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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Benjammin in What Does This Surgery Do To Relationships?   
    In all honesty, I don't think the surgery itself does anything to relationships. If a relationship ends in light of surgery, there were problems long before that. I think a couple of things happen. I think a lot of people are already in unhealthy relationships, but they stay because they have such low self worth that they think it is the best they can do. After surgery, we start to gain more confidence and feel better about ourselves. In turn, people end of leaving their significant other because they realize they are worth so much more.
    In your case, I think your husband is just using it as an excuse. If he truly loved and respected you, he would have been there for you instead of fooling around on you. I agree that counseling is a good route, but staying together just for your daughter's sake is never a good way to go. How often do we hear people saying they stayed together for the children, when, in reality, it was the worst thing for them.
    My husband has been nothing but supportive and my biggest cheerleader. He loved me at my heaviest and he loves me now. Best of luck with everything and do some deep soul searching to figure out what is best for everyone, including yourself!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Benjammin in What Does This Surgery Do To Relationships?   
    In all honesty, I don't think the surgery itself does anything to relationships. If a relationship ends in light of surgery, there were problems long before that. I think a couple of things happen. I think a lot of people are already in unhealthy relationships, but they stay because they have such low self worth that they think it is the best they can do. After surgery, we start to gain more confidence and feel better about ourselves. In turn, people end of leaving their significant other because they realize they are worth so much more.
    In your case, I think your husband is just using it as an excuse. If he truly loved and respected you, he would have been there for you instead of fooling around on you. I agree that counseling is a good route, but staying together just for your daughter's sake is never a good way to go. How often do we hear people saying they stayed together for the children, when, in reality, it was the worst thing for them.
    My husband has been nothing but supportive and my biggest cheerleader. He loved me at my heaviest and he loves me now. Best of luck with everything and do some deep soul searching to figure out what is best for everyone, including yourself!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Benjammin in What Does This Surgery Do To Relationships?   
    In all honesty, I don't think the surgery itself does anything to relationships. If a relationship ends in light of surgery, there were problems long before that. I think a couple of things happen. I think a lot of people are already in unhealthy relationships, but they stay because they have such low self worth that they think it is the best they can do. After surgery, we start to gain more confidence and feel better about ourselves. In turn, people end of leaving their significant other because they realize they are worth so much more.
    In your case, I think your husband is just using it as an excuse. If he truly loved and respected you, he would have been there for you instead of fooling around on you. I agree that counseling is a good route, but staying together just for your daughter's sake is never a good way to go. How often do we hear people saying they stayed together for the children, when, in reality, it was the worst thing for them.
    My husband has been nothing but supportive and my biggest cheerleader. He loved me at my heaviest and he loves me now. Best of luck with everything and do some deep soul searching to figure out what is best for everyone, including yourself!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Benjammin in What Does This Surgery Do To Relationships?   
    In all honesty, I don't think the surgery itself does anything to relationships. If a relationship ends in light of surgery, there were problems long before that. I think a couple of things happen. I think a lot of people are already in unhealthy relationships, but they stay because they have such low self worth that they think it is the best they can do. After surgery, we start to gain more confidence and feel better about ourselves. In turn, people end of leaving their significant other because they realize they are worth so much more.
    In your case, I think your husband is just using it as an excuse. If he truly loved and respected you, he would have been there for you instead of fooling around on you. I agree that counseling is a good route, but staying together just for your daughter's sake is never a good way to go. How often do we hear people saying they stayed together for the children, when, in reality, it was the worst thing for them.
    My husband has been nothing but supportive and my biggest cheerleader. He loved me at my heaviest and he loves me now. Best of luck with everything and do some deep soul searching to figure out what is best for everyone, including yourself!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Benjammin in What Does This Surgery Do To Relationships?   
    In all honesty, I don't think the surgery itself does anything to relationships. If a relationship ends in light of surgery, there were problems long before that. I think a couple of things happen. I think a lot of people are already in unhealthy relationships, but they stay because they have such low self worth that they think it is the best they can do. After surgery, we start to gain more confidence and feel better about ourselves. In turn, people end of leaving their significant other because they realize they are worth so much more.
    In your case, I think your husband is just using it as an excuse. If he truly loved and respected you, he would have been there for you instead of fooling around on you. I agree that counseling is a good route, but staying together just for your daughter's sake is never a good way to go. How often do we hear people saying they stayed together for the children, when, in reality, it was the worst thing for them.
    My husband has been nothing but supportive and my biggest cheerleader. He loved me at my heaviest and he loves me now. Best of luck with everything and do some deep soul searching to figure out what is best for everyone, including yourself!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from jilldgipson in Boyfriend Problems!   
