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I nibbled on brie and smoked gouda for lunch, then at dinner I had a little bit of everything... a few bites of turkey, bread, stuffing, potatoes, yams. Then two tiny slices of pie-- pumpkin and pecan-- YUM. Then we had a long drive home--- got home and had a brownie and 2 Reeses PB cups--- could have done without that, but still I ate a LOT LOT LOT less than I would have had pre-sleeve.

I nibbled on brie and smoked gouda for lunch, then at dinner I had a little bit of everything... a few bites of turkey, bread, stuffing, potatoes, yams. Then two tiny slices of pie-- pumpkin and pecan-- YUM. Then we had a long drive home--- got home and had a brownie and 2 Reeses PB cups--- could have done without that, but still I ate a LOT LOT LOT less than I would have had pre-sleeve.

I nibbled on brie and smoked gouda for lunch, then at dinner I had a little bit of everything... a few bites of turkey, bread, stuffing, potatoes, yams. Then two tiny slices of pie-- pumpkin and pecan-- YUM. Then we had a long drive home--- got home and had a brownie and 2 Reeses PB cups--- could have done without that, but still I ate a LOT LOT LOT less than I would have had pre-sleeve.

I like to pop in on this forum and get tips, advice, provide support where I can, but it DRIVES ME CRAZY to read multiple posts where I see the following:
How much can I LOOSE?
When will I LOOSE weight?
Will eating ____ make me stop LOOSING?
:angry: :angry: :angry:
People... the word is LOSE!! LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE!!! ACCCCKKKKK!
Ahhhhh. I feel SO much better now. Thanks for letting me get that off of my chest.

I like to pop in on this forum and get tips, advice, provide support where I can, but it DRIVES ME CRAZY to read multiple posts where I see the following:
How much can I LOOSE?
When will I LOOSE weight?
Will eating ____ make me stop LOOSING?
:angry: :angry: :angry:
People... the word is LOSE!! LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE!!! ACCCCKKKKK!
Ahhhhh. I feel SO much better now. Thanks for letting me get that off of my chest.

I like to pop in on this forum and get tips, advice, provide support where I can, but it DRIVES ME CRAZY to read multiple posts where I see the following:
How much can I LOOSE?
When will I LOOSE weight?
Will eating ____ make me stop LOOSING?
:angry: :angry: :angry:
People... the word is LOSE!! LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE!!! ACCCCKKKKK!
Ahhhhh. I feel SO much better now. Thanks for letting me get that off of my chest.

I like to pop in on this forum and get tips, advice, provide support where I can, but it DRIVES ME CRAZY to read multiple posts where I see the following:
How much can I LOOSE?
When will I LOOSE weight?
Will eating ____ make me stop LOOSING?
:angry: :angry: :angry:
People... the word is LOSE!! LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE!!! ACCCCKKKKK!
Ahhhhh. I feel SO much better now. Thanks for letting me get that off of my chest.

I like to pop in on this forum and get tips, advice, provide support where I can, but it DRIVES ME CRAZY to read multiple posts where I see the following:
How much can I LOOSE?
When will I LOOSE weight?
Will eating ____ make me stop LOOSING?
:angry: :angry: :angry:
People... the word is LOSE!! LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE LOSE!!! ACCCCKKKKK!
Ahhhhh. I feel SO much better now. Thanks for letting me get that off of my chest.

I like them,but only use them in emergency type situations where Ijust don't have anything else. Protein bars and other "protein" foods that are manufactured (cookies, cereals, bread, chips, etc.) are what I call "frankenfood"--- just because they are low carb does not mean they are good for you. Whenever I can I eat REAL food-- but if I need to grab something and don't want to eat crap, they are good in a pinch.

I like them,but only use them in emergency type situations where Ijust don't have anything else. Protein bars and other "protein" foods that are manufactured (cookies, cereals, bread, chips, etc.) are what I call "frankenfood"--- just because they are low carb does not mean they are good for you. Whenever I can I eat REAL food-- but if I need to grab something and don't want to eat crap, they are good in a pinch.

I didn't tell my mom before surgery... I live a couple of thousand miles away and so it was easy to avoid the topic when we talk. I didn't know how she would react and really didn't care but I just didn't want her to worry. Once I told her, she was very happy -- she knows I struggle with my weight and she does with hers too. Now, when we talk, she just asks how much I've lost, how I'm feeling, what the doctor says... all the normal "care about you" stuff.
Funny -- she's very supportive of the surgery but very unhappy I'm in a new relationship. With a new body and improved confidence, what did she expect??? I was going to stay a nun? lol

We have all been there. At some point you just need to decide that junk food is like that bad boy friend that seems to feel good but in truth hurts you. F* that bad boyfriend, you are worth waaaayyy better!!!

