meinsasha

My date is Jan 7th and my nerves are going to be out of control i know it. I work with a surgeon and he keeps telling me i should be just fine and after a few months i will laugh at myself for being nerved out. Its normal to be nervous, its surgery! Elective! I just try to look at how it will change my life for the good. I think your nerves will be crazy until you are put to sleep on the table. I know mine will. I wish you all the luck and keep us posted with your post op progress.

Mine is on Monday too. I'm feeling a little anxious but I'm just trying to get all my ducks in a row. I have to pack, get to the pharmacy, get my bedroom set for my return home, get my Protein station set up with all my powders, broths, blender, etc. It's all going to be great. HUGS

It seems like all of the sudden December 3rd has made it's way into my life.... I have surgery in 2 days. I'm so nervous. Now instead of it still being months or weeks away.... I'm packing. How are you guys feeling? How are you dealing with your nerves?????

I dated a guy for six months that would tell me if something happened between us I would never find anyone else as good as he was, that I would have to settle for some elderly man with no teeth. He wasn't trying to be funny, he was serious. A little stab here, another there. As long as he kept me in an insecure position and he had relationship power, he felt that he could say things that diminished me as a human being. But he wanted to marry me.
I finally had enough. No one should ever feel like they have to settle, that things are comfortable enough not to rock the boat, that they've been together this long so might as well.... All of that is bullshit. You don't get your life again. This is it. Why waste years? You are better off being emotionally healthy as a single person providing self-care and surrounding yourself with people who love and support you unconditionally.
If a man's commitment is conditional on your weight, then ...and I'll probably get a lot of heat for it ...but you might want to look at yourself for why you are willing to stay. It's easy to blame the guy, but half of the relationship is you accepting whatever is going on in it.

What does being heavy have to do with getting engaged?? NOTHING! Is he suggesting just because you are you don't deserve to be engaged? That's crap....wonder what else he thinks you aren't worthy of? I'd be re-examining the last 7 yrs of my life..life is short, don't waste any more time on someone who chooses to focus on the "outside" of a person instead of what really counts

I guess I just never heard anyone say they were coughing up blood..... Glad I read this now
I imagine I would have been scared if I had no idea!
Anyway, glad the bleeding stopped!

You might very well need to get into some type of therapy to help yourself cope. In a sense, you are literally losing part of your identity. Ck you insurance options and ask your Doc if he can refer you to someone. don't be opposed to mild anti- anxiety/depression meds if you start experiencing issues, or feel you might truly have trouble coping. I'm of the mindset to take the help- in whatever form is most beneficial.

My bmi was 32 and I had/have high blood pressure. I'm 4 months out and have about 20 more lbs to lose but it's going verrrrryyyy slow now. I don't regret having the surgery at all, but it's a huge adjustment. My surgeon completely supports lower bmi patients...he says he can do it now or wait until you have diabetes/high bp, etc since it's likely to develop. So why wait?

Yes, Brazillian is great. I only go downtown if the streets are clean. But when it's clean, I'll take my time & enjoy the scenery