juny

Yep, small office or not, they're creating a hostile work environment and they're not allowed to do that.

I dont think I could have same surgery w/ the same surgeon if i saw my dad end up like that. My surgeon has said twice in about 3000+ surgeries that he's done, he's had to convert from a sleeve to a bypass. It sounds like that's what you dad might be heading for. I hope he gets better, I think what he's going through is what I'm worried about for myself. I'm not worried about dying (weird yes i know). I'm REALLY worried about the in between, it's not life and it's not dead..

Wow! First off let me say that I'm glad you are getting better and with such a great attitude!
I've only read about one other leak here so far out, so definitely a rare thing..
I'm glad that you listened to your body and knew something was wrong to get the care you needed in a timely matter.

Thanks

My surgeon suggested the sleeve for me i originally wanted the bypass because the sleeve is non-reversal...But he told me something that made sense...who is going to have this done with the plans of getting it reversed...Truth is there are more complications with the bypass...Blockages being a big one.My sister in law has had a few since her surgery and that requires a trip back to the hospital. Also i know somoene who went in for a blockage and while there had a staff infection and passed ... The sleeve i had no complications whatso-ever....the worst u can do is stretch it out...but only if u don't follow rules...Since my sleeve 2 years ago i have lost 200 lbs....Going from super super morbid obese to just a lil overweight . Best decision i have ever made.

I love this thread! LOL I am 26 so I was concerned about drinking. Not that I drink all the time but I usually go out like once or twice a month. The bars I go to usually get pretty crowded. I went out at like 10 days post op as DD drinking only Water and can I tell you all it was the worstttttt time I ever had!! Being 100% sober in a place packed to the brim with drunk people is theeee worst. So I can't wait til I can have at least one drink to loosen me up a smidgen. LOL and yes, like some others I am secretly hoping to be a cheap date! spending $75 on a night out is just no bueno!

i also love posts like these. I didn't have the surgery to live on slices of turkey and cheese sticks for the rest of my life. 600-800 calories a day just was never me, anything less than 1000 and I just feel like I had no energy but couldn't sleep.
My nut told me the Protein shake I chose was too high in calories. I ignored her advice, I know shame on me. Right now just w/ the shakes I'm getting in 600 calories a day and that's before about 400 calories of Soup for dinner. . The whole 600-800 calorie thing made me feel like I was screwing everything up right out of the gate.
I'm transitioning to blendered/pureed food this week after 7 weeks of full liquids. If I stay w/in a couple hundred calories of 1000, I'll be happy. I'm just looking for smooth transitions that don't get me sick and keep my energy levels up.

Since I have cottage cheese for lunch on work days, I pack sliced cheese for my afternoon snack. I usually have two slices. It's more than 100 calories. But I need about 2100 - 2200 to maintain, believe it or else.
I also eat unsalted roasted nuts, both peanuts and almonds. I eat whatever the serving suggestion is, in the case of my brands, 28 grams of almonds and 30 grams of peanuts. Yummy, and they have some Fiber.

I didn't "cut off 2/3s" of my stomach so I could eat less. I had a surgical procedure to help me lose weight and be healthy. Which I have done. I'm 20 months post op and am healthy and happy, maintaining my goal weight for an entire year.

i also love posts like these. I didn't have the surgery to live on slices of turkey and cheese sticks for the rest of my life. 600-800 calories a day just was never me, anything less than 1000 and I just feel like I had no energy but couldn't sleep.
My nut told me the Protein shake I chose was too high in calories. I ignored her advice, I know shame on me. Right now just w/ the shakes I'm getting in 600 calories a day and that's before about 400 calories of Soup for dinner. . The whole 600-800 calorie thing made me feel like I was screwing everything up right out of the gate.
I'm transitioning to blendered/pureed food this week after 7 weeks of full liquids. If I stay w/in a couple hundred calories of 1000, I'll be happy. I'm just looking for smooth transitions that don't get me sick and keep my energy levels up.

i also love posts like these. I didn't have the surgery to live on slices of turkey and cheese sticks for the rest of my life. 600-800 calories a day just was never me, anything less than 1000 and I just feel like I had no energy but couldn't sleep.
My nut told me the Protein shake I chose was too high in calories. I ignored her advice, I know shame on me. Right now just w/ the shakes I'm getting in 600 calories a day and that's before about 400 calories of Soup for dinner. . The whole 600-800 calorie thing made me feel like I was screwing everything up right out of the gate.
I'm transitioning to blendered/pureed food this week after 7 weeks of full liquids. If I stay w/in a couple hundred calories of 1000, I'll be happy. I'm just looking for smooth transitions that don't get me sick and keep my energy levels up.

