Shells_Almost_There

I feel like I am a true "slow loser" and it has been tough. I'm 3.5 years out (as of yesterday!) and still dinging away at the daily grind. I started out with a lot of weight to lose, and never lost more than 5 pounds in a single week after the 3rd month or so. Even today my current weight after losing 100 pounds is more than some people's pre-op starting weight - crazy! But my journey is my own and I'm not giving up just because it's been rough. I wanted to get healthier and I know I already am, even if I'm still struggling to my personal goal.
Back in the early days when I was more active on this web site, people would post about losing 8 to 10 pounds a week, every week - I could only dream of such a thing. Now that I'm this far out, it frequently feels like I never had surgery at all - it's a distant memory to me now - and each day I just work on sticking with my eating plan, staying within my calorie limit per my metabolic testing, and getting at least 2 shakes down per day to keep my Protein numbers where they need to be. I'm just another person trying to get healthy and all I can do is keep on with my plan.

I just started watching again, and it is definitely a reminder of what not to do, and how easy it can be to overeat and eat the wrong things. What I'm not enjoying is how they've changed to show to cut off the story line with the patient's results. Obviously this is because they want us to watch the "follow up" show, but I'd rather hear about successes before the end of the episode!

I feel like I am a true "slow loser" and it has been tough. I'm 3.5 years out (as of yesterday!) and still dinging away at the daily grind. I started out with a lot of weight to lose, and never lost more than 5 pounds in a single week after the 3rd month or so. Even today my current weight after losing 100 pounds is more than some people's pre-op starting weight - crazy! But my journey is my own and I'm not giving up just because it's been rough. I wanted to get healthier and I know I already am, even if I'm still struggling to my personal goal.
Back in the early days when I was more active on this web site, people would post about losing 8 to 10 pounds a week, every week - I could only dream of such a thing. Now that I'm this far out, it frequently feels like I never had surgery at all - it's a distant memory to me now - and each day I just work on sticking with my eating plan, staying within my calorie limit per my metabolic testing, and getting at least 2 shakes down per day to keep my Protein numbers where they need to be. I'm just another person trying to get healthy and all I can do is keep on with my plan.

I just started watching again, and it is definitely a reminder of what not to do, and how easy it can be to overeat and eat the wrong things. What I'm not enjoying is how they've changed to show to cut off the story line with the patient's results. Obviously this is because they want us to watch the "follow up" show, but I'd rather hear about successes before the end of the episode!

I just started watching again, and it is definitely a reminder of what not to do, and how easy it can be to overeat and eat the wrong things. What I'm not enjoying is how they've changed to show to cut off the story line with the patient's results. Obviously this is because they want us to watch the "follow up" show, but I'd rather hear about successes before the end of the episode!

I feel like I am a true "slow loser" and it has been tough. I'm 3.5 years out (as of yesterday!) and still dinging away at the daily grind. I started out with a lot of weight to lose, and never lost more than 5 pounds in a single week after the 3rd month or so. Even today my current weight after losing 100 pounds is more than some people's pre-op starting weight - crazy! But my journey is my own and I'm not giving up just because it's been rough. I wanted to get healthier and I know I already am, even if I'm still struggling to my personal goal.
Back in the early days when I was more active on this web site, people would post about losing 8 to 10 pounds a week, every week - I could only dream of such a thing. Now that I'm this far out, it frequently feels like I never had surgery at all - it's a distant memory to me now - and each day I just work on sticking with my eating plan, staying within my calorie limit per my metabolic testing, and getting at least 2 shakes down per day to keep my Protein numbers where they need to be. I'm just another person trying to get healthy and all I can do is keep on with my plan.

I just started watching again, and it is definitely a reminder of what not to do, and how easy it can be to overeat and eat the wrong things. What I'm not enjoying is how they've changed to show to cut off the story line with the patient's results. Obviously this is because they want us to watch the "follow up" show, but I'd rather hear about successes before the end of the episode!

I feel like I am a true "slow loser" and it has been tough. I'm 3.5 years out (as of yesterday!) and still dinging away at the daily grind. I started out with a lot of weight to lose, and never lost more than 5 pounds in a single week after the 3rd month or so. Even today my current weight after losing 100 pounds is more than some people's pre-op starting weight - crazy! But my journey is my own and I'm not giving up just because it's been rough. I wanted to get healthier and I know I already am, even if I'm still struggling to my personal goal.
Back in the early days when I was more active on this web site, people would post about losing 8 to 10 pounds a week, every week - I could only dream of such a thing. Now that I'm this far out, it frequently feels like I never had surgery at all - it's a distant memory to me now - and each day I just work on sticking with my eating plan, staying within my calorie limit per my metabolic testing, and getting at least 2 shakes down per day to keep my Protein numbers where they need to be. I'm just another person trying to get healthy and all I can do is keep on with my plan.

