Daydra

You are not a whale, you are a woman. Stop doing that.

Ha!
And I finally said "yes you can come down and drive me" ( didn't really need her I have a perfectly good husband at home)
So the crazy b***h (gotta love her) shows up on my front porch the morning of the surgery, with not 1 but 2 platters of Cookies in her hands and a cookie hanging out of her mouth because she was "starving"
I really don't know how I got fat...

WW is great for many. For guys like me it's like driving up a steep, icy road. Lotta spinning, eventually going backward. Sharing was great in the commune but for losing fat it was like p****** on a forest fire.

Well I was going to say your first mistake you made is being very close to your mom!
My mom is kept at a very long arms distance!
That b***h is crazy!
But really you know everything she is saying is out of worry. But you cannot let it stop you from doing the things you need to do for yourself.
Talk to her tell her that this is a done deal and you need her support because it is a big deal.
It's not a dumb thing but its a BIG thing and you don't want to do it alone.
That being said?
If she can't get on board you may have to not involve her until its done...

I'm not letting my husband Google it! Right now he is fixing me an egg several mornings a week. Those days will be long gone once he knows an alternative Protein source!!!

Did you log it in mfp? Hahaha I read the average ejaculation has about 20calories lol.

The hair loss is a byproduct of the rapid weight loss. Protein and Biotin won't stop or slow it more than a little. My surgeon said its just something you have to accept for a brief while. It will grow back! Hey I'd rather have half my hair for a couple months than not lose the weight

This is what my surgeon told me... "For the love of God, if you don't do anything else, give the post op diet 100% compliance."
The reason that you are on liquids only right now is that the only thing holding your stomach together right now is staples. Neglecting to follow the post op diet could do extreme damage. Your tissues are probably still swollen, so solids will not easily fit/pass through. If you stretch your stomach anywhere, that staple line could leak, and we all know those are bad, bad, bad. A bad leak could literally kill you or put you in the hospital for months. Sorry to be Debbie Downer, but there is real risk to not following the post op diet.
Having said that, you mentioned pain. Someone already suggested this, but you really might be well advised to call your surgeon's office. Better safe than sorry. They would much rather hear from you that find out later that you had a complication that could have been more easily corrected if it was detected earlier.
Best of luck, hope that you feel better soon. If it is just hunger, it will pass eventually. (usually sometime after you pull all your hair out, you head spins around in circles on your shoulders, and no family member wants to be in the same room with you any longer...)
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Thanks Lipstick and Misty. Your words are encouraging. I am going to remember this. I have started an anti-buyers remorse book for myself. I have put in "before" pictures and am journaling. The pictures alone should scare me into eternal gratitude:). I'm listing things like today that make me want to look ahead and never go back.

Hang on, Elaine. This is just one part of your life. There are many more factors that define your worth.
Don't let the past oppress you.
There is a giant rising up in you.
You will get past your past.
There is good reason to believe you will beat this.
You are mad.
Good.
Turn the anger on fat itself, not you as a person.
Love you, hate fat.
You will find a new life soon.
Make it happen.
Don't take no.

My pleasure. Wish you the best.

What about those silly little clippie things? (Clearly I have no clue what they might be called...) They're 4 inches long or so and have little suspender clips at each end. You could clip one to the back of your top to pull it in from the back. Probably will look kinda dumb from the back, but it'll probably buy you quite a bit of time before you actually have to suck it up and buy new ones. They would probably be found at a fabric store.
Congrats on your hard work!

Please forgive me for double posting if someone else has specifically mentioned this (I quit reading at page 4...).
Please, those of you that are experiencing feelings of loneliness, feeling down, feeling regret, can't figure out how you are going to live your life with these enormous changes that you are making, find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. There is nothing "wrong" with you, you are simply making a huge life change and there are going to be an unimaginable number of emotions (both good and uncomfortable) that are going to go along with that. Sometimes family and friends won't understand. Forums like this one can't substitute for a professional therapist. Having a full range of really strong emotions is completely normal with this big of a life change, and you will need to learn what they are trying to tell you and how to deal with them. A trained therapist can help with that. Maybe you are experiencing situational depression, or maybe you are simply overwhelmed right now by all the changes.
For many of us, our issues with weight is a result of other underlying emotional issues. That may not be the case for you, but there is a lot of emotion wrapped up in being overweight or obese. I expect that you will get hit with emotions periodically that you have no idea where they came from. After making such an enormous change to better ourselves, we deserve happiness and contentment with our new lives and our new bodies. Don't forget that "we" includes "you". That's going take some work and support for our mind, as well. I hope that this post is taken in the love and support that it's offered.
Wishing happiness to all those struggling,
Daydra

