green*eyed*girl

How is the original poster doing?? Did you find out the reason behind your pain? I really hope you are doing better. It sounds like Petersen's hernia but I'm no doctor but a friend of mine had same symptoms few years after RNY and the diagnosis was Petersen's hernia.

Hahaha enjoy the honeymoon, wait a year and you will praise the Lord for 3.6 pounds in a month! You are doing excellent, can you believe you lost 36 pounds in a month??? Have you ever lost that much before you had surgery? you see...?

I understand a bit where your parents are coming from. I am very close with my parents too, and they play a huge part in my weight loss. They cheer me on, and they accept my decisions (even the bad ones) about my diet. They really want me to lose weight because they know how important it is for my health. Simple as that. They love me and they want me to live a long, happy life. I think your parents are the same. They see this surgery as your savior (which is by the way) and they want you to do the best and be the best. Probably they are impatient, and they want you to get 'there' as fast as possible. I am sure they are proud of your success and they will come around. Be patient, it doesn't matter how old we are, we are still their children and always will be. You will be fine, you aare doing excellent, kepp up what you are doing! CowgirlJane, big big inspiration you are, love to read your comments. Just one thing though: my fat self in the past is still me. I am the same. Just a few size smaller. I did this for health reasons, not for vanity - of course I like the 'side effect' But I honestly say this: I loved myself when I was bigger too. I took care of myself, I did my best to look good, and I enjoyed life the same way I do now (minus the knee pain hurrayyy). That fat person is not my past. It's me, right now, it's still me, I am the same, my fat never defined me, my personality, my kindness and my good heart that it is, how it was and how it always will be.

That's it, every surgeon is different and expects you to follow their instruction. I am one of those who you are talking about. I had no pre-op diet and on day 5 after surgery I was on soft food. Mind that for 3 days I had nothing by mouth, not even water, day 4 water, day 5 soft, and day 10 I was allowed to progress to well chewed solids! It was a bliss, finally I felt restriction, and I did very well. My surgeon progresses all of his patients as fast as he can. He is brilliant and I did everything he asked for. It is confusing to see us having such different giudlines, it makes you question who is right or wrong, but I guess we all just follow our doctor's order. So do not be too quick to judge, your wrong can be somebody's right!

Ok, I have to share my recent experience. I live in the UK, but grew up in a different country, and I go back there regularly as my parents and sister still lives there. Last time I visited was 6-7 months ago, so naturally I have lost significant amount of weight since then. I just visited them again last week My sis and mom barely recognized me, but I just thought they are being silly and anyways they got so used to me being the round face fatty for so long. They just kept saying how much I have changed. This was weird coz -as I said earlier- in my mind I did not change much and I still think I am large. They have exemined everything on me, my hands, fingers (Oh my how small your hands are...), my shoulders (Oh god, you look so narrow...), my butt (your behind is half the size it used to be), I mean commented on everything and I found it hilarious But when I started to walk around in our small town and run into childhood/teenager/young adolescent friends and they just walked by, I knew that I must have changed completely. NOBODY recognized me. None of my friends!!!! I do not say they are close friends but like class mates or ppl I know for years. It was a total shock. The feeling when somebody looks at you and no, nothing, walks by...wow, I could not believe it!!!! So how on earth am I gonna recognize myself when even my own mother is having a hard time??? I never thought it is gonna be tuff like this. Not this part at least

In fact, I really truly believe I am looking fat. And everybody says I'm not, but I just feel fat. Changes happened way too fast. That's why I have a turkey neck now, but that is a whole different story. But when I see photos of myself I am shocked. I can't believe how much I have changed. My mom is my biggest cheerleader bless her, telling me how beautiful I am every day. We are so blessed my ladies, and yes, we are gorgeous. I mean just look at us..

Oh @@Wendyfm I know what you mean, I do not miss the pounds from my bones and joints, I move faster and easier now, life is good again! But all these changes are hard sometimes, things happened so fast, one day I am fat, 5-6 months later brand new body, wow, lot to digest. And the neck, oh Lord, that is a problem, big time. I am not planning to have any plastic surgery. I am saggy here and there but nothing major, I can deal with a bit of lose skin. But my neck is horrid. I was hiding behind scarfs all winter long but summer is coming and I am horrified. My neck is the only area that I might will consider to get some extra help... not neck lift (is there such thing even???) but some toning I guess... :/

Ohhh I know, it makes me wanna say that 'it has to do with glucose and your body catching up and adjusting to your weight loss', but I will not say it.

Sooo proud of you Miss!!! You are right, we need to be accountable. I will not start my diet till beginning of April as I am going on holiday and I know I won't be able to prepeare my shakes and keep up with calorie counting while I am on my holiday. But I will be absolutely doing it, no excuse, not losing anything is just doing my head in! 2lbs is great, good start, keep it up, I know I will have the cravings too but I will do this! Keep us updated please! Is that group on FB secret already???

That would be awesome, please let me know when you got the chance to change it so I can join the group. Cheers!

I do not remember how much I lost the first month, I was not so concerned about the numbers as I knew I am losing, anyways, I lost 50 lbs in the first 3 months. As far as sizes goes I think it depends on your body shape. I am bottom heavy, hourglass but more of a pear shape, so it is harder for me to lose from my lovely behind and do not get me started about my stocky legs!!!!!! I started as a size 20 (UK), lost about 90 pounds and I am in size 14 (UK) - I think that is size 12US - jeans, and I am stalling big time, but my top half was dropping faster, I am in size 12 and been there for ages...weird... Also, when you start out, lets say you are in size 20 jeans you have to lose quite lot to go down to 18, but as far as I know when you are like size 12 in jeans you have to lose much less to go down to size 10, like those sizes are closer to eachother, I hope I make sense...

Is this a secret group? It seems like it is not, sorry but I can not join if it's an open group and all my friends and family will see it that I am a member (I kept my surgery private and I wish to keep it like that). Sorry :/

I am in!!!! That would be great! I do not want any competition, that would put unwanted pressure on all of us, but we have to be accountable...? And exchange ideas! And yes, I spend much more time on FB then here, so a group would be great, please make it a secret group, thanks! <3

I agree, we need to do something, I mean I am stalling for like 2 months already and nothing seems to work - then again I have not tried yet going back to basics. I am really considering doing that. Just do the shakes in the morning and start to log my calories again coz let's face it, it did work, and now I need all the help I can get. Any suggestion how could we motivate eachother?

Oh guys, our 1 year anniversary is coming up soon, this year went by soooo fast. Such a ride whoooh! I am in a long stall too, and I also do not always make the right choices. In fact I just had a small piece of KitKat! (no dumping here!!!) 1 year anniversary makes me nervous and makes me feel bad coz I am not at goal and I thought I will be I know I have to watch what I eat and I have to work out to drop the last 30 pounds. Well, lets do this together, we can do this, one last push ladies and that's all! Hmmm I feel a bit embarrased for not being at goal yet...