TwinsMama

Thank you thank you thank you!!

I feel your pain...in my office I'm youngest (until recently), one of only a small handfull of women, and don't report directly to the groups I support. I have no choice but hold it together.

It can be tough, but you know what...you have to let it out. We all have that fine line and once crossed, you have to let it out. Better to cry than throw a full out tantrum (which I've seen the guys do from time to time around here).

You don't have to always be "together". It's okay to let yourself be human. Just think...the world didn't end because you cried at your desk.

What I've found is that I need to get sucked into something else when I get stressed. For example, I will walk to another location in the building, or read something quick on my cell phone, or heck, come to this site.

Once you find your happy place/activity...keep falling back on that. Just know, that the world won't end if you're human and experience human emotions.

You'll have to just go through this. I went through this at about 7 or 8 weeks. I was so angry, iritated, and then sad. Over and over again.

At first I tried to ignore the feelings and finally I just had to embrace that is how I was feeling and let the feelings happen. You seem like the type that is a "giver" and takes care of others. I know from experience that we often give others the type of space and forgiveness we don't give ourselves.

Allow yourself to not feel guilty or bothered or rushed by how you're feeling. Until you process all that you're feeling you'll just keep going through the emotions. So many hugs to you!!

BTW, I also realized my reactions to situations changed. It used to be when I felt threatened (emotionally not so much physcially), competition, or nervous I would instantly feel my survival mode kick in and then feel somewhat stronger/empowered. Now, when in these situations I shake. Literally, I get tremmors.

Not sure why that is, but I literally feel a sense of panic come over me. I make myself power through it but I've had to be really careful with what I watch and around people who give off a certain vibe. I hope that changes soon because I feel really vulnerable right now.

Great job!! Congrats on the size 8's!

Stalls are horrible. Initially (before I saw inches coming off), I thought I MUST be doing something wrong. Had to be, why else would I not lose weight for so long.

I think stalls are so bad because you can know (logically) you're doing everything "right" but emotionally you "feel" there has to be something you're doing wrong. Stalls create this epic battle between your emotions and your logic.

Very good post!

Hold tight the scale will move. I've been stalled for 8 of my 10 weeks but like you the inches are coming off. People still notice I'm losing (need to hear that since I've been stalled so long).

Hugs to you and congrats on getting out there and starting your softball team!

Excellent...good for you. You made a lot of healthy choices.

Yes, it's amazing how the body works. I had the fuzzy brain too. Got back to work and couldn't remember anything from minute to minute. It was the pits, but it will go away.

Hang in there. Hugs to you!

So sorry, I'm praying everything works out for you!

Not sure how much you have to lose, but there is a blog 300poundsdown.com where the writer talks about how much pain she was in prior to surgery. It is a good read and will help you realize, you're not alone in having physial pain.

Maybe her story will give you some encouragement on this hard day.

Hopefully you'll be lucky like some of us and the sleeve will change your tastebuds.

During my 1 year pre-op I stopped eating all sugar and foods containing refined sugar. Now as a post-op, my tastes have changed and I have ZERO desire to eat any sugar. I even had someone put a slice of cake with double icing (which I used to LOVE) in front of me and I just let it sit there. Truth be told, the smell was even too sweet.

No desire at all. I hope it remains this way.

I literally was in a stall for about 4 weeks. I am 7 weeks post-op with almost 200 lbs to lose. I read a post by Cheri where she said how she had stalls of up to 9 weeks more than once. I figured okay I won't complain until I hit a 10 week stall.

By staying positive and not getting upset, it kept my very Type A personality in check. I woke up yesterday to a loss of 5 lbs. and today down another 4 lbs. So I figured I'd just embrace my slow losses and stalls.

Hang in there and if you need the meds, don't think twice about taking them. Sending hugs your way!

I hadn't seen this before. Thanks for posting.

My period ended a few days before surgery and then I woke up the day after surgery with it again. Stayed for another 2 weeks. The only upside is that I hurt so bad from my complications that I never noticed any cramps. That was my silver lining.

My comment got all loopy...

I think I'll look online and see what tricks I can find for increasing the desire to work out. I did see a nice barre workout on YouTube.

@Catherine, good job about the back door trick. I feel the same way about winter and YES it is tough to work out in the cold weather.

I walk to work (also take public transit) but it is not enough to really get a good workout.

Congrats on being on the way! Don't stress over what's not done. Just get what you can done and the rest, just has to wait. Good luck to you.

Yes, it sucks to think things are a go and then find out, someone else messed up. Keep going, in the long run, the extra days/weeks won't matter. Right now, you have a lot on your plate so sure it is a tough spot. Don't let up on everyone and make sure they send, document, etc. everything so that you don't find this happening again.

Best wishes to you.

Good luck...I so much like to see real people who have had success with this surgery and my Surgeon. Like Catherine said, you are helping others save their lives.

Congrats!!!

@Taty thanks for replying, you have to let me know how the Spanx does for you. They have never helped me much, but I'd love to know how the newer ones are. I heard they did some redesigns a few years back so I'm interested in hearing how it goes.

@Cowgirl wow 123#! That is great!!! Okay so you didn't wear any. That's I guess my confusion because I wear girdles now, they aren't that uncomfy for me (probably because I've worn them so long) but I do wonder if they help with pain/saggy skin.

Outback has choices at least and you can ask them to prepare foods to accommodate your sleeve. Good luck and tell us how it goes.

Glad you're feeling better, hope you feel better tonight.

Great first entry. I've heard lots of people talk about how people "change" after WLS. I've known a number of people and let me tell you how they've changed...

• More confidence - not bad at all, most people just can't take it that they now stand up for themselves now and won't be pushed around or are no longer shy, etc.
  
• Happier - not always but in many cases those I know are happier which means they don't allow drama into their lives any longer, so you know what that means to drama kings/queens...bye bye
  
• More active - they are no longer the sit in the house and eat with me types, they move, have fun, travel, do all the things they didn't do before
  
• Make more $$$ - not sure if this is a result of more earnings or less spent on medications, clothes, food
  
• Take more risks - by this I mean they try lots more things that they were affraid/ didn't have confidence enough to try before, from new careers, to new relationships, to more self-love
  

The list really goes on and on. I guess what I'm trying to say is those that I know have really improved overall body, mind, and soul. So what actually I've seen happen is the OTHER people can't take seeing them so happy and confident.

Best wishes you to on your journey!