Thank you all so much. Yes - I was - as we say in the south "pitching a fit". LOL. - you all are absolutely right - when I do the numbers/averages - it's great. It really is. I just needed a good slap in the face ! As far as failures - that's a whole other story. I need to realize I'm only a failure if I quit trying . I love all your responses. And thanks so much again ❤

First of all...deep breath. You have not failed. Your surgery has not failed. The surgery is a tool to help you lose weight and you have. What you have also done is buy into the whole "I lost a ton of weight quickly after the sleeve" routine. I am not saying it doesn't happen, it certainly does. In fact, you see post after post after post on here saying as much. But what you don't see is how many post that they haven't lost as much or as fast. Is it because they failed? No, not at all. It is because each and every human is different. Our bodies are different and our metabolism is different. We all live different lives and do different things. Therefore it is completely and totally NORMAL that we all lose weight differently after VSG. I plan to write a blog or post about this when I hit my "surgi-versary" on 10/21. I too have been upset at times, but it was at myself. It took me a very long time to come to some kind of terms with the reality of it all. That reality is this...We ALL want quick results, a miracle for losing weight. We may research and know all the facts and numbers, but in our hearts we are praying to be the ones we read about. We ALL want to post big numbers lost in a short amount of time. We ALL want to finally be healthy, but mostly we want to be normal. We want to be accepted, by society and ourselves. We want all of our problems to disappear and our bodies to be what we dream of them being. But reality is it may not happen. Reality is we may only lose a little at a time. Reality is the surgery is documented as only losing up to a percentage of your excess weight, not every pound of that excess. Do some people lose every last excess pound? Yes, they do. But not everyone. I believe those of us who don't post that we have only lost a percentage and not all the weight feel guilt, or failure. I absolutely believed this would be my answer for my weight struggles, yet I still struggle. Does the sleeve do what is should? Yes it does. I am restricted in how much I can eat. Can I eat around it? Yep. Can I eat junk I should not? Absolutely. Has my restriction eased over the year? Without any doubt. Can I do better? You better believe it. Am I human and make mistakes? Do I try to do better? Every day for the rest of my life... I didn't want to "diet", but I know I cannot eat foods others do and lose weight. I really dislike exercise, but I know the sleeve will not lose me the weight alone. I know I have to do my part to put this body back into some semblance of order. I was morbidly obese and spent many years well over 150+ overweight. Rome wasn't built in a day...Today I am almost 100lbs thinner. I am over half way to goal. Do I give up because I am almost a year out and haven't lost all the extra weight yet? No. Never give up. Failure only wins if you give up. A year out I am very happy I did what I did. I am glad I had the surgery. Rather than focusing on the 70+ pounds I need to lose hit goal, I think of the 98lbs I lost to get where I am now! Sure I still want more from this, but getting my head in the right place has helped me accept where I have come so far.

First of all, it's normal to stall out at week 2-3 for a while. Second of all, you have lost weight overall since your surgery, correct? I am 6 weeks post-op as of today and down 17 pounds total. Is it frustrating to see others who lose like 40+ pounds in a month? Yes! But I am losing weight. I am sticking to all my nutritional guidelines. I am doing my approved exercise. I know I will eventually get to my goal. When I was upset about my "slow" loss last week, someone who has been at goal for over a year now told me she doesn't even remember how much weight she lost in these early weeks, because once you've been at goal for over a year, does it really matter how fast you got there? That really put things in perspective for me.
I had been treating this whole thing like my "diets" of old, where it always seemed like I was in a race to lose the weight as fast as possible. But VSG is forever. It's not a diet. You don't get to goal and then just be "done" with it. This is a lifelong journey, so if it takes me 12 months vs 6 months to get to goal, how much is that really going to matter in the grand scheme of things?

Just ... no. No on many levels. I see that you haven't had your surgery yet so you haven't experienced the normal stall at week 2-3 post op.

Break up with your scale. You're investing wayyyyyy too much in what it tells you on a daily basis. Pay attention to your body. You just had major surgery, give yourself a break and some time to heal. Throwing tantrums and pity parties won't make things better .. get tough, get strong and take control of yourself and be perseverant. Stalls won't last forever, although they can last for weeks. This is YOU throwing up your hands and assuming failure, it isn't the surgery that's failing.

