supbanana

Hey, Ms Marylou, hope you wake up ready to look forward. What you weigh isn't the sum total of who you are, although it might feel like it. Your fiance loves you for you - if he didn't, he wouldn't be with you...
You are already on the road to changing things if you are considering VSG. Most people on this site will recognise the sound of desperation in what you say. Why not tell yourself that this is as bad as it gets and that today you will start to make better food choices as you get ready for the new life ahead. It isn't easy, I hated myself and I hated my body. But you know what they say about how to eat an elephant - one bite at a time! Might look hard to take back control of what you eat, but do little things and that will start to improve how you feel about yourself.
Hang in there, if you go for VSG it will change your life beyond recognition. Wont be easy but it will be worth it. And your fiancé will still love you, whatever size you are :-)))))

Just remember that he loves you for what is on the inside, and proposed to you just the way you are. I went from a size 14 (when we got married) to a 24, and now back to a size 10. My husband has always been attracted to me, he has told me that he is attracted to my confidence, personality, brain, and my sense of humor.

Ha, I have kind of an 'all in one' deal. My grandma likes to tell me, "wow honey, you sure can tell you lost weight!" Which is great, but reminds me of how she used to say, "gosh honey, you sure can tell you gained weight!"
My favorite compliments though? Apparently surgery increased my confidence or something because people keep commenting on my excellent posture, how regal I look, how I walk with 'poise', etc. I love it.

I can see your bet and raise you…I have had a pannus for so long that my "ladybits" have flattened into a defacto shelf to support the pannus! Its a really attractive look! I have hopes that maybe, after plastic surgery and pannus removal the shelf will round out ::fingers crossed:::

As you lose weight you will also be losing weight from your "ladybits" and they may become more lax or stretched looking; hence you sitting on them. You may want to consider a labiaplasty where they remove excess labia tissue, makes a world of difference.

Oops...uh and No they are not all prettier because I know u n your drop dead gorgeous. ...

First, I recommend wearing bloomers...

Okay, so this is weird, but I'm wondering if this is normal... when I sit down these days, it's like my external genitalia is getting squished between me and the surface I'm sitting on, like pinched or just weirdly positioned. I never had this problem before losing 120lbs and I'm wondering if my thigh fat provided a cushion before, maybe. Lol, it feels so weird talking about this but it's just been the most bizarre thing. Can anyone else relate or is my body just playing tricks on me?

Well, I'm in Vegas with my new guy. We went to a UNLV football game. Held hands, played kissy face a bit. It's so much fun being with him. I am 5'9" and when I weighed 392 I felt very uncomfortable with a man shorter than I because I felt huge around them. Kinda like a female version of The Incredible Hulk!! But now I'm 190, I have no problem being with this wonderful man who happens to be 3 inches shorter than me. I think it has to do with being confident in myself and the way I look. I never feel huge around him, either...so far, so good. It really feels good to be dating again. It's too early for any kind of sexual stuff, and I'm really worried about all this extra skin I have. But, I did already tell him about the surgery....he just hasn't seen my body in my birthday suit yet. I think I'll just breaking it to him slowly, little bits at a time. That way if it does get to the point where there's intimacy, he'll already have a good idea what to expect. Some how, from our first few dates, I get the feeling it's not gonna matter a lot to him. I think he really likes me and I know I like him....let's just see where this goes.

I think your theory about losing the extra thigh cushioning might be right on the money. I also can't help but wonder about massaging chairs, like at my pedi place...

That's funny because when I was making my husbands and sons plate just last night I thought for a second "My god Laura could you have put anymore on the plate"

thanks for the update I will keep my food pedaling ways in check.. Now I've posted some real food porn made by me

It stuffed the **** outta me. But It was really a really good piece of bread.< /p>

I'm sorry, I don't have an answer to your problem...but I do think that this is possibly the best thread title ever.

I had to choose between being a smooth, puffed up dead guy and a wrinkled up, saggy, healthy butt kicker. That fact that I am still here illustrates my choice.
The skin doesn't hinder anything important. Adjusting the mind is worth the effort.

Thank you for posting this - I'm set for 11/07/13 I'm excited. And Congrats to supbanana & sherry happy for you!

I would have to recommend Dr. Illan as well. My experience is also posted on these forums if you want to check it out. My experience was great. I don't know if Dr. Garcia has an on site co-ordinator, but Dr. Illan has Omar. He is great. Omar makes sure you are comfortable throughout your TJ experience. He also will take you out for the best broth ever and pick up some gatoraid and Water for you to enjoy at the hotel.

If you would like, we have a Facebook group. Look up "Team Illan" and request to join. You can talk to dozens of Dr.Illan patients. We are a very supportive family. Good luck with your journey, no matter who you decide!

That's just the worst. I went to the ER for pain and actually got laughed at. No imaging, nothing - they didn't take me seriously at all and the doctor acted like he didn't want to touch me. Wound up being a giant ovarian mass and a twisted tube. I didn't get treated until I went to a different ER, and by then it had wrapped around my intestines and I almost died. You'd think anyone who goes to medical school would come out understanding that they're going to have fat patients from time to time, and they may even have to touch them!

I suffer with chronic back pain due to degenerate disk disease. Before I lost my weight, the doc encouraged me to lose weight and I would feel better. Ok, why do My back feel just as bad as when I had the weight on. Anyway, just needed to vent as I take these pain meds and put this ten unit on.

Aha! Finally someone with a filter on their mouth! And you could even hear it working. Lol

Just went back East for a visit after 5 years.
Saw an old beau who looked amazed and said "You got prettier as you got older. That's not supposed to happen!" Um, thanks?
And my mom's cousin exclaimed "You look HOT! If you weren't related, I'd set you up with my son." Again, thanks?