greensleeve

Another reason not to tell, at least for me is this. The one time in my life I was open about losing weight I was on Weight Watchers and the meetings were at work.
We tend to have a lot of good days here with really tempting food. One day I just really felt like I couldn't stay away and so I declined going to the food day lunch they had.
My boss asked me and I said I was just not in the mood to be around a lot of food I couldn't have. She tried to argue jokingly.
She is overweight.
So almost everyone went to the room on their lunch breaks except me. She called me at my desk and told me to go up there.
It's sabotaging stuff like that and all jealousy and cattiness that I want to avoid.
You have every right not to share this and it's not lying.

I've noticed those of us who need the surgery tend to have bad boundaries and want to please people.
Honestly I'm not going to tell many people because I have enough to think about and worry about. I don't need to have other people questioning every thing I eat and do. Or keeping track of how much I lose; or asking a ton of questions.
You don't owe it to anyone to reveal your medical history, just like your coworkers don't owe it to you to tell you that they had their tubes tied or their gall bladder out. It's none of their business!

I really don't care what a bunch of gym rats who are obsessed with their looks think of the surgery. For gods sake, one of the guys has his penis size listed in his signature.
Many of them take steroids or other supplements that aren't good for you. Is that the easy way out?
They just don't get that some people are hungry all the time, that once you have yo yo dieted for ten years your body won't let you lose weight.
Guys who hang out online talking about how big their muscles are aren't usually the brightest. Why cares?
One of them even said he will still look better than anyone who has the surgery so it doesn't bother him. Clearly much of the focus is on looks and not health.

I really don't care what a bunch of gym rats who are obsessed with their looks think of the surgery. For gods sake, one of the guys has his penis size listed in his signature.
Many of them take steroids or other supplements that aren't good for you. Is that the easy way out?
They just don't get that some people are hungry all the time, that once you have yo yo dieted for ten years your body won't let you lose weight.
Guys who hang out online talking about how big their muscles are aren't usually the brightest. Why cares?
One of them even said he will still look better than anyone who has the surgery so it doesn't bother him. Clearly much of the focus is on looks and not health.

There's nothing worse than guys in college. I'm so sorry that happened to you. They are idiots.
I lived in a college town for a long time and was often hooted and hollered at for various reasons. One time I was literally wearing a huge long coat, boots, a huge hat and scarf. I could have been a man. It was freezing and these idiots still honked the horn and screamed and hollered at me.
It's a stupid thing that young men do to feel better about themselves, whether they are dying you are fat or are whistling at women both are meant to make you feel like you are less than human and just an object.
So what you are fat? That's like them saying "you are blonde! Hey you are blonde!" Um ok???? As you know you can lose weight but they can't grow their tiny penises any bigger.
It's easy to scream at people from behind the wheel of a car if you are an insecure idiot.
Honestly after your surgery you will probably have boys hooting at you for being hot. That's what they do. I would keep a phone and next time that happens start videoing them and tell then you will put it on YouTube and Facebook.

Mine told me upfront the only things that would make her say no were if I was suicidal, homocidal, or if I were psychotic and not on medication.
She said that if someone says they are very depressed or an active drug user they have to deal with those issues first before they have surgery.
I really liked mine, she gave me some good things to think about in terms of how to eat with the family and what to tell the kids.

I really hope the Dr learned a lesson. He made a huge mistake. Through my journey I have lamented and railed against the requirements because I kept saying "really? Someone is just going to commit to having surgery without knowing what they have to do? Do they think I'm
a stupid child?"
And then I see this. And it makes me realize why they do it but at the same time it pisses me off that people like her make it so hard for those of us with intelligence and knowledge and commitment to get our surgeries.
I really think she had no intention of losing weight. She wanted to be on TV and she enjoys surgeries and doctors and being in the hospital. She likes the attention.
She has a picture of herself on Facebook with her oxygen tubes on. Who does that? I've known people on oxygen and you can take it off for one minute to take your picture. It's like she's proud of it. And she doesn't need it!

