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newat52 My mother used to tell me when I was younger, "Don't go to class with all the answers, when you don't know the course materials". So when you approach a situation and you have the answers already, you can never truly "Learn" from that situation. I think we have a case of that here.

People who pose these types of questions or statements, only want to hear "their" views echoed. So if you are not part of the echo chamber, you are just as flawed as their so called "Friends".

People who pose these types of questions or statements, only want to hear "their" views echoed. So if you are not part of the echo chamber, you are just as flawed as their so called "Friends".

I suggest seeking professional help from a psychiatrist who specializes in speaking with patients who have had WLS. Someone who has been through it themselves would be a good idea.

Keep on looking. You will eventually find the right Dr for you. Please don't give up. I also have been living with depression and anxiety for years but as the others say yo have to keep searching for answers. I know it feels like there is no end but you will see once you get on the right meds. good luck to you.

I totally understand what all of you are saying. I been trying different doctors and I tried all different kinds of meds and still none of them work. I tried this out to see of anyone else has this problem because I don't know what else to do.

If one therapist didn't work for you try another. There are many out there and you have to find the one that works for you. I have a fabulous Social Worker (T) and I'm not ashamed to tell anyone. My T has helped me tremendously and will continue after I have my surgery. Please seek the help. Do it for your health.

It's time to get yourself to see a psychiatrist for some antidepressants to help with your depression. This is a long term depression and you need something to help balance your chemical inbalance. No shame, no guilt, just a different path to success and a happy life style. you are so young a beautiful and now it's time to start to enjoy life. Let me know how your doing when you follow through. food is not your friend, you need it to survive....

Before I did the gastric sleeve surgery. I was depressed and didn't do nothing all day long. Just eat and sleep. I have no job. Trouble finding one. However, I did the surgery January 18, 2013 . Well the dr said that I will feel different and be motivated once the pounds I lose. However, I'm 5 months since I did the surgery and I'm still the same way as before or even worse.i lost 50 pounds but I'm depressed and still eat a lot, junk food all day and lay all day. I have no motivation at all. Am I the only one here that has this problem? And I'm not losing weight because I eat alot and junk food all day. Uggg I give up. And I'm 26 year old female. I should live life. Not be home all day depressed.

And it sucks because its alot of money to go to the doctors and buying meds when you have no insurance. That's why I stopped going and taken meds.

Anna,
I know that you've been to a lot of doctors and been on lots of meds. But, have you been to ongoing counseling with a mental health counselor? Some people need meds (and maybe you do), but for me and a lot of other people, meds didn't work. What I needed was a counselor to help me work though issues that were effecting me and causing my depression. Working through those issues, whatever they are, is hard and takes time. But, it's worth it.

OMG my life reads like a soap opera guide I am well aware, Its just that your so honest and put yourself out there and I really enjoyed your posts before ,your hysterical at times, moving and uplifting. Laura-ven I think alot of people would agree with me I think your great.

I am trying not too. Seeing people responds is helping me out. Thank you:)

Annag I hope you dont give up on yourself. You deserve a chance to be happy. DONT GIVE UP ON YOURSELF!!

I agree with you about @laura-ven, when I an feeling like shi*, she will say something funny and I just LMAO. It goes the same when she is telling someone the truth, and they then talk BS to her I want to crawl through my laptop and whip their A**. When you talk with @laura-ven it's like being on Oprah's couch, I told her before she should charge

Yes, it's normal.
Most folks are advised to try for a medicine cup, 2 TBSP every 15 minutes. You can really just wet your mouth with it and get that in.
It will get easier as the days go. Just keep at it. It really is a full time job, from the minute you get up to the time you go to bed.
Just try to sip even it it seems like you feel full. It really is just that your new tummy is swollen.
I promise it will get better each day and in a few weeks it will be great. I am 3 months out tomorrow and I can do over 100oz a day without a problem.

