Sharon C.

Hello everyone,
My name is Sharon, I live in SW Raleigh near NCSU, and I'm getting the duodenal switch surgery by Dr. Peter Ng at Rex Bariatrics, hoping for August 2014. I would love to attend any local meetings. I also have lots of plus size designer brand clothes that I'm trying to sell. http://raleigh.craigslist.org/clo/4563514653.html Let me know if you're interested. Thank you!
Best,
Sharon

Your post helps me try to figure out my prep for an eventual garage/yard sale. I've so many clothes. It's going to be a chore. I'll try to follow this to see how it goes. Good luck.

I am sorry but if we accepted being fat then we wouldnt be on here, having surgeries to change it. I am all about self-confidence and I know that I will never ever in my life be what society considers "thin" but I am not going to accept my fate of being fat. I'm going to try like hell to change it. It's okay to accept people of every body type and shape, as we should but I, personally, am not accepting the fat. That goes for me about myself. I am currently seeing someone who weighs 320 lbs and I find every bit of him to be sexy but if he wants to change it, that's his prerogative not mine!

the fat acceptance movement seems to have changed a lot in the 15 years since i first read stuff about it.
i am appalled, disgusted and revolted by the way people think they can treat obese people. i have worked with obese people who have PTSD from the way they have been treated. its horrendous. i dont understand where the venom and rage comes from. why some people feel that being fat makes one not human anymore. it not only confuses me, it makes me really really sad. i hate it and feel that its part of a larger problem of an non-compassionate and angry culture we live in.
but what i see now is not people talking about people treating obese people with common respect, compassion and kindness, but people who seem to believe that its better to be fat than healthy. because "thats who i am." and losing weight equals fat phobia. this seems a bizarre projection to me. not loving or caring for myself is how i got fat. loving myself was WHY i got this surgery... i dont care for myself now BECAUSE i lost 85 pounds. i lost weight because i cared enough to do something drastic to get healthy. i love my children, i love being their mommy. i dont want to drop dead when my kids are teens like my dad did.
a lot of what i see people posting on blogs and FB seem to be excuses for not getting healthy and taking care of themselves. i have an obese friend who posts all kinds of stuff on FB, and she doesnt seem to have a clue how she is coming across... bitter, blaming and a huge victim. that is NOT what the original fat acceptance movement was all about. now it just seems like fat people encouraging each other to stay fat, sick and unhealthy. its the flip side of those sites where people encourage each other in exercise addiction/bulimia/anorexia. really disturbing. imagine places online where people encouraged each other to shoot dope or drink addictively or gamble compulsively. somehow if its food, its different. (no, its not)

The kind of acceptance I would like to see is people stopping caring whether or not people are fat, thin, or what, whether they want to change their body or not and just treating each other like humans. The fat acceptance movement like that girl posted about is super extreme, it is just as bad as skinny people being so mean to fat people.

I was never into fat acceptance. I wanted to accept myself so I made the changes I need to make so that I'd smile when I looked in the mirror. I'm into self acceptance, fat or thin, tall or short. IMO (many) Fat Acceptance advocates don't support anyone making changes to better themselves. I never thought I was totally fabulous and hot to trot when I was fat. I hated myself. I changed it. I now accept myself.

I don't think about any of that; it's irrelevant to me /background chatter. I just know that this is what I need to do to be healthy.

Screw everyone that thinks they have a say in our lives. OUR LIFE, OUR CHOICE.. And a damn good one at that.

Since the post about an ex-friend's fat acceptance and weight loss surgery, I wanted to know what you all think about fat acceptance? Being we were/are all fat at one point in time we can understand how they feel. Some of the bloggers I have come across who promote fat acceptance seem down right mean to previously fat or fat wanting a change people( like us). It boggles my mind how they feel attacked on so many levels yet do the same to previously fat/ fat wanting to change people. If promoting self love wouldn't it be even better to promote everyone loving theirselves in all decisions they try to make even if it is something so dangerous and extreme as WLS, to make themselves feel better, and achieveing self love? Sorry for my mini rant but it seems like no matter where we turn, wls is considered the devil in action, damned if we do and damned if we don't. What are your thoughts on it?

I've had a lot of people tell me she's jealous of my getting the surgery and losing weight.

You are right.
I did not know about the most recent posting she made on a blog yesterday until a friend saw it and pointed it out to me.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

You are right.
I did not know about the most recent posting she made on a blog yesterday until a friend saw it and pointed it out to me.

I've had a lot of people tell me she's jealous of my getting the surgery and losing weight.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

I've had a lot of people tell me she's jealous of my getting the surgery and losing weight.

You are right.
I did not know about the most recent posting she made on a blog yesterday until a friend saw it and pointed it out to me.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.

Yes, she weighs well over 300 lbs and is morbidly obese. She thinks she's healthy though since she eats vegan.

Y'all are right. I've blocked her on Facebook.