Please forgive me for double posting if someone else has specifically mentioned this (I quit reading at page 4...).
Please, those of you that are experiencing feelings of loneliness, feeling down, feeling regret, can't figure out how you are going to live your life with these enormous changes that you are making, find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. There is nothing "wrong" with you, you are simply making a huge life change and there are going to be an unimaginable number of emotions (both good and uncomfortable) that are going to go along with that. Sometimes family and friends won't understand. Forums like this one can't substitute for a professional therapist. Having a full range of really strong emotions is completely normal with this big of a life change, and you will need to learn what they are trying to tell you and how to deal with them. A trained therapist can help with that. Maybe you are experiencing situational depression, or maybe you are simply overwhelmed right now by all the changes.
For many of us, our issues with weight is a result of other underlying emotional issues. That may not be the case for you, but there is a lot of emotion wrapped up in being overweight or obese. I expect that you will get hit with emotions periodically that you have no idea where they came from. After making such an enormous change to better ourselves, we deserve happiness and contentment with our new lives and our new bodies. Don't forget that "we" includes "you". That's going take some work and support for our mind, as well. I hope that this post is taken in the love and support that it's offered.
Wishing happiness to all those struggling,
Daydra

Please forgive me for double posting if someone else has specifically mentioned this (I quit reading at page 4...).
Please, those of you that are experiencing feelings of loneliness, feeling down, feeling regret, can't figure out how you are going to live your life with these enormous changes that you are making, find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. There is nothing "wrong" with you, you are simply making a huge life change and there are going to be an unimaginable number of emotions (both good and uncomfortable) that are going to go along with that. Sometimes family and friends won't understand. Forums like this one can't substitute for a professional therapist. Having a full range of really strong emotions is completely normal with this big of a life change, and you will need to learn what they are trying to tell you and how to deal with them. A trained therapist can help with that. Maybe you are experiencing situational depression, or maybe you are simply overwhelmed right now by all the changes.
For many of us, our issues with weight is a result of other underlying emotional issues. That may not be the case for you, but there is a lot of emotion wrapped up in being overweight or obese. I expect that you will get hit with emotions periodically that you have no idea where they came from. After making such an enormous change to better ourselves, we deserve happiness and contentment with our new lives and our new bodies. Don't forget that "we" includes "you". That's going take some work and support for our mind, as well. I hope that this post is taken in the love and support that it's offered.
Wishing happiness to all those struggling,
Daydra

My partner Eric thinks I'm really hot in my sleeve cheerleader outfit... That is all :-)

Get a tri suit. This is a one-piece zip up the front spandex athletic number that triathletes wear that can go from the lake to the bike to the run all without changing clothes. I do sprint and olympic distance races over the last 4 years at weights ranging from about 315 to 245. Danskin makes triathlon apparel, but I don't find their quality that great. Try www.teamestrogen.com and search for tri suit. Depending on your height and weight, you likely won't need a plus size tri suit. I'm 5'8" and weigh about 285 right now and I think I can still manage to fit into some of my tri suits that aren't plus size. If your weight on your banner is accurate, I expect that you should fit an xl in most brands (they are spandex, remember). You want them as tight as possible without restricting movement or busting zippers anyway. You would probably be better off picking one that offers compression. You will spend a significant amount of money on this garment, but I'm telling you, it's worth every stinking penny to be able to be active. You will still bounce, but it will provide enough support that unless you do something ridiculous, it shouldn't be uncomfortable. At least that has been my experience.
Best of luck! (expect to spend $120 or so, unless you find a good deal)
Daydra

I am with Cheri!
Shoes, specifically boots for me. Now I have normal sized calves, I cant stop buying the damn things.
And the saddest thing is since I broke my ankle at the beginning of the year I have barely been able to wear them (as most a heels and that dont go so well at the moment).
I also like to cook, keep feeding everyone...I live alone so there is always way too much food. My workmates mainly benefit from this over cooking.
One could argue that I moved to alcohol, as I mostly want to drink rather than eat when things get bad, but am a lush at 3 drinks...so not really happening there either.
Never been able to get into the coffee thing at all...