DonRodolfo

I'd be more concerned about a person who wasn't scared the night before. Sure it's risky and complications can and do happen. This surgery gave me my life back. I wasted 10 years on the sofa eating myself to death. I'd gladly have this surgery again.

I'm thinking @@LipstickLady WASN'T making a joke about her 50+%!

I'd be more concerned about a person who wasn't scared the night before. Sure it's risky and complications can and do happen. This surgery gave me my life back. I wasted 10 years on the sofa eating myself to death. I'd gladly have this surgery again.

I'd be more concerned about a person who wasn't scared the night before. Sure it's risky and complications can and do happen. This surgery gave me my life back. I wasted 10 years on the sofa eating myself to death. I'd gladly have this surgery again.

I'd be more concerned about a person who wasn't scared the night before. Sure it's risky and complications can and do happen. This surgery gave me my life back. I wasted 10 years on the sofa eating myself to death. I'd gladly have this surgery again.

I'd be more concerned about a person who wasn't scared the night before. Sure it's risky and complications can and do happen. This surgery gave me my life back. I wasted 10 years on the sofa eating myself to death. I'd gladly have this surgery again.

While the sleeve is a marvelous tool, you have a limited time window to work with - typically a year to 18 months. After this point your stomach will be at it's final size, your body will have settled down, and you will not lose weight so easily as you will be at maintenance. You need to lose as much weight as you can within the window, and it looks like women have a harder time losing than men (I know, it's not fair).
I see two things you need: accountability (tracking (like MFP) will help here) and support. Find a support group in your area asap and get involved.

Not to sound harsh, but damn it, you know what to do, now that you've undergone this major/life-changing surgery...quit whining and just do it!

The first two months were the most challenging for me, as well as almost everyone else!

You will get through this, however you have to want it, nobody can do it for you...and trust me, you do want it!

This has been a blessing for me and my wife (she was sleeved exactly 2 months after me)...and you will see, the transformation will be friggin' incredible! You cannot fathom how much the weight loss is going to change your life...you just gotta get through the gettin' through!

Good luck and Godspeed for a quick recovery! (Tough love rant over! )

The only person that said anything about anyone being perfect is you - perfect is not the point. If you're so thin-skinned that advice or criticism from someone with vastly more experience and weightloss than you has to be sugar-coated, I have no time for nonsense.

I hope you didn't come here for someone to tell you "it's okay, just try harder tomorrow". It's not okay. Your doctor gave you instructions for specific reasons. What do you think will happen if you cheat like this right out of surgery? Eat that salami or Krispy Kreme and you could find yourself in the ER and it won't be pretty.
A friend of mine here lost part of her lung due to an infection caused by a leak. She was on a liquid diet for SIX MONTHS because of it.

I'm thinking @@LipstickLady WASN'T making a joke about her 50+%!

I'm thinking @@LipstickLady WASN'T making a joke about her 50+%!

I don't miss shopping in the tiny plus sized section of the store that was mostly old lady clothes.
I don't miss my thighs chaffing together.
I don't miss the boob sweat or underboob rash.
I don't miss huffing and puffing on family walks.
I don't miss being the fat mom at every event.
I don't miss the dread of running into someone I've not seen in years cuz I'd gained so much weight.
I don't miss having to have every hair in place and makeup done every time I left the house because I didn't want to be the sloppy fat lady.
I don't miss sweating uncontrollably doing every day tasks.
I don't miss feeling cramped in a bathroom stall, turning sideways going down an aisle or squeezing past people and still bumping them.
I don't miss having to request a table over a booth or if one was not available, squeezing in, belly and boobs resting against the table.
I don't miss being unable to paint my own toenails and breathing at the same time.
I don't miss wearing all black all the time cuz no one would be able to tell that I was fat if I did that. (Eye roll)
I don't miss making excuses to get out of doing stuff because being so fat made me so tired...
I could go on forever. Nope. I don't miss a thing.