I really hope the Dr learned a lesson. He made a huge mistake. Through my journey I have lamented and railed against the requirements because I kept saying "really? Someone is just going to commit to having surgery without knowing what they have to do? Do they think I'm
a stupid child?"
And then I see this. And it makes me realize why they do it but at the same time it pisses me off that people like her make it so hard for those of us with intelligence and knowledge and commitment to get our surgeries.
I really think she had no intention of losing weight. She wanted to be on TV and she enjoys surgeries and doctors and being in the hospital. She likes the attention.
She has a picture of herself on Facebook with her oxygen tubes on. Who does that? I've known people on oxygen and you can take it off for one minute to take your picture. It's like she's proud of it. And she doesn't need it!

Long story short. My insurance company is horrible and so was the hospital I was going through. Two years later and three appeals, two rounds of pre-op tests and two consults, I'm starting over with a new surgeon and new hospital.
Today I had my first set of appointments. The difference with this hospital is amazing. First of all they got me in right away instead of making me wait up to an hour like the previous.
The psych appointment was actually helpful and not just a series of six questions. I felt like I had a therapy appointment not just a five minute list of questions.
The dietician was very nice and friendly. I got to stay in one place the whole time instead of walking all over the hospital confused.
At the other hospital your dietician meets with you in the same office as geriatric specialists which is a bit off putting.
I had a nurse evaluation which was informative and I felt like everyone really cared about me as an individual instead as just a body moving through the system.
I am feeling so much more hopeful about everything.
I found out I can use their gym for free for life which is amazing.
Now the nurse assesses my risk level and if it's low (it is), she calls in a few days to schedule my consult with the surgeon. I'm excited. It feels real again, I feel like I can do this.
Right now my relationship with food is utterly bizarre. I realized while talking to the dietician, I really don't eat that much. But I keep gaining because I don't get any exercise due to the pain in my ankle and my sedentary job.
I feel like I should be better than this somehow, like I should have found some way to work out without hurting my ankle. I don't want to make excuses. They said that they understood and they know when I start losing it's going to make it a lot easier.

I think the problem with some like me is that after you conquer all those demons you still are hungry all the time.

She doesn't sound very bright! I'm sorry, those are terrible things to say to a friend!

The first series followed people for many years. Most of the people were successful in the long run.
I think someone who is at 600 pounds might have deeper issues than people who are at 300. It sure seemed like they were more severely addicted to food and lived with enablers more than what I read on the boards.
They seemed to have more ups and downs.
This version only follows them for less than a year. And I do think that isn't a long time for someone who is that big and who has put food so far ahead of their own life. I could be wrong. I'm not trying to judge. Sometimes I think that could be me.

I have been through anxiety, fear, hope, shame in the last two years.
I have thought about everything you mentioned. I've been through so much and I have to start over with a new surgeon and hospital. If anything my struggle just convinced me how much I want this and that I'm making the right decision.
Good luck to you!

The first series followed people for many years. Most of the people were successful in the long run.
I think someone who is at 600 pounds might have deeper issues than people who are at 300. It sure seemed like they were more severely addicted to food and lived with enablers more than what I read on the boards.
They seemed to have more ups and downs.
This version only follows them for less than a year. And I do think that isn't a long time for someone who is that big and who has put food so far ahead of their own life. I could be wrong. I'm not trying to judge. Sometimes I think that could be me.

They had people donate money to them. I bet there are a lot of angry people.
People are ripping her apart on her FB page.

I really think she needs to be left alone with a walker and food that is good for her in another room. She would have to get everything herself.

Anyone see this last night? Unbelievable!

I really think she needs to be left alone with a walker and food that is good for her in another room. She would have to get everything herself.

I agree with the Munchhausen theory.
On her FB page she a thinner photo of her face but she still is on oxygen.
Who is paying for the oxygen? We are.

I really think she needs to be left alone with a walker and food that is good for her in another room. She would have to get everything herself.

My first surgeon required nut visit, psych eval, EKG.
I changed hospitals and I have to get a nurse assessment, another psych eval and a nut visit.
I don't have high BP or any other issues so I didn't need sleep eval or stress test.
I think they also want a diabetes blood test but I had that in the hospital a few months ago.

I am switching to DePaul, I filled out the paperwork and sent it in today.
I also filed a complaint with Joint Commission.

I too am a survivor of child hood sexual abuse. I have a history of binge eating and ended up with a husband who was emotionally abusive.
You are very brave for having the surgery and for telling your story.
My heart goes out to you.
Have you gone to therapy at all?

I think the problem with some like me is that after you conquer all those demons you still are hungry all the time.

I think the problem with some like me is that after you conquer all those demons you still are hungry all the time.