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It depends on what your social circles are. I don't have any close girlfriends where i live now that I would confide in. My husband is my best friend. People here in Wisconsin are more of a "friendly acquaintance" status, but the circle also includes a lot of nasty gossips who look for reasons to be snarky about each other. I don't give any personal information to these people. I have no problem telling my good friends back home in Canada who are supportive. Relationships have a lot to do with who you are willing to share your information with.
My doctor put me on the pre-op diet 3 months before surgery ( not a liquid) so I was already steadily losing and people could see that I was eating less and I attended dinners so they knew I wasn't eating the bread and potatoes. My weight loss is therefore not a surprise or a big reason for discussion with anyone. I didn't have a huge drop after surgery and loss has been fairly slow since - in other words I could have just stayed on the pre- op and done as well - so there is no big question of a sudden drop. Nobody else is watching my scale to know how much I'm losing.
I agree with Ms. Antiband. Not every surgery in my life is everyone else's business, nor should it be. I didn't even tell my husband when I had a tuballigation. (Okay, so I didn't like him and was going to leave him). But still, I just don't feel the need to disclose every detail of my life just to satisfy other's curiosity. I would happily share with someone else who was considering the surgery, but for public fodder, no.

It depends on what your social circles are. I don't have any close girlfriends where i live now that I would confide in. My husband is my best friend. People here in Wisconsin are more of a "friendly acquaintance" status, but the circle also includes a lot of nasty gossips who look for reasons to be snarky about each other. I don't give any personal information to these people. I have no problem telling my good friends back home in Canada who are supportive. Relationships have a lot to do with who you are willing to share your information with.
My doctor put me on the pre-op diet 3 months before surgery ( not a liquid) so I was already steadily losing and people could see that I was eating less and I attended dinners so they knew I wasn't eating the bread and potatoes. My weight loss is therefore not a surprise or a big reason for discussion with anyone. I didn't have a huge drop after surgery and loss has been fairly slow since - in other words I could have just stayed on the pre- op and done as well - so there is no big question of a sudden drop. Nobody else is watching my scale to know how much I'm losing.
I agree with Ms. Antiband. Not every surgery in my life is everyone else's business, nor should it be. I didn't even tell my husband when I had a tuballigation. (Okay, so I didn't like him and was going to leave him). But still, I just don't feel the need to disclose every detail of my life just to satisfy other's curiosity. I would happily share with someone else who was considering the surgery, but for public fodder, no.

It depends on what your social circles are. I don't have any close girlfriends where i live now that I would confide in. My husband is my best friend. People here in Wisconsin are more of a "friendly acquaintance" status, but the circle also includes a lot of nasty gossips who look for reasons to be snarky about each other. I don't give any personal information to these people. I have no problem telling my good friends back home in Canada who are supportive. Relationships have a lot to do with who you are willing to share your information with.
My doctor put me on the pre-op diet 3 months before surgery ( not a liquid) so I was already steadily losing and people could see that I was eating less and I attended dinners so they knew I wasn't eating the bread and potatoes. My weight loss is therefore not a surprise or a big reason for discussion with anyone. I didn't have a huge drop after surgery and loss has been fairly slow since - in other words I could have just stayed on the pre- op and done as well - so there is no big question of a sudden drop. Nobody else is watching my scale to know how much I'm losing.
I agree with Ms. Antiband. Not every surgery in my life is everyone else's business, nor should it be. I didn't even tell my husband when I had a tuballigation. (Okay, so I didn't like him and was going to leave him). But still, I just don't feel the need to disclose every detail of my life just to satisfy other's curiosity. I would happily share with someone else who was considering the surgery, but for public fodder, no.

Exercise. It's an important part of the program and something we can't start to put into our routine too soon.

I was allowed to take the smaller ones after 3 weeks. The big ones - like the fish oil - I had to wait longer. Before you go cutting things up check online to make sure its okay. With a lot of drugs it changes the effectiveness. I know you can't do it on time release drugs.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

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That's a terrific loss. Congrats. Makes the remaining few sound easy. You'll be there in no time.

Can I follow that up with an Amen Sister?!!!

Amen brother!

If you are not in my immediate circle of close coworkers or friends/family--you won't be told. There is no reason to. Most people dont ask. I've only lost 40 lbs, in 3.5 months, so it's been a gradual and fairly slow loss. Just the same as not asking a woman with a belly if shes pregnant, don't ask me if I had WLS. If you know, it's because 'I thought you had a right to know', not the other way around.

And people.. Please stop insinuating that we are embarrassed, selfish, ashamed or worse.. We don't have close friends!?! Seriously? ... Really?!?
My WLS does not dominate my daily life. I am (we) are not LYING about anything and not telling others is not selfish, fact, (sorry if i step on toes or egos) I think it's more self centered to think everyone wants to know all about you and your WLS.
I agree, PdxMan.. the topic is well covered.

I couldn't agree more. I think in one of the other threads along this line I posted a similar thought.
Really ... everyone is not standing at the Water cooler talking about you. It is all in your head. It really isn't all about you.
Really ... I mean it ... it's not ...
And if you really think it is, then it tells me that you are the kind of person who goes to the Water cooler to talk about everyone else. You are projecting your own issues onto everyone else. If you got this sleeve to get a new life, then get one ...

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.

What a great day! I don't get them often because my loss has been slow. I'm literally losing at the exact same rate I was before the surgery. 3 months out and 36 lbs. BUT 1. Today I finally hit Onederland. Yay! 2. I hit my halfway mark. 70 Lbs. gone, 70 lbs. to go.Yay! 3. Went to get my hair cut short today because it has started to fall out and when I walked in the hairdresser didn't recognize me because of the weight loss. Yay! When you're not sure if it shows yet, that's a nice thing to hear. I'm stoked.