Boy, that was dramatic. Maybe if you hurry, you can get your old stomach back.
Seriously ... in less than a month post-op you lost 15 pounds.
FYI, my surgery weight 8 weeks ago was 216. One month (30 days) later, I'd lost 10.4 pounds. And I was thrilled. Thrilled! I cannot remember (decades ago?) the last time I lost 10.4 pounds in 30 days.
Also consider this: About a month ago, I gained four pounds in two days. And then two days after that I stepped on the scales and had suddenly lost 8 pounds, for a net loss of four pounds in four days. It's not typical. But it happens.
I would suggest that with the purees you've taken in some salt and maybe also have some Constipation that's causing a temporary weight gain.
Don't go off the deep end every time you get on the scales and see they've gone up or haven't gone down--especially if you're eating/drinking what's recommended by your surgeon.
Give yourself a break and appreciate that you / we will NOT lose our overweight in a straight downward path.
(Also google "three week stall" if you don't know about that. Happens to almost everyone.)

Kill them with kindness: "aww, it's so nice of you to take an interest in my health! Thank you!" repeat until they shut up with the stupid comments.

Are you tracking what you eat? I find it incredibly helpful to track everything on MyFitnessPal. I had several weeks of struggling with bad food choices and decided to get super strict with everything. The first couple of days are hard but worth it! Here is the plan I set for myself:
Get all food that is not on my plan out of the house Get in a minimum of 100 grams of Protein and 72 ounces of Fluid every day Maximum of 40 carbs and 1000 calories every day -- but I will bump this up to 60 carbs and 1200 calories if I get in at least 45 minutes of exercise Just say no to: grains, refined sugar, dairy (except grass fed butter and whey protein powder), fruit (except avocado), starchy veggies (potatoes, sweet potatoes, carrots, beets, peas), Beans & legumes. So basically I am eating meat, fish, eggs, tree nuts, green veggies, avocados, black coffee, and healthy fats such as olive oil and grass fed butter -- oh and some Condiments here and there like mustard! Weigh or measure all food and track on myfitnesspal.com Weigh myself every day This is tough, especially at first. But I owe myself some love, and sometimes tough love is what is needed. After the first day or so I lost my cravings for things like crackers and Cookies, and I am losing weight quickly again, so it is working for me. Good luck to you!

@WifeyMaterial. Soda and chips? Seriously girl? And you stated you have no energy. Well, soda and chips! Boiled eggs, shrimp (if you are able to) get a rotisserie chicken and keep it in the fridge, cheese sticks, almonds, greek yogurts with sugar free fruit preserves, fat free milk for Protein Shakes, homemade tuna and chicken salad. Ok, so you see where I'm going with this. Keep these things on hand at all times. Soda and chips.....never! All the best.

I say this all of the time (to the point where some folks are prob sick of it), but this works for me.... when I find myself wanting to snack or eat more than I need, I ask myself this question, "What am I committed to?"-- if I am committed to losing weight and my health, then my actions should line up with that. If I am committed to quelling a craving or immediate gratification, then my actions will show that, too. I can't say I am committed to weight loss while I am eating in ways I know will stop me from losing.

PB2 can work, but you HAVE to mix it with something-- if you try to add Water and use it by itself (as is recommended to have your PB but reduce caloric impact) it is SO NASTY. But mixed into shakes, puddings, etc. it can be quite good.

I say this all of the time (to the point where some folks are prob sick of it), but this works for me.... when I find myself wanting to snack or eat more than I need, I ask myself this question, "What am I committed to?"-- if I am committed to losing weight and my health, then my actions should line up with that. If I am committed to quelling a craving or immediate gratification, then my actions will show that, too. I can't say I am committed to weight loss while I am eating in ways I know will stop me from losing.

I would say that right around 7 months was when I started feeling a little more hungry and found that I was able to eat a little more and could tolerate just about anything (much to my dismay...lol)
I agree with what the others have said. First drink Water. Probably 1/2 the time when I think I'm hungry I'm really thirsty. Then check your head. Probably another 1/4 of the time I am really not PHYSICALLY hungry, it's more a head hunger. Finally, if you need a snack make sure it's Protein. I DEFINITELY feel way hungrier when I eat high-carb Snacks or foods like pretzels or crackers or something. Even the next day..... carbs breed cravings for more carbs.