Trying2live

It is your body and you have the right to choose what happens to it. Not just with fills, with anything. Doctors are not gods although they sometimes think they are. So glad you have a new doc. Trish

Yes I saw the show. I posted about it on the general board and only got one reply. I thought it was the most positive thing on the band, yes! I am glad any time someone famous speaks out. It was a great segment. Trish

Montel had Khaliah Ali on his show this morning. It was a very positive segment. She looked good and has lost over 1oo lbs in about a year. She said like us all that she had never felt better. Then they brought out Dr. George Feilding from NYU who did her surgery he said that things are changing and this has been in europe since 1990 and only FDA approved in the US since 2001. He said he believes that banding will replace the RNY as a favored procedure as pepole become more aware of it. He had a band in his pocket that he showed and explained how it could be adjusted.(a great benefit) You hear Khaliah Ali say it doesn't hurt when he talks about the fill. Really a good boost for the band. But then I guess I am predjuce. When I went to get my band the doctor thought I would do better (316lbs) with the rny, I had to tell him point blank that the rny has been being done for years and I would not have one. I would be banded or I would be fat. This was my individual choice. He said ok and told me about the band. (I believe each person should make the decision for themself because only they will have to truly live with it) It was the most favorable thing I have seen on the band. And I am so glad the were not talking about RNY in any detail because it seams then people always get confused on what was said. This segment said clearly that this procedure is way better than the rny procedure and explained why. Did anyone else see it? Trish:eek:

Lisa I think 199 would be good for you. I started out the same weight as you and I am only 5 ft 5 1/2 in and I have set my goal for 199 also because for one it would start with a one and I know I have a bigger muscle mass than most women my size. They tell me I could weigh 130 to 150 and I think that is just crazy. We needed larger muscles to carry the extra 150 lbs around JMHO. Trish

Lisa Do you know what a inspriation you are to me? I am sure there are many more out here that you have helped with your threads. You should feel foxy, because you are a fox. PS woulden't mind finding a man as fine as yours for myself. Count your blessings in that area. Trish

I never thought I would but I want to get a TT. That would be enough for me, I will never get my breasts done no matter how they look because I have had enough surgery on my body and it changes the sensation and feeling of the area. I guess I never want how they feel to change. I can never figure why people never talk about this aspect. Yes I know some newer procedures are susposto keep this intact better but again I am not willing to take the chance with my breasts JMHO. Trish

I have been told I have fibro more than once by my doctor but I guess I am kinda in denial about it since it has no cure. Nothing has worked for me so far not even my weight loss. Trish

ten dollars co-pay per fill visit to doctor, it does not matter weather I got a fill or not. So far I have seen doc 10 times so that comes to 100 so far. Trish

Good for you, especialy while out! That had to put a smile on your face or a tear in your eye. I had the same kind nsv when we got a t-shirt in at work and they gave it to me. I thought I would give it to my son. When I got home I opened it and tried it on and it fit and was also a large. I cried.

I am almost 2 years out and my parents do not know yet. The reason is because I have tried and failed so many times, some with bad outcomes as with phen/fen. I will tell them sometime but I wanted it to work before they knew, so they would not worry, they are 80yrs old and do not need to worry for me especially with my history. (they live in Fla 6 mo of the year so I don't see that much of them mostly talk on the phone) Yes I have lost 80 lbs and my mother has asked my sisters if I am loosing weight they replied yes we noticed but "we don't discuss her weight you know she hates that, you'll have to ask her" No one at work knows. My last job no one knew either. I did not schedule time off to have the surgery, I called in sick at 5am before I went to the hospital (a friday) I called again on monday and said I had galblater issues and needed another day. I went back to work on tuesday. (desk job) I have on the other side my 3 sisters who do know and support me in my decision. Two of my sisters are 120 lbs or so and although I don't think they really know what it is like they support me whole heartly. Of course my girl friends know and are also supportive.