    Breaking up is never easy to do, it is going to hurt no matter how good or bad the relationship is. But sometimes you have to make the best decision for yourself and the other person involved, even if that means going through the pain for a little while.
    Someone above posted that if you have to ask yourself whether that person is the one or not, they aren't, and I totally agree. I have been with my husband for over 13 years, married for 9 of those years. I love him more now than I did in the beginning. I can tell you that I never look at him disgusted or can't stand being around him. Things are not always perfect, no relationship is without its ups and downs. But after 5 years if you do not know still, it is not the right relationship for you.
    You did the right thing. You might need to tell him to stop sending you messages. If not, change your number. Him constantly trying to get back together is not going to make things easy and is only going to make you feel guilty. A therapist once told my brother (he can not let go of relationships and keeps hounding ex-girlfriends) that constantly pressuring the other person about getting back together is a form of abuse, and I think it is true. He is insecure and knows that he can't control you anymore, and it is driving him crazy. Hang in there, it will get better. You are going to need to cut ties and heal though for it to happen. You are starting a new chapter in your life in a number of ways. Embrace the new person you are growing into and the new life that you are starting!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from jilldgipson in Boyfriend Problems!   
    Breaking up is never easy to do, it is going to hurt no matter how good or bad the relationship is. But sometimes you have to make the best decision for yourself and the other person involved, even if that means going through the pain for a little while.
    Someone above posted that if you have to ask yourself whether that person is the one or not, they aren't, and I totally agree. I have been with my husband for over 13 years, married for 9 of those years. I love him more now than I did in the beginning. I can tell you that I never look at him disgusted or can't stand being around him. Things are not always perfect, no relationship is without its ups and downs. But after 5 years if you do not know still, it is not the right relationship for you.
    You did the right thing. You might need to tell him to stop sending you messages. If not, change your number. Him constantly trying to get back together is not going to make things easy and is only going to make you feel guilty. A therapist once told my brother (he can not let go of relationships and keeps hounding ex-girlfriends) that constantly pressuring the other person about getting back together is a form of abuse, and I think it is true. He is insecure and knows that he can't control you anymore, and it is driving him crazy. Hang in there, it will get better. You are going to need to cut ties and heal though for it to happen. You are starting a new chapter in your life in a number of ways. Embrace the new person you are growing into and the new life that you are starting!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from jilldgipson in Boyfriend Problems!   
    Breaking up is never easy to do, it is going to hurt no matter how good or bad the relationship is. But sometimes you have to make the best decision for yourself and the other person involved, even if that means going through the pain for a little while.
    Someone above posted that if you have to ask yourself whether that person is the one or not, they aren't, and I totally agree. I have been with my husband for over 13 years, married for 9 of those years. I love him more now than I did in the beginning. I can tell you that I never look at him disgusted or can't stand being around him. Things are not always perfect, no relationship is without its ups and downs. But after 5 years if you do not know still, it is not the right relationship for you.
    You did the right thing. You might need to tell him to stop sending you messages. If not, change your number. Him constantly trying to get back together is not going to make things easy and is only going to make you feel guilty. A therapist once told my brother (he can not let go of relationships and keeps hounding ex-girlfriends) that constantly pressuring the other person about getting back together is a form of abuse, and I think it is true. He is insecure and knows that he can't control you anymore, and it is driving him crazy. Hang in there, it will get better. You are going to need to cut ties and heal though for it to happen. You are starting a new chapter in your life in a number of ways. Embrace the new person you are growing into and the new life that you are starting!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from jilldgipson in Boyfriend Problems!   
    Breaking up is never easy to do, it is going to hurt no matter how good or bad the relationship is. But sometimes you have to make the best decision for yourself and the other person involved, even if that means going through the pain for a little while.
    Someone above posted that if you have to ask yourself whether that person is the one or not, they aren't, and I totally agree. I have been with my husband for over 13 years, married for 9 of those years. I love him more now than I did in the beginning. I can tell you that I never look at him disgusted or can't stand being around him. Things are not always perfect, no relationship is without its ups and downs. But after 5 years if you do not know still, it is not the right relationship for you.
    You did the right thing. You might need to tell him to stop sending you messages. If not, change your number. Him constantly trying to get back together is not going to make things easy and is only going to make you feel guilty. A therapist once told my brother (he can not let go of relationships and keeps hounding ex-girlfriends) that constantly pressuring the other person about getting back together is a form of abuse, and I think it is true. He is insecure and knows that he can't control you anymore, and it is driving him crazy. Hang in there, it will get better. You are going to need to cut ties and heal though for it to happen. You are starting a new chapter in your life in a number of ways. Embrace the new person you are growing into and the new life that you are starting!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Just Keep Swimming in Has Anyone Ever Regretted Having Surgery? Be Honest?   
