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M2G Stay Safe! Been thinking of you when watching the news.

Laura, I love all your quotes, I need to print those off and post them all over my house.
And on the family front...I, too, have been told not to lose anymore weight. I think part of that comment is it is so drastic to others to see us so differently. If you think about, they are used to seeing us overweight, not normal. When we do get to "normal", we look like shadows of our former selves to them.
This has truly been my largest struggle, and I am not surprised. I actually told my husband right before I had my surgery, what happens if it is never enough. And what I thought might happened has happened. I have lost all the weight, I am back down below my initial goal weight, but still unhappy with my body. I need plastics for sure, but even then, will I be happy? Probably not....
I find I envy every thin person I see. I compare myself to every woman I see. Am I bigger than her, am I smaller? Is that how I look?? I really have no sense of what I look like to others. I see pictures of myself and still see a fat person. The size 6 I wear is relative. I have told myself that they have changed sizes so much in the last number of years that in reality I wear a size 12 or 14. I have people comment and say I am tiny and I literally laugh at them. I want to be a supermodel, but I know I never will be....
It sounds harsh, I know it does. I want to be gentler with myself. I have started telling myself everything this body has done for me and some days it helps. I kept an old pair of pants and sometimes will throw them on the remember where I have come from. Will I ever accept where I am as a good place. Maybe?? I do know that is a hell of a lot better than where I came from anyways....

The worst thing that any of us can do is pretend like everything is hunky dory. That is what I always did in the past, stopped stepping on the scale, ignored my clothes getting tighter, and just being in denial overall. Then, it would be like all of a sudden, I would wake up fat and wonder how it happened!! My best defense against weight gain is routine and keeping trigger foods out of my house. I really do not have any more self control than I had before, but if the food is not there, I can't eat it, plain and simple.
I have said if before, and I will say it again, the only time we fail is when we give up. You already know what you have to do, you just need to do it.

Most of us have a lifetime of habits that we are dealing with. I will be 3 years post op in November and still have habits rear their ugly head, including binging behaviors. Many times it is either related to my emotions or my hormones. There are 2 difference now: 1) I know it is happening when it is happening...sometimes I stop it, sometimes I don't 2) I don't let one bad day or one bad moment send me on a downward spiral. I have fallen off the wagon more than once in this journey, but it never lasts long and I always have climbed right back on.
I think it is something that many of us will battle for a long time, maybe even a lifetime. Many times it is not only old habits we are dealing with, but just plain old human nature. I have seen my husband (who has NEVER had a weight problem) engage in the same behavior on occasion. I think the key for him is that is exactly it, on occasion, not all the time.
Just like Georgia said about her friend that still thinks about a cigarette every once in a while, even after 20 years, I don't think our habits will disappear after a year or 2 years. They might not ever disappear. But knowing ourselves, our habits, and our triggers is what will help us be successful in the long run!

Most of us have a lifetime of habits that we are dealing with. I will be 3 years post op in November and still have habits rear their ugly head, including binging behaviors. Many times it is either related to my emotions or my hormones. There are 2 difference now: 1) I know it is happening when it is happening...sometimes I stop it, sometimes I don't 2) I don't let one bad day or one bad moment send me on a downward spiral. I have fallen off the wagon more than once in this journey, but it never lasts long and I always have climbed right back on.
I think it is something that many of us will battle for a long time, maybe even a lifetime. Many times it is not only old habits we are dealing with, but just plain old human nature. I have seen my husband (who has NEVER had a weight problem) engage in the same behavior on occasion. I think the key for him is that is exactly it, on occasion, not all the time.
Just like Georgia said about her friend that still thinks about a cigarette every once in a while, even after 20 years, I don't think our habits will disappear after a year or 2 years. They might not ever disappear. But knowing ourselves, our habits, and our triggers is what will help us be successful in the long run!

Most of us have a lifetime of habits that we are dealing with. I will be 3 years post op in November and still have habits rear their ugly head, including binging behaviors. Many times it is either related to my emotions or my hormones. There are 2 difference now: 1) I know it is happening when it is happening...sometimes I stop it, sometimes I don't 2) I don't let one bad day or one bad moment send me on a downward spiral. I have fallen off the wagon more than once in this journey, but it never lasts long and I always have climbed right back on.
I think it is something that many of us will battle for a long time, maybe even a lifetime. Many times it is not only old habits we are dealing with, but just plain old human nature. I have seen my husband (who has NEVER had a weight problem) engage in the same behavior on occasion. I think the key for him is that is exactly it, on occasion, not all the time.
Just like Georgia said about her friend that still thinks about a cigarette every once in a while, even after 20 years, I don't think our habits will disappear after a year or 2 years. They might not ever disappear. But knowing ourselves, our habits, and our triggers is what will help us be successful in the long run!