I don't post often but lurk almost daily. I am almost 2 years out, lost 50 lbs the first year and 30 so far this year. I have always been a slow looser and I have to work hard at it. There have been 2 times when I stalled for 2 months or so. (total bummer, but I did not let it get to me, I kept going) Anyway recently I was laid off from my job.....last time I was not working was in 1983 or so, so this is completely forien to me. (and scary) But I have learned that anytime you make a major change in your life it is easier to change other things, I guess because it is in the air. So I did not have to eat Breakfast before I went to work cause I did not have to go to work, there was no standard "lunch time" either. So I was not eating because I was not hungry and my scheduled eating times went out the window. I AM NOW ONLY EATING WHEN I AM HUNGRY, NOT BASED ON MY SCHEDULE FOR EATING! I know a lot of us have talked about the clean plate club and all, but now it has hit me in the face. And what about the 3 squares a day? I have come to the realization that my estimate of what one normal person needs to eat in a day is seriously to much. I would like to see laid out on a table how much say a 150 lb person should eat in a day, and how often. After thinking about this alot I also realized that I have had the idea of three square meals a day drilled into my head and that it is just not necessary. Not my idea of a meal anyway.:nervous And then I recall my little sister being made to sit at the dinner table till it was bed time because she did not finish her food. I had finished mine and I am very large, but my sister now at 45 years old is still 120 lbs and had 2 children. I love my sister and we are best of friends now but it was really hard growing up overweight with 6 very normal brothers and sisters. My point in all of this is that this revelation has now helped me begin to loose again, 5 lbs last week! In fact over the holidays at one point I began feeling ill and could not figure out what it was, well I was not eating enough because of everything going on. I had not had enough time to eat, I had to start stopping myself to take time to eat so I do not get that low again. I have always kept myself well fed I had never felt this way before. The moral of this story is to change it up. (my thinking, my routine and my mothers rules) This has helped me learn more about my eating habits and begin to turn the tide on my unrealistic food thoughts. Hope this will help someone else, best to all. Trish

Jill Just playing there game perfectly ok. Trish

Thanks to all of you who replied, it makes me feel so good that someone replied. Banded for life, if I could get my head on stright there would not be a problem, lol. And Nana I still use a desert plate for my dinner the other ones seam huge now, and my small portions look kinda pathetic on a large one. Jessibear we are all fighting the same deamon, you would think he would be a gonner by now. cmr - hope is a good thing keep working at it. harleynana - half the battle and half the weight I have to loose and quite frankley I don't buy that you can not loose as well at 2 or more years out, I believe that we slow down because we need a break or rest period and that we get out of it what we put into it. I plan on loosing the rest. Jachut- I only eat 2 meals a day now, that's all I need. Iloveharleys-OH NO, with 90 down and TEN lbs to go, GOOD FOR YOU! mousecrazy-love the chain analagy. This board is truly my favorite of all. living2canoe-better a breakthrough than a breakdown, lol. Best to all. Trish

No I was banded in USA.

Ok I am 1 month short of the two years out. I have had a barium check but not the camera scope. I have an appointment on the 9th and am going to talk to my doc about all this. I hate to say I have felt weird lately myself, lots of rumbly sounds and movement from my stomach area? I think you guys have a larger lurker audience than you know. After all this is a relativly new procedure...no one really knows 5 or 10 years down the line, they can only guess. I am not letting any of this deter me from loosing more weight or being happy about my decision to get banded in the first place, it saved my life. Best to all, Trish

You may want to try standing up, then bend over at the waist then lift your head up from looking at the floor to looking forward. For some reason this position always makes me burp. Kinda gets it around the band I guess. Anyway try it it is free, results may vary. I discovered this because every time I bend over to put the leash on my dinkey dog to go outside, when I start to stand up again I always burp, now I use it when needed and I feel like air is traped. Hope this helps. Trish

