HalloweenBaby24

Did anyone else have issues with friends after WLS? I've had the same best friend for 14 years now and we've always gotten along pretty well, we were both heavy set children growing up. As we got older we both had our own vanity and self esteem issues, We both were constantly on a diet on again, off again and would lose weight and gain weight through our teen years..Now adults we've continues this routine but for me I never really felt bad about myself or jealous of other people regardless of how heavy I was, Especially not my best friend who did lose a significant amount of weight on her own. Now the tides have changed and things between us are getting a little rocky, it seems like the simplest of goofy conversation turns into an argument (Not Intentionally). Despite the fact that she is in good health and shape/size and not in the least bit "Obese" she is constantly bringing herself down about her "Weight Issues" she'll get mad at herself for eating a salad that had too much dressing or over indulging in pop corn..Along with this she has mentioned how she wishes she could also get WLS and have it "As Easy As I Do", As Easy as I do?..I've struggled my whole life, I've always been the FAT Friend, Always on a diet since I was 11 and have had multiple medical issues because of my weight. She was very supportive before surgery and even drove 3 hours to accompany me for my Pre-Op class, Now 7 months out and 74lbs down she will tell me I'm on a stall because I'm eating too much, or the wrong things. too much dairy, not enough cardio...And she'll talk down about Obese people and Barbaric Surgery "I don't understand, Its WLS is so common that I almost think that people choose to be fat and lazy so that they can just end up getting the surgery". Don't get my wrong I love my best friend but God Damn!..Sometimes it's just too much, Friends are suppose to be there to talk about thing's and not be judgmental (Or so I've thought). I hate to think that I've made her Jealous by going through with this journey, And I'm not even sure if that's whats going on here.. I've tried talking to her about it, But she just get's offended and pissy so I don't bring it up much. Has anyone else gone through something similar? I guess maybe it's possible she's always been this way and I've had blinders on this whole time. I know she talks about other people behind their back's sometimes, And I often wonder what is said about me.

70lbs down in 6 months. My weight loss has been a slow one, consistent but slow. Even though I'm not where I want to be yet I have to remember how far I've come. At 6 months out the weight loss has slowed down tremendously, but my success thus far keeps me going. No matter how long it takes, I will get to goal!

Thank You Everyone!

@@JamieLogical Lol thanks, Yes that's me and my daughter. It's been slow in regards to the past 4 months, I lost most of the weight in the first initial 2 months and then now I'm lucky if I lose 3lbs a month.. Congrats on your loss as well, you look awesome!

Today I woke up with a horrible UTI (Probably my 3rd in the last 6 months) so I went to the Dr's and she did a Urine Test that came back positive for High Sugar content and she went on to say that she wants me to come in and get blood tests done for Diabetes after I finish up with my Antibiotics...I am 5 months Post-Op and 65lbs down, has this happened to anyone else?, Is this even possible?.. I mean I thought diabetes was something you got before losing weight not after!..I had mentioned this to her and she just chuckled at me and was like "Anything is possible". I want to call BS on the whole thing and say that her test strip was simply wrong, But I don't really know. Sees unlikely since I just had a urine test done 2 months ago and everything was fine, I had a battery of tests done this past summer before surgery and everything came out ok and I have no other symptoms of diabetes I feel great, No family history either.. WORSE VALENTINES DAY EVER...

I don't have anyone on either side of my family who has diabetes. I was high risk when I was pregnant but only because I had High Blood pressure, but never showed any sign of diabetes.

@@BeagleLover well then that test had to BS, I work out 1-2hours 4 day's a week..

@@CountryGirl5584 Thanks, I'll try to calm down. It's just Diabetes isnt something I thought I would have to worry about after WLS and I feel scared, I know nothing about Diabetes...I know it's not a death sentance but still very worrisom.

I'll mention I also have PCOS, Not sure if that makes a difference or not.

A pre-op diet will only shrink you're fatty liver if you infact have one, I think the more weight someone has to lose the more likely they are to have Fatty liver...But not everyone has this issue before surgery. Some pre-op diets are done for Inurance and not the Dr as well.

Just because someone wants to indulge before surgery doesn't mean they won't be successful, I actually gained about 5lbs in the two weeks leading up to my surgery (Which was done here in the US and paid in full by my insurance). I don't think I gained on purpose it was more of me just feeling nervous and having this thought in the back of my head that I wouldn't be able to eat like this ever again, or these foods (Wrong) but I wasn't out for self-self sabotag. Here I am 5 months out come Sunday and 60lbs down.

I never had a pre-op diet. the day before surgery I just had to do clear liquids, The night before that I went to TGIF for a birthday party where they had gotten "All you can eat appitizers" and I ate my weight in Potato Skins