chips...the round ones with Beans, ground beef, cheese, sour cream, and guac on each one.
so... truth time... I have not exercised in three years... i know, that is terrible... but it's the truth. Reason, my husband cancelled the member ship because he said we could not afford it.. But im fixing to start back anyway. I had my Tummy Tuck 2/15/2012 and i could not be happier with the results. My scar is not that noticeable at all.
My advice to new WLS patients...... Know what your getting into. Research the hell out of everything. Make sure you pick the best doctor for you. Go to support meeting before, during and after. Don't expect to go in surgery fat, and come out skinny.... WLS is not a magic pill... You will have to work at it EVERYDAY FOREVER!!! Maybe not the exercise... but the eating. Take before pictures, you won't be able to see the differences... but pictures never lie. Take during pic and after pic. Limit your weighing in to once a week or less. If not you will become obsessed with the scale. Set many small goals and an over all goal. Don't get down on your self for a gain. Just get back on track. I put back some weight and got back to 162.... and i said... no way in hell am i going to be one of "those" people who gain it back. Don't be ashamed of the journey you are choosing. Embrace the fact that you chose to take you life back your just using a tool to help. Just like a diabetic uses insulin, are a heart patient uses a pace maker... All the same stuff.
Be prepared to lose friends... some people can't handle the "new you" and will try and sabotage you. I learned that my fat friends love me fat because i was one of them and made it all acceptable. My skinny friends could not handle the new me because i was now competition in the group for attention. Your true friends will rise to the top... Trust me on this.
Remember.... Everyone's journey is different, don't judge your self by someone elses. We all gained weight for different reasons... and we will all lose it differently. Be your own biggest cheerleader...

I don't know if it's the same stuff, but there is diaper cream with the same name, so in the baby section
~*~ Find me on YouTube: Trisha's Sleeve Story ~*~

I have found it at Walmart. I've also seen it at hardware stores. It's also for sale on Amazon and I assume many other places online

Well, it's just a date... but I guess like alot of people I have trouble meeting someone in real life (hence the online dating) so it is refreshing actually.

I had my surgery just over 10 months ago and today I hit my goal weight of 125! I chose that weight with my doctor because it's half my starting weight of 250 and a perfectly normal BMI at 5'0.
My life has been saved and drastically changed FOREVER. I'm now the athlete I've always wanted to be, I can wear cute clothes and knee boots, my energy level is off the charts, I can cross my legs, I could go on and on.
This was by no means easy. I had to completely change my lifestyle - I eat roughly 800-1000 calories a day getting in a minimum of 80 grams of Protein. I work out 6 days a week and on wednesdays I work out twice. I run 25-30 miles a week, do hot yoga and work with a personal trainer. There are times when I struggle with head hunger, especially working at home, but because I have nothing unhealthy in the house I can't get into much trouble snacking so I find ways to distract myself and I get over it.
What I want people to know that you can do this and still live a normal life. I eat 2 pieces of dark chocolate a day, I eat out and I drink a couple glasses of wine or some tequila once a week. I've eaten slice of pizza twice in the last 2 months but because pizza is my nemesis, I waited until I was almost at goal to dare try it again. The key is continuing to monitor your portions, tracking calories and protein and balancing it with exercise which is what I'll continue to do as I venture in to maintenance.
I've never not been on a diet. I have no idea what this is going to be like. My doctor says not to be surprised if I get lower than 125 if I continue to run half marathons (never stopping already registered for my next one!) so we'll see what the next phase brings. I update my blog regularly if you want to follow along - tomorrow's post will be all about this monumental day http://www.fatgirldivesin.blogspot.com
    

I just read this entire thread and was wondering how you are doing?

Hey well just see how things go with the new woman. In regards to the other one only you can decide what to do. Txt her back and see if you guys probably meet again and just saying if she does not reply back maybe she will have another excuse ????. Online dating is hard work just take it easy.

Hey well just see how things go with the new woman. In regards to the other one only you can decide what to do. Txt her back and see if you guys probably meet again and just saying if she does not reply back maybe she will have another excuse ????. Online dating is hard work just take it easy.

11/09/2015 weigh in - 228.4
11/10/2015 - my one year sleeve - anniversary! Happy Birthday to me!

Sending you prayers during surgery. My condolences in the passing of your mother. And wishing you many more years of marriage. Stay strong!