Listen I know the thought of weight gain is scary!
Prozac can do the same! But it's a balancing act.
Because you are depressed now you are eating things you shouldn't trust me the weight gain is worse with the untreated depression than it is with the medicines!
I eat to stuff the feelings. I eat to comfort myself.
I eat to the point of pain to ease the pain.
I guess what I'm saying is I know what you are going through.
Please seek help again.

Hi Annag,
I don't know if this would be the same depression or if generally depression is depression but I lost my Mom to Bone Marrow Cancer. We were best friends. It had been only she & I since I was 8 y/o because that's when my Dad died. I moved to CA & she moved out with me. Then after 10 years, we moved back to MI (I grabbed a husband along the way ~ ). My husband & I had a house built & she moved in with us..so we had been together for most of my life. She passed away when I was 42 & it was the darkest time of my life. My husband & kids lost me for the year I was my Mom's caregiver & then they lost me for yet another year as I went thru my depression.
Thankfully my OB/GYN picked up on it & he put me on (I believe) Zoloft (?) & strongly encouraged me to seek counseling, as well as joining a gym. He wanted proof of me joining a gym & wanted the name of my counselor! I never did provide proof of joining a gym but I did join Curves & I did go see someone he recommended & within months, I came back to my old self. The combination of all 3 treatments, really helped. I don't know if the same would work for you but what do you have to lose? You're wasting precious days on earth away feeling this way. My heart bleeds for you Each day is a gift, ask any cancer patient! Please do something good for yourself & follow the suggestions you're getting here. Go seek another doctor or counselor, & who knows, maybe the very next one you seek out will be the perfect match to heal you! God bless!

I have in the past felt like a human guinea pig!
I've been on so many! I suffer from major depression. My life is good I have everything I could want but that doesn't stop my depression.
It's funny because after everything I've been in all these years I ended up just going back to Prozac.
It was the only one that kinda worked and the side affects where livable compared to some of the really bad ones I had with others.
I answered your post because I have a bad habit of stopping my meds (I don't know why)
But things seem to be going good and I slowly start forgetting and then quit. Well thus last year I really worked on keeping them up. And have been doing good. I had surgery in November and have been losing OK... 64 pounds with 36 To go.
I started about a month or so ago skipping my pills forgetting them then just stopping.
I have slowly so slowly that I didn't really notice been slipping back into a state of depression
I came clean just today with my husband about the meds so here I go again starting them back up. It's what I have to do. And yes I have up until recently been "happy" and motivated with my loss.

But now you are off all meds! I know how that goes, it starts out ok.... Then it slowly gets worse and worse until you end up hopeless and saying nothing will work.
They are not miracle workers (meds) but they even you out a bit so you can get some perspective.
I know it's hard I've tried so many and have quit so many times. But it just gets worse! So something is better than nothing.

Depression is a serious issue. And I'm sorry that your surgeon lead you to believe the sleeve would help or take it away. They (weight and depression) are two different things. I know, I have been living with diagnosed depression for 20 years.. That is 20 years of being both fat and skinny.
When you are in the midst of it, it is hard to dig out, but you must.
Sometimes it takes a different doctor or a different medicine. I would start small and call you primary doctor and make an appointment. Tell them what you just told us and ask for guidance. Make yourself go out once a day even if its just in your own yard to get some air and sun.
You are young and have so much life ahead of you, please don't let this consume you. There is help you just have to reach out for it.

Laura-ven, wow you have inspired me with your honesty, I always read your posts and your advice because I feel you respond truthful and you always encourage people and just by how you are I respect your responses immencely. You dont sound depressed to me whatever it is your going through I hope you work it out , and its all good.

I am so sorry you actually feel like this , I have thought of you of a very strong woman and I think you are. I hope you get past this very soon. No one deserves to feel like that.

I don't know whether or not to take it as a compliment or not when my youngest hugs me and says "Mom you're not a fluffy as you used to be". He is at that "truthful age", so I just accept the hug and I don't question it