    MEWS, yes, talk to your DR as soon as you can. That is NOT normal at 4 months post op.
    I am almost 20 months post op and I do not regret having the surgery at all! The first month is the absolute hardest, so you cannot look at it as the way the rest of your life will be. I can guarantee you that you will be able to eat normally again. I have a normal, healthy diet now...and can still indulge without the guilt. I do have the odd moment when I am eating something really good that I wish I could just eat a little more. Then I remember something that someone else said at a support group meeting...
    "If I could, I would...and that is what got me to the point of wanting surgery in the first place". Plus, I always remind myself that did I spend $10K (self pay), fly alone to Mexico (when I had never flown in my life), and have 80% of my stomach removed just to fail and let food rule me again. Not a chance!
    The reward of being a normal size, being able to buy whatever clothes I want, and feeling good about myself is worth much more than the indulgence of food ever did. All the food ever did was A) make me gain weight, and make me feel guilty and miserable because I would always eat too much, feel bad that I did, then eat more to shove down the bad feelings.
    Give yourself time, it gets so much easier and you will not barely even remember the first few weeks after a while!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Just Keep Swimming in Has Anyone Ever Regretted Having Surgery? Be Honest?   
    MEWS, yes, talk to your DR as soon as you can. That is NOT normal at 4 months post op.
    I am almost 20 months post op and I do not regret having the surgery at all! The first month is the absolute hardest, so you cannot look at it as the way the rest of your life will be. I can guarantee you that you will be able to eat normally again. I have a normal, healthy diet now...and can still indulge without the guilt. I do have the odd moment when I am eating something really good that I wish I could just eat a little more. Then I remember something that someone else said at a support group meeting...
    "If I could, I would...and that is what got me to the point of wanting surgery in the first place". Plus, I always remind myself that did I spend $10K (self pay), fly alone to Mexico (when I had never flown in my life), and have 80% of my stomach removed just to fail and let food rule me again. Not a chance!
    The reward of being a normal size, being able to buy whatever clothes I want, and feeling good about myself is worth much more than the indulgence of food ever did. All the food ever did was A) make me gain weight, and make me feel guilty and miserable because I would always eat too much, feel bad that I did, then eat more to shove down the bad feelings.
    Give yourself time, it gets so much easier and you will not barely even remember the first few weeks after a while!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from mommy794 in Do Sleevers Absorb Alcohol Faster?   
    For sure! 2 drinks and I am done like dinner!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from MinaT in Can You Ever Lose Too Much Weight?   
    Although it can happen, I don't think it happens too often. As for the number of calories, I just read on another thread the recent studies show that people that are overweight/formerly overweight, need to consume 20% less calories than an average person of the same weight to maintain. But, like someone else said, there are a lot of variables there. Men need more calories than women, and people that are very active need more calories. And when I say very active, I mean running races. I just read an article in Women's Health that unless you are doing more than 60 mins of strenuous activity everyday, you do not need to eat more and can actually end up stalling your weight loss by over estimating how many calories you need. I think another problem that comes into play is numbers. Some people set unrealistic goals and have to work extremely hard to get there. But once they get there, it is almost impossible to maintain. Then they are disappointed when they gain 5 or 10 lbs back, but that is where their body wants to be.
    PS, I am 19 months post op, and it is really easy to consume a lot of calories. Before 6 months, it is easy and eating 1200 calories seems almost impossible and so many people say "Oh, I can't imagine eating that much!". Trust me, it will happen. I still have great restriction and can't eat a lot at a sitting, but some things go down easier than others and I really have to watch what I eat. Like Many have said, the sleeve is a great tool, but you still have to change the way you eat. Sure you can loose eating crappy in the beginning, but once you get a couple of years out, those bad habits are going to catch up with you!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from MinaT in Can You Ever Lose Too Much Weight?   
    Although it can happen, I don't think it happens too often. As for the number of calories, I just read on another thread the recent studies show that people that are overweight/formerly overweight, need to consume 20% less calories than an average person of the same weight to maintain. But, like someone else said, there are a lot of variables there. Men need more calories than women, and people that are very active need more calories. And when I say very active, I mean running races. I just read an article in Women's Health that unless you are doing more than 60 mins of strenuous activity everyday, you do not need to eat more and can actually end up stalling your weight loss by over estimating how many calories you need. I think another problem that comes into play is numbers. Some people set unrealistic goals and have to work extremely hard to get there. But once they get there, it is almost impossible to maintain. Then they are disappointed when they gain 5 or 10 lbs back, but that is where their body wants to be.