Hi unhappysleever, thanks for opening up about your complications following surgery. It sounds like your kidneys are ok NOW as long as you are vigilent about drinking the required fluids--is that right? So, all the REALLY bad things are in the PAST now and what you need to FIX are basically:
1) Not feeling nausea when you first wake up;
2) Getting better sleep
3) Feeling happy every day and enjoying life again
This is not meant to be disrespectful to your surgeon, but the truth is that medical professionals are super busy people and sometimes they don't really HEAR us unless we really make a lot of NOISE about what is bothering us. Maybe you have to make your point more strongly that this nausea and lack of sleep and depression is NOT OK WITH YOU and you need your surgeon's help to fix it. You are much closer than you were to FEELING BETTER. Don't slide backward now!
In one of your posts, you said that you've lost 66 pounds and you don't care if you don't lose any more. Does that mean that you have reached your weight loss goal already? So you are at maintenance at just 4 months from your surgery? If that is the case--congratulations!. But if that is NOT the case--you said something else. You said you think it's gonna take you 6 to 12 months to feel better. The first 6-9 months after surgery is the time when the weight comes off the "easiest." After that, it slows down. So RIGHT NOW is the time when you need to be following your Bariatric Eating program the closest without deviating from it. I don't need to say this--you KNOW it's true--filling up on bread before a meal definitely WAS NOT on MY program, nor is it on yours. This was not meant as a "guilt trip", just a reality check for you.
I hope by now from all the people who have responded to your post, that you realize there are a lot of people on this forum who care about you and your long-term success. Like I've said, you have your sleeve. That cannot be changed now. You must comply with the lifestyle or you face more real life-threating complications in the future if you CHOOSE not to. The choice is yours. You CAN live a happy and complication-free life. If you do not know how to do that, please find the resources to make that happen. It IS in your power.

You mean the kind of normal where you just ate what you wanted, as much as you wanted, when you wanted, and look in the mirror and be proud of what you saw? That normal? The kind of normal where you walked into a room and felt every set of eyes on you when your hand smacked against a chair because you misjudged how wide you are? Or are you missing the kind of normal where you're at the doctors office looking at your blood pressure and pulse and wondering how you're not dead, or seeing your A1C and blood glucose level and wondering why you're not in a diabetic coma, or falling asleep at a stoplight because the sleep apnea kept you from sleeping last night? Are those the kind of normals you're missing?
Keep your normal, and have mine too. My life is sometimes inconvenienced because I've had sleeve surgery, but I'll take it over the "normal" life I had over a year ago anytime.
You have been given an incredible second chance at life that not everyone gets. Take the gift, make the most of it, and enjoy all life has to offer or sit there and feel sorry for yourself - choice is yours.

You mean the kind of normal where you just ate what you wanted, as much as you wanted, when you wanted, and look in the mirror and be proud of what you saw? That normal? The kind of normal where you walked into a room and felt every set of eyes on you when your hand smacked against a chair because you misjudged how wide you are? Or are you missing the kind of normal where you're at the doctors office looking at your blood pressure and pulse and wondering how you're not dead, or seeing your A1C and blood glucose level and wondering why you're not in a diabetic coma, or falling asleep at a stoplight because the sleep apnea kept you from sleeping last night? Are those the kind of normals you're missing?
Keep your normal, and have mine too. My life is sometimes inconvenienced because I've had sleeve surgery, but I'll take it over the "normal" life I had over a year ago anytime.
You have been given an incredible second chance at life that not everyone gets. Take the gift, make the most of it, and enjoy all life has to offer or sit there and feel sorry for yourself - choice is yours.

