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It sounds like you both have a little anxiety about the surgery and this is how it's coming out, but it will all work out. That is so nice of your mom to offer to help care for you after the surgery. I agree that it is really great to have some help post-op, even if you could get by on your own. The first night, I slept on the couch downstairs and asked my husband to come down during the night to check on me (just to make sure I was breathing...lol...which was totally irrational but it made me feel better!). He also made some of my drinks and gave me my meds when I was feeling really punky. I really appreciated it and would have done the same for him.
I would definitely work around your mom's schedule. She is probably taking vacation time to do this, which is very generous of her. A few weeks either way isn't going to make a big difference in your success, since this is a lifetime change.
By the way, my surgery got moved at the last minute, and my husband couldn't get off of work and my parents were on vacation, and all of my friends (who knew) were working. My husband dropped me off for the surgery and met me in my room many hours later (he was there when they wheeled me in). It really was no big deal that he wasn't there sitting around twiddling his thumbs while I was in pre-op, surgery and post-op. The surgeon called him after to tell him everything went well (I gave him the phone number while we were in pre-op).
Personally, I would take your mom a bouquet of flowers or pretty spring plant and tell her how much you appreciate her help and support during this time.
Wishing you all the best!

55 pounds down.

How much have you lost in 10 weeks, if you don't mind me asking?

I'll be interested to see how you do this week, b/c my RD actually recommends alternating higher and lower calorie days. Your body wants to be in homeostatis and the alternating calorie days can help shock it into weight loss. this is sort of the principle of the Mosley diet that is so popular right now.

Yes...yes...yes! Very well said. If people are posting these things and don't want constructive feedback, then they really don't want help. They want people to enable them. I don't believe in doing that.

Yes...yes...yes! Very well said. If people are posting these things and don't want constructive feedback, then they really don't want help. They want people to enable them. I don't believe in doing that.

Yes...yes...yes! Very well said. If people are posting these things and don't want constructive feedback, then they really don't want help. They want people to enable them. I don't believe in doing that.

I don't think you are being petty at all and sometimes it helps to vent. But remember that her reality is her reality--it actually would suck to have to get all new clothes from gaining weight, even if it is a size 2 to a size 6. I would try not to compare yourself to her (I know it's difficult!) and think of her as an ally. Remember that she may be trying to be supportive in her own way...and if not, you can distance yourself. But remember...keep your friends close, and your "enemies" closer! LOL. You never know, she may end up being a great part of your support system! If she is trying to be healthy too it will be nice to have someone else there who is eating healthy, and maybe you can even go on walks together at lunchtime--etc.

It sounds like you both have a little anxiety about the surgery and this is how it's coming out, but it will all work out. That is so nice of your mom to offer to help care for you after the surgery. I agree that it is really great to have some help post-op, even if you could get by on your own. The first night, I slept on the couch downstairs and asked my husband to come down during the night to check on me (just to make sure I was breathing...lol...which was totally irrational but it made me feel better!). He also made some of my drinks and gave me my meds when I was feeling really punky. I really appreciated it and would have done the same for him.
I would definitely work around your mom's schedule. She is probably taking vacation time to do this, which is very generous of her. A few weeks either way isn't going to make a big difference in your success, since this is a lifetime change.
By the way, my surgery got moved at the last minute, and my husband couldn't get off of work and my parents were on vacation, and all of my friends (who knew) were working. My husband dropped me off for the surgery and met me in my room many hours later (he was there when they wheeled me in). It really was no big deal that he wasn't there sitting around twiddling his thumbs while I was in pre-op, surgery and post-op. The surgeon called him after to tell him everything went well (I gave him the phone number while we were in pre-op).
Personally, I would take your mom a bouquet of flowers or pretty spring plant and tell her how much you appreciate her help and support during this time.
Wishing you all the best!

It sounds like you both have a little anxiety about the surgery and this is how it's coming out, but it will all work out. That is so nice of your mom to offer to help care for you after the surgery. I agree that it is really great to have some help post-op, even if you could get by on your own. The first night, I slept on the couch downstairs and asked my husband to come down during the night to check on me (just to make sure I was breathing...lol...which was totally irrational but it made me feel better!). He also made some of my drinks and gave me my meds when I was feeling really punky. I really appreciated it and would have done the same for him.
I would definitely work around your mom's schedule. She is probably taking vacation time to do this, which is very generous of her. A few weeks either way isn't going to make a big difference in your success, since this is a lifetime change.
By the way, my surgery got moved at the last minute, and my husband couldn't get off of work and my parents were on vacation, and all of my friends (who knew) were working. My husband dropped me off for the surgery and met me in my room many hours later (he was there when they wheeled me in). It really was no big deal that he wasn't there sitting around twiddling his thumbs while I was in pre-op, surgery and post-op. The surgeon called him after to tell him everything went well (I gave him the phone number while we were in pre-op).
Personally, I would take your mom a bouquet of flowers or pretty spring plant and tell her how much you appreciate her help and support during this time.
Wishing you all the best!