I added your name and CW/GW this evening to the spreadsheet attached to the link on the very first post of this thread. Let me know if you need anything else! Thanks!

Thank you so much for the update.

Hi so how can we add our weight on the spreadsheet? It's my first time I do a challenge. Thanks

CW: 156 Goal 125/130
Count me in ???? Thanks

I don't want to burst your bubble but it is normal to "date" several people, go slow until you know each other and go from there. Consider it a good sign that someone you just met isn't all clingy and stuff. I had a guy scare the crap out of me....accused me of "playing" him because he could tell I had logged onto the website. I should mention he and I hadn't even met yet....

Was she working when you texted? Just a thought? You should still be chatting other women at this point. You might meet the love of your life while this girl is slowly responding!
Dating is work- at least what I remember! ???? it should be fun too.
Just be yourself and have fun! I agree with a few other posts about online dating--- expect to make contact with a lot of weirdos before you meet a few interesting people.
Do you think your confidence has increased after you met with a woman in person?
Good Luck with your future dating life!

Kind of feeling suspicious she is seeing someone else and maybe I'm a back up. If it's this difficult to talk to her again and get another date, what's the point? It sucks because I had a good time and she seemed to as well. The other woman lives about an hour away so it's not like we can just meet after work or something so that kind of sucks.

I asked her about seeing a movie since she had mentioned that when we first met.

I met the love of my life online. We communicated by email every day for a bout six weeks before we agreed to meet at a local restaurant. He was 53, I was 52. We both had been thrown away twice and were a bit reluctant to bare the most private details.
We "grew" on each other over a period of time as we discovered how much we had in common, right down to our standards for housekeeping. It does not matter that he is tall and I was round. We looked like an apple and a pencil together! It does not matter that he has olive Mediterranean skin and I am as pale as porcelain china. It does not matter that he has a few replacement teeth or that I have replacement joints.
Here is what holds us together to eventually take that final walk towards the sunset. We will probably be that couple who lives until they are 98 and die within minutes of each other because we could not imagine life without our mate.
1. We compromise. I get to control the temperature of the house, and he gets to control the remote. He tucks the sheets in at the foot of the bed and I pull mine out. He does the work in the garden and I take care of the flower beds.
2. We share household chores. I keep the toilet, sink, and floor clean and he scrubs the bathtub and glass shower curtain. He is a better cook than I am, so he cooks and I clean up after we eat. And by the way guys....a man who helps with the housework ups his "sexy" game by several points!
3. We understand each others' love language. I touch him many times throughout the day and tell him how much I appreciate and love him. In the nine years we have been together, he has never said "I love you", but he DOES "I love you" every day. He remembers my birthday and holidays without being reminded. He is unselfish and brings home a surprise or me every time he goes to Menards or Walmart or makes a trip shopping anywhere. He reseeded the flower gardens and brings me fresh flowers everyday through the blooming season.
So far, I have not mentioned Shakespeare's "Beast with two backs" because that is a result of our intimacy, not the definition of it.

This is a good topic. I am also currently in a new relationship that seems like it is progressing really fast but also it is really comfortable like we have known each other forever. We have a lot in common. Real intimacy is something I have always avoided, but now since I am older, it is something I crave.
The thing that made me comfortable with him is when I am with him, is I have his complete undivided attention. He is looking me in the eyes all the time we are together, and when we go to events he watches my reactions and talks to me about it. He really pays attention to me. I know that he is really into me, so that makes it easier to open up to him.
We talk openly and honestly, he is willing to expose himself which makes me willing to expose myself.
While I think it is possible to move too fast, I think with the right person there is no real time table. Things happen in their own time.
I believe that apathy is the death of intimacy. Taking someone for granted, not paying attention. It is something that you have to fight to maintain every day. Also, secrets and lies.
Right now the more time we spend together, and the more he asks about how little I eat, I feel like I am going to have to tell him about surgery really soon. He knows I low carb, work out and have been losing weight. There is a copy of Overeaters anonymous on my night stand, I know he has seen it, so I am not exactly hiding my issues, we just haven't had a deep conversation about it.
I have spent my adult life focused on my career and my business so, relationship and intimacy are new to me. I do have the benefit of watching my peers get it right and wrong over a long period of time, so I think I can learn from the triumphs and mistakes of others.
I know there are some people here that have been married a long time I would love to hear what they have to say.