Laura, I love all your quotes, I need to print those off and post them all over my house.
And on the family front...I, too, have been told not to lose anymore weight. I think part of that comment is it is so drastic to others to see us so differently. If you think about, they are used to seeing us overweight, not normal. When we do get to "normal", we look like shadows of our former selves to them.
This has truly been my largest struggle, and I am not surprised. I actually told my husband right before I had my surgery, what happens if it is never enough. And what I thought might happened has happened. I have lost all the weight, I am back down below my initial goal weight, but still unhappy with my body. I need plastics for sure, but even then, will I be happy? Probably not....
I find I envy every thin person I see. I compare myself to every woman I see. Am I bigger than her, am I smaller? Is that how I look?? I really have no sense of what I look like to others. I see pictures of myself and still see a fat person. The size 6 I wear is relative. I have told myself that they have changed sizes so much in the last number of years that in reality I wear a size 12 or 14. I have people comment and say I am tiny and I literally laugh at them. I want to be a supermodel, but I know I never will be....
It sounds harsh, I know it does. I want to be gentler with myself. I have started telling myself everything this body has done for me and some days it helps. I kept an old pair of pants and sometimes will throw them on the remember where I have come from. Will I ever accept where I am as a good place. Maybe?? I do know that is a hell of a lot better than where I came from anyways....

The worst thing that any of us can do is pretend like everything is hunky dory. That is what I always did in the past, stopped stepping on the scale, ignored my clothes getting tighter, and just being in denial overall. Then, it would be like all of a sudden, I would wake up fat and wonder how it happened!! My best defense against weight gain is routine and keeping trigger foods out of my house. I really do not have any more self control than I had before, but if the food is not there, I can't eat it, plain and simple.
I have said if before, and I will say it again, the only time we fail is when we give up. You already know what you have to do, you just need to do it.

Laura, I love all your quotes, I need to print those off and post them all over my house.
And on the family front...I, too, have been told not to lose anymore weight. I think part of that comment is it is so drastic to others to see us so differently. If you think about, they are used to seeing us overweight, not normal. When we do get to "normal", we look like shadows of our former selves to them.
This has truly been my largest struggle, and I am not surprised. I actually told my husband right before I had my surgery, what happens if it is never enough. And what I thought might happened has happened. I have lost all the weight, I am back down below my initial goal weight, but still unhappy with my body. I need plastics for sure, but even then, will I be happy? Probably not....
I find I envy every thin person I see. I compare myself to every woman I see. Am I bigger than her, am I smaller? Is that how I look?? I really have no sense of what I look like to others. I see pictures of myself and still see a fat person. The size 6 I wear is relative. I have told myself that they have changed sizes so much in the last number of years that in reality I wear a size 12 or 14. I have people comment and say I am tiny and I literally laugh at them. I want to be a supermodel, but I know I never will be....
It sounds harsh, I know it does. I want to be gentler with myself. I have started telling myself everything this body has done for me and some days it helps. I kept an old pair of pants and sometimes will throw them on the remember where I have come from. Will I ever accept where I am as a good place. Maybe?? I do know that is a hell of a lot better than where I came from anyways....

The worst thing that any of us can do is pretend like everything is hunky dory. That is what I always did in the past, stopped stepping on the scale, ignored my clothes getting tighter, and just being in denial overall. Then, it would be like all of a sudden, I would wake up fat and wonder how it happened!! My best defense against weight gain is routine and keeping trigger foods out of my house. I really do not have any more self control than I had before, but if the food is not there, I can't eat it, plain and simple.
I have said if before, and I will say it again, the only time we fail is when we give up. You already know what you have to do, you just need to do it.

Laura, I love all your quotes, I need to print those off and post them all over my house.
And on the family front...I, too, have been told not to lose anymore weight. I think part of that comment is it is so drastic to others to see us so differently. If you think about, they are used to seeing us overweight, not normal. When we do get to "normal", we look like shadows of our former selves to them.
This has truly been my largest struggle, and I am not surprised. I actually told my husband right before I had my surgery, what happens if it is never enough. And what I thought might happened has happened. I have lost all the weight, I am back down below my initial goal weight, but still unhappy with my body. I need plastics for sure, but even then, will I be happy? Probably not....
I find I envy every thin person I see. I compare myself to every woman I see. Am I bigger than her, am I smaller? Is that how I look?? I really have no sense of what I look like to others. I see pictures of myself and still see a fat person. The size 6 I wear is relative. I have told myself that they have changed sizes so much in the last number of years that in reality I wear a size 12 or 14. I have people comment and say I am tiny and I literally laugh at them. I want to be a supermodel, but I know I never will be....
It sounds harsh, I know it does. I want to be gentler with myself. I have started telling myself everything this body has done for me and some days it helps. I kept an old pair of pants and sometimes will throw them on the remember where I have come from. Will I ever accept where I am as a good place. Maybe?? I do know that is a hell of a lot better than where I came from anyways....