Now that you've had a chance to vent (and boy, do I understand that need, sometimes!) it's time to get to reality.
I agree that it sounds like your mom is passive-aggressively expressing her worry about you having this surgery, and that's understandable - hey, all surgeries have risks and those risks are the FIRST and LAST things that moms think about - including my mom, and I'm more than 50 years old
If you do have the surgery on May 2nd, did I understand correctly that your mom won't be out of town until the 7th? If so, it's all golden, and she'll have the chance to see that you're okay, AND you will have your ride home. By the way, that is pretty normal procedure - you'll be a matter of a day or so since having anesthesia, and you'll probably have had at least some pain meds. You won't be at your best cognitively because of it, and your ability to respond to things quickly will be reduced so they want to make sure you get home safely. However, you will likely be just fine on your own most of the time. As others have already said, you'll be doing very little but sipping and walking around the place for a few days.
I get that your mom is making the schedule tough, but you have to remember that ultimately you're expecting a favor from her - family or not, she ALSO has a life and isn't at your beck and call, any more than your schedule should revolve around her. If you want her help, then it's right to accommodate where you can. If the schedule HAS to change because of insurance, move it out one additional week - I know you don't want to wait - heck, I'm not happy about waiting until late July, but the alternative is not good for my husband or me, so I'm sucking it up (and I've been planning this since last summer, too!). It's a compromise you can make that isn't a HUGE thing when you think about it logically. The alternative is talk to the hospital and arrange for late discharge, tell them you can't have an escort home until after 5 PM or whatever and ask what they can do. The likelihood is that there is something they can do if it's a question of a few hours. Then get a friend to come and get you after work.
Hang in there, it will all work out. Just take a deep breath and don't panic. There ARE options, you just have to think it through.
Best of luck!

Way to go!

You look beautiful! Great job!

Thanks for the info, HockeyMa. My stones are dissolving right now (hence the teeny black pieces in my urine) but I'm paranoid bc my mom had bilateral oxalate stones this summer (I guess they are hereditary) and had to have an emergency lipsotripsy done. They would have tried to let them pass if it had just been one but having two, you can go into renal failure, as I'm sure you know. I'm glad your surgery is behind you and hope you heal well and quickly!

Way to slay the carb monster!!

all great things to work on! congrats on your new exercise program. I think the rule about not drinking after eating (at least 45 minutes) is really important. I have noticed the longer I go without drinking after, especially, the longer I stay full.

so glad you are feeling better! I have been following your story, as my doctor thinks that I probably have kidney stones. Fortunately, mine seem to be breaking up themselves right now (my main symptom is urine that looks like it has black pepper in it, plus some pain). The PA said they don't think the surgery precipitated this, but I did read that dehydration can precipitate kidney stones. I have been drinking a ton but it never feels like enough (even at 100 oz or more). Did your surgeon say whether they thought your stones were related to your surgery? Still glad I got it, but just curious. The worst is that they think mine are oxalate material so I need to limit beans, greens, soy protein, and black tea, which are a huge part of my diet since I'm vegetarian. The RD said hydration is more important than that though.
Sending you continued healing thoughts! Thank you for sharing your story.

That outlook will surely help you post surgery!

Of COURSE you weigh after a poop! I just wish I could take off my glasses too - but then I wouldn't be able to read the scale!

The cheese was about 3 oz. I do weigh and measure everything I eat. I was eating like 300 calories a day and then hit a stall. My NUT told me to add some carbs in like apple sauce etc. That upped my calories real fast. But thank you for telling me that is a lot of calories because I feel like I am stuffing myself and most people tell me that I'm not eating enough! If I eat protein like fish...I can only eat about 2 oz. So if I was just to eat "normal" and not try to force myself to finish my protein drinks etc. I'd probably be at around 400 calories. How far out are you?
I hit a stall at about 10 days post op and was told to up my calories and carbs...I did and my stall broke a week and a half later. I don't like upping my carbs though...it is just one of those borderline things that if I can do without...the longer the better for me. And I don't like force feeding myself to meet my calorie goal.
So I do think I need to start listening to my body more.

great job! looks like you are going to need a smaller belt!!

there it's a post i recently read about a young woman who gained 50 of the 100 pounds she had recently lost.....we have careful

I have found that it is easy to find ways around the sleeve. I can eat anything I like in small portions. So like they say this is only a tool and what we do with it is up to us. As long as you follow your plan and learn to live a healthier lifestyle you will be fine.

That's a great new mind set--good for you! :-)

IHOP charges 15.99 for an omelet? that seems like a lot! I agree with you--if you asked for the omelet a la carte, you would think that would come with a price reduction. Next time, could you eat a bit of your husband's omelet if he offers one, or order off of the kids' menu? At least you found something that worked well for you. And think, in the past, you probably would have happily paid to not gain and even lose weight!