leighindmv

Thanks everyone for the advice. I asked my doctor to explain the coffee rules a little more in depth and here is what he said... The jury is still out regarding the research with lap-band and coffee, so Dr's differ on this. For my program they ask you to give it up for a year after surgery and to go light on it after that year. Now, what he said about me specifically is that he would want me to wait 2-3 months after surgery to have coffee and then keep it to maximum two cups a day. He says the acid in the coffee can cause ulcers and that caffine is a stomach irritant. So right now im only 4 weeks out which means i have to wait another 4 weeks to have it. Im going to try my hardest in this next month, but if i do have to have a cup ill do half/half between regular and decaf. Im also trying other things like not having heat in my office (the cold keeps me awake), tea, walking around the office more often, and going to bed earlier at night. But i still miss my coffee..

I recently had surgery almost 4 weeks ago, im doing fine and recovery has been going well, except for one major issue. coffee.... so I knew this would be the hardest change for me to make because pre-op I would rely on coffee 2-3 cups a day. Well having no coffee is getting me in trouble.. let me explain. I live in Washington DC and have a high-profile government job, my co-workers and the people I work with have gotten used to me running around the office with a smile on my face and a peppy attitude. Now this was extremely easy to do with my caffine on hand, but now that I cant have coffee I feel like im living in some haze with very little energy. My productivity and attitude have changed at work and I miss coffee and think about coffee everyday. Last week my boss asked if everything was ok and noted the energy shift - now my boss is the only one who knows about the surgery in my office because we often attend business luncheons and meetings and I knew I would need him to cover for me during some of these ,and he is totally cool with the fact that I had surgery. Anyway, the fact that I cant have coffee or caffine is drastically effecting my life right now and I need help or support or something because its not going well. P.s. my doctor asked me to wait till july before I drink coffee. but yallll I don't know if im gonna make it and still have a job......

Thanks for the advice everyone, sadly the guy ended up cancelling the date and stopped replying to my text messages. Not sure why, but ive cut my losses and summed it up to he isn't ready to date, or is seeing someone else. Im fine with it and looking to move on...

I was banded two weeks ago, recovery has gone as expected and im back to work and almost normal activities - but taking it slow. Im single and in my 20's, recently an acquaintance of mine asked me out on a date, he wants to grab coffee at starbuck's. Now im fine going out on the date and getting a caffine free tea, but if all goes well ill assume he will be asking me to dinner soon. Im still post-op liquid diet, soon to be soft diet. But I guess the ultimate question is - when do I have to tell this man about my surgery? Im pretty open about it with my family and friends, only people at my office don't know about it or other's im not really close with. Anybody have experience with this? I don't want to scare him away