I did reach goal, but it took me 18 months. Hang in there and don't get discouraged. There is no expiry date on the sleeve and for how long we can lose weight. It just might take a little more work than it did in the beginning.

When you think about it, it really makes sense. I don't think any of us would say that we can still only eat what we ate 3 days post op. The good news in my eyes...if capacity was 4 oz 3 days post op, at 2 years out it would be 8 oz. Even if you say 6 oz and 12 oz, that is still a hell of a lot less than the, what, 60 oz that our stomachs normally hold. This stat I am ok with.
And I agree with what everyone is saying. I think long term success has more to do with accountability than surgery. The surgery helps us get there, our heads keep us there.

I did reach goal, but it took me 18 months. Hang in there and don't get discouraged. There is no expiry date on the sleeve and for how long we can lose weight. It just might take a little more work than it did in the beginning.

http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/6-things-i-wish-id-known-about-weight-loss-surgery/

http://www.obesityhelp.com/articles/6-things-i-wish-id-known-about-weight-loss-surgery/

Cheri - That has to be tough with your hubby. I thought he wasn't going to be going for a while, when does he go?
Laura - I hope that everything goes well with your thyroid. That is a tough one to deal with, our thyroids are so important. I hope your doc is amazing and really helps you through it all. And you will still be as gorgeous as ever, even with a little scar.
Georgia, I am glad to hear that you are starting to feel a little better.
FYE - I am thinking of you and your parents. My Mom has been ill for many years with MS and it is really difficult to watch a much loved parent go through difficult things. I am glad you had someone you could talk to.
For myself, I haven't been following the 5:2 for a about a week or so. I have so much on my plate on the moment, that I couldn't focus on it. I am still watching what I am eating and my weight has actually gone down a little. I just found out that my hubby might have to be out of town again next week and that is my first week back to work after being a SAHM for almost 7 years. We should find out for sure in the next day or 2, but I am not holding my breath that anything is going to change.
Anyways, have a great weekend everyone.

Cheri - That has to be tough with your hubby. I thought he wasn't going to be going for a while, when does he go?
Laura - I hope that everything goes well with your thyroid. That is a tough one to deal with, our thyroids are so important. I hope your doc is amazing and really helps you through it all. And you will still be as gorgeous as ever, even with a little scar.
Georgia, I am glad to hear that you are starting to feel a little better.
FYE - I am thinking of you and your parents. My Mom has been ill for many years with MS and it is really difficult to watch a much loved parent go through difficult things. I am glad you had someone you could talk to.
For myself, I haven't been following the 5:2 for a about a week or so. I have so much on my plate on the moment, that I couldn't focus on it. I am still watching what I am eating and my weight has actually gone down a little. I just found out that my hubby might have to be out of town again next week and that is my first week back to work after being a SAHM for almost 7 years. We should find out for sure in the next day or 2, but I am not holding my breath that anything is going to change.
Anyways, have a great weekend everyone.

Cheri - That has to be tough with your hubby. I thought he wasn't going to be going for a while, when does he go?
Laura - I hope that everything goes well with your thyroid. That is a tough one to deal with, our thyroids are so important. I hope your doc is amazing and really helps you through it all. And you will still be as gorgeous as ever, even with a little scar.
Georgia, I am glad to hear that you are starting to feel a little better.
FYE - I am thinking of you and your parents. My Mom has been ill for many years with MS and it is really difficult to watch a much loved parent go through difficult things. I am glad you had someone you could talk to.
For myself, I haven't been following the 5:2 for a about a week or so. I have so much on my plate on the moment, that I couldn't focus on it. I am still watching what I am eating and my weight has actually gone down a little. I just found out that my hubby might have to be out of town again next week and that is my first week back to work after being a SAHM for almost 7 years. We should find out for sure in the next day or 2, but I am not holding my breath that anything is going to change.
Anyways, have a great weekend everyone.

Cheri - That has to be tough with your hubby. I thought he wasn't going to be going for a while, when does he go?
Laura - I hope that everything goes well with your thyroid. That is a tough one to deal with, our thyroids are so important. I hope your doc is amazing and really helps you through it all. And you will still be as gorgeous as ever, even with a little scar.
Georgia, I am glad to hear that you are starting to feel a little better.
FYE - I am thinking of you and your parents. My Mom has been ill for many years with MS and it is really difficult to watch a much loved parent go through difficult things. I am glad you had someone you could talk to.
For myself, I haven't been following the 5:2 for a about a week or so. I have so much on my plate on the moment, that I couldn't focus on it. I am still watching what I am eating and my weight has actually gone down a little. I just found out that my hubby might have to be out of town again next week and that is my first week back to work after being a SAHM for almost 7 years. We should find out for sure in the next day or 2, but I am not holding my breath that anything is going to change.
Anyways, have a great weekend everyone.

