LifetimeLoser

Maybe your feelings of shame are tied to feelings of failure. The decision to have weight loss surgery is not a simple one. It is not an easy one either. It isn't like one can just decide to do it or buy it and it is done. It takes time, money, thoughts, lifestyle changes. You say you have a type a, driven personality? Maybe somewhere inside you, you feel as if this is the one thing you could not conquer on the own without help. Giving in to weight loss surgery was giving up on you succeeding by yourself? Maybe the shame is tied up in there. Just a thought...

I feel anyone that has been trying to lose weight for a lifetime has the same struggles. I go to a support group with my comprehensive weight loss program which has sleeve, band, and bypass patients and we all seem to have the same struggles and go through the same things. I don't see why you still won't be welcomed. Your path may be slightly different, but we are headed towards the same destination.

I know you've probably heard this a million times, but everyone is different. I do think it is quite normal. You could be getting used to things. Your body could have adapted to the decrease in calories. Your tummy could have healed where it is smaller now. Your mind could have just accepted the drastic change your body went through and is now comfortable knowing that you can eat less. You also could have lost weight which means you need less calories to move throughout the day, therefore a smaller caloric deficit than in the beginning. Oh the possibilities, but it does seem perfectly normal.

MaFawesome!!!! The older and wiser I get I find myself telling off people or opening my big, fat mouth as I like to call it more. It doesn't do myself any good to harbor negative feelings or dwell on situations that I didn't do anything about all day long and sometimes days long. I used to just keep my mouth shut and it led to emotional eating. I actually believe that when people do stupid things like that they should be told. First of all, she might be totally oblivious about how rude and hurtful she is being. Second of all, if she knows how she sounds and how offensive she is coming off, then why let her get away with it scott free. Third of all, It is only hurting myself to keep that pain bottled up inside...it definitely isn't hurting her one bit.

It is really disgusting how people eat. I even ate like that. Of course, I never noticed because I was too busy stuffing my face, shoveling over heaping spoonfuls into my gigantic mouth! Now, I have to sit there and chew slowly and observe everybody else eating the way I used to eat. I think, in general, most of the population swallows his or her food. We, as a whole, definitely do not practice mindful eating. I don't judge, but am thoroughly grossed out just the same.

no regrets! love it. lookin good girl.

i've never heard of that. Although, just like a psych eval I would just be honest. It may be a set back now, but will help you be successful post op. As far as a physical evaluation, I don't think there is much you can hide...not like you can hide your thoughts. :0)

awesome. you go girl.

Its okay. I didn't realize there were places for such things until a few weeks back. I don't know if I didn't notice or I didn't care to post religious/non-religious things. If you go to the main thread page there are different areas for different topics. Some of those areas have nothing to do with weight loss. There is a rant/rave section, christian section, etc.

Mindful eating is definitely not easy. There are so many distractions, even hunger after waiting for so long.

awesome. I love running. I can't do a mile non-stop yet, but I do what I can. LOVE THE ENDORPHINS.

I did low-carb for as long as was feasible, which was for about 5 months. Everyone's definition of low carb differ slightly. For me it was below 50 grams. According to my nut, I was allowed to have up to 100 grams in order to stay in fat burning mode. I didn't try very hard to reach my low carb goals. As long as I reached for protein first my carbs were not very high at all. As I upped my fitness levels, I realized I was very lethargic and my weight training sessions were suffering. I started to up my carbs. Nothing crazy. I think the most I ever got was about 125 grams. As of now, I still reach for protein first, but if I feel my body needs some energy then I will indulge in something. I also try to balance things out a little more instead of doing all protein. For me, all methods I have tried have worked. I do know from experience that a low fat, high carb, low calorie diet DOES NOT WORK FOR ME. I have done weight watchers and been well below my points and have gained weight. So I will never, ever freely eat whatever carbs I want to. That will lead me down my sugar craving cycle.

I can't tolerate spicy food as much anymore. I used to love boneless buffalo wings and now I can't tolerate it. I also used to love stuffed green olives and I can't handle that anymore either. It is just too potent.

thats awesome! way to have a non-food related reward. Happy birthday!

I read something somewhere...I'm sorry I can't remember where, but it was basically saying that the more weight we lose...our bodies will help us sabotage ourselves. We crave certain things (carbs and fat), are more hungry, get really lethargic. It is okay to feel disappointed, but pick yourself up and move on which seems like what you are doing. So great!

thank you for posting. Plastic surgery scares the crap out of me, but I know I will need some things after all my weight is off.

Its totally normal. I basically slept for the next 4 days after surgery. It will pass. I would make sure he gets his protein and water in. That will help.

that is so awesome for you! The time will fly by.

i think it is two fold. The surgery sometimes affects the sweet factor, but also just decreasing the amount of sweetness affects the sweet factor. I think eliminating anything artificial is always in a good direction.

congratulations

I wouldn't worry too much about it. When you start your dense protein you will really be able to feel the difference with restriction.

A little over 6 months post op and I can feel some unusual things happening. I am starting to think like a thin person. It was a slow, gradual change for me. What I mean when I am starting to think like a thin person is that I no longer dwell on things that I ate that wasn't in my perfect vision of my "diet". Pre-surgery (actually a few months even after surgery), if I ate something that wasn't on my envisioned list of allowed foods, then I would just get all emotional about it. I would dwell on it. I would have it in my head that I messed up and I was a failure. I would allow one "naughty" food to dictate my entire days' worth of eating. It was a form of sabotage, and it would set me into a cycle. I would eat, get depressed, and feel like a failure and then eat again. Slowly, but surely I began to allow myself to eat things that weren't on my perfect diet list. I found that even on those days when I had something like crackers or something else that I didn't think would help my weight loss I still lost weight. Some times I even found that it helped my weight loss when I was in a stall. Other times it helped my work outs progress. I guess what I am trying to say is that I ate something naughty and found out that my world didn't end. I didn't gain weight over night, I didn't look in the mirror and see an extra roll of fat, and other people didn't look at me and see that I "cheated". Slowly over time, my mind started to grasp this concept and started transforming. I feel a lot better about food. I don't rely on it as much. I am not afraid of it as much. All these emotions are not tied up to it as much. If one day I have a craving that I just can't shake, like m&ms...I have a few. The difference is I have a FEW and not the whole bag. I savor the taste and then move on. One little craving doesn't end up costing me days and eventually months of over eating and unhealthy eating. As a fat person, I was so hung up on food. Every thought of my day was tied to food. Am I over eating? Was that too much weight? Is this too much carbs? As a fat losing person, I eat normally. If I feel I might have eaten a little too much I just try to balance it out by moving more throughout the day. I think I am finally finding some balance. My anxiety has come down a whole lot now that I am not constantly obsessing over every aspect of food or eating.