I have to wonder if you're not suffering from depression which is actually common in our situation. May I suggest you see someone.
Coming from a person that would frequently start their day with 3500 calories worth of Breakfast, I'm here to tell you the only regret I have is that I wasted 10+ years of my life as a sedentary slug. I eat whatever I want, but I make smarter choices about it. I have more energy than I did at 40 years old and I ran 6.4 miles yesterday (without the need to be in the hospital today ) and I am training for my first half-marathon. A year ago I would have told you that you were on crack if you told me I'd be doing this today.
Yeah, you've given up a few things but you have gained SO MUCH more and you need to take advantage of it to get the full benefit.

You mean the kind of normal where you just ate what you wanted, as much as you wanted, when you wanted, and look in the mirror and be proud of what you saw? That normal? The kind of normal where you walked into a room and felt every set of eyes on you when your hand smacked against a chair because you misjudged how wide you are? Or are you missing the kind of normal where you're at the doctors office looking at your blood pressure and pulse and wondering how you're not dead, or seeing your A1C and blood glucose level and wondering why you're not in a diabetic coma, or falling asleep at a stoplight because the sleep apnea kept you from sleeping last night? Are those the kind of normals you're missing?
Keep your normal, and have mine too. My life is sometimes inconvenienced because I've had sleeve surgery, but I'll take it over the "normal" life I had over a year ago anytime.
You have been given an incredible second chance at life that not everyone gets. Take the gift, make the most of it, and enjoy all life has to offer or sit there and feel sorry for yourself - choice is yours.

I found that walking stairs worked best. Two meatballs at less than a month out? Girl! I can't do that at a year out!

You mean the kind of normal where you just ate what you wanted, as much as you wanted, when you wanted, and look in the mirror and be proud of what you saw? That normal? The kind of normal where you walked into a room and felt every set of eyes on you when your hand smacked against a chair because you misjudged how wide you are? Or are you missing the kind of normal where you're at the doctors office looking at your blood pressure and pulse and wondering how you're not dead, or seeing your A1C and blood glucose level and wondering why you're not in a diabetic coma, or falling asleep at a stoplight because the sleep apnea kept you from sleeping last night? Are those the kind of normals you're missing?
Keep your normal, and have mine too. My life is sometimes inconvenienced because I've had sleeve surgery, but I'll take it over the "normal" life I had over a year ago anytime.
You have been given an incredible second chance at life that not everyone gets. Take the gift, make the most of it, and enjoy all life has to offer or sit there and feel sorry for yourself - choice is yours.

Unhappysleever--the "promise" needs to be only to yourself--no one else. You don't have to "try your best". Just do it!!! Until you make up your mind to stop your negative self-talk and start telling yourself that you CAN and WILL do this, your are going to continue to feel bad. That probably sounds really mean and cruel to you. Of course it's great that we have these boards to "vent" our feelings and frustrations. But when you say that you are "just not interested" that is much more than just venting frustration.
You've been talking about complications you've been continuing to have. You're 4 months out--are they medical complications that are being treated? Surgical complications are generally resolved by this time. Do you need to be more assertive with your medical team?
Ask yourself--what are you waiting for that will make this not a "chore" as you call it. It is what it is. Please take some time to really think about how your negative thoughts and attitude are affecting your ability to live each day with joy. YOU wake up each day and consciously make that decision. Just remember--what we say to ourselves has EVERYTHING to do with how easy or how hard we make our WLS story.

Your new life doesn't start after surgery, it starts before. Before is the time to start exercising and learning the habits that will make and keep you successful after surgery!
Best of luck to you!

My Facebook friends list DOUBLED in the last year alone because of this right here. I have met the most amazing people during this journey - people who inspire me and make me want to be a better me (present company included). People who I inspire (imagine the surreal feeling of being told that YOU inspire someone and by more than one person and more than one time).

Your new life doesn't start after surgery, it starts before. Before is the time to start exercising and learning the habits that will make and keep you successful after surgery!
Best of luck to you!

Sorry, no, ingesting anything else will only make her feel worse. Her tiny stomach is already full, there is no where for the Water to go!
Otherwise you're spot on!