I made it my goal to not ruin my metabolism-- at the advisement of an awesome personal trainer. I eat about 2000 cals a day in maintenance now. I have for an entire year. If I creep up, I cut back a bit. I got my cals up to 1200 as soon as I could post-op in an attempt to not tank my metabolism. I lost most of my weight at the 1500 calorie point. I still made goal at 8.5 months post op! I think I am able to eat a hefty 2K per day now cause I work out and stay active and cause I didn't stay below 1200 cals a day for long. My friend that had gastric bypass ate 600 cals a day for almost year so now when she started eating a measly 1000-1200 a day now she has regained 50 pounds.
Thats why I love my sleeve. I can maintain my weight now at a reasonable calorie count!!!!

just my 2 cents
Told my mom. she spent the entire time trying to talk me out of surgery until and including the day.
I told my dad, I was going to chicago for a couple days.....yeah i live w/ both my parents. After surgery I had a few complications and stayed an extra couple days. My mom and I decided to tell my dad that I had a haital hernia repair.
A few weeks later, he's figured out on his own that I had wls. We don't talk about it. He's not the parent he was before the stroke and I just don't feel like letting him in the door on that one.
My mom has become the more hopeful one. She's so excited and thinks I now did the right thing. I spent a solid month out of my mind w/ worry and anxiety after surgery, wasn't sleeping at all. It was not a great time. But since coming out of that, I'm so much more myself and feeling pretty good about the future.
You have a right to keep things private until you come to terms with this on your own time. You have a right be as private as you need to be until then. Telling them its gallbladder surgery is not the worst thing in the world and will give you the time you need to deal with the changes.

hw: 325
weight before preop: 300
cw: 267
Sleeved 2/5
33lbs total, about 11% of my bodyweight

have you tried really thinning out your Protein and maybe making a Protein fudgsicle? Even if it's not the amount of protein you need, it might be better than trying to dump a whole lot of protein in your system at once.
The first month sucks and there's no getting around it, I felt the same way. When you're uncomfortable and frustrated about how hard even the simplest stuff is, it's really hard to feel like you made the right choice. I promise that feeling will start going away.
I know everyone told you how it's supposed to go, but it's really important to do what's best for you, if it means you don't get all the protein in w/in 2 weeks of surgery, it's ok. Best of luck!

it my opinion that isn't true. I drink 2-3 12oz sparkling waters everyday. I'm 19 months post op and have good restriction and have maintained my goal weight within 5 pounds for more than a year now.

For some it's hard to just have one every so often. I personally have 4oz of regular soda twice a week, and 2-3 beers per week. Lattes-- no way, I have one everyday! Btw- I'm 19 months post-op.

Yeah, gotta watch out for the carb Nazis.

You aren't alone in the after surgery regret. I felt that way for about 3 weeks. Emotionally I was a mess but at least I was able to get in the liquids I needed. I'd lay down to sleep and the tape would start playing about all the reasons why it was a bad idea. I needed an rx to get my lights put out for a couple weeks.
I was on clears for 2 weeks and that was a serious drain on me, I got a lot better once I was able to push full liquids and I'm hoping for better once I start transitioning to soft food in a couple weeks time.
Are you on full liquids? I wouldn't beat yourself up too badly for not getting the 64oz in, most days I don't manage it but I get to about 50-55oz..which was about what I was at pre op, so I can't really argue w/ that.
I know it's hard to hear patience when you're tired of feeling like crap but it does take time, it was major surgery, and it's no real surprise that 9 days after having most of your stomach cut out you feel like shi!t. But that doesn't mean it was a mistake and it doesn't mean this hasn't been worth doing.
I hope you feel better soon, many hugs to you!

dude, i've been dying for just one of the sliders from white castle, I dont even need the top bun! maybe i can liquify that sucker when.....

dude, i've been dying for just one of the sliders from white castle, I dont even need the top bun! maybe i can liquify that sucker when.....

Early on I had a bite of a donut. Now, if I want a bite of a donut, I eat it. I've had Cookies and cake, I shared a Reeses PB Easter egg with my husband, I've eaten french fries (froed potato ANYTHING is my cryptonite since the sleeve)!! I am not a 'perfect' sleever, I know I could lose more and faster if I was stricter with what I eat, but I didn't do this surgery to live with a sense of deprivation and tons of cannots. I did this surgery to control the amount of food I consume. Granted, i eat TONS healthier now than I did before, I think a lot before I eat something 'bad', but I still ahven't had a soda, I've rolled about 2 drops around in my mouth since the surgery, but just the carbonation in my mouth doesn't feel good. I think that not depriving myself has been my key to success so far. I don't 'eat bad' everyday, or even every week, but if I want a Dorito, I'm doing more than licking that powder off!

I did end up seeing a therapist because the emotional swing was so bad and caught me so off guard. He told me something at least a little helpful. He said I was grieving and that it was ok to grieve the loss of food, of being able to binge on food and using it as a means to bond w/ my family. He said eventually you have to move it towards acceptance of what happened and start focusing on the things you still have and who you are becoming and only then will the grief end.
I think I was like a lot of people, ready to make the next 10 years different from the last ten of always planning my life around my next meal. But as ready as I was I was not expecting that I would grieve for what I lost because for so long it was the thing that has kept me from living a full life and brought me such personal pain.