    PS, I am 19 months post op, and it is really easy to consume a lot of calories. Before 6 months, it is easy and eating 1200 calories seems almost impossible and so many people say "Oh, I can't imagine eating that much!". Trust me, it will happen. I still have great restriction and can't eat a lot at a sitting, but some things go down easier than others and I really have to watch what I eat. Like Many have said, the sleeve is a great tool, but you still have to change the way you eat. Sure you can loose eating crappy in the beginning, but once you get a couple of years out, those bad habits are going to catch up with you!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from MinaT in Can You Ever Lose Too Much Weight?   
    Although it can happen, I don't think it happens too often. As for the number of calories, I just read on another thread the recent studies show that people that are overweight/formerly overweight, need to consume 20% less calories than an average person of the same weight to maintain. But, like someone else said, there are a lot of variables there. Men need more calories than women, and people that are very active need more calories. And when I say very active, I mean running races. I just read an article in Women's Health that unless you are doing more than 60 mins of strenuous activity everyday, you do not need to eat more and can actually end up stalling your weight loss by over estimating how many calories you need. I think another problem that comes into play is numbers. Some people set unrealistic goals and have to work extremely hard to get there. But once they get there, it is almost impossible to maintain. Then they are disappointed when they gain 5 or 10 lbs back, but that is where their body wants to be.
    PS, I am 19 months post op, and it is really easy to consume a lot of calories. Before 6 months, it is easy and eating 1200 calories seems almost impossible and so many people say "Oh, I can't imagine eating that much!". Trust me, it will happen. I still have great restriction and can't eat a lot at a sitting, but some things go down easier than others and I really have to watch what I eat. Like Many have said, the sleeve is a great tool, but you still have to change the way you eat. Sure you can loose eating crappy in the beginning, but once you get a couple of years out, those bad habits are going to catch up with you!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from bud4lsu in No Carb Protein Bread!   
    I just made these the other day and then let them sit overnight in a container like the recipe online suggests. I made a pizza bun out of them, ham, onion, pizza sauce and mozza cheese. Not too bad at all. I haven't tried them yet like a bun, but I will! I got 9 out of the recipe.
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Blackstuff77 in Failure   
    It happens to everyone, you did not fail. The best thing about the sleeve is that it is really easy to get back on track. Today is a new day, so forget about yesterday and start fresh!
    I had a stint about 8 months after my sleeve that I really started slipping. One morning I woke up and had an epiphany...did I really spend all this money, fly to Mexico alone and have 80% of my stomach removed to fall back into old habits and let myself down! After that day, I started exercising more and making better food choices. Now, 18 months post op, I do have bad days, but the next day I just get back into my routine. And I also allow myself treats here and there without beating myself about.
    It is never too late to start over! And unlike the past where we would gain 20, 30, or 50lbs if we fell off the wagon, with the sleeve, you either don't gain, or you only gain a small amount and it is much easier to get rid of! Don't be so hard on yourself. It is that cycle of shame and guilt that will get you spiraling downward.
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from alipie69 in Why Can't I See Me The Way Everyone Else Does Now   
    I hope I do not get a lot of backlash, but I just need someone to talk to. I am 18 months post op and I have finally reached my goal weight. I have went from a size 20-22 to a size 6 and have lost 81lbs since surgery and 121lbs from my highest. The problem is I struggle everyday trying to wrap my head around my new body. I look at other women and always wish I was as small as them, and then my husband says "You Are", but I just can't seem to believe him. I go into stores, and the sales clerk will say I need a size small, and I know I do, but it still almost feels wrong. Even when I look at more recent pictures of myself, I still struggle. I have been heavy my entire life, right from Kindergarten. I was constantly teased and ridiculed for much of my life. So it is a lifetime of body image issues to try to overcome. Plus, I also have pretty bad skin hanging in my stomach and arms, but cannot afford plastics at the moment..so I am sure that does not help. I have been going for counseling to try to deal with my issues.
    Is there anyone else out there that has really struggled?? What helped you to overcome it??
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from LadyIvy in For The Slow Losers   
    Thank you for this post. It took me a long time to accept that I was a slower loser. It has taken me 18 months to reach my goal of losing 80lbs, and I couldn't be happier. I know I would have never lost that much in that amount of time without my sleeve. I have lost around the 80lbs mark before, but it took grueling works outs and strict dieting to the point to exhaustion. With my sleeve as a tool, I am able to watch what I eat and live an active lifestyle but not feel deprived!