When you think about it, it really makes sense. I don't think any of us would say that we can still only eat what we ate 3 days post op. The good news in my eyes...if capacity was 4 oz 3 days post op, at 2 years out it would be 8 oz. Even if you say 6 oz and 12 oz, that is still a hell of a lot less than the, what, 60 oz that our stomachs normally hold. This stat I am ok with.
And I agree with what everyone is saying. I think long term success has more to do with accountability than surgery. The surgery helps us get there, our heads keep us there.

I look way better dressed than I do naked! My face isn't, but I was 31 when I had surgery so it has bounced back well, just a little waddle under my chin that I am sure only I notice. I have bad arms, stomach and thighs and plan on getting some work done when I have the money to do so. I had read on another thread, I look 25 dressed and 75 naked, but I will take it!! Its not like I will be walking around naked anytime soon!

Ms. S - I actually stay away from the Quest Bars all together. They trigger a eating response in me and I have seriously eaten 3 in a day. It is something about them that makes me crave more, and they don't seem to really fill me up. Sadly, I had to part ways with them. I rarely ever do shakes either, trying to stick to regular food. I eat a lot of Greek Yogurt (plain and sweeten it myself) and a lot of meat. You would be surprise how quickly your Protein adds up when you have a chicken breast (between 25 and 30 grams of protein).
Oregon - I am sorry to hear about your falls. Have you been feeling alright otherwise?? Dizzy for any reason?? I agree with Ms. S, make sure everything else is ok.
Cheri - that is the reason I do not read the boards hardly ever and do not usually attend support groups. I don't want to be the one everyone is looking at for answers, I don't have them all. And I can't be positive all the time! But maybe just getting out face to face with others will help. And like I have said for myself even, we really need to learn to be gentler to ourselves. Now don't get me wrong, I am in the same boat with my thinking, but we really are not the numbers on the scale and we need to get away from defining ourselves as such. I am not saying to just let it all go and gain the weight back. Of course not. I am just saying we need to be a little more forgiving. Look at what your body has done in the last 3 years. You had surgery, had massive weight loss, and carried and birthed a beautiful baby. Your body is amazing!

Ms. S - I actually stay away from the Quest Bars all together. They trigger a eating response in me and I have seriously eaten 3 in a day. It is something about them that makes me crave more, and they don't seem to really fill me up. Sadly, I had to part ways with them. I rarely ever do shakes either, trying to stick to regular food. I eat a lot of Greek Yogurt (plain and sweeten it myself) and a lot of meat. You would be surprise how quickly your Protein adds up when you have a chicken breast (between 25 and 30 grams of protein).
Oregon - I am sorry to hear about your falls. Have you been feeling alright otherwise?? Dizzy for any reason?? I agree with Ms. S, make sure everything else is ok.
Cheri - that is the reason I do not read the boards hardly ever and do not usually attend support groups. I don't want to be the one everyone is looking at for answers, I don't have them all. And I can't be positive all the time! But maybe just getting out face to face with others will help. And like I have said for myself even, we really need to learn to be gentler to ourselves. Now don't get me wrong, I am in the same boat with my thinking, but we really are not the numbers on the scale and we need to get away from defining ourselves as such. I am not saying to just let it all go and gain the weight back. Of course not. I am just saying we need to be a little more forgiving. Look at what your body has done in the last 3 years. You had surgery, had massive weight loss, and carried and birthed a beautiful baby. Your body is amazing!

Ms. S - I actually stay away from the Quest Bars all together. They trigger a eating response in me and I have seriously eaten 3 in a day. It is something about them that makes me crave more, and they don't seem to really fill me up. Sadly, I had to part ways with them. I rarely ever do shakes either, trying to stick to regular food. I eat a lot of Greek Yogurt (plain and sweeten it myself) and a lot of meat. You would be surprise how quickly your Protein adds up when you have a chicken breast (between 25 and 30 grams of protein).
Oregon - I am sorry to hear about your falls. Have you been feeling alright otherwise?? Dizzy for any reason?? I agree with Ms. S, make sure everything else is ok.
Cheri - that is the reason I do not read the boards hardly ever and do not usually attend support groups. I don't want to be the one everyone is looking at for answers, I don't have them all. And I can't be positive all the time! But maybe just getting out face to face with others will help. And like I have said for myself even, we really need to learn to be gentler to ourselves. Now don't get me wrong, I am in the same boat with my thinking, but we really are not the numbers on the scale and we need to get away from defining ourselves as such. I am not saying to just let it all go and gain the weight back. Of course not. I am just saying we need to be a little more forgiving. Look at what your body has done in the last 3 years. You had surgery, had massive weight loss, and carried and birthed a beautiful baby. Your body is amazing!