Me too! I only told my husband. Not my adult children, not my close friends. I have some pointers for you. First of all I hate attention about my weight. I work with alot of women, so of course, everyone is weight obsessed. I started getting questions with the first 20 lbs. I tell people the truth about what I am eating..protein first, low carbs (NO RICE, bread, POTATOES), NO junk food(chocolate, sweets, chips) and I joined a gym. This part is true. The liquid phase was tricky...I would order the Soup and then say my stomach felt "funny" when I couldn't complete it. No one noticed. Now I am asked daily "how much have you lost?". This is where I lie....I admit to half of my weight loss! I have just hit 55lbs and admit to losing 28 since Thanksgiving. If I end up losing 80 or 90 lbs and admit to 40-45 no one will suspect VSG!. So far....my secret is mine. My feeling is, this is my own struggle, I don't need or want anyone else's judgements or negativity. I got myself into this situation, I'll get my self out! Good luck!

Totally agree with the above, Please! I have worked with a number of people who not only told everyone at work, but announced it on Facebook -- and I think it has gone well for them! It's such a personal thing. I don't mind chiming in here to share my perspective, but everyone should do what's best for them, their personalities, their relationships, etc. It's such a personal journey...

The decision was mine for certain. He gave me advice and left it up to me. He had previously had a bypass, so he knew personally about the topic as well.

I kept my surgery a secret on the strong advice of the psychologist who I was required to see as part of my surgery approval. He mentioned that people can be really negative about WL surgery and how people post-op, those who know will start to police what you put in your mouth. Super annoying. I'm now 3 years out and only a total of 10 people know who aren't medical professionals. I'm a really private person anyway, so this worked with my personality.
One other thing that helped me keep this as a "secret" is that I had previous weight loss successes that were in the 50-60 pound range, then a regain over a year or two (which is what led me to surgery) -- people close to me knew that I had lost larger amounts of weight previously so they didn't think anything of it when I started losing again.
So for me, this was a smart move and I am happy that I made that decision and stuck to it -- secrecy gets awkward sometimes, but my privacy was completely worth it!
Best of luck to you - you're in the very best part of the journey right now!

The decision was mine for certain. He gave me advice and left it up to me. He had previously had a bypass, so he knew personally about the topic as well.

I kept my surgery a secret on the strong advice of the psychologist who I was required to see as part of my surgery approval. He mentioned that people can be really negative about WL surgery and how people post-op, those who know will start to police what you put in your mouth. Super annoying. I'm now 3 years out and only a total of 10 people know who aren't medical professionals. I'm a really private person anyway, so this worked with my personality.
One other thing that helped me keep this as a "secret" is that I had previous weight loss successes that were in the 50-60 pound range, then a regain over a year or two (which is what led me to surgery) -- people close to me knew that I had lost larger amounts of weight previously so they didn't think anything of it when I started losing again.
So for me, this was a smart move and I am happy that I made that decision and stuck to it -- secrecy gets awkward sometimes, but my privacy was completely worth it!
Best of luck to you - you're in the very best part of the journey right now!

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

The decision was mine for certain. He gave me advice and left it up to me. He had previously had a bypass, so he knew personally about the topic as well.

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

Totally agree with the above, Please! I have worked with a number of people who not only told everyone at work, but announced it on Facebook -- and I think it has gone well for them! It's such a personal thing. I don't mind chiming in here to share my perspective, but everyone should do what's best for them, their personalities, their relationships, etc. It's such a personal journey...

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

Totally agree with the above, Please! I have worked with a number of people who not only told everyone at work, but announced it on Facebook -- and I think it has gone well for them! It's such a personal thing. I don't mind chiming in here to share my perspective, but everyone should do what's best for them, their personalities, their relationships, etc. It's such a personal journey...

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

It seems like people try to unequivocally quantify "not telling people about surgery" as "lying," and at least for me, it's just not that clean cut. Much like many people don't talk openly about personal bedroom activities or their finances, no one needs to know about my diet and weight loss plans. Not telling someone about a private matter is not lying. Not a single person has ever asked me "Did you have weight loss surgery?" in the past 3.5 years. I had knee surgery about 6 months after my sleeve and I maybe told 5 people about that until it was done and people saw me on crutches. I'm just super private about things that aren't anybody else's business. But that's just me -- everyone is on their own journeys around here and more power to us all.
Also, here's something interesting - No one ever noticed that I didn't eat much food because I didn't make my diet a secret, but they sure did notice the whole "not drinking while eating" thing - because that's just not the norm in our society. That was rough at first - especially social things like Happy Hour or parties like the annual Super Bowl event that I go to.

Totally agree with the above, Please! I have worked with a number of people who not only told everyone at work, but announced it on Facebook -- and I think it has gone well for them! It's such a personal thing. I don't mind chiming in here to share my perspective, but everyone should do what's best for them, their personalities, their relationships, etc. It's such a personal journey...