    I know it is not easy, but try not to compare to others. Everyone loses at different rates, some people have more to lose and drop a lot more in the beginning than others (I know someone who has lost over 200lbs in the same amount of time that I have lost 80, but she still weighs more than I did when I started for example).
    This is your journey, so take the time to Celebrate your own victories and successes because they are yours and no one else's!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from futureskinnypants in This May Be Inappropriate, Forgive Me :)   
    Ok, Sausage Wallet made me laugh out loud while my husband is sitting at the table. So I had to explain. He agreed that it is a good one!
    So now my 2 cents worth....
    A little on the saggy side, I am 121 lbs lighter than my heaviest, 81 lbs lighter since surgery. I am hoping when I get a Tummy Tuck, it will help lift that area a little, especially just above there.
    AND...
    Skinny Sex is AMAZING!!! WOW is all I can say. I like me some good loving, and have always enjoyed it, but now! My husband and I can just get closer, try different positions, it is awesome!!! I always used to feel my fat getting in the way, not anymore!! I really did not think of it when I was getting the surgery. I was looking forward to feeling more confident, but the way everything feels has improved too! Something to look forward to everyone!!!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from danyelleb in Snacking   
    I agree, at only 2 weeks out, eating those Cookies is not a good idea. sugar free Jello or popsicles are a great idea. Or sugar free pudding, it is sweet and rich so it will fill you up too. Also, if you find a Protein Shake that you like that is sweet, try that. I had a vanilla one that tasted like a vanilla milkshake, and a chocolate one that tasted like chocolate milk.
    By eating those Cookies so early out, you are setting yourself up for a bad start. The first few months of the sleeve is the best time to help establish good new habits. The sleeve is an amazing tool, but remember, it is exactly that, a tool. It is not a magical cure, and you can eat a lot of things that are slider foods that will sabotage your efforts. It doesn't mean you will never get to eat any treats again, it just means you have to learn to treat them exactly for what they are, treats.
    Good luck finding something that you enjoy to replace those cookies!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from weight_no_longer in Not Trying To Be Grose But...   
    Wow, does not sound right at all, not 14 months out. The only time I have vomitted is if I have eaten too much. And it has never been that I could never make it to the bathroom. That really sounds like she is either having some major issues that she needs to talk to a doctor about or she has develop a eating disorder. She really needs to discuss with her doctor though. I know one person that their sleeve was made too tight at the bottom and she threw up a lot. They did an endoscopy and were able to stretch it enough that food could pass through. Everything was getting stuck when it hit the narrow part and had no where to go but back up. I am 18 months out, and I know a lot of sleevers, and not many have that problem. Usually problems with vomitting are in the first couple of months due to swelling, acid, and adjusting eating habits.
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from Coookies in How to eat at McDonald's after the sleeve....   
    I find this thread very interesting, especially for all those who are judgmental about getting the occasional fast food meal. I did not get this surgery so that I could be on a diet for the rest of my life. And the reality is, I have to small children who love playing at Mcdonald's, especially in the winter because where I live, it sometimes gets to be -35 degrees celcius! I usually have a McMini with no mayo, or a regular hamburger. I will eat maybe 3 or 4 french fries and a sip or 2 of my husband's pop (and we always get our kids apples and apple juice, no pop if anyone has anything to say about that). We might go there 2 or 3 times a month. I have still lost over 60 lbs and feel great. Thanks for posting this, as this is the reality of our world, you just have to make it work for you!!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from LilMissDiva Irene in Delima   
    It was my son's birthday a couple of weeks ago, and I was 2 months out, and I had a piece of cake (a very tiny piece), with icing. This is a huge day in your daughter's life, and you are not going to hurt your sleeve, it is well healed already. I would just try a tiny bite, you will be full fast and never consume enough to feel guilty. I go to support group meetings on a regular basis, and one of the biggest things they are trying to teach us is to lose the guilt around food. Skinny people do not feel guilt for eating a little cake, so why should we. I got my sleeve to help with exactly that. I watch my diet most of the time, but I do indulge occasionally, and do not feel guilty about it. Have fun and enjoy the time with your daughter!
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    Supersweetums got a reaction from TynMcsMom in 4 days out and I am HUNGRY!   
    I am 5 weeks out, and I was really hungry too when I was just on liquids. I think there is just not enough in your tummy for long enough as liquids just go right through...but that is the point, right? The liquids are so your tummy heals. I have just started solids and I am not as hungry as I was, but I do still feel hungry at times, but not like before surgery. As you can eat more solid foods, you won't be as hungry, don't worry!!

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