Debbie3sons

After attending a seminar, I started thinking maybe I wanted to go with gastric bypass instead of the band. Then I met with my surgeon and he looked at my current BMI, where he felt I needed to be, my current health issues and my current exercise routine and he told me I would be very successful with the band, though he said it was my choice and he wasn't going to push me one way or the other. I chose the band and I'm only 2 weeks post op and have no regrets.

You are an inspiration to me Kime-lou. To have suffered such a great loss and still be able to function and look to improve your life is amazing. I understand the struggle with temptation...we all do. None of us got to the size we are by eating smart and as food is our drug of choice, you've simply fallen off the wagon a bit same as anyone else with an addiction. I have no great words of wisdom...you will find your way, I know it. You are a strong woman. Next year at Mother's Day...if children have not become a part of your life...do something wonderful for yourself to celebrate the person you are. Get a massage, go on a trip, buy a new outfit. Whatever brings you pleasure, go ahead and do it.

You are recognizing recent eating behaivor's not conducive to your new lifestyle.....success! You are in "Onderland"...success (I am still having trouble getting there and I am 1 pound away)! You have lost 56 pounds in 11 months.....success! Stop thinking about your progress as slow or failing and think about all the successes in your life...including the small NSV's. Our attitude's play a huge part in this. I find 2 things everyday that I pat myself on the back for. This could be taking a walk (yay me) or logging my food for the day (whatever the calories are...I have logged it). These are all successes for me!

We didn't gain these habits or weight overnight, and it is hard to change what have been mostly life-long habits. The fact is, you haven't given up so you are not a failure.
As for Chick-Fil-A, I go there from time to time for lunch. However, I order the grilled chicken nugget kids meal, with fruit as the side and diet lemonade. It's low cal, good nutrition and I felt like I was still able to "eat out". Maybe if you find yourself there you could opt for something like that ... just a suggestion. I know it's not easy.

Sometimes I have the opposite urge... "I am losing weight faster than I expected, so I can cheat a bit...." I guess we all react differently, but we all have the food demons to deal with.

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i was one of those people (in my days when i was addicted to weighing every 5 seconds) that if it went up, i figured WTheck..i am up so i may as well really be up...YOU are 100% correct in saying its a mind game.....a mind thing....ALL mental...i feel once you really (get it)......the reality sets in that yeah you can truly do it.......if you want too.
GREAT POST

Terry you made the right choice... even if you had eaten yourself silly and perhaps endangered your health, how would that have helped your family member with their issue? I know firsthand about trying to medicate yourself to avoid the pain.. We lost 3 family (daughter, son and son in law) in the past few years.. it's the worst kind of pain ever losing your children.. but my eating and even going back to smoking for a short time could not fix it... it gets better with time . I am able to cope better through this process of making myself healthy and realizing that my life is still worth living.. Take care of yourself so you can help your loved ones.. I will pray for you and your family member.

terry, your belief in yourself is evident
you are stronger than you know and its my honor to be your friend
your (want power) over rode those (just eat) feelings...i am proud of you.
i enjoy all your posts
tell mistress band i said hey (that southern for hi)

Yea, I had steak sauce, but no dice.

Wow, that Mistress of yours!
She's tough on you!
Reminds me of this http://www.rottenecards.com/ecards/Rottenecards_87266598_6smgsrzm6j.png

I hope I didn't offend you I had said in my reply to you that I know you would ride it off as I know you, ride a few miles on your bike so good for you , it does take some of us a while to learn and get how to control our ways of eating and with that said I went for a fill yesterday and I am down to 217 lbs so I am happy it's a slow process but it's getting there, I still like your post though I was at 276 when I started this journey july of 2012 so I guess I am doing good, so you keep (riding) & posting , keep up your good work.

It took me a lot longer to learn the honest lesson than you. That being said, I wholeheartedly agree! My mantra is "If I eat it, I own it". No excuses, just keep journaling accurately and honestly...
I am not perfect, just human.

I think at some point....we all lie to ourselves about how much we ate. When I finally got honest and started logging my food....I was mortified! Ignorance was bliss...or was it? Honesty is a big part of the process. Guilt and Shame shouldn't be! You are an inspiration to a lot of us! Thank you for sharing.

Good information Cheryl. Thank you for sharing it...and for effectively outlining the processes of what risks over eating creates. As stated so often, "Listen to your band!"

nice post cheryl
thanks for the info

Thank you for outlining this.

I was trying to say just another Iinspirational post from a wonderful guy that has kept us up and happy with the way we have changed our lives and weight , you just behave with that mistress lol , for those of you that don't know Terry calls his band his Mistress , but his family knows so it's alright lol Thankyou so much, keep it up .

Terry, you're doing super and it shows. I couldn't ride a bike for as long as you do. I have not lost any weight in a long time and I am fine with the numbers as long as the clothes' sizes go down and they are slowly.

Aint it great to have belts that reach all the way around your left side and look goofy?

I understand everything you wrote. I still eat too fast and my husband tells all the time. One day I hope to find the "Green Zone" like it is finding the Wizard of Oz at the end of the yellow brick road.
I am drinking my protein shake and then off to the gym-wait that sounds like you, too.
Enjoy your 'happy hump day'.

I understand this as well. No magic fairy dust in the "green"...just continue on doing what we are doing. How anti-climactic (wink)!

Just goes to show we are all different and unique in our own ways , your wife sounds like a petite little woman , wow I just want to be at 135 lbs and I would be happy and she is only a 122 lbs . well good for both of u still going through this together somewhat for us bandsters it's just a lot harder than the norm that's why I said unique lol

Thanks Missy, I am more comfortable with the spoke word, than the written. I have been fat all my life, and the LB is a concept that I refused to even consider, so now that I have one, I need to find a way to use it to look at my life in a new way, Mistress Band is the person who is helping me do that. The humor for me is a reminder to not take myself too seriously, and a hint to others, that they may want to follow suite.
BTW, just want you know how inspiring your journey is to me. You and several others on this board give me hope that one day I can succeed as well.

Put lots of pillows behind u to help u out & when u start to feel uncomfortable then move one by oone or if sitting up haelps u sleep better then do that a lot of us had the same problem and make sure ur taking ur pain medicine the Doc gave u it will help u sleep also I know my liquid helped me so I hope what I said might help .

I had a really hard time trying to lay in the bed for the first 2 weeks. So I slept in my recliner and then when I did transition to the bed I would prop pillows all around me.