Nykee, So 35 more lbs to 100 means you have lost 65 in 8 months? That calculates to 8.12 lbs a month. I would stop thinking of yourself as a slow looser. If ya want to compare I am 1 year and 8 months out and have lost 75 lbs (and very happy about it) but I have lost 3.75 lbs a month you are way ahead of me on that one. You should be happy. ALWAYS BE HAPPY WITH YOURSELF. We should all remember that this is an individual journey and one that each of us needs to come to terms with and live with in a way that is right for us. I chose to get fills very small amounts as to not freak myself out, cause I know me, I needed to get use to the idea that I could control my eating and change without PB'ing or any of the other side effects. I wanted to know that I could still eat certian foods, like chicken, my personal favorite. I knew what was right for me, my doctor went along with my program after some discussion. So it took me a year to get to real restricion because I would only take a .3 fill per time. It was right for me. What I am trying to say is I think you need to decide what you want and what is the best way for you to get there. (keeping peace of mind was important to me as well as still feeling as if I am in control of me) I am in charge of myself doctors and support groups are not gonna be there in the end it will only be me. Guess I got issues this morning. Love to all, Hug your kids today. Trish YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK YOU ARE WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT YOU BRING ABOUT

Delarla, I had to come out of my hidding spot to wish you a very happy birthday. You have been an inspration to me and the main reason I continue to lurk on this board. I treasure all your threads and find that you can bring a smile to my face most any day. I wish someday we might meet, you seam like such a fun girl, with such an attitude. (only in a good way, just like me) Take the time today to pat yourself on the back for all you have accomplished and spend time with those you love. Have the best day ever. (with that handson man of yours) (Yes I am jelous) P.S. I wish I could give you a port for your birthday. Trish

I know it has not been very long since I posted but it seams forever. Friday I was at my job of 5 years and it was my last day, got a call while on-line (at work) for a new position. Yea! But I don't have time to play on the internet! can you imagine? I have work to do? Well it seams to be going ok, but I really miss my support group. Even though I don't post much I was reading every day!!! And honestly I had a lot of time to play because there was no work, and thus the reason for my lay-off. So I took you guys advise and hit the library...my sister is working afternoons and I had planned to use hers. Kinda feel like I am at work with people looking over my sholder. lol Any how I got another fill last week cause of the questionable upcomming changes in my bc-bs. Boy am I tight now, no PB's but really slow going down I think I have lost 5 lbs since then. With the liquids for 2 days cause of the tightness, then stomach upset because of the lay-off, and the stress of learning the procedures in a new company....well I guess you get the picture. It's all good I got my new library card and I can visit anytime. Going to go catch up now. Love to all Trish

I don't post much but I really needed to post this. I have never been comfortable talking about my weight or discussing diets. I had enough of that from my dad. I refuse to discuss my weight with anyone at work while they are the diet of the day group (only one is heavy). Anyway I have not shared my band with them at all. My weight loss has been slow but steady, now at 60 lbs in 15 months. Not a record breaker but I am so happy with it because it has given me time to change my eating habits and get use to all the other changes. No one at work has said a word about my loss and I am glad, because I don't want to talk about it with THEM. In fact I have tried to hide it by wearing layers of clothes and the same stuff I had. They don not understand the difference between loosing 15 lbs and 150. So now as I revieled in a previous post I have been layed off my job, the had me work for two more weeks and today is my last day. But... My dad always told me out of every bad thing something good comes, and then it dawned on me, I AM FREE!!! I am free to loose more weight without fear of this groups prying eyes! I know this may sound funny but you guys should all know heavy people have a lot of hang up's. And this is mine now I can go to a new place and no one will know what I have lost and I hope that things will be different and I will not be in another "diet club office" Honestly I can't think of this as a diet, I had to find a way to eat that I could live with for the rest of my life and that I can feel satasfied (not deprived) with, I believe I have done that. I will have access to the board from my sisters home (instead of only at work, lol) but it will be much less often and I am very sad about that I use this as my support group and even though you don't know much about me I love all you guys. In closing I wanted to say that the purpose of my post was to say that I think I have purposly been loosing slower because of my co workers attitudes and now I AM FREE! Except for this last lunch we all are going to today to say good-by to me. I don't want to go I hate that sort of thing, and I just got another fill on monday and can eat very little, by no means a normal meal and I am sure they will say something but I have my cover ready, I am going to have Soup and say my stomach is so upset about leaving I can not eat. Good one ea? I am going in LBT withdrawal... Be back as soon as I can from sis's house. Love you all, Trish

