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diamondkized

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  1. I want to thank you all for taking the time to reply to my problems. I have decided with a clear mind to focus on my mind, body, and soul. What shall be will be and it won't help the situation by me just sitting around stressing about it. I am on a new journey and I believe that everything happens for a reason. I sincerely hope that we can work things out but if not- we weren't meant to be.

    One day at a time....


  2. Could you try couples counseling? There's two types....with a licensed therapist or with a minister/pastor of a church. I know you said in an earlier thread that your low self-esteem allowed you to take his BS in the past and that is something you struggle with now. But, if you are feeling like you want to salvage the relationship (if possible), I think counseling would be helpful. Ultimately, if he won't do it and/or if you do it and nothing changes, you can leave the relationship knowing you gave it your best shot. I am not a great fan of divorce, but I also do not believe that people should remain in abusive relationships. Obviously, he has his own issues. People who abuse usually were abused in some other time of their lives. (What kind of father-figures did he have?)

    i thought about doing counseling but truthfully if he claims he cannot even come in before 3 am cause of working i doubt he will have time for counseling. i will ask him about it though- what can it hurt. I never believed in divorce either which is why I am still here. I swear i wish we could work it out but i cannot be the only one in it. Father -figures- ha! Funny you should say that. Imagine Andrew Dice Clay meets Eddie Murphy (The old one not the new clean mouth one) The have a friendship and he has always pushed him to do the opposite of what a married man should do. Funny that he has a wife that he takes care of but encourages his son to do whatever he needs to do no matter what or who it affects.


  3. Sweetie, this one time you will have to encourage yourself!!! I know the pain and hurt you feel goes to you're very heart's core. But, he is a grown man and we can't change or control the actions of others. All you can do is focus on your health, life, and your babies! Will it be easy! Absolutely Not!!! But, you can do it, you Will make it! I would not want to be in his shoes for anything in the world!!! Karma is a trip! Wanted to say what Karma really is, we all know, but, I'll be polite! It's hard to do when you have children, but, do little things to pamper yourself. Whether, its buying a new shade of lipstick or nail polish, get a manicure/pedicure, put some candles in the bathroom and take a luxurious bubble bath, a new item of clothing, whatever puts a smile on your face!!! I've been through some difficult and heartwrenching days in my 59+ years, but, I pressed through. I stayed focused on myself and my children, with the belief that this too shall pass. Guess what, it will get better. Bit by bit, day by day! You keep your head up and don't you let that joker steal your joy! I'm speaking as a Mom now! There's a whole community here for you, remember that, 24/7! Sending prayers up for you and your family!

    thank you for the uplifting thoughts! you guys are definitely right. i know what i need to do but sometimes its hard to get things going. I guess i feel like a failure because i let myself believe in a person more than i believe in myself. i hate that i let him take so much energy. i am indeed a work in progress!


  4. I'm sorry to hear that your going through this it is very similar to my situation but I hav realized I have to be in better health for myself and my children bc they in the end are the ones that need me around the most. I am not here for my husband to badger me and make me feel like I am worthless or no good to him I am here for my children and to be stong for them but keep the faith and don't let no one bring you down do it for your babies.

    i am trying to think about me and the kids- believe me I am. I just feel so overwhelmed right now with my emotions and I kind of wish we could have divorced -worked it out or whatever before i got on this journey.


  5. Did he leave or is he being a jerk?

    I'm so sorry this is an emotional time just adjusting to your new diet requirements and healing.

    You have us here on VST and we will support you.

    Perhaps just give him time to work out his feelings, whatever has got him so unsupportive, maybe lay low and just come here for help.

    Maybe he is afraid you'll leave him? Is there anyway to rekindle something between you both perhaps just small acts of kindness could get him back on track.

    I'm so sorry this is happening but maybe it will pass?

    I am wishing you all the best!!!

    He keeps saying that he has to focus on paying his debts and that i am not being supportive to his needs. I am not sure what is going on with him but i feel that a marriage takes two and i am the one that is always alone. I thank you for wishing the best for us but everytime i talk to him about possibly coming to a common ground he seems to be ready to just jump ship. I think he wants to leave but doesn't know how.


  6. I just had some refried Beans. They are delish!

    I'm doing better this week. Was having a hard time trying to get all my liquids in. But everyday is getting better.

    i was sleeved the same day and i cannot tolerate the Protein Shakes they make my stomach hurt. i tried to eat chili with no beans or meat so basically the sauce and it was good. i am trying to do better with liquids too! on another note- i made a mistake of trying to eat a quarter size piece of hamburger and i almost burst and it came right up. thats what i get !


  7. Congratulations and I see that you got a great present- your sleeve that is. Let me tell you that you are smart for walking around. I was in pain and under so much medications that I was out of it and I refused to walk like I should have. Girl listen- I ended up in so much pain from the gas that I had to stay in the hospital an extra day and when I got home I was in pain. I had to do like everyone said and to walk. Before i knew it i was fine and you will be too.


  8. Um all I see in that picture is a hot, curvy, gorgeous woman! Seriously! I know how it feels to gain a lot of weight, you still picture yourself as you were in your head and when you look in the mirror it's a painful blow. The truth is you need to come to a point where you love yourself regardless of size because if you don't love yourself it won't be a priority for someone else to love an treat you well (I know it sounds like the famous Jerry Springer line lol) but its very true! Truth is there is beauty in us all at every size. We need to see it. I honestly see a beautiful woman when I look at your picture- I WISH i was blessed with that shape! I hope you can try to see your beauty so you can see your worth. Happy holidays!

    thank you fallenangel, i am a work in progress and i definitely appreciate the encouragement.


  9. Why do you feel your marriage will change for the worse? I have seen nothing but gains in my marriage as i have let go of so much bitterness and anti social tendencies. I hope everything works out for you.

    There are so many problems in my marriage and i put up with a lot because of how i look ---note the profile pic. I allowed my weight to be an excuse for settling for someone to mistreat me.


  10. I was sleeved on the 10th and...

    1. I kick myself for not waiting until after the holiday

    2. I am having some major mood swings that i think are tied to my lack of crab legs and red lobster

    3. I think my marriage will change for the worse because of this surgery.

    4. I look at my chest to see if they are getting smaller -i swear that they are smaller:(

    5. I am scared to go to work and hear someone say -did they cancel the surgery cause you look the same

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