Road Queen, I have recently had my hair done and it is cheep for me, my son is a hairdresser as well as one of my sisters. Yea, I just got it done with my usual blond but with the dark underneath, it really looks good, so young and cool on this old lady. LOL Kathy I appreicate your reply, and I am very happy to be moving on in many ways it is indead an opportunity to change and while unemployed I have decided to increase my excersize in the am before hitting the job hunt. It's all good. Alex thanks for noticing the math error I noticed to but I am an accountant. I agree about the rny can not be hidden, not my only reason for not gettin that wls. PS note to all, just got a call from an interview I did on monday, they offered me the job!!! I worked myself in a little raise, when I told them what I needed!! So moving on up I guess....not my dream job but I know I will be able to make my mortgage payment. Love to all

Karen I have not had this happen but I would tell them this: Banding does take more work. With RNY even if you eat to much or the wrong things you will still loose because of the malobsorption issue. With the band you have to think about what you are eating and make the right choice or it does not work as well. So "I" think the band is harder but it forces you to change, and you can partly control at what speed you change. For example I have requested smaller fills because of the amount of inital swelling that I get. (usualy lasts 1-2 week) By getting smaller fills I it has been easier for me to adjust to the amount I can eat (without PB's) My one experience with a 1.0 fill (first one) sent me over the top and I could not get back on solids for a week after an unfill. I was puking all the time, that was not good. To go slow and learn is hard and shows up as a slower weight loss but it is in my mind it is all about how you want to take the trip. I am a turtle I learn slow but I HAVE THE REST OF MY LIFE TO LIVE THIS WAY AND i WANT TO BE ABLE TO EAT IN A WAY i CAN LIVE WITH. (does that make any sence?) Turtle head will win her race in aprox 2 more years. Then ask them if they want to meet with you in another 5 years and see who still has what. (weight, hair, teeth, bone density,health) T I love your last line about your more determined to make it work now. lol

congradulations, it's all down hill from hear

I know I am a lurker and you guys proubly don't know who I am at all, but I come hear most every day while at work. (looks both ways :cross-eye) But I got the word that I am being layed off because we have no work and since I do accounting I know it is the truth, and I am not alone. But I am going to miss you guys so much and comming here everyday...and because I am a lurker no one will even miss me. I droped my internet at home because it was so handy at work now I know I better not reconnect until I find work. With the economy the way it is who knows how long it will take. Anyways just wanted to say good-by to you all. (for now) :cry I also wanted to post this because I don't think the people who post here really know how many others are reading, learning and gettting to know you as individuals. It has been my pleasure to feel like I really know a few of you and have followed your progress, even though I have done it silently. Delarla I have specificaly followed your story and am so happy your incesion is closed now. I wish only the best for you and I hope you get a port soon. Your threads bring a something very special to this board, you bring action and provoke thought from your fun/joke threads to the serious ones like Why are you fat. I am a lurker it is part of who I am but I totaly feel that I had to let you know how much fun I think you are. T

Just wanted to thank you all for your kind words. Yes I am banded at 14 months out with a 62 lb loss so far. I use the boards as my support group because I am such an intarvert I could never bring myself to go to the local in person support meetings. And yes if my daddy tought me anything it was that out of every bad thing that happens something good grows. I am kinda looking forward to a new beginning and more $. I am an accountant so at least I have marketable skills. My only fear is when it comes to my insurance. I am on an excellent policy right now and totally fear any disruption in service. While I am quite restricted now I worry how long it will last and if my next policy will cover follow up on my band. You know the health care crissis and all. I have a fill appointment on monday that will be covered, so I am getting a little, I hope it will keep me going for a while. Thanks again to all, maybe see you at the library. Trish